It's occurred to me that many of the people I've hooked up with to do with books. (My bookies [Book related friends]) are girls and many are younger than me. In some cases many years younger me. I've noticed lots of people commenting on profile photo changes and suchlike, complimenting them on their clothes, hair, beauty or general prettiness.

I won't do this. I'm not entirely sure why I feel it, but I feel it's not appropriate for a 37A year old (I adopted a new numbering system on the birthday after my 37th) to be describing women or girls as pretty, attractive, or good looking or anything like that.

Partly, I think it would come across as sleazy and sleazy I am not. Partly I'm married, happily for the most part and it would feel a little bit treacherous and partly because I don't think it's relevant.

I really appreciate the contacts I've made to do with books. To a degree it's what makes the effort all worth while. I love all my bookies. It's nothing to do with how they look on a profile pic though. It's the conversations I've had, the jokes we've shared, the merciless, razor sharp wit I've been at receiving end of! I wouldn't change a thing.

So if you're female and you get lots of compliments about your profile pics and have wondered why I haven't joined the band-wagon - It's because I don't think your looks are important. I probably think you're awesome whatever you look like!

:)

Martyn

Oh, I'm over 30,000 words into Deathsworn Arc 4 now!