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Reparative Therapy of Male Homosexuality: A New Clinical Approach
This book explores a reparative psychotherapy based on an understanding of the development of gender identity, offering to help the non-gay homosexual, that is, one who is unhappy with his sexual orientation. A Jason Aronson Book
374 pages, Paperback
First published January 1, 1991
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Joseph Nicolosi
10 books47 followersJoseph Nicolosi is an American clinical psychologist, founder and director of the Thomas Aquinas Psychological Clinic in Encino, California, and a founder and former president of the National Association for Research and Therapy of Homosexuality.
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October 24, 2012
What the actual fuck is a non-gay homosexual?
The reason gay people are unhappy is because of assholish book like this one.
The reason gay people are unhappy is because of assholish book like this one.
July 8, 2016
Heh, is there one for female homosexuality, too? And for heterosexuality?
I mean, I struggled with my (compulsory) heterosexuality for about three years, then found the perfect solution and started to realise I wasn't actually heterosexual, but what can you do?
Gah.
I mean, I struggled with my (compulsory) heterosexuality for about three years, then found the perfect solution and started to realise I wasn't actually heterosexual, but what can you do?
Gah.
July 26, 2025
ah, yes, non gay homosexuals. WTF is that?
nope-never
January 3, 2014This book explores a reparative psychotherapy based on an understanding of the development of gender identity, offering to help the non-gay homosexual, that is, one who is unhappy with his sexual orientation.
Really? The non-gay homosexual ?
Here I go again, books like this one and A Parent's Guide to Preventing Homosexuality and Healing Homosexuality: Case Stories of Reparative Therapy are hurtful, dangerous and scary.
It never ceases to amaze me that there is actually an audience for books like these. But then I watch the news and well, yeah...
I guess standing in the woods with a suit coat the same shade as the fall leaves and holding on to a tree branch has some kind of reparative effect.
On a side note, looking over this author's books and googling a bit, he does focus very strongly on the male homosexual, lesbians seem to be less threatening to him....hmmm..*ponders the thought*.
Really? The non-gay homosexual ?
Here I go again, books like this one and A Parent's Guide to Preventing Homosexuality and Healing Homosexuality: Case Stories of Reparative Therapy are hurtful, dangerous and scary.
It never ceases to amaze me that there is actually an audience for books like these. But then I watch the news and well, yeah...
I guess standing in the woods with a suit coat the same shade as the fall leaves and holding on to a tree branch has some kind of reparative effect.
On a side note, looking over this author's books and googling a bit, he does focus very strongly on the male homosexual, lesbians seem to be less threatening to him....hmmm..*ponders the thought*.
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January 3, 2014When will someone shut him up...permanently?? Why is such crap allowed to be published?? I think someone needs to use a new clinical approach on YOU, you complete moron!!
November 17, 2019
A clear alternative to “gay culture or gay ideology “ . Joseph Nicolosi explains very well what is going on in the depths of male homosexuality.
Some people don’t accept books like this one meanwhile we have to accept non documented ones. I don’t believe in insults or wrath but in well explain reasons.
The book of Nicolosi explains things in a clear way to those who want an alternative, Nicolosi is not imposing but offering a different way.
Some people don’t accept books like this one meanwhile we have to accept non documented ones. I don’t believe in insults or wrath but in well explain reasons.
The book of Nicolosi explains things in a clear way to those who want an alternative, Nicolosi is not imposing but offering a different way.
no-thanks
August 10, 2016
November 5, 2020
Probably those who gave negative reviews didn't go through it completely. But I can say that Joseph Nicolosi has a great idea about this condition. This book can be helpful for those having Gender Identity deficit.
But this entire book is applicable for those classic cases of homosexuals where the power balance and family structure was disturbed during toddler stage of the boy. The little minority who don't fit in that classic case may not relate to this.
But this entire book is applicable for those classic cases of homosexuals where the power balance and family structure was disturbed during toddler stage of the boy. The little minority who don't fit in that classic case may not relate to this.
April 16, 2022
This book is great , just be open minded and take a look at it , forget any presumptions and read it , it will definitely give you sth new
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July 27, 2025i want to throw joseph nicolosi into ancient greece and see how he survives all the male homosexuality
July 26, 2025
What the heck why would someone write this ? I question what is going through someone’s head when they wrote this cause they seriously need help
September 11, 2022
This book is amazing and profound. It was truly like reading a story of my life growing up and I could see my life experience in everything he says. That is my truth and other reviewers should be more respectful. I wish I would have been able to read this when I was a teenager or very young adult as I think it would have really helped me and provided an alternative to the current models of either gay affirmative or anti-gay (normally religious.) This book is full of truth (I can say from life experience) that sadly is being denied at the moment. A lot of the negative reviews are from people who have either not read it or are unwilling to actually debate/research these issues and instead resort to mudslinging. I also find it very odd that so many female reviewers are on here giving negative reviews since the book is entirely about male sexual issues.
August 13, 2024
THE EXTREMELY CONTROVERSIAL BOOK SUGGESTING "CHANGE" (RATHER THAN "CURE")
The author wrote in the Preface to this 1991 book, "The psychotherapy of male homosexuals has been explored for many years. What is new in this book is the interweaving of several strands of clinical research: the development of male gender-identity... and the techniques of psychodynamic psychotherapy of male homosexuality..." He asserts, "the homosexual condition is a developmental problem---and one that often results from early problems between father and son. Heterosexual development necessitates the support and cooperation of both parents as the boy disidentifies from mother and identifies with father. Failure in relationship with father may result in failure to internalize male gender-identity." (Pg. xvi)
He states forcefully, "Yet in the history of psychiatry, has a heterosexual ever sought treatment for distress about his homosexuality and wished to become homosexual? When I put that question in correspondence to the chairman of the DSM Nomenclature Committee, Robert L. Spitzer, he replied, `The answer, as you suspected, is no.'" (Pg. 9) He admits, "Historically, the cure rate in the treatment of homosexuality has been low. In those few studies that do claim success, the percentage of clients converted to heterosexuality runs from 15 to 30 percent, and there is question whether `cure' was maintained on long-term follow-up. Such results have culminated in an acceptance of the condition." (Pg. 11)
He contends, "Homosexuality is a developmental problem that is almost always the result of problems in family relations, particularly between father and son. As a result of failure with father, the boy does not fully internalize male gender-identity, and develops homosexually. This is the most commonly seen clinical model." (Pg. 25) He adds, "Although heterosexual men may describe their fathers unfavorably, homosexual men are stronger in their rejection of their father as a model." (Pg. 45)
He observes, "the central cause of gay promiscuity is to be found in the inherently unfulfilling character of the homosexual condition." (Pg. 140) He concedes, "Treatment before the early twenties has its particular difficulties... Prognosis is also poorer with older men over 35. For too many, their deeply ingrained sexual patterns have made them cynical about change." (Pg. 164-165) He later adds, "If our use of the word `change' rather than `cure' sounds pessimistic, one should consider the use of the word `cure' as it applies to other psychiatric conditions." (Pg. 166)
Few people will remain "neutral" about Nicolosi's book; but it is better to read it for oneself and form one's own opinion, than rely on second-hand opinions taken from others.
The author wrote in the Preface to this 1991 book, "The psychotherapy of male homosexuals has been explored for many years. What is new in this book is the interweaving of several strands of clinical research: the development of male gender-identity... and the techniques of psychodynamic psychotherapy of male homosexuality..." He asserts, "the homosexual condition is a developmental problem---and one that often results from early problems between father and son. Heterosexual development necessitates the support and cooperation of both parents as the boy disidentifies from mother and identifies with father. Failure in relationship with father may result in failure to internalize male gender-identity." (Pg. xvi)
He states forcefully, "Yet in the history of psychiatry, has a heterosexual ever sought treatment for distress about his homosexuality and wished to become homosexual? When I put that question in correspondence to the chairman of the DSM Nomenclature Committee, Robert L. Spitzer, he replied, `The answer, as you suspected, is no.'" (Pg. 9) He admits, "Historically, the cure rate in the treatment of homosexuality has been low. In those few studies that do claim success, the percentage of clients converted to heterosexuality runs from 15 to 30 percent, and there is question whether `cure' was maintained on long-term follow-up. Such results have culminated in an acceptance of the condition." (Pg. 11)
He contends, "Homosexuality is a developmental problem that is almost always the result of problems in family relations, particularly between father and son. As a result of failure with father, the boy does not fully internalize male gender-identity, and develops homosexually. This is the most commonly seen clinical model." (Pg. 25) He adds, "Although heterosexual men may describe their fathers unfavorably, homosexual men are stronger in their rejection of their father as a model." (Pg. 45)
He observes, "the central cause of gay promiscuity is to be found in the inherently unfulfilling character of the homosexual condition." (Pg. 140) He concedes, "Treatment before the early twenties has its particular difficulties... Prognosis is also poorer with older men over 35. For too many, their deeply ingrained sexual patterns have made them cynical about change." (Pg. 164-165) He later adds, "If our use of the word `change' rather than `cure' sounds pessimistic, one should consider the use of the word `cure' as it applies to other psychiatric conditions." (Pg. 166)
Few people will remain "neutral" about Nicolosi's book; but it is better to read it for oneself and form one's own opinion, than rely on second-hand opinions taken from others.
June 21, 2024
The author’s data on gay traits and behaviors is on solid ground. I recognize a lot of emotional and relationship issues from my own life, and those of my friends. However, the author’s “defensive detachment” theory doesn’t sound right to me. It creates convoluted, unfalsifiable backstories to explain rather simple things.
For example: a homosexual man does not like to think about naked women. Which explanation makes the most sense?
1. Duh, he’s gay
2. A pile of complex excuses and justifications
The book goes for answer 2 every time.
The sample therapy sessions have the same problem. Listening to clients and exploring their emotions was good. But the “defensive detachment” framework was imposed even when client responses didn’t support it.
For example: a homosexual man does not like to think about naked women. Which explanation makes the most sense?
1. Duh, he’s gay
2. A pile of complex excuses and justifications
The book goes for answer 2 every time.
The sample therapy sessions have the same problem. Listening to clients and exploring their emotions was good. But the “defensive detachment” framework was imposed even when client responses didn’t support it.
July 3, 2023
*Stop being gay today!*
Good news! There is hope in overcoming the affliction known as homosexuality and it isn’t just celibacy. Using the reparative therapy model, you have the chance to heal your wounds inflicted in childhood.
The same-sex attracted individuals review-bombing this book would do well to actually read it. In comparing his clients’ motivations and life histories, Dr. Nicolosi draws a clear picture of a man who is in search of the masculine and finds it in others, though in a most unhealthy fashion. While reading his client interactions, one suspects that these men were not, in fact, “born that way.”
Good news! There is hope in overcoming the affliction known as homosexuality and it isn’t just celibacy. Using the reparative therapy model, you have the chance to heal your wounds inflicted in childhood.
The same-sex attracted individuals review-bombing this book would do well to actually read it. In comparing his clients’ motivations and life histories, Dr. Nicolosi draws a clear picture of a man who is in search of the masculine and finds it in others, though in a most unhealthy fashion. While reading his client interactions, one suspects that these men were not, in fact, “born that way.”
December 17, 2017
As a blatantly, overtly heterosexual male who's been happily married to my wife for the past twenty years, this kind of book makes me wonder what the author's agenda is. Reparative therapy has been debunked time and again. This is simply drivel, IMO, that seeks to shame a group of people for what they are. Nothing more and nothing less. As if there wasn't enough of a stigma against gay people, this kind of drek has to come along.
No, thank you.
No, thank you.
July 26, 2025
why don't instead of hating on the gays you be grateful that someone could even have the slightest chance of being attracted to you?? as much as i feel bad for the poor, obviously masochistic guy just be lucky that someone could be attracted to your bullshit you absolute dickwad 🥰
June 12, 2023
The book is just about trying to shame gay people and gay culture. I wonder is there any explanation of him to female homosexuality as well. Truly disappointing piece of work.
June 7, 2016
The only reparations due to homosexuals are to those poor humans that Dr. Nicolosi tried to counsel. His books are wholly horrible. Shame on this "clinical psychologist."
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