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People Can't Drive You Crazy if You Don't Give Them the Keys
You don't have to be controlled by difficult people! Strange as it may seem, other people are not nearly as committed to our happiness as we are. In fact, sometimes it seems like they’re on a mission to make us miserable! There’s always that one person. The one who hijacks our emotions. The one who seems to thrive on drama. If we could just “fix” that person, everything would be better. But we can’t fix other people. We can only make choices about ourselves. In this cut-to-the-chase audio book, communication expert Mike Bechtle shows you how to stop being a victim of other people’s craziness. With commonsense wisdom and proactive advice that you can put into practice immediately, Bechtle gives you a proven strategy to handle crazy people — and stay sane while doing it. There will always be difficult people. But this fresh perspective on dealing with them can change your life — starting today!
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February 5, 2018
This self-help book is supposed to help alleviate the stress in your life that is caused by annoying humans - and I felt so much better and more calm while/after reading this book. So well done, Mike Bechtle, you delivered on what was promised!
Side note: I noticed that some people were not happy with the religious undertone of the book. And while I agree that Bechtle makes plenty of references to the Bible and talks about how religion helps him deal with stress, it doesn't sound preachy at all. Rather, he's sharing his experience and what helps him but he doesn't maintain that religion will be the answer for everyone.
Side note: I noticed that some people were not happy with the religious undertone of the book. And while I agree that Bechtle makes plenty of references to the Bible and talks about how religion helps him deal with stress, it doesn't sound preachy at all. Rather, he's sharing his experience and what helps him but he doesn't maintain that religion will be the answer for everyone.
May 3, 2022
This is Nonfiction and I liked this one more than I thought I would. I loved the message about not being able to change people....that is so true. Also, I appreciated the emphasis on how we can change ourselves instead and that we have complete control over our own reactions...even when difficult people are involved.
The author did his own audio narration and he did it wonderfully. He had a pleasant voice which also added impact to his message. Then throw in a few scriptures and there you have it. His message seemed very applicable. While this is not new information, a reminder is always nice. So 4 stars.
The author did his own audio narration and he did it wonderfully. He had a pleasant voice which also added impact to his message. Then throw in a few scriptures and there you have it. His message seemed very applicable. While this is not new information, a reminder is always nice. So 4 stars.
May 2, 2018
People Can't Drive You Crazy If You Don't Give Them The Keys. First I have got to say, I LOVE this book's title. It caught my eye and is one of the reasons I wanted to read it. I'm so glad that I finally did, as the message in the book spoke to me and I was highlighting so many quotes. One thing I took away is that you can't change other people, but you can change yourself.
June 29, 2013
I think it was a reinforcement of what most of us know we should do .... but good to read and be more prepared in those life situations that do/will come up. Bottom line is, 'We can't control other people .... do your best to emotionally distance yourself and have a mantra ready as a 'go to'. (ie...That is something I am not going to discuss with you.)
October 27, 2018
True to title
Easy read. Good suggestions to put into everyday life. Makes you wonder if everyone is the new normal and you are the crazy one.
Easy read. Good suggestions to put into everyday life. Makes you wonder if everyone is the new normal and you are the crazy one.
July 13, 2023
Pretty easy read. There was a lot of good stuff, but I wasn’t a fan of referring to people as crazy and I feel there were missed opportunities to tell people to get a therapist or counselor. When I finally thought that was happening, it turned into talking about the Bible 🙄
October 28, 2012
Title: PEOPLE CAN’T DRIVE YOU CRAZY IF YOU DON’T GIVE THEM THE KEYS
Author: Mike Bechtle
Publisher: Revell
October 2012
ISBN: 978-0-8007-2111-4
Genre: Nonfiction/self-help/relationships
You don’t have to be controlled by difficult people!
You are the only one truly committed to your happiness. No one else really cares if you’re happy. It’s like they’re on a mission to make you miserable! There’s always that one person—that one who hijacks our emotions. The one who thrives on drama.
But since we can’t fix him (or her) to make everything better, then we have to make choices about us and how we react to their craziness.
Mike Bechtle is a communications expert who will show you how to stop being a victim of other people’s insanity. With commonsense wisdom and proactive advice you can put into practice immediately, Bechtle gives you a proven strategy to handle crazy people—and to stay sane while doing it!
Stress happens. You don’t plan for things that just happen. Someone lies and you are unexpectedly fired from your job, kicked out of school for a related degree, and all of a sudden your dream life is shot full of holes. They are crazy. You have the drama and the stress to deal with. Or, your daughter is late coming home from her outing with her friends. You call, but get voice mail. You go from irritation to panic and calling the police to look for her, fearing the worst, when she strolls through the door as if nothing had happened. She had a flat tire, her phone was dead… all valid excuses. But you have the drama of your emotions. Or maybe you wrote a book and someone gave it a nasty review and you’re all stressed out about it. How do you handle that?
Mr. Bechtle has some wise advice. Talk to the ones who make you crazy about the situation. Change what you can. And the very last thing to do, if everything else has failed—walk away. Set your boundaries. Control your reactions. It’s okay. You can do this. We all deal with crazy people. We have lives filled with drama. We pray for peace for a season. After all, we don’t need high blood pressure. PEOPLE CAN’T DRIVE YOU CRAZY IF YOU DON’T GIVE THEM THE KEYS will give you the steps you can take to handle the stress. Recommended. $12.99. 203 pages.
Author: Mike Bechtle
Publisher: Revell
October 2012
ISBN: 978-0-8007-2111-4
Genre: Nonfiction/self-help/relationships
You don’t have to be controlled by difficult people!
You are the only one truly committed to your happiness. No one else really cares if you’re happy. It’s like they’re on a mission to make you miserable! There’s always that one person—that one who hijacks our emotions. The one who thrives on drama.
But since we can’t fix him (or her) to make everything better, then we have to make choices about us and how we react to their craziness.
Mike Bechtle is a communications expert who will show you how to stop being a victim of other people’s insanity. With commonsense wisdom and proactive advice you can put into practice immediately, Bechtle gives you a proven strategy to handle crazy people—and to stay sane while doing it!
Stress happens. You don’t plan for things that just happen. Someone lies and you are unexpectedly fired from your job, kicked out of school for a related degree, and all of a sudden your dream life is shot full of holes. They are crazy. You have the drama and the stress to deal with. Or, your daughter is late coming home from her outing with her friends. You call, but get voice mail. You go from irritation to panic and calling the police to look for her, fearing the worst, when she strolls through the door as if nothing had happened. She had a flat tire, her phone was dead… all valid excuses. But you have the drama of your emotions. Or maybe you wrote a book and someone gave it a nasty review and you’re all stressed out about it. How do you handle that?
Mr. Bechtle has some wise advice. Talk to the ones who make you crazy about the situation. Change what you can. And the very last thing to do, if everything else has failed—walk away. Set your boundaries. Control your reactions. It’s okay. You can do this. We all deal with crazy people. We have lives filled with drama. We pray for peace for a season. After all, we don’t need high blood pressure. PEOPLE CAN’T DRIVE YOU CRAZY IF YOU DON’T GIVE THEM THE KEYS will give you the steps you can take to handle the stress. Recommended. $12.99. 203 pages.
December 4, 2013
All of us have someone in our life that makes us want to pull out our hair. They do and say things that can really drive us crazy!
Sometimes we can get away from them, but many times, we can't. Especially if they're in our family.
Dr. Mike Bechtle talks about this in his book, People Can't Drive You Crazy If You Don't Give Them the Keys. The interesting thing is, we have more control over our emotions within the crazy circumstances than we think!
Bechtle never denies the fact that we do have crazy people in our lives! But, he begins the book with pointing out the person who might need to shift their focus from the person causing us grief to the one who can really change: ourselves! Yet, how does one go about doing that without completely changing their personality? The author points out that one of the best ways to do this is to capitalize on the positives of our personality. Then we can move forward to become an influencer of people.
Although they (the crazy people) tend to make us want to change them, the best approach is to become a person who influences others. When our attitudes change about who we are in Christ, many times people around us reflect that change.
However, oftentimes the crazy people in our lives don't change. What then? How do we harness our emotions so that they don't rule how we respond? The path to becoming a person whose emotions are not controlled by those around him is to slow down, focus on the truth in a situation, and act accordingly.
The author divides this book into five sections that culminate all the aspects of becoming a person that is not ruled by other people's actions and attitudes:
Stuck in a Crazy World
Changing Someone Else
Changing Yourself
Changing Your Environment
Putting It Into Practice
"Mike Bechtle is the author of Confident Conversation and lives and writes among lots of crazy people in California." (back of the book)
Sometimes we can get away from them, but many times, we can't. Especially if they're in our family.
Dr. Mike Bechtle talks about this in his book, People Can't Drive You Crazy If You Don't Give Them the Keys. The interesting thing is, we have more control over our emotions within the crazy circumstances than we think!
Bechtle never denies the fact that we do have crazy people in our lives! But, he begins the book with pointing out the person who might need to shift their focus from the person causing us grief to the one who can really change: ourselves! Yet, how does one go about doing that without completely changing their personality? The author points out that one of the best ways to do this is to capitalize on the positives of our personality. Then we can move forward to become an influencer of people.
Although they (the crazy people) tend to make us want to change them, the best approach is to become a person who influences others. When our attitudes change about who we are in Christ, many times people around us reflect that change.
However, oftentimes the crazy people in our lives don't change. What then? How do we harness our emotions so that they don't rule how we respond? The path to becoming a person whose emotions are not controlled by those around him is to slow down, focus on the truth in a situation, and act accordingly.
The author divides this book into five sections that culminate all the aspects of becoming a person that is not ruled by other people's actions and attitudes:
Stuck in a Crazy World
Changing Someone Else
Changing Yourself
Changing Your Environment
Putting It Into Practice
"Mike Bechtle is the author of Confident Conversation and lives and writes among lots of crazy people in California." (back of the book)
November 18, 2018
Great ideas, just a little bit watered down
This is a good book and it had good insights. But I felt it was missing one major thing- mention of the Holy Spirit and His work in our hearts. The truth is Jesus is the One who really changes hearts. And he never once mentioned praying for our difficult people which is sad to me. However, I did glean some good insights from the book, especially the reminder that I’m only a victim if I choose to be! God is gracious, may He be glorified.
This is a good book and it had good insights. But I felt it was missing one major thing- mention of the Holy Spirit and His work in our hearts. The truth is Jesus is the One who really changes hearts. And he never once mentioned praying for our difficult people which is sad to me. However, I did glean some good insights from the book, especially the reminder that I’m only a victim if I choose to be! God is gracious, may He be glorified.
April 20, 2022
Awesome
My daughter recommended this book to me. It was as great as she said it was. I enjoyed every minute of reading. It was exactly what I needed at this moment in my life.
My daughter recommended this book to me. It was as great as she said it was. I enjoyed every minute of reading. It was exactly what I needed at this moment in my life.
May 2, 2019
Lots of great advice intermingled with plenty of proverbs and other scriptures. Some key exercises for keeping your own sanity and how to work with others. The only person you can control and change is yourself. Tips on how to manage your response instead of just reacting, and managing your environment and boundaries. It should probably have a few tips on how to identify if you are one of the crazies, but we all think we're normal, so maybe that wouldn't have worked anyway.
April 2, 2018
Good book on interpersonal relationships. I would say that it os the strongest I’ve read since boundaries (cloud/Townsend)...Works on dealing with the overwhelming people, changing yourself and how you respond...all without sounding “preachy”. Could be a good small group study.
October 22, 2024
Parts of this were okay, other parts less so. I didn't like the bible bits and I'm not sure why they were necessary, some bits were contradictory. Change is always possible -and- there are no guarantees, were virtually on the same page. So which is it?
June 24, 2018
A must read to take back the driver's seat from all those crazy people in and around your life.
January 2, 2022
There is some excellent, highly practical, highly actionable advice here. Unfortunately the book is also heavily entrenched in ableist language. Some of this is no doubt due to the publication date (2012), which preceded growing discussion about ableist language related to mental health. If the author republishes this work (which I hope they would! Again, very practical!), I would recommend transitioning to the term "frustrated" (as in "their actions make me so frustrated") as it seems that is the feeling the author most commonly means when they deploy the word "crazy."
April 14, 2024
Excellent and true.
November 3, 2012
Mike Bechtle in his new book, “People Can’t Drive You Crazy If You Don’t Give Them the Keys” published by Revell gives us the ability to deal with difficult people.
From the back cover: You don’t have to be controlled by difficult people!
Strange as it may seem, other people are not nearly as committed to our happiness as we are. In fact, sometimes it seems like they’re on a mission to make us miserable! There’s always that one person. The one who hijacks our emotions. The one who seems to thrive on drama. If we could just “fix” that person, everything would be better. But we can’t fix other people. We can only make choices about ourselves.
In this cut-to-the-chase book, communication expert Mike Bechtle shows you how to stop being a victim of other people’s craziness. With commonsense wisdom and proactive advice that you can put into practice immediately, Bechtle gives you a proven strategy to handle crazy people–and stay sane while doing it.
There will always be difficult people. But this fresh perspective on dealing with them can change your life–starting today!
We are not allowed to commit murder so what are we to do when people are trying to drive us crazy? Mike Bechtle has given us to tools we need to deal with these situations in his new book, ”People Can’t Drive You Crazy If You Don’t Give Them the Keys” Eighteen chapters that are divided into five groups: Stuck In A Crazy World, Changing Someone Else, Changing Yourself, Changing Your Environment and Putting It Into Practice. With chapters like, Seven Keys To Unlocking Healthy Relationships and Your Relationship Survival Kit Mr. Bechtle not only gives us topics he gives us examples, lots of examples that we can put into practice – almost immediately. This is a great book. You might want to hold it in a special place on your shelf you might be referring to it again and again. This is also a great book to give as gifts to family and friends. They will think of you every time they put it to use. I recommend it highly.
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Disclosure of Material Connection: I received this book free from Revell. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255 : “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.”
“Available October 2011 at your favorite bookseller from Revell, a division of Baker Publishing Group.”
From the back cover: You don’t have to be controlled by difficult people!
Strange as it may seem, other people are not nearly as committed to our happiness as we are. In fact, sometimes it seems like they’re on a mission to make us miserable! There’s always that one person. The one who hijacks our emotions. The one who seems to thrive on drama. If we could just “fix” that person, everything would be better. But we can’t fix other people. We can only make choices about ourselves.
In this cut-to-the-chase book, communication expert Mike Bechtle shows you how to stop being a victim of other people’s craziness. With commonsense wisdom and proactive advice that you can put into practice immediately, Bechtle gives you a proven strategy to handle crazy people–and stay sane while doing it.
There will always be difficult people. But this fresh perspective on dealing with them can change your life–starting today!
We are not allowed to commit murder so what are we to do when people are trying to drive us crazy? Mike Bechtle has given us to tools we need to deal with these situations in his new book, ”People Can’t Drive You Crazy If You Don’t Give Them the Keys” Eighteen chapters that are divided into five groups: Stuck In A Crazy World, Changing Someone Else, Changing Yourself, Changing Your Environment and Putting It Into Practice. With chapters like, Seven Keys To Unlocking Healthy Relationships and Your Relationship Survival Kit Mr. Bechtle not only gives us topics he gives us examples, lots of examples that we can put into practice – almost immediately. This is a great book. You might want to hold it in a special place on your shelf you might be referring to it again and again. This is also a great book to give as gifts to family and friends. They will think of you every time they put it to use. I recommend it highly.
If you would like to listen to interviews with other authors and professionals please go to www.kingdomhighlights.org where they are available On Demand.
To listen to 24 hours non-stop, commercial free Christian music please visit our internet radio station www.kingdomairwaves.org
Disclosure of Material Connection: I received this book free from Revell. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255 : “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.”
“Available October 2011 at your favorite bookseller from Revell, a division of Baker Publishing Group.”
November 17, 2014
When I was in high school, I remember a teacher asking us to write down a few book genres we enjoyed reading. For one, I wrote down "self-help books." I think back to that every now and then, mainly to smile over the teacher's probable amusement: a 16-year-old who enjoyed reading self-help books! But to this day, I still enjoy them and pick one up occasionally.
"People Can't Drive You Crazy If You Don't Give Them the Keys" is a great example. We all know and interact with people we could charitably define as "crazy." The difficulty comes when we can't really avoid those people. Mike Bechtle helps us learn "what does love look like when someone is ruining our lives."
I'm not sure if it's the result of reading so many books like this, or just an innate intuition that God blessed me with, but as I read books like this I frequently realize that I already know much of what they recommend. They simply remind me to put that knowledge into action. Ah ... there's the rub. "When we can no longer change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves," the book states. So true.
A Shakespeare quote from the book: "There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so." So Bechtle challenges us to work on ourselves, as much as possible ignoring the person(s) making us crazy. He encourages us to "live lightly" -- to be one of those people who sees the glass as half full and who always sees the silver lining rather than the approaching storm. "We can't fix everyone who causes us pain," he counsels, and this is so true.
I found myself really enjoying this book -- buy it as a cheap form of therapy. Recommended.
June 21, 2019
Catchy title! It’s what made me pick up the “book”.
There is a lot of good advice in this book; things you know but could do with hearing again. Like - you can’t change people, only yourself and your response to them; choose to spend more time with the important people in your life, make them a priority.
What really struck home with me was the story about the fisherman and the tycoon; how he could change this “poor” man’s life from catching one fish a day to running his own canning factory. When asked by the fisherman how long would that take (15 to 20 years), and what would he do after all that, the response was so apt. The tycoon said that he could buy a home in a small fishing village, go fish for the fun of it, come home and spend time with his wife and friends, all that the fisherman was doing already! It makes you think about why we do the things we do, what do we want out of life.
Although the author made several references to the bible, I did not feel he was pushing religion, but rather showing how the basics of a good life - be nice, do unto others etc, - are not new concepts, they have been around for years!
There is a lot of good advice in this book; things you know but could do with hearing again. Like - you can’t change people, only yourself and your response to them; choose to spend more time with the important people in your life, make them a priority.
What really struck home with me was the story about the fisherman and the tycoon; how he could change this “poor” man’s life from catching one fish a day to running his own canning factory. When asked by the fisherman how long would that take (15 to 20 years), and what would he do after all that, the response was so apt. The tycoon said that he could buy a home in a small fishing village, go fish for the fun of it, come home and spend time with his wife and friends, all that the fisherman was doing already! It makes you think about why we do the things we do, what do we want out of life.
Although the author made several references to the bible, I did not feel he was pushing religion, but rather showing how the basics of a good life - be nice, do unto others etc, - are not new concepts, they have been around for years!
March 24, 2013
I can sum up this book in the following sentence: You cannot change anyone but yourself and how you react to others.
I got this by the second disc. I am not sure what more there was because this was repeated several times and I was not hearing anything else. I also quite listening because I became fed up with the author's constant use of the word CRAZY which personally offended me with his excessive use.
Dear Mr. Bechtle; Some people are actually crazy or what we now refer to has mentally ill.
I also became tired of his Bible quotes. It was like he picked a topic and entered it into a Bible quote generator.
So, if you already know how to tell people to bring food to Thanksgiving at your house and make them help with the clean up I wouldn't bother!
I got this by the second disc. I am not sure what more there was because this was repeated several times and I was not hearing anything else. I also quite listening because I became fed up with the author's constant use of the word CRAZY which personally offended me with his excessive use.
Dear Mr. Bechtle; Some people are actually crazy or what we now refer to has mentally ill.
I also became tired of his Bible quotes. It was like he picked a topic and entered it into a Bible quote generator.
So, if you already know how to tell people to bring food to Thanksgiving at your house and make them help with the clean up I wouldn't bother!
November 9, 2015
A mix of good advise, wise counsel and pithy sayings. The author wanders from the point quite a bit, but usually brings it back to the topic at hand. He makes a lot of broad statements about a one's "temperament" being fixed from a young age and virtually unchangeable. I'm not sure that he is accurately portraying this, but it doesn't actually detract too much from the book. It is similar to a lot of "positive mindset" books out there with a Christian twist.
April 28, 2018
This book basically just reiterates what we know about other people, you can't change them, so you need to find ways to deal with them. Unfortunately I found the God and bible references over the top for me... God made people different, you can't change what God put on this earth. I enjoy non-fiction books that encourage self-help, but not when they become preachy and religious.
February 6, 2024
This for me, has been the best book I've read about the subject of dealing with difficult or as the title puts it CRAZY people. And I've read quite a bit of what's out there. Not because I necessarily enjoy it, but if like me you're part of the working world, it's downright necessary!
Throughout the book, the author uses both anecdotes from his life and lessons from the New Testament book of Proverbs to help illustrate his points. And also give guidance on how to keep our sanity when we're around unpleasant individuals.
Usually books of this kind require asking lots of introspective questions and writing things out but not as much with this one. It has those parts as well. Yet most of it was just good practical advice which can be put into use immediately.
This is taken from the last 2 pages since I think it sums up the book quite well.
"To get long-term results, the place to start is with ourselves. We can begin a journey of healing for our craziest relationships. The other person might stay crazy, but we'll have the resources to handle it without losing our minds."
Mr Bechtle, if you're reading this review, THANK YOU!
Throughout the book, the author uses both anecdotes from his life and lessons from the New Testament book of Proverbs to help illustrate his points. And also give guidance on how to keep our sanity when we're around unpleasant individuals.
Usually books of this kind require asking lots of introspective questions and writing things out but not as much with this one. It has those parts as well. Yet most of it was just good practical advice which can be put into use immediately.
This is taken from the last 2 pages since I think it sums up the book quite well.
"To get long-term results, the place to start is with ourselves. We can begin a journey of healing for our craziest relationships. The other person might stay crazy, but we'll have the resources to handle it without losing our minds."
Mr Bechtle, if you're reading this review, THANK YOU!
This entire review has been hidden because of spoilers.
March 2, 2021
This book came to me when I need it the most, it's a little bit too Godly for me in some sense but it's not too much that it's overwhelming it doesn't make the information less valuable but more so.
This book enforces the fact that you can't change other people but you can change your perspective you can work on yourself and gage your reaction to people who are drama filled and a bit hard to deal with.it also highlights that nothing is garanteed and we just have to do what's best for us for example just because I work out constantly and eat right doesn't mean that I won't die from a car accident tomorrow (knock on wood) but we do these things in hope that we will feel better and live to see tomorrow no?.
Some of us are too focus on changing the other person which sets us up for disappointment because it just never works,instead we need to learn to funtion in an environment with these people while remaining in power positively.
There is alot more valuable information in this book and ill definitely be reading it again to cement the information.
This book enforces the fact that you can't change other people but you can change your perspective you can work on yourself and gage your reaction to people who are drama filled and a bit hard to deal with.it also highlights that nothing is garanteed and we just have to do what's best for us for example just because I work out constantly and eat right doesn't mean that I won't die from a car accident tomorrow (knock on wood) but we do these things in hope that we will feel better and live to see tomorrow no?.
Some of us are too focus on changing the other person which sets us up for disappointment because it just never works,instead we need to learn to funtion in an environment with these people while remaining in power positively.
There is alot more valuable information in this book and ill definitely be reading it again to cement the information.
October 6, 2022
Truly a great book. This isn't a self help book that gives you tips on how to have a better life. This book gives you tips, examples, and traits to help you change YOU! The author wants you to live a fulfilling life with meaningful and healthy relationships.
This book made me realize how much of a crazy person I am. That's right! I bought this book thinking it will help me deal with the crazies in my life. But what really happened was that I learned how much of a crazy I am, but there's hope. There's always hope.
The main subject in this book is that you are only in control of yourself and your reactions. You have zero control over what someone else does, says, thinks or feels. Change starts with ourselves. And it truly resonated with me in this book.
I highly suggest this book for anyone looking to better themselves and their relationships with others.
This book made me realize how much of a crazy person I am. That's right! I bought this book thinking it will help me deal with the crazies in my life. But what really happened was that I learned how much of a crazy I am, but there's hope. There's always hope.
The main subject in this book is that you are only in control of yourself and your reactions. You have zero control over what someone else does, says, thinks or feels. Change starts with ourselves. And it truly resonated with me in this book.
I highly suggest this book for anyone looking to better themselves and their relationships with others.
April 8, 2018
Really enjoyed this
I've enjoyed reading this and digesting it pieces at a time over the last few months. It came at just the right time in my life when my "crazy person" was starting to affect me so completely it was bleeding into other relationships. This book teaches how to let go and take control of the only change you really can expect in those relationships: yourself. It's an in depth explanation with practical uses and drives home the idea that you should, "Never let someone live rent free in your head." Definitely a great read I'll be referencing again throughout my life.
I've enjoyed reading this and digesting it pieces at a time over the last few months. It came at just the right time in my life when my "crazy person" was starting to affect me so completely it was bleeding into other relationships. This book teaches how to let go and take control of the only change you really can expect in those relationships: yourself. It's an in depth explanation with practical uses and drives home the idea that you should, "Never let someone live rent free in your head." Definitely a great read I'll be referencing again throughout my life.
January 30, 2021
Written from a christian perspective,You will find a few gems of wisdom in this book.But if you are in a close relationship with an abuser and the relationship is causing you lots of pain then this is not the right book to read.
I recommend reading Escape the narcissist,50 things not to do with Narcissist by H G Tudor and The Psychopath Code: Cracking the Predators that Stalk Us .These are VERY good.These books will help you deal with a toxic person and also get rid of him/her if that's what you want.
Hope this helps!
P.S.While making a decision to read a book,never rely on average ratings of that book on good reads.
I recommend reading Escape the narcissist,50 things not to do with Narcissist by H G Tudor and The Psychopath Code: Cracking the Predators that Stalk Us .These are VERY good.These books will help you deal with a toxic person and also get rid of him/her if that's what you want.
Hope this helps!
P.S.While making a decision to read a book,never rely on average ratings of that book on good reads.
December 1, 2017
Great book to help you handle difficult people
It gives you an honest look at ourselves and others. I enjoyed this book also because it speaks to the truth of the matter and helps you give the answers that free you up. We don't have to allow others to control us and we certainly cannot control others. I am learning to respond to my husband's behavior in a better way. I would highly recommend this book to anyone who has crazy people in their lives that especially like to push our buttons.
It gives you an honest look at ourselves and others. I enjoyed this book also because it speaks to the truth of the matter and helps you give the answers that free you up. We don't have to allow others to control us and we certainly cannot control others. I am learning to respond to my husband's behavior in a better way. I would highly recommend this book to anyone who has crazy people in their lives that especially like to push our buttons.
March 25, 2023
1. Separate crazy behavior from who they are.
2. Change is possible both parties
3. Other people’s choices are not our issue
4. Expectations can lead to disappointment
5. No guarantees for a happy ending
6. You can’t change past, just how we react to it
7. Believe in hope for future
8. Don’t be a victim
9. Change takes time
10. Prepare and plan ahead for convos to avoid manipulation
11. Choose to respond. Not react.
2. Change is possible both parties
3. Other people’s choices are not our issue
4. Expectations can lead to disappointment
5. No guarantees for a happy ending
6. You can’t change past, just how we react to it
7. Believe in hope for future
8. Don’t be a victim
9. Change takes time
10. Prepare and plan ahead for convos to avoid manipulation
11. Choose to respond. Not react.
June 12, 2024
First of all, I agree with the title of this book. It was interesting to read but when it comes to dealing with crazy people, I stick to myself, that's my way of not handing them the keys. I have an aura to protect which is why I spend most of the time doing my own thing. As many times as you practice kindness it doesn't always work as they will use that against you in manipulative ways and to the absolute extreme. Greeting people is fine but other than that, I don't stick around.
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