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Hes Just Not That Into You Your Daily Wake Up Call by Greg Behrendt, Liz Tuccillo [Gallery Books,2005] (Paperback) Abridged
Hes Just Not That Into You Your Daily Wake Up Call by Greg Behrendt, Liz Tuccillo. Published by Gallery Books,2005, Paperback Abridged
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Greg Behrendt
28 books836 followersGregory Behrendt is an American stand-up comedian and author. His work as a script consultant to the HBO sitcom Sex and the City, starring Sarah Jessica Parker, paved the way for co-authoring of the New York Times bestseller He's Just Not That into You (2004), later adapted into a film by the same name. Apart from that he also hosted two short-lived talk shows, The Greg Behrendt Show (2006) and Greg Behrendt's Wake Up Call (2009).
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January 9, 2023
This book was a revelation. It is an eye opener to anyone finding themselves in a single situation. It’s funny and insightful. We have all been there at one point in our lives or know someone that has, for every single chapter of the book. It’s the kind of book you put down and assure yourself you will abide by it in the future, and will recognise the patterns for your friends. Sooner or later though, we need reminders by someone tough enough to say ‘He’s just not that into you.’
July 3, 2008
So, I decided to read this book because the movie is coming out soon, plus a few of my friends have read it and while dishing about ex-boyfriends over lunch have often said to me "he's just not into you" and then told me to read the book. I wish I had done so earlier and not wasted so much time on "Mr. short and fat" the not-so-into-me lawyer that never called me, never made time for me but I was totally obsessed with him for over a year (although we only went on one date, and that was a date that I arranged...I'm soooooo dumb), friends may remember him by his former nick-name "Mr. Hottie Pants" (I get over guys by associating them with a negative concept, oh, how the mighty fall...!)
The book is full of hysterical one-liners and great tidbits of advice on guys-but more importantly valuing yourself...and learning the art of calling a spade a spade. It's spoken like you are having a conversation with your best friend who is still in touch with reality and you are the totally crazy one and you desperately need someone to say "are you listening to yourself? Seriously? You would really let him do that and then come here and ask me about whether it's okay or not? ARE YOU F***ing INSANE? You are the crazy one here woman, good god, you two are made for each other if you think that behavior is okay."
The book is fab., and I recommend it to all of my single friends and soon to be single ones (just kidding).
Just make sure to chuck the book cover before you bring it with you on the train, like I did. I wasn't be able to handle the judgement of the other commuter rail passengers.
Cheers,
Lesley
The book is full of hysterical one-liners and great tidbits of advice on guys-but more importantly valuing yourself...and learning the art of calling a spade a spade. It's spoken like you are having a conversation with your best friend who is still in touch with reality and you are the totally crazy one and you desperately need someone to say "are you listening to yourself? Seriously? You would really let him do that and then come here and ask me about whether it's okay or not? ARE YOU F***ing INSANE? You are the crazy one here woman, good god, you two are made for each other if you think that behavior is okay."
The book is fab., and I recommend it to all of my single friends and soon to be single ones (just kidding).
Just make sure to chuck the book cover before you bring it with you on the train, like I did. I wasn't be able to handle the judgement of the other commuter rail passengers.
Cheers,
Lesley
June 13, 2013
I started reading this book after my boyfriend broke up with me. I thought it would help me to let go & I guess in some ways it has. I'm still not over him completely but reading this little book reminds me that it's better to be alone than with a guy who really isn't into me. So yes, I do recommend this little book. The truth hurts but it also sets you free.
August 28, 2017
I felt super lame ordering this book from the library, like it may be on my permanent record or instantly forwarded on to my GP, but I have to say it's great fun while forcing yourself to have a good look at yourself.
People, both men and women, will put up with a lot and change themselves to not feel lonely in the big bad world. But taking a step back and realising what actually makes you happy is probably the best place to start.
Also I read it in one morning, so of all the things to waste your time on, this book won't be one of them.
People, both men and women, will put up with a lot and change themselves to not feel lonely in the big bad world. But taking a step back and realising what actually makes you happy is probably the best place to start.
Also I read it in one morning, so of all the things to waste your time on, this book won't be one of them.
January 14, 2019
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November 29, 2022
I absolutely love this book and how it completely exposes the realities of modern dating.
While it may seem like common sense to only date a guy who is into you, it is unbelievable the ways in which women will make up excuses for men or made to feel guilty for a man's defects.
Especially in this day and age the absolute bare minimum a potential love interest can do is text you back. As someone who has spent many times pining over the phone wondering why he won't text me I am fully aware of the ways in which women delude themselves into rationalising men's shitty behaviour. There is absolutely no reason you should be waiting days for a text back (I even think one day is too much tbh).
If you take anything from this review/book then rake away this:
Have you ever ignored/not texted a person you were really interested in?
For me, never! If i really like you I will respond within minutes, even seconds because I want to talk to you. Even if my phone broke or something crazy did happen I would find a way to let you know what is going.
If i don't want to talk to you then I will do simply that...not talk to you. So why then is it so hard to believe these men are doing the exact same thing with us?
If he likes you, you will know. No ifs, and or buts!
Overall,
⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐
💌💌💌💌💌
While it may seem like common sense to only date a guy who is into you, it is unbelievable the ways in which women will make up excuses for men or made to feel guilty for a man's defects.
Especially in this day and age the absolute bare minimum a potential love interest can do is text you back. As someone who has spent many times pining over the phone wondering why he won't text me I am fully aware of the ways in which women delude themselves into rationalising men's shitty behaviour. There is absolutely no reason you should be waiting days for a text back (I even think one day is too much tbh).
If you take anything from this review/book then rake away this:
Have you ever ignored/not texted a person you were really interested in?
For me, never! If i really like you I will respond within minutes, even seconds because I want to talk to you. Even if my phone broke or something crazy did happen I would find a way to let you know what is going.
If i don't want to talk to you then I will do simply that...not talk to you. So why then is it so hard to believe these men are doing the exact same thing with us?
If he likes you, you will know. No ifs, and or buts!
Overall,
⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐
💌💌💌💌💌
October 25, 2018
3.5/5
Um ok so I read this as someone who's been single for a super long time and isn't really into dating. I'm super cynical about most things and I constantly roll my eyes and bite my tongue at some of my friend's relationships. I chose to read this book because, well, I loved the movie.
I haven't read many non-fic books before (what is "many", anyway?) but most of the ones I've read have annoyed me (I'd say 80%). As much as I don't think I needed to read this book (re: the paragraph above), it was a cute little reminder for years to come, and the writing style was good enough that I could ignore the cringing in my soul that I was reading a self-help book (no offense to the genre or anyone that likes it).
So basically, we have our authors, Greg & Liz, who used to consult and write for Sex & the City, respectively. There are about 11 chapters titled "he's just not that into you if ...". The chapters start off with an introductory paragraph, and is then followed by a few "letters"* or scenarios describing a problem some woman is going through. (*I don't remember if these are real anonymous letters or if they were made up for the book. Some of them definitely felt fake. Idk.) After each letter, Greg writes a letter back to the woman (kind of like a Dr Love thing), and then writes a follow-up paragraph to the reader. After all this feedback there's an extra note from Greg, then a section from Liz explaining "Here's why this one is hard" so we get a female pov on how to swallow Greg's hardcore "he's just not that into you" message. This is followed by "this is what it should look like" - a paragraph where Greg or Liz explain a situation that someone they know have been though a thing that relates to the main theme of the chapter and the situation ended appropriately. Thereafter, "Greg, I get it!" where a woman tells a story of how she dumped whatever dude was treating her terribly. This is then followed by a poll in which "100% of men agree that" or something similar (which is probably true but felt annoying to continuously read that same statistic), and "what you should have learned" (a checklist of things you should have learned) and "workbook exercises" (in case you're a child who needs dating homework).
I have no idea why I just explained all of that. Overall, I guess it was entertaining. It was quite funny in the beginning, but eventually I felt suffocated by the repetitiveness of it all and Greg's overly sarcastic responses to some of the letters, or his overly mushy "you deserve so much better".
Um ok so I read this as someone who's been single for a super long time and isn't really into dating. I'm super cynical about most things and I constantly roll my eyes and bite my tongue at some of my friend's relationships. I chose to read this book because, well, I loved the movie.
I haven't read many non-fic books before (what is "many", anyway?) but most of the ones I've read have annoyed me (I'd say 80%). As much as I don't think I needed to read this book (re: the paragraph above), it was a cute little reminder for years to come, and the writing style was good enough that I could ignore the cringing in my soul that I was reading a self-help book (no offense to the genre or anyone that likes it).
So basically, we have our authors, Greg & Liz, who used to consult and write for Sex & the City, respectively. There are about 11 chapters titled "he's just not that into you if ...". The chapters start off with an introductory paragraph, and is then followed by a few "letters"* or scenarios describing a problem some woman is going through. (*I don't remember if these are real anonymous letters or if they were made up for the book. Some of them definitely felt fake. Idk.) After each letter, Greg writes a letter back to the woman (kind of like a Dr Love thing), and then writes a follow-up paragraph to the reader. After all this feedback there's an extra note from Greg, then a section from Liz explaining "Here's why this one is hard" so we get a female pov on how to swallow Greg's hardcore "he's just not that into you" message. This is followed by "this is what it should look like" - a paragraph where Greg or Liz explain a situation that someone they know have been though a thing that relates to the main theme of the chapter and the situation ended appropriately. Thereafter, "Greg, I get it!" where a woman tells a story of how she dumped whatever dude was treating her terribly. This is then followed by a poll in which "100% of men agree that" or something similar (which is probably true but felt annoying to continuously read that same statistic), and "what you should have learned" (a checklist of things you should have learned) and "workbook exercises" (in case you're a child who needs dating homework).
I have no idea why I just explained all of that. Overall, I guess it was entertaining. It was quite funny in the beginning, but eventually I felt suffocated by the repetitiveness of it all and Greg's overly sarcastic responses to some of the letters, or his overly mushy "you deserve so much better".
May 23, 2013
在旧金山的时候读完的。
December 10, 2013
OMG I LOVE THIS BOOK SO MUCH!
A REAL WAKE UP CALL, A BOOK OF REALITY (for me haha)
AWESOME READ.
A REAL WAKE UP CALL, A BOOK OF REALITY (for me haha)
AWESOME READ.
October 31, 2017
What. The. Fuck. Did. I. Just. Read.
July 14, 2021
A quick, empowering read for those who waste valuable time on guys who exhibit any number of undesirable qualities or are simply “just not that into” you. There are sections of the book that may not be relevant to your situation(s), but are good to consider for future reference. Also, there are times during which the author’s “daily wake-up calls” are repetitive or contradict themselves. Overall, there are a number of quality points to internalize and commit to memory.
September 1, 2021
The book's primary message of knowing your worth was great. However, the tone of the book sometimes came off as a little patronising to me rather than empowering, which did affect my reading of the book unfortunately.
Alas, I was just not into this book.
Alas, I was just not into this book.
August 17, 2023
This is a funny self-help book and not a novel, I still finished it though, first because it was funny, second because we all want to know… :) And we do.
March 22, 2013
I saw the Oprah interview before I watched the movie before I read the book. Thought the movie was good and that the interview was interesting (that so many women don't have a clue) but by gawd, loathe the book (in a good way). I'd give it 5 stars for comedy and 3 for style, so we've settled on an average score of 4.
Reading it I just feel more of a guy, thanks Greg, as if I'm not butch enough already. How do I raise my future potential son(s) to be gentlemen? Is the question. And how not to be depressed about the dismal pickings of fish in the sea? Are men really so screwed up?
Greg says, "I'll kick his ass, I'll do this or that to the asshole-bastard-scum-of-the-earth." Sweet. But you'll do none of that, and that's the reality of it.
Some things I have to comment on:-
P177
"There aren't that many good men around."
-Word!
P123
"Women can't separate sex and emotions."
-We're not meant to, science will back me up, human beings are wired that way and it's not natural otherwise. Men separate sex and emotions for their own convenience. Would have been great if hard facts and data were added in, other than polls.
P65
"Pets are God's way of saying, 'Don't lower the bar because you're lonely.'"
-Goodness, Greg dahling, if I listen to you on that I'd be in therapy already. And pls don't use the Lord's name in vain. People who think other people have animals because of loneliness or relationship problems clearly don't have pets. Btw, loneliness and alone are two different things.
Typo found:
P126
"If he hasn't figured out after three years that you're the women that will make his life heaven right here on earth, a couple tins of cat food aren't going to do the trick."
-Should be 'woman'.
And after all that, the solution is faith. Faith in an idea (the ideal) or faith in men? Sorry, but I want to see results. Those lead to disappointment.
Reading it I just feel more of a guy, thanks Greg, as if I'm not butch enough already. How do I raise my future potential son(s) to be gentlemen? Is the question. And how not to be depressed about the dismal pickings of fish in the sea? Are men really so screwed up?
Greg says, "I'll kick his ass, I'll do this or that to the asshole-bastard-scum-of-the-earth." Sweet. But you'll do none of that, and that's the reality of it.
Some things I have to comment on:-
P177
"There aren't that many good men around."
-Word!
P123
"Women can't separate sex and emotions."
-We're not meant to, science will back me up, human beings are wired that way and it's not natural otherwise. Men separate sex and emotions for their own convenience. Would have been great if hard facts and data were added in, other than polls.
P65
"Pets are God's way of saying, 'Don't lower the bar because you're lonely.'"
-Goodness, Greg dahling, if I listen to you on that I'd be in therapy already. And pls don't use the Lord's name in vain. People who think other people have animals because of loneliness or relationship problems clearly don't have pets. Btw, loneliness and alone are two different things.
Typo found:
P126
"If he hasn't figured out after three years that you're the women that will make his life heaven right here on earth, a couple tins of cat food aren't going to do the trick."
-Should be 'woman'.
And after all that, the solution is faith. Faith in an idea (the ideal) or faith in men? Sorry, but I want to see results. Those lead to disappointment.
July 19, 2016
When the writers of the famous Sex and the City decide to write a relationship book, you know it is going to be brilliant! Funny from beginning to end, He's Just Not That Into You is perfect for all women – single or in a relationship. The authors have two main lessons to teach:
1. You are not the exception to the rule – you are the rule. If you haven't heard from a man, the reason why is probably not because he lost your number or went out of town or got hijacked. Just because your sister's friend's cousin's aunt married the man she didn't hear from for three months after their first date, does not mean that you will. She was the exception, you are not.
If a man really does like you, you'll know about it. He'll make an effort to find your number or ask you out or propose.
2. The authors speak seriously from experience, but are brutally honest in their no-excises guide. Offering both male and female perspectives on each topic, this guide will definitely answer all of your questions. Greg will lecture you, and then Liz will sympathise with you and encourage you to be stronger, and demand the greatness you clearly deserve. Even if you are in a serious and healthy relationship, give this book a read – it is incredibly uplifting and empowering, reminding you that you are worth the world. This book is still funny even if you have found the man who will give it to you.
Of course, it is perfect for those of us out there who are still searching for Mr Right. Just remember, guys aren't all that hard to understand. At least not according to Greg and Liz!
- Jacqueline, QBD Epping
1. You are not the exception to the rule – you are the rule. If you haven't heard from a man, the reason why is probably not because he lost your number or went out of town or got hijacked. Just because your sister's friend's cousin's aunt married the man she didn't hear from for three months after their first date, does not mean that you will. She was the exception, you are not.
If a man really does like you, you'll know about it. He'll make an effort to find your number or ask you out or propose.
2. The authors speak seriously from experience, but are brutally honest in their no-excises guide. Offering both male and female perspectives on each topic, this guide will definitely answer all of your questions. Greg will lecture you, and then Liz will sympathise with you and encourage you to be stronger, and demand the greatness you clearly deserve. Even if you are in a serious and healthy relationship, give this book a read – it is incredibly uplifting and empowering, reminding you that you are worth the world. This book is still funny even if you have found the man who will give it to you.
Of course, it is perfect for those of us out there who are still searching for Mr Right. Just remember, guys aren't all that hard to understand. At least not according to Greg and Liz!
- Jacqueline, QBD Epping
May 4, 2017
"You are far too precious to let any man make you feel like less than what you are - a magnificent woman worthy of great love."
This book was so relatable and relevant to me in so many ways, i kept thinking to myself "why does it make so much sense though?" It mentions so many hard truths that we as women tend to ignore and refuse to acknowledge most of the time. Every single woman MUST have this on her night stand.
This book was so relatable and relevant to me in so many ways, i kept thinking to myself "why does it make so much sense though?" It mentions so many hard truths that we as women tend to ignore and refuse to acknowledge most of the time. Every single woman MUST have this on her night stand.
July 12, 2007
Every girl should read this as we have all been offenders to many of the book's points. Very quick read.
August 12, 2017
I am a fan.
April 28, 2021
I would not reccomend this book to anyone. I didn't go into with very high expectations ( I found it on my mom's bookshelf and I assumed I wasn't going to love it but was still interested in seeing what the authors had to say) and thank Luna for that. I didn't expect to learn anything from it and I didn't. I found it very traditional and unsettling. Yes, there were some positive messages in the book, but the negative messages were way too much for me.
The few things I did like about this book:
-the occasional humor ("he can feed his own cat.")
- it was, for the most part, sex positive
- promoted self love and body positivity
- rather than glamourizing toxic relationships, it encouraged healthy relationships
Like I mentioned before, the book did have some good moments, but oh my did it have some bad ones.
Things I disliked about the book:
- inforced the idea that guys can only ask girls out (HELLO TOXIC MASCULINITY)
- made it seem as if men telling you they don't want to get married means they automatically don't love you (maybe they just don't want to get married- people are allowed to not want to get married) and even went as far at one point in the book to shame a couple who dated for eight years and never got married
- it invalidated anxiety and having a fear of commitment a/o vulnerability or being scared to ask a girl out (tis some scary shit)
-said AND I QUOTE "If a man is not trying to undress you, he's not into you." (Bro... are you fucking kidding me? Maybe he just fucking respects you🤷♀️)
I think that the writers had the best of intentions; they wanted to hype women up and encourage them to strive for healthy relationships and respect themselves. And they did that, but as they were validating women's feelings in male female relationships they were also invalidating a lot of men's feelings, which isn't okay. Are there some shit men out there? Yes. But there are also some quality men out there with valid feelings who are unfortunately being invalidated and this book is not helping that. Also, there are some shit women out there too... people just kind of suck🤷♀️
So yeah, don't trust the hype on this one. As Kevin from Home Alone would say.... "WOOF."
The few things I did like about this book:
-the occasional humor ("he can feed his own cat.")
- it was, for the most part, sex positive
- promoted self love and body positivity
- rather than glamourizing toxic relationships, it encouraged healthy relationships
Like I mentioned before, the book did have some good moments, but oh my did it have some bad ones.
Things I disliked about the book:
- inforced the idea that guys can only ask girls out (HELLO TOXIC MASCULINITY)
- made it seem as if men telling you they don't want to get married means they automatically don't love you (maybe they just don't want to get married- people are allowed to not want to get married) and even went as far at one point in the book to shame a couple who dated for eight years and never got married
- it invalidated anxiety and having a fear of commitment a/o vulnerability or being scared to ask a girl out (tis some scary shit)
-said AND I QUOTE "If a man is not trying to undress you, he's not into you." (Bro... are you fucking kidding me? Maybe he just fucking respects you🤷♀️)
I think that the writers had the best of intentions; they wanted to hype women up and encourage them to strive for healthy relationships and respect themselves. And they did that, but as they were validating women's feelings in male female relationships they were also invalidating a lot of men's feelings, which isn't okay. Are there some shit men out there? Yes. But there are also some quality men out there with valid feelings who are unfortunately being invalidated and this book is not helping that. Also, there are some shit women out there too... people just kind of suck🤷♀️
So yeah, don't trust the hype on this one. As Kevin from Home Alone would say.... "WOOF."
December 17, 2024
This captivating read will supercharge your mind. It shares insightful truths about dating with a delightful blend of humour and warmth that you won't want to miss!
This insightful summary dives into a brilliantly crafted book that examines how men view life and women and the excuses they often use instead of embracing honesty. This tendency for opacity can leave women wondering about men’s true intentions and desires, highlighting the importance of open communication in relationships.
If he's not calling you, making plans, hiding small things, consistently focusing on problems, or sending mixed signals, it’s likely that he’s not really interested in you. Behrendt encourages women to confront the reality of the situation rather than make excuses for men's behaviour.
Behrendt’s message is clear but can come across as harsh. Relationships are complex, and situations are rarely black and white. Some men may struggle with their emotions due to personal issues, insecurities, and past traumas.
A wonderful insight from "He’s Just Not That Into You" is that we should cherish our time and not settle for less than we deserve! The book beautifully highlights that being single can be far more rewarding than being with someone who doesn’t truly value us. Embrace your worth and prioritize yourself!
December 30, 2023
Der Inhalt des Buches ist eigentlich super simpel und um viel Inhalt geht es hier wirklich nicht, ABER es bringt einen aus dem delulu-Denken beim Dating heraus. Nach dem Motto: if he wanted to, he would! Das Buch ist zwar auch schon etwas in die Jahre gekommen, aber trotzdem hat es mich sehr oft zum lachen gebracht. Kein Meisterwerk, but it does the job very well :)!
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January 29, 2020
This has been written in a fun way with examples and stories by people in similar situations.
I actually gave this to a girl in high school for a serious reality check on her, very BAD for her, ‘boyfriend’ at the time.
I actually gave this to a girl in high school for a serious reality check on her, very BAD for her, ‘boyfriend’ at the time.
November 5, 2022
I think some of the conclusions were drawn too soon. Nowadays everyone is busy with many priorities, that doesn’t mean they’re not into you. Be patient and give each other a bit of time and space to breathe.
February 3, 2018
Helpful!
October 3, 2018
I needed this ☺ I adored this book!
March 17, 2019
A fun read. Good way to pass time :P
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October 10, 2019This book doesn’t tell you anything more than your common sense would, however it’s good to read it! Bought it for a friend and I couldn’t resist reading it.
April 22, 2020
2,5 stars
Liked the book, although there was a lot of content repeated multiple times
Liked the book, although there was a lot of content repeated multiple times
August 5, 2020
It has a lot of great tips for the youngings. Ultimately love yourself. No one is going to look out for u better then u.
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