How to Heal a Broken Heart in 30 Days: A Day-by-Day Guide to Saying Good-bye and Getting On With Your Life

by Howard Bronson, Mike Riley

“It’s over. Now what?”

Suffering from a broken heart? Afraid you’ll never get over this feeling of emptiness and loss? You can, and with the help of this easy-to-follow program of action, you will.

Follow Howard Bronson and Mike Riley as they lead you through their thirty-day plan for recovering from your broken heart. They will guide you through a brief period of mourning for your loss, and then the process of rebuilding yourself and your life. You are encouraged to enjoy good memories of the relationship that’s just ended, while remembering the reasons for the breakup. You will learn to take responsibility for your own emotions, face your fears, and ultimately to seek new people and new experiences. Find

·How and why to cry ’til dry
· Good ways to beat loneliness
·Why it pays to forgive your ex
·How to "let go" of old memories and resentments

How to Heal a Broken Heart in 30 Days prescribes a wide array of tested and proven insights and exercises. After thirty days of active self-restoration, your heart will be healed and whole again–and you’ll be ready for anything. Of course, your feelings of grief, hurt, or shame may come and go. But in less than a month, you can be ready to deal with life's new challenges with a positive sense of emotional balance you may never have had before.

Genres: Self Help, Nonfiction, Relationships, Audiobook, Psychology

224 pages, Paperback

First published June 18, 1999

Reviews

[K · Rating 1 out of 5]

While it's nice to hear some affirming things about breakups, this book has gems like "depression is a a choice" and "its important to lose weight so your next partner finds you attractive." I can't deal with this white-washed, fatphobic, and just cishet way of coping. I would rather just read about astrology.

[E · Rating 5 out of 5]

I was not expecting to have to be a guinea pig for this one, but heartbreak sucks. And causes mucho purchasing of self-help tomes. I read this in conjunction with a (not bad) more traditional "grieving your relationship than being stronger" book. I much preferred this. It didn't make me do long assignments, it taught me how to make myself cry, it said things affirmatively, rather than stressing I needed to believe them, and the chapters - one for each day - are short, manageable, nicely written and tough as well as eloquent. This book is purpose driven, and that is what I needed. It should also be mentioned that you really do need to read it every day until the end. Disconnecting the continuity can reverse some of the positive effects.

If I have a friend who has just been through a breakup, or won't stop moaning about all relationships being pain, and if that friend would read a self-help book, this would be the first one I'd send over.

[Katie W · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book is lovely. My copy has been passed from friend to friend in difficult times. I've even bought and sent new copies to friends going through difficult breakups or just going through the grieving process in general. It has wonderful self-care advice while also guidance for holding yourself accountable for your actions in a gentle way. Really a great read for those in the thick of it. Though - I do recommend reading as directed - one day at a time, one chapter at a time for the full 30 days. It is well worth the time to absorb the information.

[Maya · Rating 2 out of 5]

they sure want you to do a lot of work, considering they're two guys who say that doing too much of "the work" is pointless and time-consuming...

but i finished it and took a lot of their suggestions, mostly the things that pertain to making lists. i DID NOT get the pet rock!

[Sara · Rating 1 out of 5]

Reasearch, my boy! It almost reads like a series of one-liners. I tell myself I finished it rather than have to add it to the "Didn't Finish" shelf.

[Nicole · Rating 4 out of 5]

Got my heart smashed and read this book. I really enjoyed it. Each day you read one chapter and do the exercises in the book. I found it really helpful, especially when you wrote them out. It certainly didn't heal my heart in 30 days, but it did make me see that the person in question was horrible for me.

[Janell P · Rating 2 out of 5]

I'm not in the mood. ;-)

[Miranda · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book was very helpful and motivating. The advice and language of the book was very well done.

[Kevyn Bashore · Rating 5 out of 5]

A helpful, hope-filled book that gives practical, daily steps to finding center and healing after any type of painful, emotional breakup, breakdown, or divorce.

[Laura · Rating 2 out of 5]

So far, I am NOT liking this book at all. I am not finding it useful as it is written under the assumption that the relationship ended because it was suffocating or made you lose yourself or that your ex mistreated you, when in fact there are so many other reasons why people end things.

I may finish it just to see whether I find something useful (and because I'll feel bad not to), but if you're considering reading this, try finding a free online version or borrow a copy somewhere. Really not worth the investment

[KRM]

[no I did not just go through a break up, I just thought it looked interesting.] Some WILD suggestions in there. Mostly normal. The part about telling strangers about your break up is BAD ADVICE do not do that to strangers. The part about combatting the feeling of thinking about your ex constantly by actively trying to think about them for a whole hour and realizing you naturally get bored and slip into other thoughts or trying to record a history of your relationship on voice memo is actually really clever and good. Again leave strangers alone.

[Joe · Rating 3 out of 5]

Decided not to finish. Only read to Day 12 (43%). A fair amount of good ideas, fairly standard advice--nothing earth shattering or what you don't know, but if you're in a bad spot, simple instructions you can follow may be just the thing you need.

[April · Rating 2 out of 5]

Unmoved

This book really didn't speak to my heart, the basic things that are said in every breakup book. Basically get it over it get over yourself and live life. Nothing really inspiring.

[Rob · Rating 2 out of 5]

The intro was a pretty good "pep talk", and some of the 30 days had good content. However, a lot of it felt unhelpful for me personally. Others may find it more helpful.

[Joseph · Rating 2 out of 5]

Doesn’t work. Takes more than 30 days.

[روان احمد · Rating 3 out of 5]

I haven’t read it yet , I have just seen it in “ artidote “ page .
I liked the title of the book , I wish I had enough time to read , anyway I will read it and give my review again .

[Brian Ewuzie · Rating 4 out of 5]

Not a bad book. A bit superficial at times, but has useful advice on moving on after a heart break.

[Elaine · Rating 5 out of 5]

I reccomend this book to anyone going through a breakup. Each day was pretty much right on point with how I was responding to my situation. The tips are also very helpful.

[Ashley]

I'm currently going through a self help phase to help me get past my rough patch. I've read great reviews about this book and I'm going to the library today to find this book and check it out. If not, I might break down and buy it because it's gotten such high ratings. I'll let you know if you works.

***I'm having a hard time finding this book anywhere! Was there some mad rush on people having broken hearts this summer? I don't know. Maybe if I get a little birthday cash I will be able to order it online and have it arrive to my door. My broken heart is getting better...but I could still use that extra "Umpf" in the right direction. When I find it and read it...I'll be sure and put up a review.****

[Ida Wilcox · Rating 1 out of 5]

I like the introduction on the book but after that they repeat themselves over and over and over again.
Not to mention some things are contradictory. On one end they say you dont have to put in work and the proceed to tell all the work you have to do.

Than what really worked my nerves is the fact the authors are two OLD men. I may not have a degree but one thing I do know is men and women deal with breakups differently. And in this book it seems to focus on a certain type of breakup.

I didn't get past DAY 2 simply couldnt stand the repetitiveness of every chapter. It was just working my nerves.

[Stacy · Rating 3 out of 5]

I read this while attempting to cope with a break up. Each day you read a chapter and do the exercises that are supposed to help you heal and accept your new situation in life. I liked much of the advice and while the title is deceiving (because broken hearts sometimes linger for a lifetime and rarely heal in a designated time period), the book does contain helpful tools for dealing with depression and loss.

[Athena · Rating 1 out of 5]

This book was terrible. It sounds as if it were written by 15 yr old girls making up advice just for grins: "hum yourself to sleep with a lullaby while wearing footie pajamas"?, "make a worry rock and carry it with you and take it out and pet it when you feel bad"? Seriously. I'm insulted! Guess I'm doing better than I thought. And it's only day 16. I'm done with this book.

[Melody]

This is a must read for anyone one man or woman healing from the end of a relationship. This book will help you hela and grow and realize how wonderful being single is and how much you did not need your ex to be in your life any longer! Highly recommended!

[A · Rating 3 out of 5]

Overall good advice

[Paula Lewis · Rating 4 out of 5]

Some good perspectives.