Kara King's controversial dating and relationship advice book, "The Power of the Pussy", shares 12 powerful secrets that will transform any woman into the type of strong, desirable woman that can effortlessly obtain what she wants from men; including the love, respect, and relationship she desires. In this book you'll learn valuable lessons that will teach you how to...
♥ Flip the switch in your female brain, so you can beat men at their own game...
♥ Have men lining up to date you and desperate for your attention...
♥ Learn how to get over a break up, heal from a broken heart, and never be sad over a man again!
♥ Become the type of woman that commands respect from men...
♥ Get the proposal, the ring, and the man of your dreams!
Get what you want from men and have the time of your life while doing it! This book has empowered women and dramatically changed their lives and relationships by changing the way they think about men and dating… and it can change your life too!
This book contains strong language, sexual content, and subject matter that may be offensive to some readers.
This is one of the most misanthropic, badly written books I ever got my hands on. I found it neither funny nor helpful in any way. I don´t really want a guy I have to treat or educate like a dog, thanks very much. Made me shake my head in disbelief about the "advice" written in a kind of "Ghetto"-style. Not my cup of tea at all. In my opinion it also reduces women to just being a...well...pussy.
We women complain all the time that men objectify us but here is the author a woman who encourages other women in a very clear and direct way to use the power of the pussy which is the power of your sexuality to get what you want from men .it is like she is saying Go and objectify yourself ,think of yourself as a "pussy" walking on two legs and that your worth as a woman lies in the power of your "pussy"! There is something totally wrong with this book which is the objectification of both men and women ,men as sex-starved animals who want to use women as sex toys and here comes "The power of the pussy" which as the author puts it you got to use sex as a weapon against men .This is Bullshit!! Moreover ,it is all about playing mind games and using manipulation and tricks to get a man or "to beat him at his own game " ,as the author puts it ,which all sounds to me like a war of the sexes ,Men Vs women.who gonna win? The author keeps repeating after every trick she suggests that we should use against men that "Men do this to us all the time" ,like if Men are bad so why not we have the right to be bad too?! So seriously what kind of man will you attract if you did all that ,following rules ,playing games ,it's like you are saying to yourself i'm not good enough as a person to attract a good man so i have to pretend and use my weapons against him! I don't recommend this book for any woman ,it is so full of hateful speech against men ,resentment and desire for revenge !! I don't even know how this crap becomes a bestselling book!
There are a few titles I would definitely recommend to any woman looking to improve her dating situation as well as her life: "Why Men Love Bitches" by Sherry Argov, "He's Just Not That Into You" by Greg Behrendt, and "Act Like A Woman, Think Like A Man" by Steve Harvey are among my top recommendations. Adding a spot among those titles would be "The Power of the Pussy" by Kara King.
First of all, I absolutely love the title! It basically sums up the message that the author wishes to convey to women in her frank and explicit style! Reading this book was like sitting down with one of my girlfriends - the one who doesn't hold back and gives it to you straight! Mrs. King reminds women of the power of their femininity and encourages them to use it to get the love they not only want -but deserve! The language is explicit but the message is clear - stop settling! Life is too short and time is a precious commodity that shouldn't be wasted on a man that doesn't value you.
The author includes links to various resources to aid the reader in areas which she might need a bit of extra motivation in such as building up her self-esteem, songs to empower you on your journey to getting the love you deserve and so on.
Although I didn't agree with everything the author said, I agreed wholeheartedly with the message: women have been selling themselves far too short and the 'game' won't change until we do by first acknowledging the power our femininity gives us and then fully embracing it. As a single mother of five girls, this would definitely be a title I would encourage my daughters to read before they venture forth into dating. As with any and all self-help or self-improvement titles, take what you want out of it and use it and the rest - put on the shelf or toss away. However, if nothing else - this book will give you a fresh new look at the dating game and definitely provide you with 'food for thought'.
I don't recommend this book to any woman with dignity and confidence because: 1. The author's purpose is clearly to teach women how to manipulate men. All she talks about is how to use men and what to do to always have men around who will do whatever a woman wants. 2. The author suggests to start dating with someone just to distract yourself from previous relationships. She calls it "Filler dates" and says "Date to distract your heart from the pain." "These are great dates you use to fill your time, mind or heart. ... You may go on a filler date because you just got dumped and can't keep you mind off your ex." 3. There is a whole chapter in this book about how women can get whatever they want from men using their body. "Wives of wealthy men out a price tag of "luxury and money" and didn't sell until they got their asking price." 4. Sometimes I had a feeling that the author treats men like dogs and wants to teach other women how to train a man to give them more 5. The author encourages all single women to have at least 2 boyfriends. Because "having multiple men in your life keeps you from getting hung up on one man. It will also give you strength to move on if the man you like is not reciprocating the same feelings... And you always have back ups." "See how many guys you can handle at one time."
However there were some good advice in this book. The author talks about controling our feelings and actions. A chapter about fixing men was very informative. I liked a chapter about confidence as well. There are lots of really good information and I think that if the author presented it differently and if she wasn't so concentrated on telling how good it is to use men, this book would be much better.
This is one of the worst books I’ve ever encountered. Not one to frequent a “self help book”, this was recommended to me by a well-intentioned friend. I found it completely sexist, misanthropic, and representing a kind reverse misogyny internalized by women. It assumes women have certain attributes and men have others. The author lectures based on these assumptions and does nothing to acknowledge the subtle and beautiful differences of the individual. The author labels women as “sluts and hoes” for normal behavior. Hard pass on this one, ladies.
The author apologizes for using foul language and being harsh before the book starts. Her point is we may not want to play games with men, but women can treat men the way men treat women. In doing so we may have more respect for ourselves and they may have more respect for us. I like this book more than "The Rules" type books. It is more modern and accepting of women's place in society today than some other books of its ilk. It gives more depth and substance to the "He's Just Not that Into You" kind of books, too. I don't agree with everything she says and I get annoyed with some of the philosophy, but I think she has very good points and some harsh realities women might need to face. It is an easy read, yet thought provoking. I doubt there is any harm in telling a woman she does not have to put up with men treating as if she is not important, to keep herself busy by building a life for herself, and possibly finding she can live life without a man. I know the only men I am interested in are the ones that understand I do not need a man taking care of me and I am perfectly capable of doing so myself. They will have to fit themselves into my active social life and existing hobbies and interests... as I expect the same for me in their lives.
This book totally opened my eyes and changed my way of thinking. It tells the truth about real world dating issues. I feel more empowered now, like I can deal with anything a man throws my way. It's such a mental and emotional booster and encouragement that I have been telling all of my friends to take the chance to read it. Most of all, it is blunt and to the point, which is a huge plus when it comes to reading these types of works.
Why would anyone even read the introduction of this book and want to read it? It was loaned to me by a friend and I thought I would read it for insight into men. What a joke! It is obviously written by a woman who is not a writer, nor does she have a background that would offer much in the way of experience. Silly, ghetto written advice. Save your $$$
A man's review. Because of books like this and the woman's hypergamy, men are leaving relationships, they stop being good guys - nice people. Don't know if you ladies know the "red pill", MGTOW (Men Going Their Own Way), if you don't, take a look on YouTube. Combine that kind of philosophies with PUA (Pick Up Artist) tactics, and you have the perfect dark triad guy (Machiavellian, Narcissist and Psychopath). And by the way, if you call that toxic masculinity you are no different. The book teachings is the counterpart, toxic femininity.
That kind of attitude this book teaches also. Guess what kind of men attracts, it's equivalent, the dark triad. If that is what you want, good luck with fining the love you need...because that love YOU DESERVE, the manipulative.
Good men don't want to have any relationship with that kind of women. We are not stupid, we are good in back engineering and how people work, especially women, since we want relationships and perhaps some day, kids. The mindset who is, or will be, in the position of control create the war between the sexes. And be sure, this is a no end war.
Calm down ladies, perhaps you have been heartbroken, but you are not the only one. Mind games , and using your pussy to enslave men is disgusting. Manipulation is disgusting as her sister, violence. It's clear, at least for me, that women NEED love, and yeah men need love too but more than love, they NEED respect. Find your femininity, allow men find their masculinity and help each other to be the best version of themselves.
With love to all good women out there, who have ethics, character and love to another gender, as i do too.
A very bad one-sided book with completely one-sided ethics. The author advises women not to get used by men, but turns around and tells them not to hesitate to use men without any compulsions. She says - "don't hesitate to put the losers out to the sidewalk. Don't feel guilty about it - because - what the heck - you are worth it!" She even advocates using men for financial gain.
The author equates the worth of a woman to the fact that she has a vagina and men want to get inside it. There is nothing else in her book.
Her main advice to women is - don't have sex with the man till he gives you what you want.
The author makes sweeping generalizations like - "men lie to women because they will say anything just to get in her pants". This is also completely wrong. Maybe the author has just dated the kind of men who have nothing but sex on their minds - the rest of us do consider other things while choosing a partner.
OMG this book was so good. I think every single lady needs to read this book. I was making crucial mistakes in regards to men that I didn't even realize I was making until reading this book. I definitely plan to follow Karas advice and steps to finding a good man worthy of me.
Keep your legs closed till you have a "title." Don't give blow jobs till you have a ring.
There's sound advice in here. Don't sell yourself short. Don't compromise your principles. Don't give everything away to a man who is giving you shit in return.
But what if I like to have sex, you ask? Kara suggests you get a vibrator and a fuck buddy. Save the pussy for the man you love by not giving him any till he gives you what you want.
It probably makes sense. It's probably how men think. But if you want a relationship advice book, save your money and read WHY MEN LOVE BITCHES. I give this book to all my lady friends. It's the dating bible. Even better than "He's Just Not That Into You," and that book is fantastic. Why Men... Focuses on you and self love in a way this book tries to, but fails at.
The first few chapters were great ... reaffirming ideas of self-confidence, earning respect, etc. Chapters surrounding playing the game, being a super dater, having a sugar daddy ... those I skipped altogether. Those chapters were bad advice. The author encourages you to demand respect, set goals, and to not settle for the wrong guys ... but then encourages you to pay the manipulative games that men play with us. I felt that was an oxymoron in the book.
Another self help book that I would probably enjoy more if I was actively seeking such help. There wasn't anything new in this book that hadn't been covered by Steve Harvey's "Act Like a Woman, Think Like a Man." The same advice is being resounded over an over again and the issue isn't a lack of knowledge but just women not caring or thinking about the big picture. We live in a society where females feel as if they need a man and to avoid loneliness are desperate to cling to any man.
If a guy likes you, he will pursue you. If he doesn't, he doesn't like you. Do not pursue men, you can flirt, but don't pursue.
Women should never have to put effort in to getting a man's attention.
Control your emotions when meeting a new guy. Guys hate it when they can't see into your head, if he can't figure you out, he'll work harder. Men only want you when you don't want them. It's all about the thrill for the men. Men want to hunt.
Flirt with him, but control your urge to go after him. Only fools rush in. Don't go on 1 or 2 dates with some guy and then immediately start getting feelings for him and decide "he's the one".
The phone trick: Be the one to get off the phone first at least 2/3 times. Do this as the relationship develops. Have excuses or reasons to get off the phone first. Don't be the one willing to talk to him as long as he's willing to talk to you. It shows him that you don't need him to entertain you, it also shows that you're a busy woman with things to do. It also makes him wonder if you like him.
When you start to respect and value your P, men will either back off because they know they can't afford it, or give you the asking price.
Write down exactly what you want from men that you've been unable to get: Openness, affection, devotion, loyalty, protection, sensitivity.
Don't settle for men that are unwilling to give you what you want. Men need us, we do not need them. They crave P. Their need for sex is a great weakness. The less a man gets the more a man wants.
"Men don't love sluts."
They want a woman to give in easily, because ultimately that's what a guy wants. Once the sex is complete, the girl disgusts a man. The women they really want is the one that rejects them, the one that makes them wait for it, chase and work for it. Men fall in love with ladies. Men are like little boys with their toys, make them wait, earn it, prove that they deserve it and then they'll cherish the toy once that get it.
If a guy leaves when you make it wait - this proves that he was only looking for sex.
"Pretend your P is a £500 note." Never give away your most precious asset for free.
Flirt and flaunt your femininity.
Test his true feelings by making him wait - 60 days. 2 months is the best time to make him wait. Do not tell him you have a 60 day rule.
Now that he has waited patiently, give him the prince charming test. Will he run to your rescue when you call? When a man loves a woman he will do anything to jump to her rescue. If he's easily willing to come to your aid on a daily basis he is falling for you. Put yourself into a position of needing to be saved: car breaks down, need car fixed, need a lift. Contact your man to come help you at a time that will be good for him. Observe. How does he handle the situation, does he offer help? Does he sound concerned? Does he ask you to ask someone else instead? Does he say he can't right now? Bottom line - is he coming to your rescue?
If he passes these two tests you can start considering to give his access to your asset. But first you need to have a talk.
When he has dimmed the lights and he's trying to get you in the mood - this is a PEAK moment. Discuss your expectations - monogamy/boyfriend-girlfriend - this is your time to ask for what you want. Try and do it in a sweet and sexy way, not a passive aggressive way. Basically say what you want without being the one to ask.
Men have PES - post-ejaculation syndrome but they also have PEAK - pre-ejaculation ass kissing. PEAK makes men do crazy things. The talk is your first round of PEAK with this man. Don't be afraid to ask for what you want. If not, you tell him, access denied.
Never mention your sex life with guys. "I'm a lady and I don't talk about that stuff." Show signs of disapproval and he'll change his tune.
Oral sex should be even harder to get than normal sex. "I don't go down on guys, I only do that when I'm in a deep and committed relationship with."
If you start to feel pressure after 3 weeks or even 1 date to have sex with him, just say - "I'm a lady and I don't have sex with men I've just met," if he continues kindly say, "I'm not the kind of girl you're looking for," don't lose control and don't let the man be the one who's disappointed or giving you aggro. Tell him you need to leave and say "that's messed up." YOU are the one who's disappointed in him for pressuring you.
Don't be shy about your girls. After a few weeks you can have heavy make outs and touching and boob access. If you stop him there, just say "I don't like being pushed into stuff that I'm not ready to do just yet, I hope you can respect that." Always revert back to the - "I'm a lady" excuse, he might get frustrated but that's okay. Don't let him guilt you into anything. Tell him you told him this before and he should know this.
If he continues pressuring you or seems annoyed then you may need to switch things around. Act like he's upsetting you, and it's you who's disappointed. Act like you might leave. Act like he just ruined your night. Act like you feel like he's trying to guilt you into sex, and you don't like men that do that. Tell him he's making you feel uncomfortable - do this to retain your control.
Do this because now that he's had a tiny sample, he's going to go crazy over you. If you only give man a little piece of action, he's going to fantasise about it over and over again.
Nails - get your nails done on a regular basis. Pick colours that look good on you. Get your toes to match.
Shoes - heels - and have a sexy strut - walk like a model and walk confidently and comfortably.
Write down 10 things you really want in a man (qualities/physical attributes) 1) Wants house, marriage and kids 2) Honesty, open and sensitive 3) Fun and silly 4) Can be deep and serious 5) Taller than me 6) Affectionate 7) Loyal and devoted 8) Protective 9) Dominant 10) Can drive
When you're single you should always have 2,3,4 guys you are dating at once. It's very important as it stops you getting hung up on one man and giving you the strength to move on. It also gives you confidence and strength when dealing with men as you always have backups. Don't ever let the men know though, be elusive.
When want what they can't have. You need to be so preoccupied that men can't get your time without some effort. An independent woman doesn't rely on a guy. She's not on a hunt to find "the one", or get married and have kids. They want a girl who is so preoccupied and busy in her own life. Getting her to notice him and pay attention to him becomes his goal.
Demonstrate you are a strong woman and have your own things you're working on. By having goals you're making a strong statement in life - you're showing that no one is more important in my life than me. It shows you respect yourself and want to better yourself.
You want to be dating 2-4 guys at one time. Don't be afraid to leave guys.
Reward good behaviour with sex, punish bad behaviour by withdrawing sex.
This book is outstanding... in brainwashing you into all the misogynistic AND misandric values that the author bumps into your brain through these 202 pages of the patriarchal hell. At first, I thought that with such a provocative title, we would be introduced to new dating perceptions; some women who struggle to find a partner would detect their weaknesses and learn to overcome them. Oh dear, I was never so wrong. Yes, sometimes we can spot a few decent ideas on loving yourself and establishing your personality and goals before searching for a partner. However, all the personal growth promoted here has only one objective, and it's FINDING A MAN, even a sugar daddy I would say. Mostly because it seems that the author considers men and women equal when it comes towards hating both of them. To make a long story short, this book brainwashes the reader towards establishing one and only goal for all women, and it is to get a man; it creates huge generalizations based on stereotypes only for men and women, and sorry, but these stereotypes became obsolete back in the 90s; it teaches the reader to become a heartless, stone-cold, sex centered being who only considers their partner as an asset; it teaches women to objectives themselves through considering their personal traits as items for sale; it demonizes men and creates even larger obstacles for both, men and women, to understand each other; and last but not least, it promotes dangerous ideas such as victim blaming, slut-shaming, discrimination based on the looks, and manipulation. Be careful with some "advises" from this expert. I thought it was common knowledge, but putting pineapple juice on your intimate parts may bring you some pretty fungal infection. By the way... am I the only one who noticed this, or the author doesn't know that relationships beyong heterosexual marriage exist? Nevermind. Loved all the advertising, though. Lovely sex toys shop.
The author is extremely ANTI - male lady spitting anger that probably came from a lot of bad experience when dating. Well,all males are really not such badass;) One Star for a great book title which is the best you can get from the book.
When I first started reading, this book felt....almost militant. Men are bad, they use us, stomp on our hearts, are a total bastards. Not that I don't agree, but the way this book read, I felt like all men were like that :D The author probably tried to hook her audience - disappointed women seeking to empower themselves... she herself said, that men manipulate women by telling them what they want to hear...and we're not the only ones doing it :) Anyway, the book was a bit weird in thisat the beginning, but I must admit there were a lot of good and useful points for women. I know from experience, that a lot of women just don't understand men, and this book did a good job explaining how we function, and how can we be manipulated in a way we ourdselves would enjoy (yes, you can use sex to get what you want, if you do it correctly).
So...all in all, an interesting book...good points...useful tips....a few weird things, but nothing I couldn't handle :) Good stuff :)
The book title is of course something you wouldn't pull out in public hehe. But I'm glad the author didn't talk about sex positions etc because from the title that's what you would expect. It's an empowering book teaching women to respect themselves and not to give in too easily to men's advances until you're sure enough he's worth it.
This book was amazing! I don't want to spoil it but women who want to learn how to hold their pussy down without stress, and still get what you want and need from the person you are dating! This is the book for you! It is full of great advice! Loved it. Never a dull moment I couldn't put this one down! I highly recommend!😇😂😁😘
This is an angry blog post turned book and it is AWFUL. It is so offensive and hurtful to both men and women. People are out of their minds! I can't believe that Amazon recommended this to me or that I read it all the way to the end. There was nothing funny about this. It was demeaning and hateful and for every tiny piece of good information or advice, there were a million other things that immediately invalidated it. Invest your time elsewhere.
Note that I went into this book intending to take it seriously and that did not last very far past the introduction. This is not a review so much as my notes to myself while reading.
Notes from my iphone:
I should've looked up who was writing this from the get go because just the introduction is so lame. I get that she's trying to sell people on the book, but I've already picked it up, I'm already reading it, and I feel like I'm reading an ad. Who is this lady and why does she think she's qualified to make me an expert in anything?
Uses "we" constantly like we're on the same team, but in the next sentence is hating on women everywhere or amounting all women to one category. "You're an idiot now, but just wait until I educate you!!!"
Honestly, any statement starting with "Recognize that because you're a woman..." is so bleck always.
Some of this advice is very normal and some of it is just phrased so absolutely awful. "Start dating again even if you really don't want to!!!"
How surprising, a woman's greatest weapon is sex!!! Chapter 2!!! Every time she says something good or empowering, it's cheapened by something else sexist and stupid. She also seems to think that blue balls is an actual disease.
She could easily set rudimentary guidelines and say fit those to your own standards, but instead she pushes the "If you're a REAL lady" bs. We're not here to bash other women to achieve success. Get out of here with that nonsense.
I will never be okay with "ha ha" or "mwa ha ha" being used unironically in a book. Thank god I didn't pay for this.
Why would you call men hoes? Is that supposed to be degrading? This entire commentary is such trash.
"Besides, men don't mind being used for sex." I get that we're supposed to be all gal pal real talk here, but screw this. I may not be able to finish this.
Obviously marketed toward a specific audience. One that has no respect for themselves, nor does the author for them.
She literally just said she didn't want to write that men love "tits" because it's "sexist and rude".
Please don't ever put a blow pop near your genitals. This is too much.
Oh god, the poor white girl was a "minority" at her "urban" high school. Not even going to address the nasty "politically correct" comments.
Actual advice: "compare yourself to someone uglier than you!" But wait, if you look in the mirror and think you look better than other women, then you're conceited and that's also bad.
This girl loves lists. At this point I'm finishing the book as an anthropological experiment.
This whole book is written like an unnecessarily aggressive tumblr post.
A true revolutionary: "Some people might not agree with it, but I don't think there's anything wrong with a man staying home with the kids..."
Is she getting sponsored by Dr. Phil? She pushed that book so hard.
"You'll get hurt and you'll deserve it. Do you know why you deserve to be hurt?" Sounds like some deleted scenes from 50 Shades.
Oh no, and now she's mentioned working on this book for three years of "grueling, disciplined, hard work". I almost feel bad... good thing she taught me to control my emotions.
This woman literally googled dating sites (or worse, just saw some commercials on at 2 am) and decided to publish them in her book to take up space and look like she had something to actually say.
You have the right to be picky, unless you're too picky, then you just need to get real.
Outdated. Can you even *67 anymore? Just get google voice, ladies.
Oh. My. God. White girl explains rap music 101. IT GETS BETTER. She refers to a song as "virtually impossible to find" and "somewhat underground" but then links you to Amazon...
An author should never have to ask the reader not to get annoyed with them. What even is this?
"Force the male species to evolve".
I am not even touching that last chapter with a ten foot pole.
I'll be honest: I picked up this book as a laugh. A friend of mine had been raving about it and trying to get me to read it for months to no avail. Eventually curiosity got the better of me and I decided to read the book, but as a joke. I was fully prepared to entertain my feminist self by picking apart this book paragraph by paragraph.
Never have I been so wrong. This book is GOLD. Seriously, in less than 300 pages it has completely redefined how I think of dating. And the concepts aren't necessarily new: waiting to have sex, controlling your emotions, knowing your worth etc. But the way Kara King puts it it's as if I'm learning it for the first time. On almost every page common sense just reached over and smacked me right in the face.
I could go on and on but seriously, ignore the controversial title and read the book. READ. THE. BOOK. That is all. :)
The book was insightful and engaging. And, it totally blew my mind. After having a divorce at 32, while living abroad, and transitioning into a single mom with a 3 year old - I needed the wisdom that Kara is giving us. And, it works. I now have a more confident, secure outlook that is bringing the type of men into my life that I always dreamed of. Especially if you had a dad like mine who told you every day, "You're NO princess" - you need this.
I had a lot of issues with self-confidence and past traumas. This book gave me a perspective that is driving me to pursue my dreams. It's not about being a gold digger or even searching for a sugar daddy. It's about knowing the fine art of pussy negotiation and applying it in ways that will cause men to respect you and treat you right.
This book contains awesome advice on how to date. It tells you where to start, how you should act, how involved you should be, and how to overcome emotions that may distract or push us away from the prize. A little explicit for the faint at heart (I found it funny and relatable), but left no words unsaid. Definitely a great book that I would recommend if you haven't had much luck in the dating scene; be it from bad choices, worthless men, or just clueless on where to start.
Such an amazing book, really life changing... I dont fave brothers close to home, or kids, so I don t understand men. At all. So, discovering this book was like Ali Baba s Cove from the 1001 nights! Plenty of ruby, gold advices. Full of wisdom and we can really felle the author is close to her readers, she wants all the best for us. Thank you, Kara King!
You might be thinking why I decided to read this book. Two reasons. I have two daughters, who are still toddlers, but, better start early to try and understand what women go through in the dating scene rather than being late. The second reason...? Well, my wife bought it, and I wanted to find out what the book was teaching her (or if it was brainwashing her).
Why two stars? Because this book is a mess. It does have great advice, but, at the same time it is littered with bad advice and a lot of contradictions. It claims to know what men think, but as a man reading it, she only half understands men, if that. And it constantly feels like she's yelling at the reader.
I can't help but see this book as feel-good jargon for women. It still touts fantasy ideas like the woman being a princess, or having the right to be treated as a Goddess, or testing whether a man is Prince Charming. I thought this was written for women instead of 5 year old children. But that's not the worst part. It also has some contradictions like never settling for a man and looking for your perfect man, while simultaneously saying some women have too high standards and that no man is perfect.
One of the most important points missed by this book is that all the tactics provided in here only work if you're at its latest in your early 20s. She even admits that this worked when she was in that age range. Any later, and most (if not all) of these techniques will work against you rather than for you as a woman. Men are not stupid. They know women's biological clock starts ticking the closer they are to 30, and are a lot more vigilant and wary of women's games. And all the pep talk in this book will make women face a very harsh reality if they try the same things while being older, and find themselves getting rejected. Say what you will, but a men will always prefer a 25 year old pussy over a 45 year old. The whole idea of women acting like men will somehow make women more attractive to men is completely bogus, unless you want to attract gay men.
The main reason this book has two stars rather than one is because it does contain some good advice within all the contradictions and the jargon. The ideas of self-confidence, not being too clingy, protecting yourself, women being responsible for pregnancy, women's influence on men and more, are all great points. The most important one; controlling your emotions. Too bad that the good advice is shared with multiple destructive thoughts and advice...
Maybe this writing style appeals to women, with all the sensationalism. But honestly, if you're truly interested in understanding men, developing yourself, looking to get married or have a good dating life, I would really look elsewhere.
This entire review has been hidden because of spoilers.
Hmmm. This book was recommended by a friend who said she’d recommend it to more people if it weren’t for the title.... or maybe she’d recommend it more openly if it weren’t for the title.
I definitely got things from this book that I think are real and good and helpful. I don’t think all of it is or will be true for everyone.
I think the message about loving yourself and expecting to be treated as you deserve to be treated and not settling for less is a good one. As is the part about not voicing all your insecurities about your perceived imperfections to a potential partner. I think the assertion that men love everything about women is interesting and confidence boosting.
I liked the running metaphor of pots on a stovetop, and switching them around. I loved the part about not sinking everything into one person just because he’s there.
I think the author is probably an extrovert, or maybe wasn’t super busy during the three years when she dated lots of men like it was a game. I cannot see myself in any way enjoying trying to juggle so many new relationships at once. As an introvert, relationships take energy. New relationships take even more energy. I have other aspects of my life that I love and that take a lot of time. So I don’t think the whole section of the book that deals with this way of dating truly works for me or will work for everyone. I think it’s probably perfect for some people. I wish the author had acknowledged that it won’t work for everyone and presented alternatives for introverts. However, I also think the author wrote this primarily based on her own experiences rather than any kind of scientific study that might have addressed variations in personality preferences.
Finally, like my friend who recommended the book, I was uncomfortable with aspects of it. The title does make it problematic to reference or recommend to just anyone. The ideas are presented as absolutes, and while I wholeheartedly agree that everyone is attractive and is capable of being seen as gorgeous in the eyes of the right person, that everyone has amazing qualities they offer, and that everyone deserves to be truly respected and loved, I don’t know that I agree absolutely with all the rest of it. I’m not sure if it’s the ideas or the way they’re expressed that’s got me wondering, truthfully.
The author came off a little misogynistic with the advice she was giving, but a lot of stuff definitely hits the nail on the head. Dating today is a lot more complex and requires thought and higher self-esteem (if you're seeking a husband or life partner ofc). Unfortunately, there are too many women ready to be door mats for the men they meet - and I mean within a week or less than a month - without vetting them and ensuring that they're husband-worthy. So, I do get a lot of the points she was making about sort of creating a pros and cons list, really making sure you're not showing/being emotional unless you're a 100%. Writing was super crisp and easy to read, you could really tell her tone. The book's name is definitely just to get eyeballs, it's all about protecting your energy, ladies.
This book gave pretty terrible advice but was very entertaining! Even though it showed me the power of my pussy, all I got from the book was to milk all you can from every man you meet. It’s giving down bad divorced mom. Read it if you want to giggle and send memes to the girls group chat.