Twenty Life-Transforming Choices Adoptees Need to Make

by Sherrie Eldridge, Fred A. Hartley

Adoptees working through the issues surrounding their birth can face grief, anger, and questions about their identity. Drawing on the stories of more than 70 adoptees, Sherrie Eldridge shows adoptees how to discover their unique life purpose and worth. The 20 life-transforming choices for adoptees discussed in this book can change your life. They’ll help you discover answers about issues such And much more!

Genres: Adoption

288 pages, Hardcover

First published April 1, 2003

About the author

For well over two decades, Sherrie Eldridge has offered her unique voice within the adoption community, as an established author and international speaker. An adoptee herself, Eldridge has the ability to see life through the eyes of an adopted child. In her seven published titles, she has shared her passion for validating adoptees’ life experiences and her desire to help adoptive parents better understand and meet their adopted children’s emotional needs.

Reviews

[Gypsysoul_ · Rating 1 out of 5]

(copied from my Amazon review...)
I had read Sherrie's first book and was blow away by how wonderful and informative it was. I learned so much about the adoption Triad and felt for the first time that I was not alone in my thinking, so when I found this book on Amazon I didn't think twice before downloading it to my Kindle.

WHAT A DISAPPOINTMENT!!!! There is no warning, no hint that this book has barely anything to do with learning about the psychology of adoption or even the basics, it was all about god and giving yourself to jesus. If that's your cup of tea, fine, but there should be some sort of reference that this is a "spiritual" book and has NOTHING to do with adoption. Every page, every reference, even consistent references to Moses??? This should not be listed anywhere but spiritual reading or advice.

I contacted the publisher and thankfully they stuck by their "satisfaction guarantee" and I was refunded my money. For that I appreciate, and must say it was the christian thing to do.

[Karen · Rating 2 out of 5]

The author and the publisher do a disservice to the readers by not being clear that this is a religious book that uses Christen parables, quotes and beliefs as a basis of the book. It made it hard to read. The tone was, at times, condescending and it seems that if you did not feel similarly to the author than you were not being honest with yourself. Nonetheless, there was some worthy parts of the book especially the author's clear statements about the rights of adoptees to search, to honor their complex feelings about adoption, especially about their birth mothers.

Thank you Netgalley for allowing me to review this book for an honest review.

[Tiffany Wilkins · Rating 5 out of 5]

My perspective is one of an adoptive parent and clinician who works with adoptees. A client asked if we could read it together and I have since read it with other adoptee clients. So far, they have all really liked it and related to so much of the book. I never read it with them in hopes that they would “make changes” but because I thought it might help them put words to some of their feelings, thoughts and experiences. And this far, it has. The author is an adoptee and I have found all of her books extremely helpful.

[Amy · Rating 4 out of 5]

Excellent analysis of the journey to greater self-knowledge and self-empowerment as an adoptee--someone considered legally and rhetorically as a permanent child in our culture.

Eldridge is, as in her other books, a bit more god-focused than is my preference, but she does not press others to use that management method.

[Liz Latty · Rating 3 out of 5]

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