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Dancing with red flags: A manual for women who’ve had enough of charming bastards.
Every woman has a story about him. The one who said all the right things, made all the romantic gestures, and made her feel like the centre of the universe, until she found herself spinning in orbit around someone who never truly saw her.Dancing with Red Flags is a confession, a warning, and a raw, unfiltered survival guide for anyone who’s ever fallen for a charming bastard in a tailored suit. With biting wit, brutal honesty, and hard-earned lessons, the book takes you deep into the psychological jungle of narcissists, manipulators, emotional absentees, and men who wear red flags like cologne.
IF YOU’VE
Questioned your own reality after a perfectly normal conversation turned to chaos,Wondered if you’re the problem simply because he made you feel that way,Forgiven someone a hundred times, hoping the ‘good version ’ of him would come back……then this book was written for you.
It will help you spot the red flags you were taught to overlook, reconnect with the intuition you’ve been silencing, and finally stop giving your best self to the worst people.
IF YOU’VE
Questioned your own reality after a perfectly normal conversation turned to chaos,Wondered if you’re the problem simply because he made you feel that way,Forgiven someone a hundred times, hoping the ‘good version ’ of him would come back……then this book was written for you.
It will help you spot the red flags you were taught to overlook, reconnect with the intuition you’ve been silencing, and finally stop giving your best self to the worst people.
164 pages, Kindle Edition
Published May 2, 2025
About the author
Anna Rajmon
4 books3 followersMy name is Anna, and I'm the author of the memoir "Elis." Writing is my true passion. I'm also a devoted reader and illustrator with a passion for dark humour, sarcasm, and unconventional perspectives. I find inspiration in nature and cherish the beauty of small things!
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May 20, 2025
In Dancing With Red Flags, Anna Rajmon gives us the benefit of her experience in toxic relationships. She calls the book: "your compass in an emotionally charged world where love can either be the greatest joy or the most painful lesson." It's an excellent summary.
The sharp, sarcastic wit and excellent drawings which made her harrowing memoir ELIS stand out are put to good use in this thought-provoking guide to spotting the 'red flags' that a potentially toxic partner can display. Rajmon expressly states that Dancing With Red Flags is a manual for women to avoid giving their best selves "to the worst people." It serves that purpose very well.
However, men can benefit from reading Rajmon's manual as well. At the very least, the book may help prevent them from becoming the sort of people who use the tactics described here.
Rajmon has certainly done her research: her explanations of gaslighting, slow fading, the silent treatment and the various types of narcissist are very well done. She draws on both her personal experience and her research to make her case, while her sarcasm makes Dancing With Red Flags more readable than more 'academic' books covering this subject are.
An entertaining and enlightening read which I thoroughly recommend.
The sharp, sarcastic wit and excellent drawings which made her harrowing memoir ELIS stand out are put to good use in this thought-provoking guide to spotting the 'red flags' that a potentially toxic partner can display. Rajmon expressly states that Dancing With Red Flags is a manual for women to avoid giving their best selves "to the worst people." It serves that purpose very well.
However, men can benefit from reading Rajmon's manual as well. At the very least, the book may help prevent them from becoming the sort of people who use the tactics described here.
Rajmon has certainly done her research: her explanations of gaslighting, slow fading, the silent treatment and the various types of narcissist are very well done. She draws on both her personal experience and her research to make her case, while her sarcasm makes Dancing With Red Flags more readable than more 'academic' books covering this subject are.
An entertaining and enlightening read which I thoroughly recommend.
August 15, 2025
Anna Rajmon, author of the incredible memoir Elis: Irish Call Girl, has delivered an interesting self-help book in Dancing with Red Flags.
This book is a guide intended to help women understand the manipulative behaviors that define toxic relationships, in the hope that they will not get trapped in them. Rajmon shares her own experiences and insights in recognizing red flags in dating, and has studied the psychology behind those red flags. She is really good at explaining psychological ideas in a way that makes sense to people who do not have a psychology background.
The notion of “women’s intuition” is often referred to in everyday life, but Rajmon demonstrates that it is a very important tool in detecting red flags. Sometimes, we “know” that there is something not right with how someone behaves, but we do not have the words or ideas to properly explain to ourselves what it is that is wrong. That is our intuition in action—and Rajmon says it is the voice we should listen to most closely. She also notes that it is the voice we are most likely to ignore, and she insists that we cannot afford to do this if we want to be happy.
Anna Rajmon has brought to Dancing with Red Flags the same style of sarcastic humor, lovely drawings, and great writing that made Elis such a good book. She can describe awful behaviors like the silent treatment, love bombing, and ghosting in a way that will make you laugh as much as it will make you think. Her examples and her drawings all make her points very clearly, so that you never feel like you are reading up for a college course with some dry textbook—it’s written in a way that makes you feel as if Rajmon is having a friendly and funny conversation with you directly.
While Dancing with Red Flags is primarily meant for women, there is no reason men cannot learn from it too. Unfortunately, there are also toxic women who use some of the cruel and controlling tactics which Rajmon outlines here. No matter who we are, it would certainly benefit us all to learn what these tactics are so that we can recognize abusers for what they are before it is too late. Not just for relationships that we are directly in, either—it helps if you can spot when a friend or a family member is involved in a toxic relationship, too. It could be the first step toward doing something about that situation.
Overall, I found Dancing with Red Flags to be a very eye-opening book that unveils the nature of toxic relationships and can help us to “stop giving your best self to the worst people” as Rajmon puts it. The lessons her book teaches are ones thtat will be beneficial to us all, and especially to the women it is intended for. Very highly recommended.
This review was originally published at Story Circle Book Reviews. The link to the original review is https://www.storycircle.org/book_revi...
This book is a guide intended to help women understand the manipulative behaviors that define toxic relationships, in the hope that they will not get trapped in them. Rajmon shares her own experiences and insights in recognizing red flags in dating, and has studied the psychology behind those red flags. She is really good at explaining psychological ideas in a way that makes sense to people who do not have a psychology background.
The notion of “women’s intuition” is often referred to in everyday life, but Rajmon demonstrates that it is a very important tool in detecting red flags. Sometimes, we “know” that there is something not right with how someone behaves, but we do not have the words or ideas to properly explain to ourselves what it is that is wrong. That is our intuition in action—and Rajmon says it is the voice we should listen to most closely. She also notes that it is the voice we are most likely to ignore, and she insists that we cannot afford to do this if we want to be happy.
Anna Rajmon has brought to Dancing with Red Flags the same style of sarcastic humor, lovely drawings, and great writing that made Elis such a good book. She can describe awful behaviors like the silent treatment, love bombing, and ghosting in a way that will make you laugh as much as it will make you think. Her examples and her drawings all make her points very clearly, so that you never feel like you are reading up for a college course with some dry textbook—it’s written in a way that makes you feel as if Rajmon is having a friendly and funny conversation with you directly.
While Dancing with Red Flags is primarily meant for women, there is no reason men cannot learn from it too. Unfortunately, there are also toxic women who use some of the cruel and controlling tactics which Rajmon outlines here. No matter who we are, it would certainly benefit us all to learn what these tactics are so that we can recognize abusers for what they are before it is too late. Not just for relationships that we are directly in, either—it helps if you can spot when a friend or a family member is involved in a toxic relationship, too. It could be the first step toward doing something about that situation.
Overall, I found Dancing with Red Flags to be a very eye-opening book that unveils the nature of toxic relationships and can help us to “stop giving your best self to the worst people” as Rajmon puts it. The lessons her book teaches are ones thtat will be beneficial to us all, and especially to the women it is intended for. Very highly recommended.
This review was originally published at Story Circle Book Reviews. The link to the original review is https://www.storycircle.org/book_revi...
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