350 Questions LDS Couples Should Ask Before Marriage

by Shannon L. Alder

You love your partner, but do you always see eye-to-eye? Start your marriage off right with an open and honest discussion about you and your partner’s habits, history, and expectations.
In this second edition, Shannon Alder provides 350 conversation starters on various everyday topics such as spirituality, family relationships, intimacy, and a new section on technology and social media habits in order to help couples prepare for their life together. Build your future on a foundation of open communication and enjoy a happy and eternal marriage!

Genres: Nonfiction, Religion, Lds, Self Help, Marriage, Church, Relationships

200 pages, Paperback

First published January 1, 2011

About the author

Shannon L. Alder is an inspirational author. Her tidbits of wisdom have been published in over 300 different books, by various relationship authors and in several online magazines and news agencies.

Shannon was awarded for the most used quotes and most written quotes by one single author on Goodreads--- 1, 200 quotes to be exact. They can be found spread throughout the internet by her followers and various news agencies.

Her quotes have been published in many of her books and in the books of other relationship authors.

If you wish to use her quotes please visit Shannon's Facebook page (Shannon L. Alder). She gives specific instructions on how to do that legally for anything you publish. All quotes are copyrighted.

Her book on Narcissism debuted on the hit Reality TV show, Real Housewives of Beverly Hills- 2021 season.

To learn about upcoming book signings, new books or read her blog visit: Shannonalder.com
Become part of her Staying Positive University tribe on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/stayingposit...

Reviews

[Sydney · Rating 4 out of 5]

Nothing to see here!

[Brittany · Rating 3 out of 5]

The questions helped me get to know my fiancee better.

Some of the questions were cheesy, redundant and/or real obvious questions a couple would ask in the early stages of dating.

Personally I thought the book was too expensive and a waste of paper. The format is such that there are a lot of blank lines for you to write the answers down. I prefer to verbally answer the questions with my fiancee. It would have been more practical if it was cheaper, smaller book, with just the questions listed.

[Sara · Rating 5 out of 5]

I always give this book as a gift to the girls in my Laurels class when they graduate and go to college. I want them to really think things out before they get married. It should be a no brainer to ask these questions. But there are a lot of people that don't and they wonder why it didn't work out. They weren't thinking. It is a great book for any friend that is considering marriage.

[Tony Robbins · Rating 5 out of 5]

Awesome book. Bought it when I was considering marrying a girl. Found out that she wasn't the one and I was choosing her based on all the wrong reasons. Glad this author wrote this book. I really could have married that girl and ended up in divorce!

[superawesomekt · Rating 2 out of 5]

Update 10+ years later:
There is so much available online I think this book is probably pretty outdated and unnecessary now. If I were guiding a preparing-to-commit couple I would probably start them on John M. Gottman's stuff, suggest a book on codependency or boundaries, and go from there.

Original review:
My husband and I used these when we were courting to discuss our expectations. It was helpful, but some of the sections are redundant or poorly written. Overall, worth it.

[Tina · Rating 5 out of 5]

The book has been done before but this author captured all the questions that someone of the mormon faith or christian faith (for that matter) needs to consider. I am glad she wrote it. People that write reviews that are negative about this book are the people that got dumped by their honey because they read it and found out that Mr. Right was Mr. Wrong. I just don't understand why anyone would give any author that is doing good any sort of bad review. They must not be christian....which is what I think when I see someone give the prophet a negative review on his books. Probably antimormon people that want to tear a person down. In regards to this book, I would give this book to all my girlfriends who were even considering getting married. Personally, there is too much divorce in the world....and too many people just can't communicate.

[Christopher Mills · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is an excellent book with thoughtful questions everyone should read before getting married. For those who are not engaged, it may help you decide what type of person you want to marry. For those who are engaged, it may help you decide what kinds of decisions you would like to make in your future marriage or even if the person you are considering is the right one to marry.

My wife actually bought this book when we were dating and we read through all of the questions. We found it very helpful, as it brought up thought provoking questions that we would not have otherwise asked ourselves. It helped us to know one another better and to be more prepared for our marriage. I even recommend it to non-LDS couples.

[Nicole Sampson · Rating 5 out of 5]

The questions in this book are perfect for LDS couples. There are so many questions I wouldn't have thought to ask, but I was so happy to learn the answers to them. Now that I've been married for a few years I know how critical these questions are in finding a spouse that fits well with you. I also like the way the book is laid out in sections with lines for writing. I used that space to write extra questions that are relevant to the ones already there. My now husband & I spent 3 hours just talking about the first question! We still like to go back to read & discuss questions from this book to learn more about each other. I would highly recommend this book to couples who may be engaged or who are talking about getting engaged.

[Jeffrey · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book is a great book to encourage communication about topics you wouldn't think about. This is probably for couples who are seriously considering marriage not those that are beginning dating. I found it refreshing to just sit down and get to know more about what each of us was expecting in a marriage and future family. Definitely helped me know my wife a lot more than before.

[Suzette Kunz · Rating 3 out of 5]

This made for some good conversation, but it's organized kind of randomly. A lot of the questions are repetitive, and they don't seem to be grouped according to theme. As an English teacher, that bugged me. But it does cover a lot of good ground. It seems like it would especially be good for a really young person thinking about marriage.

[Ryann · Rating 3 out of 5]

My husband and I used this book to give us discussion ideas while we were courting. We wanted to make sure we learned meaningful things about each other before we committed and using this book helped us open serious topics.

[Camillle · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book has a bunch of questions that I probably never would have thought to ask my future spouse. It's good for any couple to consider the scenarios before they happen; so they can be better prepared to handle the challenges that come their way.

[Heidi-Marie · Rating 3 out of 5]

What, only 300?

[Kaylie Faucette · Rating 4 out of 5]

This is a fun book to read and discuss with your fiance or boyfriend/girlfriend before you get married. It really helps couples get to know each other even more than they thought they did!

[Brenda · Rating 4 out of 5]

Excellent book for opening up a dialog with a future (or current) spouse. So many things I didn't think about or question my husband on before I got married. What a great tool for engaged couples:)

[Jackie Phillips]

I am not a member of the Latter- day Saints but I enjoyed the book. It had some good messages that could be used for all denominations.

[Katie Chambers · Rating 2 out of 5]

We had already asked most of these questions are self, and a lot of them were weird or repeats of previous questions just with different wording.

[Cole Rasmussen · Rating 5 out of 5]

Good questions to make you think.

[Julie · Rating 3 out of 5]

Good for starter conversations, but a lot of questions were the same, or not in the right section.

[Tosca Wijns-Van Eeden · Rating 2 out of 5]

Most of these questions aren't really useful anymore when you actually are married. Only a handful were useful to re-evaluate where we stood when already married.

[Dionne · Rating 5 out of 5]

Recommend for anyone that is engaged before you get married.

[Ems Loves to Read · Rating 4 out of 5]

Super quick initial read, but one that I’ll need to revisit with my SO as we progress in our relationship. I felt like the questions were most well thought out, but some were repetitive. There are questions I’d definitely add as well. Overall though, a good guide that I believe will help me and The Fellow make sure we’re on the same page.

[Jared · Rating 2 out of 5]

Eh, good enough. The questions are fine. It is a book of questions. Not real interesting but then again I am a married guy. Ask the questions. But ask them in a nice voice or it will feel like your are grilling the other person or accusing them of wrong doing.

[Gabrielle Salgado · Rating 5 out of 5]

A MUST read for any LDS couple that is considering marriage. This helped us have difficult but important conversations.

[Andrew · Rating 3 out of 5]

Some outdated questions. Finally finished the book after 5 months of already being married.

[Steve Cline · Rating 3 out of 5]

Some of the questions are a bit dated