5 Ngôn Ngữ Tình Yêu - Dành Cho Những Người Chỉ Có Một Mình

The 5 Love Languages

by Gary Chapman

"Dù đã kết hôn hay còn độc thân, trẻ hay đã già thì tất cả chúng ta đều có nhu cầu quan trọng về tình cảm: Yêu và được yêu thương. Khi nhu cầu này được đáp ứng, chúng ta sẽ thể hiện trọn vẹn những đức tính tốt đẹp nhất tiềm ẩn của mình và đạt được nhiều thành quả lớn lao trong cuộc sống. Ngược lại, ta sẽ gặp rất nhiều khó khăn. Tôi tin tưởng rằng những chân lý trong cuốn sách này sẽ giúp những người độc thân học được các kỹ năng cần thiết trong việc cho và nhận tình yêu." (Tagore)

"Một ngôi sao không thể tỏa sáng với một trái tim tan vỡ" (Luciano de Crescenzo)

"Trong những lúc khó khăn nhất của cuộc sống, đừng tập trung vào những bất hạnh để quên rằng những gì bạn có chính là hạnh phúc mà bao người bất hạnh ước mơ cũng không thể có được" (Khuyết danh)

"Chính trong tình yêu trọn vẹn, ta nhận ra sự tự do của chính mình" (Tagre)

Genres: Nonfiction, Self Help, Relationships, Christian, Psychology, Personal Development, Audiobook

322 pages, Paperback

First published July 1, 2001

About the author

Gary Demonte Chapman is an American author and radio talk show host. Chapman is most noted for his The Five Love Languages series regarding human relationships.

Reviews

[Emily · Rating 3 out of 5]

I didn't really learn anything in addition to the original "The Five Love Languages". I recommend just sticking with that book. The examples he gave were either people who were currently dating or past tense examples of relationships that have came to an end. This is helpful for identifying what your own or what other's love languages are or have been, but really does nothing to help the single person enter a new relationship. It really did not give a very positive outlook on dating, with dating being something you have to suffer through to hopefully eventually find the person you can live with after years of trial and error. It also paints a negative portrait of singles, that singles are just looking for what is out there to take (not givers) and that there is no way a single person can be truly happy since studies have shown that married individuals are happier and more economically secure. This book would also better if he could cut the church chat and just get to the point. His 1950's views on sex and sexuality got to be downright annoying after awhile.

[Jeannie · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book is, essentially, the same as the original The Five Love Languages. Some of the examples are more fitting for unmarried folk and the illustrations also deal with different singles or dating couples he has come across throughout the years. Different chapters deal with how to love friends, roommates, coworkers, family members, siblings, and other relationships outside of romantic ones. Those chapters are mainly what distinguish this book from it's predecessor.

The main issue I had with the content of this book was how much of it dealt with dating couples. While this isn't a bad thing, I had thought with the title of "Singles Edition," this book would have been more for those who are not currently involved in a romantic relationship. A personal dislike I had with this book was Chapman's casual view of dating/romantic relationships. He seemed to promote the popular idea that dating someone doesn't mean you might want to marry him/her or are committed to him/her in any way. In fact, it is simply what you do get to know someone better--forget friendship! As a psychiatrist, I would have thought he'd have witnessed enough to know this method of dating to not necessarily be the best for mental health reasons. Did he choose to write to the culture rather than promote a different relationship style? Perhaps. But, it is rather inconsistent to write a book suggesting ways to make relationships long-lasting and more cohesive to a target audience of casual daters.

[Anna Marie · Rating 3 out of 5]

I was recommended this book by co-workers and students because they felt so profoundly that it helped them with building better relationships with friends and loved ones. There were a lot of concepts from this book that I really enjoyed; however, I wish I had been warned about the heavy Christian agenda behind some of the authors ideas. For me, the book would have been more effective if the Christian themes were left out or more generalized in nature.

[Chris · Rating 2 out of 5]

Great theory--in fact, I think I buy into it in a pretty big way. I plan on applying some of the things I've read. He relates a great way of looking practically at how to relate better to people. That being said... I wouldn't recommend the book to most people for two reasons: 1. it is poorly written with extremely "hokey" examples, which makes it hard to take the theory seriously at points and 2. it's written from a very Christian perspective, which makes it sometimes difficult for many to relate to and, to my mind, does not actually add much to the message of the book--which is to love others in ways they will understand. I really wish he'd written it for a non-Christian audience; I think his (very good) theory would be more respected throughout the world and would reach greater heights if he'd been a little more inclusive of his audience. So... if the presentation is less important to you than the theory, feel free to read the book (because the presentation kind of stinks). It's got a great message: love others in a way they will understand. And practically, it breaks down and explains different ways to do so. Like I said, I like the theory... but the author maybe shouldn't be writing books.

[Katie · Rating 5 out of 5]

When I was finished with this book, I felt as if everyone I know should read it or another version of it (not necessarily the "Singles" version.)

This book not only will undoubtedly help me understand future relationships, but it had me stop and examine the love languages of every member of my family, close friend.. I even went through and examined the love languages of colleagues. A total "a ha" moment was when I looked at the love languages of my parents. Prior behavior which I, at times, felt were smothering or controlling, weren't that at all - they were truly my parents acting out in their own love languages. Similarly, I saw how my own personal need for words of affirmation, and ways that I felt discouraged in the past, were because of others not speaking in my love language.

I thought back to failed relationships and saw how I may not have been speaking that person's love language - but ultimately, how they were not speaking mine. It helped me to realize that people may not always be intentionally hurting me with their words; they are simply just not speaking my love language or understanding how they make me feel.

If nothing else, this was a fantastic book on the human psychological condition and deepening your ability to relate to other people and understand both them and ourselves. Add in the fact that it's a Christian book based on Godly principles, and I think that the Christian reader pulls even more out of it than the non-Christian. Either way, I truly feel that anyone (Christian or non-Christian) looking to have a deeper understanding of their interpersonal relationships should definitely take the time to read this book and take the concepts to heart. It can definitely be relationship changing.

[Lydia Howe · Rating 5 out of 5]

Why I Choose this Book:

I was first introduced to the 5 Love Languages about six or seven years ago when I was in my late teens, and my world was literally changed. Around that time I read one of the 5 Love Languages books, but I'm not sure what edition. I figured it was time to do a refresher course, hence the reason for requesting this book.

What I Thought about this Book:

If I hadn't already known about the 5 Love Languages and a lot of the material in this book, I think I would have had millions of light bulb moments going off. This book is a treasury of so much helpful information and explanations and logic that it's crazy.

For those of you who don't know, the 5 Love Languages are 1) Words of Affirmation 2) Physical Touch 3) Quality Time 4) Acts of Service and 5) Gifts. These are the five primary way that people give and receive love. It's amazing how much sense this makes after you've studied it for a bit. Then pieces start falling into place, and the relationships you have can be greatly enhanced just by learning how to speak other people's primary love languages.

I was a bit surprised how much of the book focused on the romantic side of the love languages (how to treat someone you're dating, etc...), but I'm not saying that's a bad thing. I've just found the love languages work incredible well for everyone - including family, friends, and even somewhat distant friendships such as co-workers. The book does go into how to apply the love languages to all the above situations, just not to the extreme that I had imagined it would.

If you ever feel like you're not connecting with people well - especially those who you should have a good relationship with, such as family members, then this book will most likely revolutionize your relationships. It is so eye opening and practical. I'm incredibly thankful to have learned how to relate to people better.

Conclusion:

There were a few places with a bit of content that I wouldn't be okay giving to children, but that's perfectly fine, because it wasn't written for children. (For instance on the chapter about physical touch being one of the love languages, they talk briefly about abuse. But, they handle everything in a way that I found very appropriate.)

I don't agree with everything that's in the book, but for the most part the information is incredibly helpful and totally spot-on. I highly recommend the book.

Rating:

I’m giving The Five Love Languages: Singles Edition 5 out of 5 stars, and 10 out of 10.

*I received this book from Moody Press

[Ian D · Rating 2 out of 5]

Πώς είναι να καθαρίζεις κρεμμύδια και να πλένεις τα πιάτα και στο βάθος να παίζει επανάληψη το Κωνσταντίνου και Ελένης; Κάτι τέτοιο αλλα σε βιβλίο/audiobook.

Μια απ'τα ίδια σε σχέση με το πρώτο 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts αλλά ατ δι εντ οβ δε ντέι, πολύ χριστιανικό - καν' την προσευχή σου και τρώε το φαγί σου - για τα γούστα μου.
Δεν ξέρω σε ποιο παράλληλο σύμπαν ζει ο καλλιτέχνης όπου οι νέοι παντρεύονται αμέσως μόλις τελειώσουν το κολέγιο, λατρεύουν τους γονείς τους, πάνε τακτικά στην εκκλησία και κανείς δεν έχει ουσιαστική ρήξη με κανένα. Μπορεί να είναι Amish ξερωγώ και έτσι να λειτουργούν τα πράγματα στην αμερικανική επαρχία αλλά όπως και να'χει, δεν ταυτίστηκα.

[Emma Haddock · Rating 1 out of 5]

This book should be renamed: The Five Love Languages for Cishet Christian Singles Whose Only Goal in Life Is to Get Married for the Purpose of Glorifying God (and if You Have Pre-Marital Sex or are in a Co-Habitating Relationship You are a Sinner and Will Likely Get Cheated on).

Do not recommend unless you want a relationship reminiscent of the 1950s.

[Amanda Tero · Rating 4 out of 5]

I picked this up at a thrift store and thought it might would work well for character development for my stories. However, after reading into just the first chapter, I grabbed out a notebook and pencil for me to take notes for myself. The "Five Love Languages" explores five common ways that most people express love: quality time, words of affirmation, gifts, acts of service, physical touch. I have known about the five love languages for several years, but reading the book helped me to analyze how it really does help show love to others--and how to do so specifically.

I know that after reading any personality book, you tend to see those traits explored in everyone. I would say that five love languages has a Christian backbone, but the book itself was not an exploration of Scriptures but more of a human analysis. There were Scripture verses shared, but it wasn't the emphasis of the book. At the same time, I do think that the principles shared are Scriptural--such as looking out for others' needs, and not for only yourself.

Though this was written for singles, I felt a heavy lean toward "singles and dating, or wanting to date." While some of the information given was solid, I don't quite agree with where Mr. Chapman stands with dating (such as "date around so you know what personality will fit with you").

So, all-in-all, this was a book that I could filter out some things I disagreed with yet glean a lot of good from.

[Jodie · Rating 1 out of 5]

Did you know that this author is also the author of 5 Languages of Love for married people? Wouldn’t have picked that up without it being referred to in EVERY SINGLE chapter. The worst self help book I’ve ever read, even worse than the one written by the rich white lady who just didn’t dance enough.

At the beginning I really enjoyed it. There were some examples, a little discussion, but as the book continued the author just kept on referring to college students and giving them advice, then them coming back and being like YOU ARE RAD. Often there were tears involved, or people being taken back by his wild suggestions.

My recommendation, just read a Wikipedia article on the 5 languages of love instead. While concept is actually amazing, and something to think about, the examples are just too long winded (probably to pad out the word count). Also, the reference sections lacks a lot of credentials that aren’t his other book or the bible. If you still wanna read this, search online. I read it for free on some PDF website

[Adela Bec · Rating 4 out of 5]

Acel moment când ești atât de entuziasmat că apare la chioșc cartea asta de care ai auzit atâtea, dar după ce o cumperi, îți dai seama că e o ediție pentru cei singuri și tu ești într-o relație serioasă. Cu speranța că Universul nu îmi arată un semn rău prevestitor și că voi avea de învățat ceva chiar și din această abordare a cărții, here I go reading it. ^^

[Phobean · Rating 1 out of 5]

Um, too bad this book was primarily focused on nudging singles towards marriage.

Maybe my experience of 5 Love Languages for Singles was less charming because I listened to it via a generic audiobook male reader, versus Chapman's cheerful drawl. Perhaps because the gray morality that crops up in the initial book was made more apparent to me in this edition as the author instructs conventionally oriented straight people to respect their parents regardless of how the parent is treating them, avoid living together pre-marriage (cohabitating leads to dissatisfaction and divorce, as backed up by 'facts' and studies and the Bible), and avoid the 'sin' of non-monogamy (it's been tried and failed horribly, unlike marriage which I guess never fails horribly if you do it 'right'?).

Clearly, I wasn't the target audience for this book since I have different opinions on all three.

What threw me the most wasn't the assumption that everyone is or should be striving towards a 1950s nuclear family model to achieve life-satisfaction, it was the story about an adopted girl whose adoptive parents bad-mouthed the girl's (later young woman's) birth mother, calling her undeserving and problematic for a selection of behaviors that sounded more like the birth mother was suffering from poverty and mental health struggles than any innate flaws of character or moral standing. The interaction between adopted child and adoptive family, to me, showing red flags of abuse and I was deeply turned off by Chapman's acceptance of it, even while I appreciated his 'everything is fixable' attitude. I just wanted that adopted child to get the heck out of dodge and build an intentional family somewhere else who wouldn't use manipulative, blaming and aggressive behaviors to distance her from the person who birthed her, as though the adoptive family somehow deserved a child more because they had money. Problem! Run for the hills.

What this book lacks most (aside from the obvious re: LGBT and lack of POCs), I thought, was acceptance of single-hood as a legitimate state with its own many advantages. Bolster the singles, don't drive them like cattle towards romantic entrapment. The 5 love language frame is fun and interesting --it's application to any type of relationship seems a book worth writing and, unfortunately, only glimpses of that book are available here.

[Kathleen Selden · Rating 1 out of 5]

I don’t write reviews. But this needs to be said. If this book was written by a different author it would probably be a 4 or 5 star read. The concept is great—I’ve read articles about it and used it in my own life and even taught it to kids I counsel. I wanted to read the book to gain a deeper understanding and all I learned is that this book is PROBLEMATIC to say the least.

1) The author cannot refrain from pushing his Christian agenda any chance he gets. He quotes the Bible every chapter and even turns things into a Christian issue when they don’t have to be. For example, he writes, “Their lives have been scarred by physical or sexual abuse when they were children or teenagers. For these individuals, Christian counseling offers the most effective means of healing the memories of past abuse.” Did “Christian” really need to be added there? So Jewish, Muslim, atheist, or other non-Christian individuals who seek counseling can never heal as well as those who receive help from Christian counselors?? What about myself and other counselors who work in schools and therefore cannot use religion in our counseling even if we wanted to? Can we not help our students heal from their trauma as effectively?? So unbelievably unnecessary...this concept can easily apply to all relationships and you’re pushing people away for no reason, sir.

2) CAN WE TALK ABOUT THE VICTIM BLAMING??!? There were hints of it all throughout but I wanted to chuck my book across the room when I read this: “Some single adults are so desperate for emotional love that they allow themselves to be treated as sexual objects rather than persons. Again, I would encourage such individuals to seek individual counseling to gain the emotional energy and self-respect to stop abusive behavior.” I MEANNNNNNN...he’s not even trying to hide the fact that he’s saying the victims are to blame and THEY’RE the ones who need to fix themselves. I can’t...

3) I expected this to be pretty heteronormative, most books about relationships are, but usually the author will at least say they’re writing from a heteronormative perspective but the principles can apply to anyone. NOPE...NOT THIS GUY! In fact, he stresses the definition of dating as being with a “person of the opposite sex” so many times that he HAS to be making a point. Likely about not only his disapproval of same-sex dating couples but about trans people as well. Here’s the kicker: “God made us male and female, and it is His desire that we relate to each other as fellow creatures who share His image.” There is absolutely NO reason to include that sentence other than to make queer people uncomfortable. BOY BYE.

Again, the concept of love languages is fantastic. Just don’t read about it from this man. Find some articles online, take the quiz there, and stay far away from this 1950s propaganda disguised as modern dating advice (because it “includes a section on the pros and cons of online dating!” Wow so modern and forward! Barf.)

[Heidi-Marie · Rating 5 out of 5]

I'm very happy to have finally read this book. I knew I would benefit from and enjoy learning about the love languages, and already agreed with what I had heard of them. What I wanted to gain most was a better understanding of each language and how to apply the knowledge in my life, especially as a single. So the version was perfect! Well-written and informative, the only reason I didn't read it fast enough was because there was much for me to contemplate, analyze, and set goals with. I'm pretty sure this is going to go right up there with my keen interests in such things like birth order and learning techniques. A perfect time in my life to be reading this book considering experiences over the past few years, currently reading "A Single Voice," and trying to work on this year's gift to the Savior.

[A · Rating 2 out of 5]

This book was unnecessarily long by about 100 pages. The example stories were boundless, banal and repetitive. I felt like I was reading a "Read 'The 5 Love Languages' book if you want your life to change forever!" manifesto from candidate Gary Chapman and I was an undecided voter. Every story culminated in the fact that it all worked out thanks to the book. I kept saying out loud "Alright already! You've got my vote!", in the hopes that it would magically take me to the conclusion of yet another story within the story. As I mentioned in my previous update...I think it was a bit vapid for my taste. It's not one a my favorites which is a let down because I had high hopes for it. :(

[Ntombezinhle Nzama · Rating 5 out of 5]

I first read this book a few years ago and I found it to be life changing. I started reading it again just to remind myself of the concepts of the book. There are 5 love languages: 1. words of affirmation 2. Receiving gifts 3. Acts of service 4. Physical Touch 5. quality time. My primary love language is quality time followed by receiving gifts. Understanding the 5 love languages actually made me understand people better (as well as myself) and to be able to express love in a way that makes them feel more loved. I think this is one of those books that the whole world should read!

[Kayla]

This was pretty similar to The Five Love Languages but I did like the co-worker/friend examples. I'd consider this a nice refresher with less focus on romantic relationships.

[Elaina · Rating 4 out of 5]

So I may or may not have listened to this very quickly, because it was about to expire on OverDrive lol :P I think I definitely would have gotten more out of it had I physically read it haha It still was an interesting "read" though! I haven't had as much spare time lately to read, so that's why I have been doing audiobooks so much...so I can multitask! xD Just makes it harder to retain the info sometimes...

[Jordy Leigh · Rating 5 out of 5]

Five years ago, in the context of a volunteer team, I was introduced to "the five love languages." It's the concept that every expression of love falls into one of five basic categories. Now, for the first time, I read one of Gary Chapman's books on the subject, The 5 Love Languages: Singles Edition. It explores this concept from the viewpoint of various singles (never married, widowed, divorced). According to the Goodreads rating system, "it was amazing"—that's 5/5 stars from me.

As an avid story-lover, I thoroughly enjoyed Gary Chapman's use of true stories to illustrate how an awareness of the five love languages has helped people cultivate, mend, or excel in their various relationships. Romantic, familial, platonic—the nature of the relationship doesn't matter. Of course, he's promoting his idea, so it's not in his interest to share instances of failure. Nonetheless, the book's versatile selection of success testimonies inspires confidence that there is great insight to be found in this philosophy. It's evident that the author really believes what he teaches.

There are some nuances or side points of The 5 Love Languages: Singles Edition that I question, but for the most part, it was an enriching read. The languages of love that this book teaches are "Words of Affirmation," "Acts of Service," "Receiving Gifts," "Quality Time," and "Physical Touch." Though it isn't common knowledge in the general public, it seems intuitive, once explored, that different expressions of love will hold different levels of importance to different individuals. For one person, uplifting and affirming words are the key to the heart, while for another it's quality time. In His Word, God exhorts us to look not only to our own interests but also to the interests of others (Philippians 2:4) and to consider how to stir up one another to love and good deeds (Hebrews 10:24). The fact is, while we all need love (from both God and people), our interests look different at a grassroots level. It takes thoughtful consideration to know what will stir up love in another. I really appreciate the attention this book gives to exploring the dynamics of human relationships.

The 5 Love Languages: Singles Edition by Gary Chapman was insightful and delightful, hence the 5/5 stars I give it. I would be interested in reading more of his spinoffs based on the core concept of the five love languages, and I would recommend this book to anyone interested in exploring the dynamics of human relationships as God has made it.

[Ewurama · Rating 4 out of 5]

I’ve had my eye on this one for a while because the author’s love language concept resonates with me. It’s simple and sensible but not widely applied. He explains that people give and receive love in five different ways (through words of affirmation, quality time, acts of service, physical touch, and gifts) and that the best way to love someone is through their language rather than your own. Your well-meant gift might not mean as much as a word of encouragement and a hug to someone whose primary love languages are words of affirmation and physical touch—despite your best intentions. Knowing what makes people feel loved and appreciated will help you to convey to them effectively (in ways that are meaningful to them) that you love and appreciate them.

I finally decided to read the book after being inspired to love people better. Not because I was doing a particularly poor job of it, mind you; it was just a desire that had been bubbling up inside me, a worthwhile pursuit and part of a decision to really focus on, develop, and appreciate my relationships with people. I highly recommend this book for anyone interested in love the action as opposed to simply love the feeling. Loving people well is not always an intuitive business, though I think many of us feel it should be; and this is especially true when people receive love in ways that are different from our own preferred ways of giving and receiving love.

The older I get, the more I recognize the importance of devoting time and attention in this area of life. Corny but true—love is a wonderful, enriching, and heavenly gift, second to none, and I don’t want to take it for granted.

[Chelsea · Rating 5 out of 5]

You can translate the fundamental teachings of this book to all relationships in your life - romantic love, friendship, and even professional relationships. I read in high school and am going to read his book, The 5 Languages of Appreciation in the Workplace which is specifically focused on professional relationships.

His concept is so simple yet has a profound impact on the way we understand and interpret relationships.

[Karen · Rating 5 out of 5]

Sometimes with this sort of book, the advice seems "airy-fairy" or unrealistic to me. However the love languages concept resonated with me,. I was able to see myself reflected. Even more significantly, I had a potentially difficult conversation coming up and this caused me to stop and rethink my approach and think that is the true mark of success. The book was able to apply to my life, and in a positive way.

[Laura · Rating 1 out of 5]

Not a fan of this version. He assumes that most "singles" are unmarried b/c of relationship problems with their parents and that the only truly fulfilling life is with a spouse. Also, he's a bit heavy-handed with his Christianity-based examples. The premise of this theory seems sound, but the unnecessary scripture quoting and the judgmental marriage-as-default perspective is a turn-off. Not to mention he reuses several paragraphs in each chapter from his earlier book. Womp womp.

[Shaina · Rating 2 out of 5]

I think that the five love languages part was really good. The rest of the book was a lot of repeating etc...Like what I used to do when I needed to extend my college paper. Also not to fond of all the Christianity references OVER and OVER.

Overall helpful info, but could have done the same good if written in an article and not a book.

[Ellen · Rating 3 out of 5]

3.5 stars

I thought this had solid, though not groundbreaking, advice. It did make me think how I could improve my relationships with those around me which I'm going to follow through with.

2017 challenge: a book with career advice (this book contained information on how to improve your relationship with co-workers, so I'm counting it)

[Brent Soderstrum · Rating 5 out of 5]

Being a single who has had his struggles with the female gender I found this book very enlightening. This book isn't geared solely towards dating it also deals with friendships, work relationships, parents and your kids. Basically there are five types of love languages that we all speak and we each have one that is predominate. If you figure out what the person's love language is you can "speak" it to them and fill their love tank. The five love languages are 1) words of affirmation, 2) gifts, 3) acts of service, 4) quality time and 5) physical touch.

It gives you hints on how to figure out what the other person's love language is. It also contains a test to take to determine what your love language is.

I also found it interesting that the author has found that there is a two year period in a new relationship in which speaking the love language of the other person isn't necessary. This is the "tingle" period. Once this two year period ends, and it will, you need to work at maintaining the love that was soooo present in the relationship before.

Good read and can be done quickly. Love is what seperates us from animals so we should find ways to express it to those who are important to us.

[Ryan · Rating 3 out of 5]

This was a pretty easy read. Chapman uses good flow and all his arguments are smooth and organized. I found this book insightful in that I don’t think I ever fully realized that people love and receive love in different ways. It is a bit difficult to see myself before learning what was in the book, but I think I tended to believe that some of the love languages were good and some were just superficial. This book changed my views on that and has helped me realize that people do actually receive love in ways that I understand in my mind but not in my heart. All this is pretty much what Chapman explains is typical of most people. I think this should help me to understand and love the people that I am close with, but in my opinion is far less effective for acquaintances than he seems to suggest. It’s very hard to implement these ideas with people I only see casually once or twice a week on just a social basis. I read the singles edition and I don’t really know how different it is from the original. However, I was disappointed to find that many the examples were about couples in romantic relationships. Do people not have deep relationships outside of a significant other now? I guess single doesn’t have the same connotation now.

[Savanna Ammons · Rating 4 out of 5]

3.5 stars. I really enjoyed the book overall, but it felt like the title should’ve been “The Five Love Languages for People in Dating Relationships.”

It was very informative and enlightening about all sorts of relationships, which I appreciated, but he seemed to take singleness as another word for “people who want to be in dating/marital relationships.” In reality, singleness is a valid time in every person’s life that is vital to our development, and not everyone wants to marry or feels called to marry.

But that aside, very good book. I’d recommend it to most people looking to learn how to love others well.

[Hannah · Rating 4 out of 5]

Có câu: " Phải hiểu sâu sắc một người nào đó ta mới có thể nhận ra đó là một người hoàn toàn xa lạ." đợt trước mình có bắt gặp nhiều lần nhưng đọc thấy không thực sự hiểu lắm.
Đọc cuốn sách này, tự dưng mới có liên tưởng thêm về cái gọi sự khác biệt trong một mối quan hệ thân thân lâu lâu intimate kiểu như thế. Một mqh ( không chỉ riêng tình yêu) luôn có 2 giai đoạn: giai đoạn ảo tưởng và thỏa hiệp. Hóa ra khi đã qua giai đoạn đầu rồi mà không tới được thỏa hiệp thì sẽ trở thành những người xa lạ...

[Jenny Webb · Rating 4 out of 5]

I'm not usually that into self help / psychology books, but our book club read this and I found it well written, well thought out, and useful. Not just in terms of my marriage, but in terms of how I interact with my children, other family members, and even friends.