Chốn Cô Độc Của Linh Hồn

by Yiyun Li, Khánh Trang (Translator)

Với văn phong thanh thoát nhưng sắc bén, Yiyun Li đã làm một cuộc khảo sát tỉ mỉ về sự tác động của quá khứ lên cách con người vận hành cuộc sống hiện tại, đưa người đọc vào sâu thật sâu bên trong tâm hồn những nhân vật bị ký ức dày vò, bị nỗi cô đơn vây khốn, phơi bày thực trạng của một thế hệ lạc lõng giữa Bắc Kinh. Dù vậy, "Chốn cô độc của linh hồn" không phải là bi kịch, mặc dù bi kịch là trung tâm của câu chuyện; thay vào đó "Chốn cô độc của linh hồn" nói về sự tha hóa, mà sự kết tội hay ân xá đều tan tành mây khói trước cả khi ta kịp chấp nhận. Và không chỉ là tiểu thuyết về sự tha hóa, nó còn là bức tranh biểu tượng được phác họa tinh tế về một Trung Quốc đang trên đà phát triển, là câu chuyện cảnh báo được kể ra để chống lại sự bất công trong một thế giới mà người ta cố gắng trở nên thờ ơ với mọi sự, thế giới sẽ bị hủy diệt không phải bởi những người làm điều ác, mà bởi những người thờ ơ không làm gì cả…

Genres: Fiction, China, Mystery, Contemporary, Asia, Novels, Book Club

348 pages, Paperback

First published April 1, 2013

About the author

Yiyun Li is the author of seven books, including Where Reasons End, which received the PEN/Jean Stein Book Award; the essay collection Dear Friend, from My Life I Write to You in Your Life; and the novels The Vagrants and Must I Go. She is the recipient of a MacArthur Fellowship, Guggenheim Fellowship, and Windham-Campbell Prize, among other honors. A contributing editor to A Public Space, she teaches at Princeton University.

Reviews

[Samadrita · Rating 4 out of 5]

Coping mechanisms. For how long can one cling on to them with a quiet desperation?

Long after grief subsided, long after the ache dealt by the blow of tragedy dulled, Ruyu, Moran and Boyang continued to let their lives revolve around their coping mechanisms. In place of a youthful lust for life and unbounded optimism they made a gaping emptiness their constant companion, drew strength from their blunt indifference to the world at large, never caring for the interminable flow of time and living from one moment to the next one.

No expectations from those who touched their lives fleetingly. Relationships established and subsequently shed like second skins just as easily. An impenetrable fog of nothingness separated these three individuals from the world around them. Deeply afraid of tenuous attachment, they chose the secure comfort of solitude.

Orphaned in infancy, Ruyu had her perception of morality blurred by the blind religious fervor with which her grandaunts tried to indoctrinate her and later by Shaoai's everyday small cruelties. Disillusioned with life at a tender age, she could only snub gentle Moran's offer of friendship with acid contempt and wield Boyang's love for her as a weapon to harm others. Her act of transgression (not without its reasons) - perhaps triggered by the vindictive nature of adolescence - brought turbulence into the lives of three souls and destroyed a fourth, the aftershocks of this incident continuing to haunt them decades later across continents.

Ruyu knew she wasn't going to be let off unscathed by fate either but then what could possibly intimidate a misanthrope who treated life like a prison and considered the act of living akin to a sentence meant to be served out in silent despondency?

"She was not the only one trapped by life. She was afraid of meeting another person like her, but more than that she was afraid of never meeting another person like her, who, however briefly, would look into her eyes so that she knew she was not alone in her loneliness."

Yiyun Li is my new favorite author of Chinese origin simply because she manages not to succumb to the lure of sketching a Beijing under an autocratic regime like so many of her peers, choosing instead to narrate a tale of heartbreak and loss which will remain as affecting even if one strips her characters of their ethnicity and shifts the backdrop of events to any other place and time. It is the flawed humanity of the ensemble characters, none of whom are completely beyond reproach, and their self-inflicted emotional isolation which establishes Li's ability to go beyond the limits of spick and span pigeonholing. The devastating aftermath of the Tiananmen Square massacre and the agonizing chokehold of the Communist administration over its citizens are simply hinted at and never spelled out for the sake of inducing any cheap sentimentality. And what elevates her craft further in my eyes is the languid beauty of her prose and her accurate portrayal of the melancholia and ennui entailing the quandary of life.

"They were not her stories. They were not about her time, or her people, but what she had once found in these stories-escape-would eventually become her wisdom. Perhaps if she kept these tales going he would one day forgive her stubbornness in choosing solitude, because he, kinder than solitude, was always here for her until death do them apart."

The pleasure of familiarizing myself with an author I know I can unhesitatingly seek out in the future never becomes stale.

[Elyse Walters · Rating 5 out of 5]

Library - Overdrive ebook. I went in blind. I had no expectation. Great surprise discovery.

This is the first book I’ve read by Yiyun Li. I’m completely stoked!!!!
Her writing intrigued me. On almost every page there were excerpts I wanted to highlight. Eventually - I made myself stop analyzing every sentence - stopped the highlighting- and just snuggled under my comforter and read for the PURISTS PLEASURE. I'd gladly read this book again. - hell - I just want more soup bowls that Yiyun Li is dishing out.
Yiyun Li is my NEW FAVORITE DISCOVERY this year. MORE PLEASE!!!

Where to begin......🧐

This novel feels like many genres. Fusion dishes of suspense- murder mystery light - or perhaps simply murder mystery ‘irrelevant’ - [note: the mystery will be clear in the end - but the bigger mystery to me was why ‘friends’ had such a hard time closely connecting - rather they lived very solitary lives] -
Continuing on...... as what to expect in this book:
Beijing & American culture in the year 1990 - historical fiction - literary psychological thriller fiction - coming of age - part fairy tale - immigrant/orphan story - and a family/community saga over a twenty year span.
The characters are a variety-pack-special: The multi-layered package include troubled, idealistic, pessimistic, arrogant, sweet, and emotionally crippled people.
They are imprisoned by their past lives and scrutinize their futures.

This novel opens with the murder of 22 year old Shaoai....a university student and political protester. She died - in Beijing - from chemical poisoning....which was stollen from a friend’s mother’s science laboratory.
It seems that either Shaoai killed herself (drinking the poison)....or one of her other three friends did. [Boyang, Ruyu, or Moran]. All sounds pretty clear and straight forward - right? Wrong! Remember I said this book is a fusion of genres.....
So rather than follow a plot moving us toward the conclusion as to who killed Shaoai....its more about how her friends coped with her death for twenty years.. And what was the state of Shaoai’s life?
Another question is why did the case go unsolved?

Most of the story follows Shaoai’s three childhood friends: (more contemporary-acquaintances than friends really) Ruyu, Boyang, and Moran.
These three: Ruyu, Boyang, and Moran are COMPLETELY DIFFERENT

This novel is introspective in nature. The novel goes back and forth between the present lives and past lives of the characters - from when they were teenagers - to their adult lives.

THESE CHARACTERS BECOME GLUE IN YOUR BRAIN!
THE WRITING is so beautiful - with fascinating curiosity of these characters - that just by reading it - thinking about it - I’m sure it’s preventive - organic - the secret to the Fountain of Youth. If baby boomers want to know how to keep themselves young and vital…chew on this complex novel. Great brain workout!

A few excepts I enjoyed ( there are many more)........then my brain is going to rest:

“When we place our beloved in front of the critical eyes of others, we feel diminished along with this subject being scrutinized”.

“The freedom to act and the freedom to judge, undermining each other, amount a little more than a well-stocked source of anxiety. Is that why Ruyu wondered, Americans so willingly make themselves smaller— by laughing at others, or more tactfully at themselves— when there is no immediate danger to hide from? But danger in the form of poverty and flying bullets and lawless states and untrustworthy friends provides, if not a route to happiness, at least clarity to one’s suffering”.


“Midsummer in Beijing, it’s extreme heat and humidity occasionally broken by a revealing thunderstorm, gave the impression that life today would be that of tomorrow, and the day after, until forever: rinds accumulated at the roadside would go on rotting
and attracting swarms of flies; murky puddles in the alleyways from over spilled sewers dwindled, but before they entirely disappeared another storm would replenish them; old men and women, sitting next to bamboo perambulators in the shadow of palace walls, cooled down their grandchildren with giant fans woven of sedge leaves, and one of them closed one’s eyes and opened them again one could almost believe that the fans and the babies and the wrinkled-faced grandparents were the same ones from 100 years ago, captured by a rare photograph in the traveling album of foreign missionary, who would eventually be executed for spreading evil in a nearby providence”.

Moran and Ruyu were on the waterfront of the Western Sea, a
manmade lake, in Beijing, when Moran pointed out the direction of other seas: the Black Sea, the Front Sea... etc.
In the past week Boyang and Moran had taken Ruyu tourist visiting.
Ruyu asked:
“Why they were called seas, then?” She was not interested in the answer, yet she knew that each question granted her some power over the people she questioned. She liked to watch others feeling obliged, and sometimes more foolishly, elated to answer her: people do not know that the moment they respond they put themselves on a stand for their interrogators to judge”.

“I find your lack of interest in anything but your own little faith to be more than horrifying”.

Last minute thoughts....( for my own memory)....
Ruyu’s cynicism, righteousness, ungratefulness, and LACK OF INTEREST in ‘anything’ started to irritate me.
She was the most interesting character .....the orphan. But not easy to feel sympathy or empathy for.

Gorgeous novel - intellectually challenging in ways....
I’m left with thoughts between loneliness vs. solitude ....and how kindness embraces or doesn’t in the most quiet moments of an individual’s life.

[Cheryl · Rating 3 out of 5]

Loyalty to the past is a foundation of life one does not by happenstance or by will end up living.

To be so consumed with one's choices, so consumed that every present choice is a consequence of the past; to be enveloped by guilt so vexatious that it gnaws your waking thoughts; to want to love and be loved so badly that you stop desiring love.

To live by this code:

People don't vanish from one's life, they come back in disguise.

To live this thought daily, view everyone through lens of skepticism, to know, without a doubt, that happiness is a misnomer.

It's hard to read this book and not drown in the hopelessness of its characters, not be affected by the loss of some redeeming quality:

When people talk about starting over, it is only wishful thinking; what came before, what happened yesterday, did not come or happen in vain.

Here, no one starts over, everyone lives in the past. Present lives muddled by past choices: a disabled friend--who is to blame? Fleeing to America doesn't help because Ruyu and Moran only live lies, struggling to build healthy relationships, always reminded of that past act. In Beijing, Boyang, the man loved by both women, will stick around to take care of what he deems his fault. What happened? This subtle mystery abounds and unfolds through present and past narratives written with clean, intentional prose. But as you read further, you sense that there is nothing mysterious about what happened because the mystery is predictable.

When love overpowers instinct, when loyalty to one's friend deters forgiveness, when silence begets crime and lives are shattered--combined, these form the underlying premise of this slow-moving, thought-provoking, rhythmic, and melancholic tale told with philosophical asides:

Hardships in lives are like bad weather, which one endures because bad weather will break as inevitably as bad luck will run its course. Hope is the sunshine after the storm, the spring thawing right after the bitter winter. The goddess of fate, as capricious as she is, has nevertheless an impressionable mind.

[Jill · Rating 5 out of 5]

“Perhaps there is a line in everyone’s life that, once crossed, imparts a certain truth that one has not been able to see before, transforming solitude from a choice into the only possible line of existence.”

For four friends, that line was crossed during their late teenage years, when one of them was poisoned, perhaps deliberately, perhaps accidentally, lingering in a physical limbo state until she finally dies years later The young man, Boyang, remains in China; the two young women, Ruyu and Moran, move to the United States. Each ends up living in what the author describes as a “life-long quarantine against love and life.”

Kinder than Solitude is not primarily a mystery of a poisoned woman nor is it an “immigrant experience” book, although it is being hailed as both. Rather, it’s a deep and insightful exploration about the human condition – how one’s past can affect one’s future, how innocence can be easily lost, and how challenging it is to get in touch with – let alone salvage – one’s better self.

“To have an identity – to be known – required one to possess an ego, yet so much more, too: a collection of people, a traceable track lining one place to another – all these had to be added to that ego or one to have any kind of identity,” Yiyun Li writes.

In the case of Moran, who married and divorced an older man she still cares for,what she called her life “…was only a way of not living, and by doing that, she had taken, here and there, parts o other people’s lives and turned them into nothing along with her own.” Riyu, the most enigmatic and detached of the characters, is an empty vessel, unable to connect or to experience much pleasure or pain, who strives to receive an “exemption from participating in life.” And Boyang, a successful entrepreneur with a cynical sense of the world, has discovered that “love measured by effort was the only love within his capacity.”

This is a deeply philosophical book, one that delves into its characters, with an ambling narrative that shifts from the shared Chinese past to the present –China, San Francisco, the Midwest. It is not for everyone – certainly not for readers who are anticipating an action-packed, page-turning suspense novel. But for those who seek insights into the human condition and love strong character-based novels, Kinder Than Solitude offers rich rewards.

[Jeanette (Ms. Feisty)]

It took me over a week to read the first 90 pages of this book. I plugged along because I didn't have a good reason to quit....except that I was not enjoying it. When I recognize the quality of an author's prose, I feel compelled to keep trying even if the book is difficult for me to read. I don't mean difficult in the sense that I can't understand the writing, but difficult because the story is not compelling.

After 90 pages, I realized I was forcing myself to continue, calculating in my head that if I read one chapter per day I could finish it by the library due date. Most of the characters seem flat and affectless to me, forcing themselves to lead drab, solitary lives, and apparently thinking they're superior because they don't need other people. So, I'm letting this one go, and it feels good.

[spillingthematcha · Rating 3 out of 5]

Nostalgiczna, melancholijna, ale chciałabym po nią sięgnąć jeszcze kiedyś, bo teraz nie potrafiłam jej docenić. Za to ostatnie rozdziały ogromnie mnie poruszyły.

[SCARABOOKS · Rating 3 out of 5]

Forse uno stellinaggio di mezzo non gli rende completamente giustizia, però difetti ne ha. Di ritmo soprattutto: più che divagare a tratti si impaluda nel niente. E poi certe pose da teatro di serie B fatte assumere ai personaggi, certi moduli espressivi un po' sciatti (frasi fatte, aggettivi scontati), alcuni spunti di riflessione e di atmosfera, anche promettenti, accennati e poi lasciati là.
Detto questo bisogna anche dire che la storia è bella, incuriosisce, tiene legati. La caratterizzazione dei personaggi è riuscita. La struttura a incastri del racconto funziona. Le ambizioni tematiche sono alte e la qualità con cui poi i temi li svolge (l'adolescenza, l'identità, la religione, la famiglia, la doppia visuale in parallelo sulla Cina della transizione e l'America della crisi) è più che buona. Percorrendo certe pagine pensavo che se nascerà un filone cino-statunitense leggeremo cose molto interessanti.
Anche per questo, chiudo questo romanzo con un appetito non saziato: della Yiyun voglio assaggiare altro.

[Arbuz Dumbledore · Rating 3 out of 5]

Podobała mi się, ale mam wrażenie, że wzięłam się za nią w niewłaściwym momencie - kiedy indziej, w bardziej melancholijnym, pełnym zadumy nastroju bardziej bym ją doceniła, a teraz uważam ją jedynie za ok.

[Patrice Hoffman · Rating 4 out of 5]

Kinder Than Solitude by Yiyun Li is the enthralling story of three friends who's lives are forever bound by the history they have tried to run from since youth. The news of the death of Shaoai, which is possibly caused by one of the three, jump starts the novel. After more than 20 years in a coma, the one tie holding these three together, is finally severed.

The premise of a mystery is what attracted my attention to this novel initially, by Li's writing kept me engrossed and in need of savoring every word written. Each character in their own way, has chosen a life of solitude as opposed to a true existence filled with love, laughter, and humanity. Boyang, has risen from meager beginnings to become a man who is more wealthy than ever imagined. Moran, once a courteous teen, morphs into a chemist who finds solace in her small apartment and the occasional visits with her dying ex-husband. Finally, the most interesting yet mysterious of the three, Ruyu, lives as the odd-job queen.

Kinder Than Solitude is more than just a mystery of whodunnit but rather a delving into what it means to be human; to seek lasting connections and have a meaningful life full of people who matter. Instead, these characters have chosen a life of being untangled. After failed marriages,passing flings, or basic emotionless disregard, the one thing that they do remain tethered to is the death of Shaoai.

Yiyun Li provides a vivid character study of three people that are unlike any character I've come across to date in the multitude of texts I've read. Who stand out the most for me is Ruyu. She's sent to live with Shaoai's family at the age of 15. Shaoai constantly berates her for her lack of emotion or caring. Ruyu is an enigma the entire novel and never once deviates from that trait. She's logical to a fault and this makes her prime suspect number one. She seems not to care about anyone but not in the cunning way. It's more so that she's even tempered and this baffles all who come across her.

Essentially, Kinder Than Solitude is a well-written expose of human nature and the beauty of solitude. I enjoyed this novel tremendously and look forward to what's next from this author.

Copy provided by Random House via Netgalley

[Cheryl · Rating 4 out of 5]

Solitude is not kind in the world of this novel. But there is little that is kind, so solitude becomes a refuge and false haven.

This is a powerful and intensely meditative novel. Children on the treacherous shoals of their teenage years sense the dangers, but don’t really understand the nature of them, and can be helpless to avoid them, especially if they already feel isolated. They say false things, or do seemingly malicious deeds, without fully appreciating the consequences which may then go on to haunt them.

Li writes exquisite prose — this alone is worth the read. These are intensely wrought sentences of astute insights, illustrating rich complexities of thought.
“A born murderess, she had mastered the skill of snuffing out each moment before releasing it to join the other passed moments. Nothing connects one self to another; time effaced does not become memory”

”…his voice had left a crack through which loneliness flooded into her room.”

“If she had ever felt anything close to passion, it was a passion of the obliterating kind: any connection made by another human being, by accident or by intention, had to be erased; the void she maintained around herself was her only meaningful possession.”

The book is littered with aphorisms and observations about the human condition:
“…one’s preparation for departure should begin long before arrival”

“Do not expose your soul uninvited”

“Nothing destroys a livable life more completely than unfounded hope”

“It takes courage to find solace in trivialities, willfulness not to let trivialities usurp one’s life.”

Solitude and loneliness are tiring to read about, never mind experiencing. By the end I felt exhausted, wrung out, from the tension of repression and loneliness that permeates the story. Nonetheless, highly recommended. Just pair it with the right mood accordingly.

(ARC from Random House via NetGalley.)

[Jenny · Rating 5 out of 5]

Set partly in China shortly after the Tiananmen Square protests of 1989, partly in Beijing and America around twenty years later, 'Kinder than Solitude' tells the story of three friends and their slow withdrawal into a self-imposed emotional isolation after their lives are irreversibly altered by an event, that may or may not have been an attempted murder.

The catalyst of the story is Ruyu. Orphaned as a child and raised by two deeply religious 'great aunts', she is sent to Beijing to live with relatives where she meets Boyang and Moran. The two of them - being very close friends that grew up together - befriend her, despite Ruyu offering very little amiable surface as she stays very contained, drawn back, almost unaffected by human emotion.
The only person to really be able to make Ruyu's surface ripple is Shaoai, the daughter of Ruyu's relatives, a rebel whose involvement in political protest will ruin her future. It is her death the book begins with.

The beauty of this dark novel lies not in its fast pace or its drive to solve the mystery. In fact Kinder Than Solitude is a very quiet, philosophical novel with a prose so mesmerizing I wanted it to never end. Yiyun Li manages very elegantly to give an insight into a time that may have shaped and affected a whole generation in China, but she does so by zooming in on such a microscopical level that in the end, more than anything this novel to me was about the human condition, about solitary existence by nature or choice.

Highly recommended.

[Craig Swartz · Rating 1 out of 5]

Let me start with the good. Thanks to Goodreads for sending me this book in a giveaway. It's fun to be a winner.

I had never heard of Yiyun Li. She has written a couple of other books and seems like she has a following of people that enjoy her novels. She has a real easy writing style that flows along as you read it. Just as a writer, I would say she has talent.

The problem is what the book jacket led me to believe is the story. "A profound mystery is at the heart of this magnificent new novel" is how the book jacket starts. The book clocks in at 312 pages. I'm not sure 25 pages is devoted to the mystery. The rest of the book is, in my opinion, a meandering of unrelated and rather boring stories of lost marriages, music, school, and so on. In fact, a lot of one chapter was a man and woman discussing whether or not what they were on should be considered a date. Huh?

I suppose some could call this book a character study. I call it boring. It may be for you, it wasn't for me.

[switterbug (Betsey) · Rating 5 out of 5]

In this stunning, introspective novel of loneliness and detachment, two women--Moran, and Ruyu, and one man, Boyang-- are illuminated in the months before and the decades after a tragedy. As teenagers, they banded together in their communal Beijing neighborhood. Shaoai, an outspoken dissident of the Chinese government, was poisoned, apparently an accident, in the shadow of the Tiananmen Square protests. She takes twenty years to die, although the massive deterioration begins early. Soon after this harrowing event, the three friends, in a tacit pact, drift away from one other, circumscribing their adult lives with self-imposed emotional quarantines.

The novel opens in Beijing, and seamlessly alternates in time and place between China and America. As the story examines the lives of Boyang, Moran, and Ruyu, as teens when the tragedy occurred and now as middle-aged adults, their shared parallels of solitude are probed, and the mystery of Shaoai's poisoning is gradually revealed. They haven't spoken to each other in twenty years, and all three are divorced, childless, and detached from passion and fulfillment.

Ruyu, an orphan from the provinces, is sent by her grandaunts at age 15 to live with Shaoai’s parents in Beijing. They want her to get a better education. Shaoai and her friends treat Ruyu with a haughty truculence. Ruyu, however, is an inward girl, lacking social graces, a cipher to others. She is aloof, inscrutable, and privately prays to God. She doesn’t seek others out, much to their frustration.

Boyang and Moran, longtime friends, reach out to Ruyu, who accepts their friendship with a general indifference. She is unused to the community spirit of her new home, where many families convene together in the shared quadrangle. Boyang is the son of wealthy college professors, who he visits on weekends; they left him to be raised by his grandmother while they pursued their ambitions. Moran is the equalizer; she is eager to nurture. For her, life was a series of ideal moments, filled with “a larger dose of joy.” Unfortunately, Shaoia’s poisoning leaves them all contaminated with psychic toxins. As adults, they sought out lives to subvert their memories, at the same time reeling from them.

"Those seeking sanctuary in misremembering did not separate what had happened from what could have happened."

Boyang stayed in Beijing, while Moran and Ruyu left for separate parts of America. All are locked away in prisons they have built for themselves. Boyang, divorced, is a wealthy businessman, getting by in a series of superficial relationships with younger women. Ruyu keeps herself sequestered in a restrained life as an underachiever. Moran, working for a pharmaceutical company in Massachusetts, still keeps in touch with her ex-husband, but divorced him in order to maintain an emotional void. And yet,

“She was afraid of meeting another person like her, but more than that she was afraid of never meeting another person like her, who, however briefly, would look into her eyes so that she knew she was not alone in her loneliness.”

Li’s measured narrative combines finely calibrated characters and elegant, elegiac prose. The tone evoked a grey chill, but not entirely bleak. There was a haze of something brighter around the edges of the story—a wish for redemption and forgiveness. There was sympathy for their guarded enclosures, like a sweet spot buried under their memories and their isolation.

“To know the world, for a child, is to ask questions, but the situation leading to those questions, once answered, are forgotten; having garnered enough knowledge, one enters adulthood only to be confronted by more questions, which, no longer answerable, form the context of one’s being.”

[Katerina · Rating 4 out of 5]

The best epithet for this book would be "pensive".

Before she met Josef, she had been in Madison for two and a half months, but those days, like the time since she had left Josef, had been willfully turned into the footprints of seabirds on wet sand, existing only between the flow and ebb of the tide.

(see what I mean? somehow this ostensibly simple passage is my favorite in the whole book, along with this one, where it is not about the wording but about the feeling:
To be brought to an understanding of her own foolishness like that was like walking into a wall she had never known to be there. The pain was so acute that for a moment Moran felt the urge to gasp.)

The book is very slow, don't even start if you like well-paced dramas. It features some memory glimpses and broodings of three childhood companions - not to be confused with friends! - with unpronounceable names, so I'll just call them R, M and B. (R is a b****, B is a m****, M. is a sweet girl and my total favorite). Almost all of them spent their childhood in Beijing and nearly everyone escaped to America when they had a chance. A long-awaited death in China brings back unwelcome memories and makes them recall their past, contemplate their present, and face the future.

I would recommend reading it if you're feeling... pensive, yeah, that's right.

[Ania · Rating 4 out of 5]

piękne to było, delikatne, dopracowane, z idealnymi bohaterami, którzy próbują się odnaleźć w świecie

wzruszyłam się ofc

[Stratos · Rating 2 out of 5]

Είχα την προσμονή για ένα δυνατό βιβλίο. Τελικά βυθίστηκα στην φλυαρία και στην ανία παρά το γεγονός ότι κάποιες σελίδες του βιβλίου ήταν εξαιρετικές.

[XD · Rating 5 out of 5]

OH MY GOD. Yiyun Li. The legend. The icon. SHE IS INCREDIBLE. Every book I read by her is my fave fave fave. I can't wait to read The Vagrants. There were sentences every PARAGRAPH of this book where I had to pause and set the book down and reconsider my life. The ending was a little underwhelming for me but like......this book just lives on and on and on past its ending. This was so painful. So good. Just wow!!!

[Susan · Rating 5 out of 5]

This poignant novel looks at the relationship between three friends and an event which has shaped their lives. The book begins with Boyang, a ‘diamond’ bachelor at thirty seven; with a good income and spacious housing in crowded Beijing, he is divorced with no children. When we meet him, he is arranging the cremation of Shaoai, who was poisoned twenty one years ago and has finally died after years of illness and suffering. On the death of Shaoai, he sends an email to his two childhood friends – Moran and Ruyu. Both women now live in America, although both fend off love and loneliness. The three are bound by waiting for Shaoai to die, because the poison was taken from the university laboratory of Boyang’s mother, shortly after the three friends visited there.

During this book the storyline swops from past to present, as we learn more about the four central participants of this novel and what happened both before Shaoai was poisoned and how it changed the characters lives. This is a slow moving book, but one which certainly has a lot of impact. There is Boyang, whose parents are more interested in their genius daughter; Moran, whose whole life is set in the Beijing quadrangle – the courtyard of friends and neighbours a communal stage she enjoys and feels safe in – but who now lives a solitary life; the political and aggressive Shaoai, who resents having Ruyu to live as a paying guest in her parent’s home and, lastly, Ruyu, the orphan child, self contained and uncommunicative. What happened, all those years ago – was the poisoning attempted murder, an unsuccessful suicide or a freak accident and, finally, who was to blame? With Shaoai now dead, can the three friends finally let go of their self imposed solitude and make peace with what happened? I found this a really emotive, deeply moving and well written book, with characters I cared about and who really came alive on the pages of this excellent novel which I recommend highly.

I received a copy of this book, from the publisher, for review.

[Christy · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is a poignant book that revolves around three friends and an event - the poisoning of another friend - that changes their lives forever. It hops back in time between their childhood and the present (twenty years later), to see what sort of lives they live, and how much they are effected by the past. I cared deeply about all the characters, but this is a sad tale of mourning, loss, and broken dreams and to be honest, I felt quite depressed, even after finishing it, a little haunted.

Superbly written, it focuses on the relationships that we forge with each other, loyalty and love, or the lack of it.

Even though this a mystery, and wanting to find out who poisoned Shaoai (or was it suicide?) kept me turning the pages, the actual whodunnit seemed entirely secondary - with the main meat of the book being not what happened, but how did one event resonate through multiple people across the years, who else did it touch, and how did it affect them? For example, Moran, once a young girl who idolised Shaoai is now a quiet woman living in the United States. We watch her interact with her ex-husband, and have to wonder how much did that distance event with Shaoai effect her current personality, how did it touch her ex-husband and her relationship with his family, even though they never even know Shaoai existed.

It is a book about experiences, and how they shape us - although be reassured, the book has a conclusion and felt complete. Overall a very emotive journey that caused me to feel very introspective upon completion.

[Sagahigan · Rating 3 out of 5]

Vừa đủ sâu sắc và tinh tế để ta có thể đọc đến hết, tuy nhiên thiếu cái hẳn có thể gọi là sự "quỷ dị" của một nhà văn xuất chúng.

[Leslie · Rating 3 out of 5]

My thoughts about this book are not firm....

In 1989 childhood friends Boyang and Moran welcome 15-year-old Ruyu and her accordion into their world of school and bicycle rides throughout the province of Beijing. Ruyu will stay as a paid guest in the home of Shaoai---a 22 year old university student---and Shaoai’s parents and bedridden grandfather. Orphaned at birth and raised by two Catholic grandaunts, Ruyu is not interested in friendship but sees her move to Beijing as part of the destiny which her grandaunts have prepared her for. Within four-month’s-time these characters will become bound by secrets, violation and deception, and betrayal of love and friendship that remains with them for decades to come.

Yiyun Li’s novel is so tightly woven that there were moments when I had to remind myself to breathe. Her storytelling is masterful. And while the writing is beautiful---so finely wrought---I felt I was being invited to tour the psychological terrain of people who are emotionally cold. Many passages are pensive and dense with the poetry of tragic fate. Characters often ask one another questions that sound like labyrinth riddles, or traps to make one stumble en route to clarity. 14 pages until the close of the story and a long awaited reunion invokes no hugs or sentimentalities but only abrupt questions that feel forced, plastic, and loaded with presumption.

With the exception of Shaoai, the young people---as they progress well into their adult lives---are destined to examine their past roles and question their motives for participating and not-participating in subsequent relationships. Shaoai is also the one character who may have been able to offer some insight into the thoughts of young political activists who protested at Tiananmen Square, but her voice was silenced before she could open her thought process to the reader and I wondered if this was an intentional metaphor for censorship on the author’s part. Shaoai is also someone who has “behaved badly” in secret and yet seems portrayed in an unlikeable, yet blameless light.

Nothing is funny in this story and these are not happy people so don’t read this book when you’re in the mood for lighter fair. This story takes place in China and the USA during a span of 20-25 years. References to “the story of Grazia” seemed unnecessary and I didn’t understand why they weren’t edited out. Hard to rate this one. It was engrossing as well as unsettling. Three and one half stars?

[Mircalla · Rating 3 out of 5]

una solitudine troppo ostentata

Pechino 1989
Ruyu, Moran e Boyang vivono nello stesso cortile negli anni della scuola, Shaoai è più grande e va all'università nel periodo dei disordini e, dopo il massacro di Tiananmen, finisce espulsa con nessuna possibilità di trovare mai lavoro, successivamente avvelenata, resterà in coma per vent'anni, anni nei quali le due sue amiche scapperanno negli Stati Uniti lasciando il povero Boyang a sorvegliare la situazione...

non è una storia facile da raccontare questa, non solo per la colpa che aleggia nei rapporti tra i sopravvissuti, rapporti mantenuti solo via mail, mail a cui nessuno mai risponde, mail lasciate cadere, ignorate come un messaggero infausto...
la cosa peggiore è il bozzolo che avvolge ogni protagonista, tutti ciascuno a suo modo, sono soli e, quel che pesa di più, compiaciuti della distanza che mettono tra se e il mondo...Ruyu è la peggiore, la più fredda e quella che si compiace maggiormente della sua paventata superiorità, una malattia mentale di quelle serie, che la allontana dal mondo e le fa vivere una vita ai margini, piena di calcoli sulla convenienza di intrattenere rapporti con chiunque le si avvicini, Moran la più giovane è anche la più debole, quella che persino nel matrimonio non può fare a meno di rintanarsi in un angolo, infine Boyang, incomprensibilmente intrappolato nel dubbio eterno tra scegliere di essere un sentimentale, muto testimone di una morte che tarda a venire, o abbandonarsi a essere lo stronzo che ci si aspetta che sia un "nuovo ricco" nella Pechino di oggi...inutile dire che Shaoai è l'unica vittima, prima del proprio idealismo, poi di una follia inspiegabile e del gelo che avvolge chi la circonda...l'unica che pagherà con una non-vita la sua appartenenza a un paese di persone spietate o rassegnate, ma tutte invariabilmente sole...

[Carinkahn · Rating 3 out of 5]

I hesitated between "it was ok" and "I liked it", there were parts that engaged me.

But, in the end, the story failed to grab me, I didn't feel particularly invested in any of the characters. They were all so detached and un-engaging, even in their youth for the most part. You only saw glimpses of what was stirring underneath their cold, unemotional facades, but it never lead anywhere.

There was one character I did grow some sympathy for, towards the very end: Moran. However, I do feel very dissatisfied with her ending.


Just to add, after I finished Kinder than solitude, I read Li's debut novel, 'The Vagrants'. That's a gem, I give that five stars!

[Susan Ovans · Rating 1 out of 5]

Reading this through to the end was a chore. The three friends at the core of the book are the same remote, unlikable character in different guises. The plot is dull and the "twist" at the root of what may or may not be a murder is implausible. The ending is entirely inadequate. I regret every hour I spent on this and only wish I'd given it up at the start.

[Nikolas Banos · Rating 4 out of 5]

Εκείνες τις καλοκαιρινές μέρες, ο αυγουστιάτικός ήλιος, θαρρείς, έκαιγε τα σύννεφα του ουρανού και ό, τι άλλο έβλεπαν οι ακτίνες του. Κάτω από αυτόν τον ήλιο, μέσα σε ένα αμάξι – «θερμοκήπιο», στάζαμε ιδρώτα και μαλώναμε εκκωφαντικά για το ποιος θα μπει στο «σούπερ μάρκετ» και για το τί θα μαγειρέψουμε. Έχασα εγώ και έτσι μπήκα, νευριασμένος, ιδρωμένος και μια ιδέα καμένος από το ήλιο, στο «σούπερ μά��κετ» να κάνω τα ψώνια. Κάπου ανάμεσα στα ζαρζαβατικά και τα ψυγεία, είχε στηθεί ένας πάγκος με πληθώρα βιβλίων σε προσφορά. Για να επιλέξω το «Αντίδοτο στην Μοναξιά» των εκδόσεων «Καστανιώτης» σπατάλησα κάποιο χρόνο παραπάνω και το γεγονός αυτό πυροδότησε νέα μαλώματα.
Τοποθετημένο στο πανέμορφο Πεκίνο, το «Αντίδοτο στην Μοναξιά» αναλύει τις ζωές των Ρουγιού, Μπογιάνγκ και Μοράν. Έναυσμα για αυτήν την ανάλυση αποτελεί ο θάνατος της Σαοάι, μιας φοιτήτριας που συμμετείχε ενεργά στην εξέγερση της πλατείας Τιένανμεν. Η Μοράν και η Ρουγιού μεταναστεύουν στις Η.Π.Α μετά από το παρ’ ολίγον θανάσιμο ατύχημα της Σαοάι, ενώ ο Μπογιάνγκ παραμένει στην Κίνα. Εικοσιένα χρόνια αργότερα, ο θάνατος της Σαοάι έρχεται να ανασύρει κρυμμένα συναισθήματα τριών ανθρώπων που ζουν μέσα σε μια επίκτητη συμπαγή μοναξιά.
Οι τρεις φίλοι αρχίζουν να κάνουν ανασκόπηση της ζωής τους και το μισό της αφήγησης πραγματοποιείται στον παρελθόν. Κανείς τους δεν είχε εύκολα παιδικά χρόνια. Ο Μπογιάνγκ, ένα πλουσιόπαιδο, που δεν μεγάλωσε με τους γονείς του, επειδή οι γονείς του δεν είχαν χρόνο, η Μοράν, ένα ουδέτερου χαρακτήρα κορίτσι, μεγαλωμένο με χιλιάδες στερεότυπα και η Ρουγιού, ένα ορφανό, που μεγάλωσε με δύο θρησκόληπτες γυναίκες, που της ενστάλαξαν τον φόβο για έναν εκδικητικό Θεό. […]

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[Artak Aleksanyan · Rating 5 out of 5]

Ինչո՞ւ հարդարել տեղաշորը, եթե նորից ես քնելու, ինչո՞ւ սիրել, եթե միևնույն է հիասթափվելու ես, ինչո՞ւ կազմել ընտանիք, եթե վերջում միայնակ ես մնալու։ Որքան էլ աբսուրդ հնչեն այս հարցերը, հենց սրանց պատասխաններն են փնտրում «Մենությունից էլ բարի» վեպի հերոսները։ Ու փնտրում են՝ ուսերի հետևում ունենալով մի մեծ, չասված ու անավարտ ողբերգության ժառանգություն։

Մեկ բակում մեծացող 15-ամյա տղայի ու աղջկա տեսադաշտում, հարևանությամբ և դասարանում է հայտնվում մի նոր աղջիկ՝ որբ, լռակյաց, զուսպ ու չափից դուրս սառնասիրտ։ Հետո իհարկե, սառույցը ինչ որ չափով կկոտրվի, նույնիսկ փոքրիկ սիրավեպ կառաջանա, բայց այդ ամենը կխամրի մեկ ողբերգությամբ, որն ամբողջությամբ կփոխի 3-ի ճակատագիրը։

Վեպն այս երեքի մասին է՝ այն ժամանակ ու հիմա՝ 20 տարի անց և իհարկե, թե ի՞նչ է պատահում, երբ մի օր որոշում ես այնուամենայնիվ գտնել քեզ հուզող հարցերի պատասխանները։ Իսկ պատասխանը տրվում է յուրաքանչյուրին չափազանց ծանր՝ մեկի համար 2 ամուսնալուծությունից հետո, մյուսին 20-ամյա կատարյալ միայնությունից, երրորդին ՝ չստացվող ու ընդհատվող կապերից հետո։

Իյուն Լիի վեպը հենց առաջին իսկ րոպեից տալիս է գլխիդ՝ անսպասելի խորությամբ, գրական վարպետությամբ, հերոսների համոզիչ ներաշխարհով ու ամեն մեկի մենության այնպիսի մի ներաշխարհով, որ հենց առաջին գլխից հետո ունենում ես «վաու» էֆեկտ։ Իսկ վեպի թերևս գլխավոր ուղերձը և հերոսների գլխավոր՝ իսկ ինչ կա ավելի հանգիստ, ավելի ազնիվ, ավելի ռացիոնալ, քան գիտակցված մենությունն է, հարցի պատասխանը ստանում ես նախավերջին գլխում։ Հետո ընթերցում ևս 2 էջ։ Փակում գիրքը։ Ու գնում գրկելու քո սիրելլիին։ Մենությունից էլ բարի՝ հոգատարությունն է։ Սերն ու հոգատարությունը։

[Kate · Rating 5 out of 5]

Ощущение порой, что тебя слишком настойчиво макают мордочкой в мудрость, но всё равно очень даже.

[Huy · Rating 5 out of 5]

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[Lawrence · Rating 4 out of 5]

REVIEW UPON A SECOND READING. FIRST READING REVIEW IS BELOW.

I wonder why I read this book again. I think it's because it is beautiful. Not perfect, but beautiful. And it is hard to talk about beauty. I sense very much that Ms. Li loved her three main characters (and probably loved the secondary ones also). She lingers on their days and thoughts and feelings. Because they have no connections with other humans (or with each other), their days are not exciting. But taking the book as literature, their days are very exciting. We see the intelligence, effort, and cost of actively not connecting with others. How interesting that Ms. Li would wrap this theme in the fiction that she creates so well.

I learned some things about the book on the second reading. First, it looks to me as if Moran is the main character. Certainly a lot of space is given to her. Plus the disruption in her life caused by the one great past event that threw these people apart from others and each other was the greatest. She was the most feeling, the most ordinary, the most good of the three. And it is in her story that the book's title appears. She moves to assist her ex-husband Josef in his last illness, and she discovers that his mere presence is kinder than solitude. On the other hand, Ruyu's enigmatic personality remains even though she returns to China at least to talk to the third character Boyang. As for Boyang, so confident and active as a youngster, he remains lost and without a foundation.

Another issue that was not overemphasized in the book -- perhaps because it did not motivate Ruyu in any way, especially in respect to the past "great event" -- is the sexual misconduct that Shaoai committed against her.

And all this against a wonderful background of living in Beijing and managing to pay bills and save for a refrigerator. Oh, the thrift, the care! And then the contrast with life in the American suburbs. Just wonderful and grounded.

Thanks, Ms. Li.

THE FIRST REVIEW

This is quite an interesting book. First of all, the excellent presence of a good number of characters in such a relatively short book is very nice. Each of them, from the three main characters to Shaoai who is the prime mover of the book's problem, to Celia, to Josef, to Auntie and her family, to Boyang's mother, and so forth, is well-depicted and rings true.

Second, I am actually not sure whether the characters Boyang, Ruyu, and Moran are protagonists as I understand the term. Really, they are the characters whose presence occurs most consistently throughout the book. But, actually, the three rest in a field of characters, including the characters I mentioned above, but also including the shop employee whom Boyang "dates" for a while, and even Ruyu's great aunts, who actually never make an appearance, but who are definitely present. The author, Ms. Li, weaves all these people together and connect them even though the connections may be involuntary. In a sense, they are like marbles rolling against each other in a tin or like pebbles hitting each other on the beach as waves go in and out.

Third, I wrote above that Shaoai is the prime mover of the book's problem. I used the word "problem" because this is a fairly plotless book. There is one significant event that scatters lives. But the book is really a study how that event affects characters, but not in the form of a plot. Instead, the characters have a problem that has intruded into their lives. It is enough of a problem to affect their lives significantly, but not enough to make them actors in a plot. Here is where I find a little bit of fault with the book. At the end, Ms. Li is looking for a resolution for her "people". She does find one for each of the three main characters, but the resolutions seem contrived to me -- as if Ms. Li had some trouble finding a way to end the book. Here, I thought plot intruded into the problem, but was a bit too easy a solution to it. I think this is particularly the case with Ruyu and Boyang, but actually not so much with Moran whose basic disposition falls more easily into the "plot".

Fourth, I am not sure of what world I have entered in this book. I can see the consequences of an event that has shocked the three "main" characters. And I can see immigrant alienation, the inability to let go and forget others even in their years-long absence, the subtleties and contrasts of Ruyu's and Moran's characters. But there are other parts of this fictional world I do not understand because, in the end, I am not sure of the ethics of the characters' society and therefore of the characters' responses to an event like a death. Although the main characters suffer an intense alienation, there is no sense of ethical responsibility and no search for a resolution of responsibility. So, ultimately and interestingly, the characters sweep the event under the carpet, and they scatter. Perhaps, this is Ms. Li's genius -- that the characters live always in the present, always with their present thoughts and circumstances, and we are left to delve into the question of their ethics as determining their behavior.

In the end, the book does come to a type of resolution of the alienation at least. Moran seems to reason out what is "kinder than solitude" at least in her life. Boyang and Ruyu seem to resolve or begin to resolve their connection, strong in youth, yet never developed then. And so the three pick up where they left off decades earlier when they were split apart. But, as I wrote above, I think this is a weaker aspect of the book for me.

What a wonderful, mysterious, cloudy book. Thank you, Ms. Li.

[reading_mango · Rating 2 out of 5]

2.5
Muszę przyznać, że styl pisania autorki mi się spodobał, ale nie umiem docenić tej książki jako całości :(( rozczarowanie