Permission to Put Yourself First: Questions, Exercises, and Advice to Transform All Your Relationships

by Nancy Levin

Worthy  author Nancy Levin shows you how to turn the old model of relationship on its head and build something better and more fulfilling than you've had before.

Are you ready to go back to the drawing board in your love life--and end up more satisfied than you've ever been before? In these pages, master coach Nancy Levin takes a truly fresh look at relationships, showing you how to build them better from the ground up--or perform some skillful renovations.

Permission to Put Yourself First  is for you if you fit any of these you're single and looking for a new relationship beyond what you've experienced before . . . you're happy alone but looking toward a great relationship in the future . . . you're divorced and determined never to do that again . . . or you're recovering from the death of a partner and unsure what's next. It's also for you if you're currently in a relationship that you want to refresh and restore; a relationship that challenges or threatens your boundaries; a relationship you're not sure you can salvage; or a relationship you recognize as the exact right teacher for you, even if it's not easy.

Essentially, this book is for you if you're ready for something more in relationship than what the old models have offered. It's based on the essential truth that relationship is first and foremost where we learn to love ourselves. Drawing on many of the same exercises she uses with her clients, Nancy guides you through a 10-step process to dissolve your emotional and psychological roadblocks to self-love so you can have the relationship you truly desire.

264 pages, Paperback

Published August 20, 2019

Reviews

[lala · Rating 4 out of 5]

This is the second audiobook by Nancy Levin that I have listened to. I find it very cathartic to have listened to her read two books. Her self-love and self-discipline are palpable and a great thing to expose oneself to. Only one star knocked off for the section of forgiveness being too short and lacking the complexity of this very controversial semantics-prone topic. The book often felt less like reading a self-help book and more like reading the diary of an insightful, healing woman really doing the work. There were some really potent exercises and reminders concerning interdependence versus codependence, how relationships are a spiritual path of growth and not saviourism. This insight really helped me with my love addiction as I have framed it as: every relationship forces us to grow and teaches us lessons in ways we cannot predict, in ways we have to be respectful, self-loving, curious, and attentive to understand. No matter how deterministic we feel about a particular relationship, we miss the truth of its lessons and its role on our spiritual path by trying to make it something it is not. Levin used the imagery of find a way to move with the current of our lives and relationships and not against them. True intimacy is quality over quantity time. Our self love is always much more deeply lacking than we realize.

[Norman · Rating 3 out of 5]

Yeah, I don’t know why I started listening to this audiobook. There are some insights into life and love, but the core message is that we need to love ourselves. This particular book seems a bit too wishy-washy hippie type of mentality, which I think is a great narrative for people who are truly lost, but I didn’t find too much solid information. A few bits here and there were good though, so I guess it’s decent at best.

[Jennifer Gamboa · Rating 4 out of 5]

This is a really good book! I am definitely going to read this again. This is now going to become one of my reference books.

[Kelly · Rating 3 out of 5]

Sometimes books come to you at the perfect moment - what I read in this book relates so much to what I'm learning right now. I will definitely read more from this author!