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The Book of Non-Binary Joy
'A joy to read' JEFFREY MARSH
'Full of wit, fun and wisdom!' ALEX IANTAFFI
'Oh hello darling, and welcome to The Book of Non-Binary Joy! This book is here to help you be yourself - free from judgement and expectation - as you unlock more joy in your life. Take my hand, and let's start your journey of self-love today.'
Whether you are at the start of your journey or have been on the wild ride of gender introspection for a long time, this guide is here to help you thrive as your authentic - and most fabulous - non-binary self. With personal stories, valuable insights and interactive sections, this inspiring book covers a wide range of topics, including mental health, pleasure, fashion, understanding your past, allyship privilege and self-expression.
Written with warmth and unapologetic humour, and with bold illustrations throughout, Ben Pechey has created the ultimate safe space for you to embrace your non-binary life and start living.
'Full of wit, fun and wisdom!' ALEX IANTAFFI
'Oh hello darling, and welcome to The Book of Non-Binary Joy! This book is here to help you be yourself - free from judgement and expectation - as you unlock more joy in your life. Take my hand, and let's start your journey of self-love today.'
Whether you are at the start of your journey or have been on the wild ride of gender introspection for a long time, this guide is here to help you thrive as your authentic - and most fabulous - non-binary self. With personal stories, valuable insights and interactive sections, this inspiring book covers a wide range of topics, including mental health, pleasure, fashion, understanding your past, allyship privilege and self-expression.
Written with warmth and unapologetic humour, and with bold illustrations throughout, Ben Pechey has created the ultimate safe space for you to embrace your non-binary life and start living.
224 pages, Paperback
Published May 19, 2022
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April 6, 2022
I hated the tone of this book. The author kept referring to me (the reader) directly as “darling” or “nonbinary angel” and it icked me. It felt patronizing and made me turned off from anything the narrator tried to tell me. And the author made this way to much about themselves, if they wanted that they should have just written a memoir instead. And this book really isn't as in depth as I was hoping, it is a very basic outline of nonbinary identity and didn’t get into more intricacies or intersectional parts of identity. Maybe this would be good for preteens questioning identity, but also I think they could get all this info and more just from a basic google search or a few minutes on twitter. I wanted to read this as a trans person who identified as a trans man and medically transitioned now exploring deeper parts of my gender identity, but this book doesn’t go that deep and provided no new ideas or views to me
February 3, 2022
[Review by a non-binary reader]
Thanks to Netgalley for the copy to review, I'm leaving this review voluntarily. This book drops in May 2022. ☺️
So....
I was really excited to read what sounded like a self-help book made for me, but it went south as soon as I started reading. As many have mentioned, the author's tone is unbearable. Calling us readers darling repeatedly and saying things like "how was it?" after you finish chapter one was distracting and annoying. I felt like I was listening to a meditation or other self-guided app when that's not what I was prepared for. A lot of the narrative voice grated and came across as so patronizing that I couldn't focus on what was being said.
It was nice to have material gathered in one place specifically for those who do or may in future identify as non-binary, but I'm not sure there was anything new here that I couldn't find in a twitter thread amongst my very-queer timeline, to be honest. There was a section explaining gaslighting, coming out to your family, etc., and it was just nothing new for me, though I can see the value it'd have for a young reader.
I did think it was neat that the book was structured so that the different chapters could be read out of order. The part about fashion was good, too - non-binary people don't owe you androgyny or overalls every day.
This book tried for a cute, kind of softened self-help approach. Unfortunately I'm a little too pragmatic for such coddling. I didn't hate it but the tone and delivery was just ... Yeah. Maybe they can edit a bit more before this releases in May.
Thanks to Netgalley for the copy to review, I'm leaving this review voluntarily. This book drops in May 2022. ☺️
So....
I was really excited to read what sounded like a self-help book made for me, but it went south as soon as I started reading. As many have mentioned, the author's tone is unbearable. Calling us readers darling repeatedly and saying things like "how was it?" after you finish chapter one was distracting and annoying. I felt like I was listening to a meditation or other self-guided app when that's not what I was prepared for. A lot of the narrative voice grated and came across as so patronizing that I couldn't focus on what was being said.
It was nice to have material gathered in one place specifically for those who do or may in future identify as non-binary, but I'm not sure there was anything new here that I couldn't find in a twitter thread amongst my very-queer timeline, to be honest. There was a section explaining gaslighting, coming out to your family, etc., and it was just nothing new for me, though I can see the value it'd have for a young reader.
I did think it was neat that the book was structured so that the different chapters could be read out of order. The part about fashion was good, too - non-binary people don't owe you androgyny or overalls every day.
This book tried for a cute, kind of softened self-help approach. Unfortunately I'm a little too pragmatic for such coddling. I didn't hate it but the tone and delivery was just ... Yeah. Maybe they can edit a bit more before this releases in May.
February 25, 2022
2.5 stars.
This book was a bit different than I expected and I wish I had enjoyed it more, but it just didn't hit me in the right way I guess.
This book could definitely still benefit other people though, because it has some good quotes and advice in it. Note the use of the word some there...
Because there was a section in this book that rubbed me the wrong way which was the section about avoiding (online) self diagnosis. As a disabled person myself, I very much advocate for self diagnosis. I self diagnosed myself with autism about a year before I actually managed to get access to getting a diagnosis. Self diagnosis can literally save people's lives. So yeah, safe to say that I really didn't like that particular section.
Anyway, the book was still quite informational and it definitely helped me figure some stuff out, but again it just didn't hit me in the right way.
This book was a bit different than I expected and I wish I had enjoyed it more, but it just didn't hit me in the right way I guess.
This book could definitely still benefit other people though, because it has some good quotes and advice in it. Note the use of the word some there...
Because there was a section in this book that rubbed me the wrong way which was the section about avoiding (online) self diagnosis. As a disabled person myself, I very much advocate for self diagnosis. I self diagnosed myself with autism about a year before I actually managed to get access to getting a diagnosis. Self diagnosis can literally save people's lives. So yeah, safe to say that I really didn't like that particular section.
Anyway, the book was still quite informational and it definitely helped me figure some stuff out, but again it just didn't hit me in the right way.
September 7, 2023
So much to unpack.
I’m currently writing a bachelor thesis on the sociolinguistic developments of the gender-neutral/gender-inclusive language around the world and how these linguistic developments are shaping our perception of reality through the use of a more inclusive vocabulary.
This is only one of the reasons why I picked up The Book of Non-Binary Joy in the first place (among many others).
But this book didn’t do it for me at all.
Something about the style and the tone of this book was completely off, the author keeps referring to the readers with words like “chérie”, “my darling”, “my angels” etc. giving the whole reading experience a very cringy -a bit millennial?- undertone.
I also feel like any queer/gender-queer person has already, just by merely existing, asked themselves the questions that this book tries to shine a light on and there is nothing additional to it that we all haven’t probably already seen on Instagraphics, Twitter threads, or any other social media platform of choice. Together, as well, with a certain level of wittiness that imo was a bit too odd.
I appreciated the drawings, the exercises and the quizzes as well as the division of each chapter and all the quotes along the way, even though these were all characteristic that simultaneously irked me, *as an adult reader*.
While the intentions of the book were fantastic (discovering ourselves, the importance of mental health, allyship…), I feel like a read of this kind would be more suitable for a younger audience who could definitely benefit from the author’s words of encouragement and liveliness way more than an adult reader could ever do.
GREAT JOB WITH THE BOOK COVER THO, love me a pink book #slay
I’m currently writing a bachelor thesis on the sociolinguistic developments of the gender-neutral/gender-inclusive language around the world and how these linguistic developments are shaping our perception of reality through the use of a more inclusive vocabulary.
This is only one of the reasons why I picked up The Book of Non-Binary Joy in the first place (among many others).
But this book didn’t do it for me at all.
Something about the style and the tone of this book was completely off, the author keeps referring to the readers with words like “chérie”, “my darling”, “my angels” etc. giving the whole reading experience a very cringy -a bit millennial?- undertone.
I also feel like any queer/gender-queer person has already, just by merely existing, asked themselves the questions that this book tries to shine a light on and there is nothing additional to it that we all haven’t probably already seen on Instagraphics, Twitter threads, or any other social media platform of choice. Together, as well, with a certain level of wittiness that imo was a bit too odd.
I appreciated the drawings, the exercises and the quizzes as well as the division of each chapter and all the quotes along the way, even though these were all characteristic that simultaneously irked me, *as an adult reader*.
While the intentions of the book were fantastic (discovering ourselves, the importance of mental health, allyship…), I feel like a read of this kind would be more suitable for a younger audience who could definitely benefit from the author’s words of encouragement and liveliness way more than an adult reader could ever do.
GREAT JOB WITH THE BOOK COVER THO, love me a pink book #slay
June 15, 2022
I read this book in bits and pieces - at 2am when I couldn't get to sleep, and at 7pm desperately waiting for work to come in - and though it wasn't entirely for me, it is definitely a necessary book. This was probably the first sort of 'self help' nonfiction book entirely dedicated to nonbinary people. and as an agender person, I really loved that. Unlike other readers, I also loved the 'narration' style, and didn't find it to be patronising in the slightest - it felt like an older nonbinary sibling sharing their wisdom. Though, as a 24 year old who has been out for a wee while, I don't think I was the target audience. This book is much better suited to younger nonbinary people who are just coming out and their family and loved ones who are looking to support them. That being said, there were some things about this book that I didn't love. First of all, though this does deal a lot with the author's personal experiences, I did feel like the book was very whitewashed. There are references at the end for further reading, as Pechey does admit that this is only a starting point, but those are also pretty whitewashed. There are also resources for enby-friendly clothing brands, but they were all very pricy ones (e.g. Lucy & Yak and Vivienne Westwood?????) and it felt a bit clumsy. All in all, a good opening to nonbinary nonfiction, but not my cup of tea!
Thanks to Jessica Kingsley Publishers and Netgalley for an eARC in return for an honest review!
Thanks to Jessica Kingsley Publishers and Netgalley for an eARC in return for an honest review!
August 5, 2022
This is a great resource for nonbinary people. There are plenty of topics to explore, and lots of advice to follow. I think this will be particularly useful for younger nonbinary people, and those who have recently come out, but at the same time I think there is something for everyone within these pages. It's a great exploration of how to find joy, while also discussing the reality of being nonbinary. Nothing is sugar-coated, and yet the optimism seeps through. I would definitely recommend this to nonbinary people and allies alike.
January 4, 2023
I loved this, the whole book felt like a warm hug from a sibling. The tone of the writing may not be to everyone's taste, but it made me feel so relaxed, I thought this was a fun, witty, but informative intro to non-binary identities. I loved the emphasis on joy, rather than all the challenges and barriers which so often ends up being the focus of books like this.
August 4, 2025
Kaunis ja lempeä kirja muunsukupuolisille ja allyille. Hyvä kirja etenkin ns. alkumatkalla, antaa henkilökohtaisella tasolla kyllä muissakin vaiheissa. Kirjan sävy on pehmeä ja lempeä, iloon ja hyvinvointiin keskittyvä, mikä on tervetullutta sukupuolen moninaisuudesta puhuttaessa. Itseapumaisuudessa on tietenkin ongelmallisuutensakin, mutta toisaalta ei tämä rakenteellinen saati teoreettinen teos yritäkään olla.
July 19, 2025
This book is a warm hug. I recommend to anyone who is gender diverse or allies seeking better understanding. The language was plain (like listening to a friend) and it did make me feel joyful. There were also word searches and crosswords which are super cute.
March 2, 2024
This book has the best intentions and is a great first access and has a light tone. For me though it wasn't a good fit, because I needed more in-depth explanations and explorations about gender identity.
February 27, 2022
Spoilers and this is based on the unreleased ARC I read from NetGalley so there may be changes made after this point (I hope)
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I think this could be a great book for people new to the idea they may be trans or nonbinary, as well as a helpful book for allies though it isn’t written for them.
There are a lot of sentences that just don’t make sense, it’s a very limited POV and misses a lot of intersectional points that are important to make including masc presenting Nonbinary people, bipoc, disabled people etc.
Micro-aggressions section had two examples that were the same one about racism and one about homophobia, I feel like it would be more beneficial to have two different examples.
“The body positive movement and it’s messages, which were created by powerful black and poc women” this sentence doesn’t make sense “created by black and people of colour women” is what is said here. I would say “black women and women of colour” avoid shortening to the acronym as people may not know what WOC is.
I think it would be beneficial to add some historic context to this as well as many people don’t know where or how it bagan and who for/by.
“I really appreciate that you may have never met anyone who uses they/them pronouns before and this may feel new or alien to you. I use they/them pronouns and I deserve you to respect this” the last sentence is super confusing, doesn’t read well.
“I deserve your respect on this/I deserve to be respected on this” is way clearer
“Soul food in itself” is erring on using things not ours to use. You can just use “food for the soul”
The fashion, make up and style section feels way more catered to femme presenting people than masc or fluid. There’s minimal to no advice for masc presentation. And the recommended brands are expensive and again only looking from a femme pov. I agree with other reviews I’ve seen where this book would have benefitted from more voices being more actively involved than the random chunks of quotes. Not one mention of second hand shopping or DIYing clothes or even hair styles?
“Kids this is toxic behaviour” ages the book. I feel like the writing and language choices are confusing for who this is meant for. There are words used I don’t know the meaning of and I’m 27 and then the author refers to the readers as “kids”
The idea of ‘mutually beneficial relationships’ makes them sound like a transaction rather than actual friendship.
There is a bullet point minimising people self diagnosing to just taking a bunch of quizzes which is really ill-informed. Self diagnosis is widely accepted among disabled activist due to many factors that make official diagnosis out of reach for many. I recommend removing that bullet point in the mental health section and doing some more research. People aren’t just taking quizzes to diagnose themselves. They are doing plenty of their own research.
Unfortunately this book frustrated me more the further I read, and I was reading this with audience in mind. I know I am not the audience, but I feel like there is a lot lacking in intersectionality and context which is important to provide to the audience I have in mind which are newly out people, people who are questioning, and allies/family and friends of nonbinary people.
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I think this could be a great book for people new to the idea they may be trans or nonbinary, as well as a helpful book for allies though it isn’t written for them.
There are a lot of sentences that just don’t make sense, it’s a very limited POV and misses a lot of intersectional points that are important to make including masc presenting Nonbinary people, bipoc, disabled people etc.
Micro-aggressions section had two examples that were the same one about racism and one about homophobia, I feel like it would be more beneficial to have two different examples.
“The body positive movement and it’s messages, which were created by powerful black and poc women” this sentence doesn’t make sense “created by black and people of colour women” is what is said here. I would say “black women and women of colour” avoid shortening to the acronym as people may not know what WOC is.
I think it would be beneficial to add some historic context to this as well as many people don’t know where or how it bagan and who for/by.
“I really appreciate that you may have never met anyone who uses they/them pronouns before and this may feel new or alien to you. I use they/them pronouns and I deserve you to respect this” the last sentence is super confusing, doesn’t read well.
“I deserve your respect on this/I deserve to be respected on this” is way clearer
“Soul food in itself” is erring on using things not ours to use. You can just use “food for the soul”
The fashion, make up and style section feels way more catered to femme presenting people than masc or fluid. There’s minimal to no advice for masc presentation. And the recommended brands are expensive and again only looking from a femme pov. I agree with other reviews I’ve seen where this book would have benefitted from more voices being more actively involved than the random chunks of quotes. Not one mention of second hand shopping or DIYing clothes or even hair styles?
“Kids this is toxic behaviour” ages the book. I feel like the writing and language choices are confusing for who this is meant for. There are words used I don’t know the meaning of and I’m 27 and then the author refers to the readers as “kids”
The idea of ‘mutually beneficial relationships’ makes them sound like a transaction rather than actual friendship.
There is a bullet point minimising people self diagnosing to just taking a bunch of quizzes which is really ill-informed. Self diagnosis is widely accepted among disabled activist due to many factors that make official diagnosis out of reach for many. I recommend removing that bullet point in the mental health section and doing some more research. People aren’t just taking quizzes to diagnose themselves. They are doing plenty of their own research.
Unfortunately this book frustrated me more the further I read, and I was reading this with audience in mind. I know I am not the audience, but I feel like there is a lot lacking in intersectionality and context which is important to provide to the audience I have in mind which are newly out people, people who are questioning, and allies/family and friends of nonbinary people.
This entire review has been hidden because of spoilers.
January 6, 2022
Welp - here it is. My first five star of the year and already in my top reads of the year.
As I mentioned in my 2022 in review, I wanted to read books with more queer representation, as well as more non-fiction reading. However, I would have read this book if that wasn't one of my goals. It's phenomenal. I have been following Ben Pechey on Instagram for years and when I found out they were writing a book, I could not have been more excited.
When I tell you how much I cried during this book, it was because of all of the truths I didn't realize that I needed to hear. Ben did a beautiful job writing this book, and I can't wait for it to come out so I can not only buy myself three copies, but I can give a copy to my mom, my partner, my tattoo artist, and just about everyone I know.
Each chapter is wrapped up beautifully, listing takeaways, and the book is sprinkled with illustrations as well as activities to keep you engaged. I would have read this book in an entire sitting if I could have, but sleep was not my friend.
It is an immense privilege to have been able to read this book before its release. Thank you so so much to Ben Pechey, Net Galley and Jessica Kingsley Publishers for the e-ARC. I cannot wait for its release so I can see everyone else read it.
As I mentioned in my 2022 in review, I wanted to read books with more queer representation, as well as more non-fiction reading. However, I would have read this book if that wasn't one of my goals. It's phenomenal. I have been following Ben Pechey on Instagram for years and when I found out they were writing a book, I could not have been more excited.
When I tell you how much I cried during this book, it was because of all of the truths I didn't realize that I needed to hear. Ben did a beautiful job writing this book, and I can't wait for it to come out so I can not only buy myself three copies, but I can give a copy to my mom, my partner, my tattoo artist, and just about everyone I know.
Each chapter is wrapped up beautifully, listing takeaways, and the book is sprinkled with illustrations as well as activities to keep you engaged. I would have read this book in an entire sitting if I could have, but sleep was not my friend.
It is an immense privilege to have been able to read this book before its release. Thank you so so much to Ben Pechey, Net Galley and Jessica Kingsley Publishers for the e-ARC. I cannot wait for its release so I can see everyone else read it.
December 10, 2022
An easy and informative - if very self-help style - book attempting to focus on the joys of being nonbinary. I say attempting as Pechey does reference struggles and the darker areas, too, but on the whole the tone remains very light throughout. The contents are light too, so this might be great entry-level read for someone questioning their identity for the first time, or perhaps for an ally who loves self-help books! I am not the biggest fan of books in this style (stop calling me darling, I beg you) but did find this valuable regardless.
February 6, 2023
i guess this book would probably be more helpful for younger readers (think 11, 12) as the advice given is very generic and there is almost no talk about intersectionality but i guess it was from the authors point of view so thats all they were able to include.
i really didnt enjoy the tone, i think it was intended to make the reader feel like they were having a chat with a friend but to me it made me feel like i wasnt really reading a book.
also, the editor of this book did pechey dirty, how did they let the phrase "black and POC women" get into the final issue? and the bit where they said that queer people suffer the most from hate crimes (as if the main driver of hate crime is not race/ethnicity).
overall, just not for me. i would have liked a bit more nuance.
i really didnt enjoy the tone, i think it was intended to make the reader feel like they were having a chat with a friend but to me it made me feel like i wasnt really reading a book.
also, the editor of this book did pechey dirty, how did they let the phrase "black and POC women" get into the final issue? and the bit where they said that queer people suffer the most from hate crimes (as if the main driver of hate crime is not race/ethnicity).
overall, just not for me. i would have liked a bit more nuance.
December 9, 2021
As someone who has, within the last year or so, started that journey into my gender identity and everything that surrounds it, i loved this book. It was reassuring and helpful while refraining from simply telling you everything will be okay. It would be great for a high school book club or those Allie’s just beginning to learn about the gender identity side of the LGBTQ+ spectrum as the author helpfully provides important terms and definitions without seeming pedantic. It’s also great for those like me who have already been on their journey and want the reassurance that they’re “doing it right”. The author’s voice really shines through with a pervasive sense of style that I enjoyed.
April 22, 2023
Very soft and gentle introduction and exploration of non-binary joy and how to maintain it, definitely worth a read for non-binary folks and allies alike. The only issue I have with it are the copious errors (grammatical issues, missing words, and a personal pet peeve being that I borrowed this books from an English library and the author is clearly also English but the book uses the American spellings of words???), aside from that and a few slightly unhelpful generalisations the book is nearly perfect.
March 7, 2024
Quick fun read about how to be live a better life as a nonbinary person. Very positive. Many of the lessons taught here could be applied to anyone regardless of their gender identity. This book is tailored to nonbinary people.
Most important quote of the book:
“… however to define nonbinary being a personal level is to try to catch smoke with one’s bare hands: impossible and a silly way to waste a Wednesday afternoon. “
Most important quote of the book:
“… however to define nonbinary being a personal level is to try to catch smoke with one’s bare hands: impossible and a silly way to waste a Wednesday afternoon. “
May 26, 2022
I think this book was very educational, and will help to support those who would class themselves as non-binary. I feel like it's opened my eyes on this topic, and it was something I wasn't particularly sure of before. I feel I can be more of an ally after reading this book.
However, I wasn't too keen on Pechey's writing style, and the book was sometimes repetitive.
It was interesting, but I am sure there are better books out there.
However, I wasn't too keen on Pechey's writing style, and the book was sometimes repetitive.
It was interesting, but I am sure there are better books out there.
February 15, 2023
This is a sweet and humorous read for aspiring middle grade readers or young adults. Wish I had a supportive guide like this in my youth or when I began to explore life beyond the gender binary. You’ll come out this book feeling accomplished (my fastest crossword time yet), nostalgic (when WAS the last time I watched WALL-E), and reaffirmed that nonbinary life is filled with - spoiler - JOY!
July 23, 2023
Love the focus on joy, with a great introduction to the concept of non-binary, the book has a glossary of relevant terms, chapters on make up, how to be a good ally all peppered with quotes from non-binary people. Interesting and a good starting point.
With thanks to Netgalley and the publisher for an ARC in exchange for an honest review.
With thanks to Netgalley and the publisher for an ARC in exchange for an honest review.
June 22, 2022
I read this as an ally & it was a great, informative & accessible read. Ben is great and highly recommend this book as well as follow them on Instagram.
July 21, 2022
Thank you to Netgalley and Jessica Kingsley Publishers for sending me an e-ARC of Ben Pechey's "The Book of Non-Binary Joy". All opinions are my own.
Have you ever wanted a guide on how to navigate your own gender journey (however long it may be)? Then you may want to pick up a copy of Ben Pechey's "The Book of Non-Binary Joy". This guide to navigating your appearance, pronouns, social life, and more is wonderful to help start you on your journey. However, it is just that - a way to start your journey. Once you have done some fill-in-the-blank amount of research, then anything Pechey says in BoNJ seems hollow and lackluster, simply because we have all heard it before. I will be honest - I started it back in March, put it down for 3 or so months, and then picked it back up in June simply because it was the only title I still had downloaded to my phone and I was bored. It is not a very engaging book once you know the information, which in and of itself is very simplistic - Pechey simply states that gender is what you make it and screw anyone who says otherwise in numerous different ways.
Do I think this is a great book for anyone who is curious about gender theory and wants to learn more from a. non-existent knowledge level? Yes, this is perfect for that reader. However, to anyone who has read more than 3 articles online about being nonbinary, this will be a dry read and quite frankly, a waste of time.
Have you ever wanted a guide on how to navigate your own gender journey (however long it may be)? Then you may want to pick up a copy of Ben Pechey's "The Book of Non-Binary Joy". This guide to navigating your appearance, pronouns, social life, and more is wonderful to help start you on your journey. However, it is just that - a way to start your journey. Once you have done some fill-in-the-blank amount of research, then anything Pechey says in BoNJ seems hollow and lackluster, simply because we have all heard it before. I will be honest - I started it back in March, put it down for 3 or so months, and then picked it back up in June simply because it was the only title I still had downloaded to my phone and I was bored. It is not a very engaging book once you know the information, which in and of itself is very simplistic - Pechey simply states that gender is what you make it and screw anyone who says otherwise in numerous different ways.
Do I think this is a great book for anyone who is curious about gender theory and wants to learn more from a. non-existent knowledge level? Yes, this is perfect for that reader. However, to anyone who has read more than 3 articles online about being nonbinary, this will be a dry read and quite frankly, a waste of time.
January 15, 2022
Thank you to NetGalley and Jessica Kingsley Publishers for providing me with an eARC in exchange for an honest review.
This book feels like a hug to my younger self. I was not familiar with Ben Pechey before reading this book, but their voice comes through instantly and it was so warm and inviting, and an integral part of the reading experience. Covering a broad range of topics surrounding the non-binary experience, this book provides an easy to absorb, introductory guide into all things non-binary. Paired with beautiful illustrations, fun activities, and bulleted takeaways to wrap up each chapter, I believe that any reader of this book can take away something from reading it, whether or not they are non-binary. It is so refreshing to see a book specifically about being non-binary, something I never had when I was younger and struggling with my identity, and that was part of what drew me to read it. While a lot of the content was things I already knew for myself, I enjoyed getting some of my experiences affirmed and I know that this book will be a valuable resource for many people.
This book feels like a hug to my younger self. I was not familiar with Ben Pechey before reading this book, but their voice comes through instantly and it was so warm and inviting, and an integral part of the reading experience. Covering a broad range of topics surrounding the non-binary experience, this book provides an easy to absorb, introductory guide into all things non-binary. Paired with beautiful illustrations, fun activities, and bulleted takeaways to wrap up each chapter, I believe that any reader of this book can take away something from reading it, whether or not they are non-binary. It is so refreshing to see a book specifically about being non-binary, something I never had when I was younger and struggling with my identity, and that was part of what drew me to read it. While a lot of the content was things I already knew for myself, I enjoyed getting some of my experiences affirmed and I know that this book will be a valuable resource for many people.
December 25, 2022
2.5 stars.
this book, on the whole, wasn’t entirely bad - the author just can’t write very well, and speaks weirdly pretentiously. for example, there’s a lot of odd choices of vocabulary, and i find it weird that they kept going “ok, now for chapter 2” like a kids’ show presenter. i also thought it would have more to do with actually being non-binary, like maybe describe some identities or common experiences, but it was just a very broad and general self-help book.
my notes:
- “my gender isn’t tinky winky” it’s just a cringe attempt at humour really isn’t it, very half-hearted
- why would you say agender people can be “super femme or even masc”? “even”? why is femme easy to believe but masc isn’t
- “non-fiction burnout” christ alive stop making up new slang for millennials to use on pastel-coloured instagram posts
- the “cisgender is not a slur” thing has no place in a non-fiction, factual book. it’s terf discourse - let it die on twitter
- surely it would be cisnormativity, not hetero?
- i absolutely agree it’s not a phase but sometimes gender (or sexual) identity can change and actually end up having been a phase so that’s good to mention
- it felt like a lot of stuff mentioned was like - mentioned, then never expanded upon? like you said what stereotypes were, then never made the point relevant? same with fight or flight ?? you can’t just give a definition then not connect it to the actual point of the book. why are you telling me what fight and flight is
- “poc women” is not a phrase that makes sense
- good point abt how not thinking abt issues won’t make them go away and it’s disrespectful to say it will however you can also choose not to think about them as much. good balance of control there
- not sure if i like the way privilege was explained? it’s good to point out that nb people have freed lives but privilege isn’t finding gold at the end of a struggle, it’s not having to struggle to find gold
- good point abt how nb people are emancipated from cis expectations
- misspelled “nerve-wracking” as “racking”
- the self expression supermarket was cute, as are the activities like word search, bingo etc
- seems to be mainly fem presenting people in the artwork
- “gift of time” section makes good points about how it takes so long to learn academically, so give yourself time to develop yourself personally too; it’s worth the time it takes bc you’re worth it; be realistic, bc it takes time; making urself a masterpiece will take time; you can’t just wait, you have to actively do it; it may be difficult; stop and breathe; reflect; and you don’t necessarily have to push it for it to work, as you’re changing either way subconsciously. some of these points are a bit contradicting, but all are valid.
- “this is quite literally a hydration check” what’s the pun here? what do you mean quite literally? isn’t it JUST a hydration check?
- hating on the aladdin remake just to seem culturally relevant and relatable
this book, on the whole, wasn’t entirely bad - the author just can’t write very well, and speaks weirdly pretentiously. for example, there’s a lot of odd choices of vocabulary, and i find it weird that they kept going “ok, now for chapter 2” like a kids’ show presenter. i also thought it would have more to do with actually being non-binary, like maybe describe some identities or common experiences, but it was just a very broad and general self-help book.
my notes:
- “my gender isn’t tinky winky” it’s just a cringe attempt at humour really isn’t it, very half-hearted
- why would you say agender people can be “super femme or even masc”? “even”? why is femme easy to believe but masc isn’t
- “non-fiction burnout” christ alive stop making up new slang for millennials to use on pastel-coloured instagram posts
- the “cisgender is not a slur” thing has no place in a non-fiction, factual book. it’s terf discourse - let it die on twitter
- surely it would be cisnormativity, not hetero?
- i absolutely agree it’s not a phase but sometimes gender (or sexual) identity can change and actually end up having been a phase so that’s good to mention
- it felt like a lot of stuff mentioned was like - mentioned, then never expanded upon? like you said what stereotypes were, then never made the point relevant? same with fight or flight ?? you can’t just give a definition then not connect it to the actual point of the book. why are you telling me what fight and flight is
- “poc women” is not a phrase that makes sense
- good point abt how not thinking abt issues won’t make them go away and it’s disrespectful to say it will however you can also choose not to think about them as much. good balance of control there
- not sure if i like the way privilege was explained? it’s good to point out that nb people have freed lives but privilege isn’t finding gold at the end of a struggle, it’s not having to struggle to find gold
- good point abt how nb people are emancipated from cis expectations
- misspelled “nerve-wracking” as “racking”
- the self expression supermarket was cute, as are the activities like word search, bingo etc
- seems to be mainly fem presenting people in the artwork
- “gift of time” section makes good points about how it takes so long to learn academically, so give yourself time to develop yourself personally too; it’s worth the time it takes bc you’re worth it; be realistic, bc it takes time; making urself a masterpiece will take time; you can’t just wait, you have to actively do it; it may be difficult; stop and breathe; reflect; and you don’t necessarily have to push it for it to work, as you’re changing either way subconsciously. some of these points are a bit contradicting, but all are valid.
- “this is quite literally a hydration check” what’s the pun here? what do you mean quite literally? isn’t it JUST a hydration check?
- hating on the aladdin remake just to seem culturally relevant and relatable
This entire review has been hidden because of spoilers.
February 2, 2022
*Special thanks to NetGallery and Jessica Kingsley Publishers for the eARC of this book*
TW: Mentions of transphobia, homophobia, gender dysphoria
(Note: This review is from a queer, disabled, non-binary person)
This book was a little delight to open, read, and experience. I loved the author's very clear voice and style that felt very conversational, which is great for avoiding the stale ted-talk like styles these books can often end up having. The illustrations were amazing. I loved them, all the differing presenting people. The style is cool and fresh and unique.
I do have one VERY big critique, but as important and necessary this critique is, I don't want it to seem like the rest of the book wasn't amazing.
As mentioned before I myself and disabled, and so when the author goes into the section "Avoid self-diagnosis online" my fur got rubbed the wrong way. This section is incredibly tone-deaf to the classism and ableism that act as gatekeepers to the neurodivergent community (gatekeeping being something the author even brings up earlier in the book).
Often neurodivergent people cannot afford to be formally diagnosed, or have family who keep them from being able to reach out to the proper doctors or channels to find out this information about themselves. Many in the neurodivergent community support and encourage self-diagnosis (never self-medication) as a great stepping point in a person understanding themselves and learning to love themselves and find support and structures to help them function until they can get a formal diagnosis.
Then there is the problem that so many trained professionals know little to nothing of CURRENT care and research on neurodivergence, and many often have incredibly outdated schools of thought that haven't been updated since many attended school 20-odd years before. Example of myself: I self-diagnosed myself as autistc ADHD, went to a general psychiatrist, who dismissed me, told me I was only being "emotional", wanted to prescribe me the wrong medication, and emotionally abused me. When I was lucky enough (and $1000.00 dollars richer enough) to go to a DR specializing in current research on ADHD and Autism, he diagnosed me right away as a classic case. Before this 'official' diagnosis however, my life had improved dramatically since I had read up and taught myself strategies to function that I learned online about ADHD and autism from advocates online. Self-diagnosis can be life-saving.
I'm not saying being professionally diagnosed is wrong, but I'm saying it is an incredibly gray area, and this section paints the picture of "Don't think you have X condition, only wait for a professional to diagnose you and they are always correct". I know this is not what the author is intending. They are trying to say "Don't just do a quiz and invest no other effort", but the message comes across ableist, classist, and wrong. Encourage professional diagnosis, yes, but also include they can get second opinions, find DRs who specialize in those areas, and until they can afford to be seen, work with strategies that can help in the area they think they fall into.
TW: Mentions of transphobia, homophobia, gender dysphoria
(Note: This review is from a queer, disabled, non-binary person)
This book was a little delight to open, read, and experience. I loved the author's very clear voice and style that felt very conversational, which is great for avoiding the stale ted-talk like styles these books can often end up having. The illustrations were amazing. I loved them, all the differing presenting people. The style is cool and fresh and unique.
I do have one VERY big critique, but as important and necessary this critique is, I don't want it to seem like the rest of the book wasn't amazing.
As mentioned before I myself and disabled, and so when the author goes into the section "Avoid self-diagnosis online" my fur got rubbed the wrong way. This section is incredibly tone-deaf to the classism and ableism that act as gatekeepers to the neurodivergent community (gatekeeping being something the author even brings up earlier in the book).
Often neurodivergent people cannot afford to be formally diagnosed, or have family who keep them from being able to reach out to the proper doctors or channels to find out this information about themselves. Many in the neurodivergent community support and encourage self-diagnosis (never self-medication) as a great stepping point in a person understanding themselves and learning to love themselves and find support and structures to help them function until they can get a formal diagnosis.
Then there is the problem that so many trained professionals know little to nothing of CURRENT care and research on neurodivergence, and many often have incredibly outdated schools of thought that haven't been updated since many attended school 20-odd years before. Example of myself: I self-diagnosed myself as autistc ADHD, went to a general psychiatrist, who dismissed me, told me I was only being "emotional", wanted to prescribe me the wrong medication, and emotionally abused me. When I was lucky enough (and $1000.00 dollars richer enough) to go to a DR specializing in current research on ADHD and Autism, he diagnosed me right away as a classic case. Before this 'official' diagnosis however, my life had improved dramatically since I had read up and taught myself strategies to function that I learned online about ADHD and autism from advocates online. Self-diagnosis can be life-saving.
I'm not saying being professionally diagnosed is wrong, but I'm saying it is an incredibly gray area, and this section paints the picture of "Don't think you have X condition, only wait for a professional to diagnose you and they are always correct". I know this is not what the author is intending. They are trying to say "Don't just do a quiz and invest no other effort", but the message comes across ableist, classist, and wrong. Encourage professional diagnosis, yes, but also include they can get second opinions, find DRs who specialize in those areas, and until they can afford to be seen, work with strategies that can help in the area they think they fall into.
July 13, 2025
Strangely it took me a while to finish this one. When I first started I thought it would be a quick, easy read, but somehow it was quite the opposite. I think it was the style of writing for me, it was to a certain extent very conversational, but there was a lot to absorb. This wasn’t a bad thing entirely, all of which was covered in this book I found to be really insightful. For me, a lot of it was reinforcing ways of thinking that I already had (or was trying to embody), but some parts did show me different ways of exploring (and accepting) my own gender identity.
What I liked most about this book was the way it was organised. The book covered topics all to do with gender and understanding who you are. From Understanding Your Past to Self-Expression, as well as Social Media which I think is something really important to cover. Each topic was covered in a really accessible way, and included anecdotes as well as a summary at the end of each chapter. As well as this, there is a really great list of resources in one of the last chapters for those who might want to know more (I want to point out that as this was originally published in the UK, the resources are UK based, but helpful – in some cases – none the less). This book also recommends some further reading on the topic of gender identity which I will definitely have a look at.
I think part of the reason that it took me a while read this is that I found the narrative voice a little grating. While it is conversational, I found it to be a little pushy. Despite this, I think that some people might find this a lot easier to read than other more factual (or even clinical) books on gender identity. I also found that while there were quite a few topics covered, the information seemed to be talked about at a surface level. Again, I think this would be helpful for some, but I was left wanting more from the book.
On the whole this is a really well thought out book, and great for someone who is just starting to question their identity, and needs a place to start. It is a wonderful safe space to explore their gender identity and what it means for them. It is accessible, and, as the title says, is an exploration of the joys your gender identity can bring you.
*For me this was more of a 3.5 stars for me
Thank you to NetGalley, the author, and the publisher for sending me this free eARC (eAdvanced Reader Copy). I am leaving this review voluntarily. This title will be published 19th May 2022.
What I liked most about this book was the way it was organised. The book covered topics all to do with gender and understanding who you are. From Understanding Your Past to Self-Expression, as well as Social Media which I think is something really important to cover. Each topic was covered in a really accessible way, and included anecdotes as well as a summary at the end of each chapter. As well as this, there is a really great list of resources in one of the last chapters for those who might want to know more (I want to point out that as this was originally published in the UK, the resources are UK based, but helpful – in some cases – none the less). This book also recommends some further reading on the topic of gender identity which I will definitely have a look at.
I think part of the reason that it took me a while read this is that I found the narrative voice a little grating. While it is conversational, I found it to be a little pushy. Despite this, I think that some people might find this a lot easier to read than other more factual (or even clinical) books on gender identity. I also found that while there were quite a few topics covered, the information seemed to be talked about at a surface level. Again, I think this would be helpful for some, but I was left wanting more from the book.
On the whole this is a really well thought out book, and great for someone who is just starting to question their identity, and needs a place to start. It is a wonderful safe space to explore their gender identity and what it means for them. It is accessible, and, as the title says, is an exploration of the joys your gender identity can bring you.
*For me this was more of a 3.5 stars for me
Thank you to NetGalley, the author, and the publisher for sending me this free eARC (eAdvanced Reader Copy). I am leaving this review voluntarily. This title will be published 19th May 2022.
January 16, 2022
I received this book from NetGalley in exchange for an honest review... and I'll be perfectly honest that it truly was a book of pure joy. When I read on my Kindle, I like to use different colors to categorize things as best as possible. I used yellow to highlight quotes that resonated deeply with me. Out of my 89 highlights, 21 of them were yellow.
When reading this book, I tried to look at it through the eyes of my younger self, who I think would have needed this book quite deeply. Ben themself mentions throughout the book that some pieces of the book are not for everyone, and this is certainly true. While I perhaps didn't need makeup recommendations, I did need reminders that I do not carry the weight of responsibility of education on my shoulders.
"We are not a trend. We are finally getting the visibility we deserve." This phrase outlines itself the importance of a book like this. Since coming out as nonbinary (agender, to be specific), I have struggled with visibility and understanding. Books like I Wish You All the Best have been so encouraging. That was the first book I'd ever read with a main character who used my pronouns! Since then, I have been realizing that the literature is out there... it simply wasn't made *visible* to me.
This book was far from perfect, of course, because quite simply not everybody's viewpoints on how to approach activisism will perfectly align. That being said, I felt the way Ben approaches educating allies in the book to be that gentle yet informative way that I find to be the most amicable way of doing so that allows for sense and understanding.
I definitely want to give this book to anyone with questions about being nonbinary. Whether that be someone questioning their identity or a new ally. Perhaps the next time I get invasive questions, I'll just shove this book at them instead of carrying the burden myself, as the author suggests. This book was a pleasant reminder that I do not have to feel exhausted perpetually defending my gender expression and who I am.
My last note! I would recommend a physical copy of this book. There are segments of it that are interactive and using my Kindle did decrease my enjoyment of those parts a bit. Which is not the book or the authors fault, of course!
When reading this book, I tried to look at it through the eyes of my younger self, who I think would have needed this book quite deeply. Ben themself mentions throughout the book that some pieces of the book are not for everyone, and this is certainly true. While I perhaps didn't need makeup recommendations, I did need reminders that I do not carry the weight of responsibility of education on my shoulders.
"We are not a trend. We are finally getting the visibility we deserve." This phrase outlines itself the importance of a book like this. Since coming out as nonbinary (agender, to be specific), I have struggled with visibility and understanding. Books like I Wish You All the Best have been so encouraging. That was the first book I'd ever read with a main character who used my pronouns! Since then, I have been realizing that the literature is out there... it simply wasn't made *visible* to me.
This book was far from perfect, of course, because quite simply not everybody's viewpoints on how to approach activisism will perfectly align. That being said, I felt the way Ben approaches educating allies in the book to be that gentle yet informative way that I find to be the most amicable way of doing so that allows for sense and understanding.
I definitely want to give this book to anyone with questions about being nonbinary. Whether that be someone questioning their identity or a new ally. Perhaps the next time I get invasive questions, I'll just shove this book at them instead of carrying the burden myself, as the author suggests. This book was a pleasant reminder that I do not have to feel exhausted perpetually defending my gender expression and who I am.
My last note! I would recommend a physical copy of this book. There are segments of it that are interactive and using my Kindle did decrease my enjoyment of those parts a bit. Which is not the book or the authors fault, of course!
June 22, 2022
“The Book of Non-Binary Joy” by Ben Pechey ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ Genre: Non Fiction/Self Help. Subtitle:“Embracing the Power of YOU”
Ben Pechey (they/them), social media creator/LGBTQ+ advocate, wrote this to help non-binary people be themselves instead of being shaped by other’s opinions. Pechey speaks directly to non-binary people with warm, practical advice. They also speak to binary folks who want to learn and be supportive. It’s a chance to learn from someone who possibly thinks, acts, believes, and writes differently than you. Reading about different beliefs and contemplating adjusting your beliefs almost always involves some discomfort. Absorb this experience.
It’s not the job of non-binary folks to educate everyone they meet. But when you choose to make yourself visible by writing and publishing a book, you take on a bit more responsibility. Ben Pechey, you are a natural teacher/mentor! As a former educator, I know folks learn best from teachers/mentors who use conversational style, metaphors and stories, and provide real and practical examples. That’s your style. In fact, I wish you would teach a class based on this book. Each chapter ends with “Key Takeaways”, there are fun puzzles and quizzes interspersed throughout the book, and a list of resources (mostly UK-based) Did I mention how much I love their writing style?
One thing I learned: Cisgender isn’t a slur; it’s just an easy term to describe someone who accepts their birth gender without getting into describing their exact gender or sexuality. I don’t feel a need to use it for myself, but now I get the reason it exists.
Another thing I learned: Those who don’t fit neatly into society’s “ideals” are often seen as a threat to the stability of society. One tiny way I, as an ally, can help is to list my pronouns (she/her) on my social media, etc. If everyone did this, it would help normalize pronoun naming and take some pressure off non-binary folks. (See “Victories Greater than Death” by @CharlieJaneAnders for a story about a society where pronoun naming is normal.)
Bottom line: I’d rather live in a a world of color than only black and white, a world where yes and no are accompanied by maybe or whatever, and a world with more than 2 binary options. Thanks darling Ben Pechey, and it’s 4 joyful stars from me!🌵📚💁🏼♀️”
Ben Pechey (they/them), social media creator/LGBTQ+ advocate, wrote this to help non-binary people be themselves instead of being shaped by other’s opinions. Pechey speaks directly to non-binary people with warm, practical advice. They also speak to binary folks who want to learn and be supportive. It’s a chance to learn from someone who possibly thinks, acts, believes, and writes differently than you. Reading about different beliefs and contemplating adjusting your beliefs almost always involves some discomfort. Absorb this experience.
It’s not the job of non-binary folks to educate everyone they meet. But when you choose to make yourself visible by writing and publishing a book, you take on a bit more responsibility. Ben Pechey, you are a natural teacher/mentor! As a former educator, I know folks learn best from teachers/mentors who use conversational style, metaphors and stories, and provide real and practical examples. That’s your style. In fact, I wish you would teach a class based on this book. Each chapter ends with “Key Takeaways”, there are fun puzzles and quizzes interspersed throughout the book, and a list of resources (mostly UK-based) Did I mention how much I love their writing style?
One thing I learned: Cisgender isn’t a slur; it’s just an easy term to describe someone who accepts their birth gender without getting into describing their exact gender or sexuality. I don’t feel a need to use it for myself, but now I get the reason it exists.
Another thing I learned: Those who don’t fit neatly into society’s “ideals” are often seen as a threat to the stability of society. One tiny way I, as an ally, can help is to list my pronouns (she/her) on my social media, etc. If everyone did this, it would help normalize pronoun naming and take some pressure off non-binary folks. (See “Victories Greater than Death” by @CharlieJaneAnders for a story about a society where pronoun naming is normal.)
Bottom line: I’d rather live in a a world of color than only black and white, a world where yes and no are accompanied by maybe or whatever, and a world with more than 2 binary options. Thanks darling Ben Pechey, and it’s 4 joyful stars from me!🌵📚💁🏼♀️”
May 16, 2022
Thank you to Netgalley, Jessica Kingsley Publishers and Ben Pechey for allowing me to read the eARC of this book in exchange for an honest review.
The Book of Non-Binary Joy is an unapologetic and vibrant exploration into what it means to be non-binary and how you can derive joy from being non-binary. It's an uplifting celebration of all things non-binary and offers readers ways of being that bit kinder to themselves in moments when our current society makes it harder for them to live their authentic selves.
The author has a very distinctive, friendly tone of voice. It's sort of like you're reading a conversation with a friend which I can see working well as an audiobook. It did take me a while to get used to being called 'darling' every few paragraphs, but eventually I lent into it because after all, this book is about joy! I've come to the conclusion that because there was a truly incredible amount of times the word 'darling' was used it must be some kind of inside joke or potentially drinking game material. Either way it adds a fun flair to the narrative.
I think this book is probably best suited younger audiences (perhaps 14+ years as there is some swearing and adult themes) and would be particularly validifying for anyone at the beginning of their self discovery journey. I know I would have adored for this book to have been in my school library when I was younger, but I personally didn't come away from the book having learnt much I didn't already know and didn't always agree with some of the author's opinions.
I did however really like the inclusion of the bitesize summaries at the end of each chapter as it's these snippets that you're going to want to make notes of to remember. I also read the book in chronological order, however also liked that the author noted that you can read the chapters in whichever way is going to suit you best. I can see this book working well as something that you check in with occasionally and re-read a section that feels most relevant or needed at specific times.
Whilst this book wasn't particularly to my taste, I am really pleased that it's been written because it's a much needed positive piece of representation for non-binary people.
The Book of Non-Binary Joy is an unapologetic and vibrant exploration into what it means to be non-binary and how you can derive joy from being non-binary. It's an uplifting celebration of all things non-binary and offers readers ways of being that bit kinder to themselves in moments when our current society makes it harder for them to live their authentic selves.
The author has a very distinctive, friendly tone of voice. It's sort of like you're reading a conversation with a friend which I can see working well as an audiobook. It did take me a while to get used to being called 'darling' every few paragraphs, but eventually I lent into it because after all, this book is about joy! I've come to the conclusion that because there was a truly incredible amount of times the word 'darling' was used it must be some kind of inside joke or potentially drinking game material. Either way it adds a fun flair to the narrative.
I think this book is probably best suited younger audiences (perhaps 14+ years as there is some swearing and adult themes) and would be particularly validifying for anyone at the beginning of their self discovery journey. I know I would have adored for this book to have been in my school library when I was younger, but I personally didn't come away from the book having learnt much I didn't already know and didn't always agree with some of the author's opinions.
I did however really like the inclusion of the bitesize summaries at the end of each chapter as it's these snippets that you're going to want to make notes of to remember. I also read the book in chronological order, however also liked that the author noted that you can read the chapters in whichever way is going to suit you best. I can see this book working well as something that you check in with occasionally and re-read a section that feels most relevant or needed at specific times.
Whilst this book wasn't particularly to my taste, I am really pleased that it's been written because it's a much needed positive piece of representation for non-binary people.
December 17, 2021
This truly was a delight. Like a slow-burn romance, or satisfying session of self-indulgence and self-care. There were times that I was worried that it might fall short, that it might leave me wishing it was more, but as I sat with it and let its content seep in I realised how much it was already doing. I accepted the book for what it was already doing and allowed myself to see that magic that it already contained.
There was a lot in this that a cisgendered person (such as myself) can take on board as good life advice; but I'm really glad that this book caters specifically to non-binary people. My main takeaway and one of the books' very well made points: is to be absolutely in awe of non-binary and trans people for already being several steps ahead of cisgendered people on the journey of self-understanding.
Ben's voice is crucial to this book. Both in terms of how they come across as a character but also to help understand intonation occasionally. Their voice just bounces off the page. So much so that I imagined I could hear them talking to me.
And - while not wishing to give them more work! - if they could read this as an audiobook it would be just *chef's kiss!" (not to mention more accessible for the visually impaired or those whose neuro-divergence is more receptive to audio than visual). However, having said that - I recognise the puzzles would present difficulties.
I would also suggest (if I may) that the book cover is changed to feature Ben. Fashion and visual representation is obviously important to Ben as a person, to their journey as a non-binary person and as a theme of the book itself. I'm not a marketing exec, but as a consumer I felt more connected to Ben as the author after I looked them up online and saw photos of them on their agency's page.
I wish Ben the very best as the next chapters of their life are written - can't wait to hear/see what they do next.
Thank you to Jessica Kingsley Publishers for an ARC via NetGalley
There was a lot in this that a cisgendered person (such as myself) can take on board as good life advice; but I'm really glad that this book caters specifically to non-binary people. My main takeaway and one of the books' very well made points: is to be absolutely in awe of non-binary and trans people for already being several steps ahead of cisgendered people on the journey of self-understanding.
Ben's voice is crucial to this book. Both in terms of how they come across as a character but also to help understand intonation occasionally. Their voice just bounces off the page. So much so that I imagined I could hear them talking to me.
And - while not wishing to give them more work! - if they could read this as an audiobook it would be just *chef's kiss!" (not to mention more accessible for the visually impaired or those whose neuro-divergence is more receptive to audio than visual). However, having said that - I recognise the puzzles would present difficulties.
I would also suggest (if I may) that the book cover is changed to feature Ben. Fashion and visual representation is obviously important to Ben as a person, to their journey as a non-binary person and as a theme of the book itself. I'm not a marketing exec, but as a consumer I felt more connected to Ben as the author after I looked them up online and saw photos of them on their agency's page.
I wish Ben the very best as the next chapters of their life are written - can't wait to hear/see what they do next.
Thank you to Jessica Kingsley Publishers for an ARC via NetGalley
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