How to Make Someone Fall in Love With You in 90 Minutes or Less

by Nicholas Boothman

Building on the power of first impressions, Nicholas Boothman shows how to find and meet the love of your life—and have that person fall in love with you—in a mere 90 minutes, or approximately the time it takes to have a first dinner date. Now in paperback, this follow-up to his bestselling How to Make Someone Like You in 90 Seconds or Less is updated throughout with information on Internet dating, bringing together all of Mr. Boothman's considerable interpersonal skills to the problem of finding lasting love, fast. And it works: The feedback Boothman has received from a number of his clients begins, "Please come to my wedding. . . ." Starting with a series of revealing self-assessment tests that show how to find your Matched Opposite (a person who makes you feel complete), here is how to make a fabulous first impression, with tips on everything from attitude to accessories; how to be charming, not alarming; introductions, opening lines, and the 1-2-3 mantra of never hesitating. There are techniques for starting and maintaining conversation and for finding "Me Too" moments, plus the importance of flirting, incidental touching, rules of self-disclosure, and more. Real-life examples and analyses of actual conversations show the method at work.

Genres: Self Help, Psychology, Nonfiction, Love, Relationships, Audiobook

336 pages, Paperback

First published December 1, 2008

About the author

I am passionate about human potential.

I spent the first 25 years of my working life as a fashion photographer and as a father of five children. I met so many people with tremendous potential but without any people skills - they were like roses with rubber bands wrapped around them - and they'd never blossom until someone took off that rubber band. I made up my mind to be that person.

I took a risk and traded in my cameras for a laptop and started out going into schools teaching kids how to ace interviews and get jobs. From there it grew fast and within 6 months I was invited to be the kick-off speaker at the AT&T Canada annual convention at the Metro Convention centre in Toronto.

Today I speak all over the world and my books have been translated into more than 30 language. My hottest business speech is "Be Brave - Take Risks." And why not? Taking risks is the only way businesses can grow and innovate.

More than 500 corporations, thousands of small businesses, and six of the world's leading business schools have contacted me to rally and inspire their staff to take risks and connect.

Reviews

[Nicole D. · Rating 2 out of 5]

I don't ever read self-help books but this one caught my attention. At first, i found it really interesting but then I got really really bored. It's pretty much common sense.. As I said, I'm not a fan of self-help books so idk if it's fair to be rating this one, but 2.5 stars.

[Shirin Abdel Rahman · Rating 4 out of 5]

The first few chapters are pretty traditional,about what to wear,where to socialize,how to get someone's attention and how to have an interesting conversation,then the NLP chapters ( Neuro linguistic programming),how to apply nlp rules such as irresistible communication patterns to get someone interest and keep it,last chapters are about biology,human nature etc,interesting book and approach worth a read.

[Ingy Zeini · Rating 4 out of 5]

well i am embaressed!

[Carla Jean]

Yes, this is another one I read for a review. Sensing a theme?

[Jason Gill · Rating 4 out of 5]

I listened to the audiobook and really enjoyed his voice for the book. The information is good and takes time to process. To really get the most, you must dive deep in your person testing.

[Nina Duncombe]

Way off base

As a female, this is way off base on so many things. Staring into their eyes at first meeting= psycho. Using their first name in the first moments of casual conversation= derogatory, insulting, telemarketer tactic. I can go on and on but just save your time. This book will quickly turn wonen against you as a misogynistic overbearing creeper.

[General · Rating 4 out of 5]

Gives some good glimps on how to become empathic with people to get their attention. Interesting.

[Akanksha Chhabra · Rating 4 out of 5]

Decent book, it has good pointers for people (like me) who are less social and are struggling with dating. Possibly a no brainer for those who are quite social and dating comes naturally to them.

[Marranda · Rating 4 out of 5]

This is a more psychological, scientific approach to being "loveable" and it's pretty accurate information!

[Mari · Rating 4 out of 5]

Seda raamatut soovitaksin kindlalt inimesele, kes pole ammu kohtingumaailmas olnud, aga on uuesti nt sunnitud. Puust ja punaseks.

[Kristiaan J · Rating 3 out of 5]

Skimmed this book. Overlap with personal and professional relationship goals and communication strategies. Good pointers for the decade it was written in.

[Nicholas Cho · Rating 5 out of 5]

If you choose to implement the techniques and the theories that are mentioned in this book then you just may be able to accomplish making someone fall in love with you in less than 90 minutes!
Sure, there are practices that aren't backed up by scientific evidence, but I have tried them and they have worked for me, they just may work for you too.

The author introduces an essential property of how to make someone fall in love with you and for you to stay in love with that person. The author described this property coherently so that it made perfect sense and, from personal experience, 20+ experience in life with interacting with people, I agree with the author's notion.

Sure some views in this book are common sense, but they're views that we may consciously forget about. Definitely good to read this book and to once again be aware of these views that promote effective relationships.

[Tiffany · Rating 4 out of 5]

I thought this was a very informative book to help people find their "matched opposite" which will help them to feel indescribable joy and an enormous relief.

Factors for falling in love:
The right person
Specific body language
Mutual self disclosure
Discovering the other person liked them

It's about emotional progression, not length of time. His research found:
1. Falling in love and staying in love are completely separate events.
2. We don't fall in love with other people. We fall in love with the feelings we get when we're with them.
3. Certain people balance us and make us feel complete socially and psychologically while others make us feel insecure, tired, and zap our self confidence or turn us into something we're not. When you meet the person who balances and completes you, you have found your "matched opposite."

[Laila · Rating 3 out of 5]

This was a good read. Although it often focuses on concepts and behaviours that are common sense and innate to most people, drawing attention to the subjectmatter allows a person to improve and finesse the skills and attitudes discussed. The author provides a new concept and supporting narratives in every chapter. I always take the advice of books like these with a grain of salt (there is not absolute recipe for human interaction), but I think many of the ideas were well-reasoned. I also believe that attitudes, like being a charming person, is useful outside the realm of romantic partnership (in the workplace, with friends, etc). I only wish I had taken notes on the key recommendations, so as to reference them as needed.

Overall rating: 3.5/5

[Milkiways · Rating 1 out of 5]

This book basically focused on developing people skills under various social situations. This could be very helpful to teenagers who are looking for the same. On the other hand, it doesn't supply any new info to adults. Entire book revolves around... people with opposite personalities compliment each other thus, those relationship last longer. One has to socialize a lot to find friends/life partner that compliments their personality!!!

[maria fernanda varela · Rating 3 out of 5]

good tips but somewhat old fashioned

I found pars of it somewhat cliche.
it relies heavily on traditional gender roles and perceptions, discounting that androginy ( or level of androginy) also plays into the success of a potential match.
I got a feeling that women should better act delicate and coy.... maybethat is a reality that I am not ready to accept, but it offends me deeply. This also came through in most (if not all) the examples/anecdotes in the book, where men always have a higher power position, and the women are school teachers, librarians, assistant of somessort

[Kristine · Rating 4 out of 5]

I seriously devoured this book! I got a lot of techniques I've learned from this book to practice till I will finally meet my Mr. Right. I thought before that I must simply wait for the love of my life but now that I've read this, one can actually attract and know where to look to meet his/her destined one.

[Ghynwa · Rating 4 out of 5]

a very interesting book although the title may seem unrealistic. Its divided into several parts, which include general things like appearance and socializing skills and behavior. it focuses on chemistry , first impressions, intimacy and you.. it all begins with you. its worth the read , definitely enjoyed it.

[محمد أبوسلامة · Rating 2 out of 5]

nice but boring!! .. the writer should show his idea in a simple way.

[George Araman · Rating 4 out of 5]

Very interesting concepts, tools and techniques

[Nicole · Rating 3 out of 5]

My first book of 2017 wasn't much of a read. More like a summary of what I've known already plus some common sense.

[JoAnn · Rating 3 out of 5]

3.5 stars if i had to be precise.