How to Raise a Child with a High EQ: A Parents' Guide to Emotional Intelligence

by Lawrence E. Shapiro

Studies show that emotional intelligence -- the social and emotional skills that make up what we call character -- is more important to your child's success than the cognitive intelligence measured by IQ. And unlike IQ, emotional intelligence can be developed in kids at all stages. Filled with games, checklists and practical parenting techniques, How to Raise a Child with a High EQ   will help your child to cope with -- and overcome -- the emotional stress of modern times and the normal problems of growing up.

Genres: Parenting, Psychology, Education, Self Help, Nonfiction

348 pages, Paperback

First published January 1, 1997

Reviews

[Phoenix Perpetuale · Rating 5 out of 5]

How to raise a child with a High EQ: A Parents' Guide to Emotional intelligence by Lawrence E. Shapiro is a great source of information on how to raise emotional adequate children. Here are schedules and games to play on this topic. Advice for parents and teachers. I enjoy this book and I will reread it again.

[David · Rating 4 out of 5]

This is a good guide to help raise socially conscious children. As a high school teacher, I can tell you that the principles taught in this book are lacking in today's youth. Even some of the "good kids" I teach are lacking in EQ to the point that it damages their ability to communicate and relate to me, and worse, other students. When the emotional intelligence breaks down, the ability to think critically also breaks down, as proven by the studies of Vygotsky and many others. I always find it interesting to see how quickly students with high EQ function, learning more, sometimes much more than their counterparts with higher IQ.

I read this with the intent of helping my students gain a higher EQ, but much of it doesn't translate to the classroom. Most of what is contained here only parents can apply. So please read it and apply it.

[Sarah]

This contains more "how-to" in the form of checklists, etc. It contained some surprising concepts to me, like "realistic thinking". I got about halfway through and then returned it to its owner, intending to buy it...but bought the more recent similiarly titled book by John Gottman. We'll see if I like that one.

[Tania · Rating 4 out of 5]

This a library book--not one I would own. Although I did write down some notes to keep in the back of my planner for reference. He has written this so you can easily just read a chapter or two for what you're looking for. And he's written very good summaries at the end of each chapter.

[Erin Goettsch · Rating 3 out of 5]

This is nothing earth-shattering, but it has some good (interesting/practical) ideas, and the writing is really accessible.

[Cyndi · Rating 4 out of 5]

A lot of good ideas and advice. Especially helpful for people with young children.

[Diana Lorena SRP · Rating 4 out of 5]

Estoy leyendo este libro 20 años después de su publicación.

Es necesario tener esto en mente, ya que 20 años después, los avances en neurociencias han sido muchos, y alguna información de la aquí manejada ya es irrelevante.

Sin embargo, lo que sigue siendo igual de relevante (o incluso más), es la importancia de desarrollar habilidades socioemocionales en los niños (o psicosociales, o de inteligencia emocional, como quieran llamarlas, el título me parece lo de menos).

Considero muy útil que el autor incluya las etapas de desarrollo de las diferentes habilidades, ya que esto nos da herramientas a todos los que trabajamos con niños, para saber qué podemos exigirles y qué no.

Sin embargo, no me parece que en este tipo de libros se incluyan técnicas terapéuticas para que los padres apliquen solos. Considero que siempre es necesario el acompañamiento de personal profesional entrenado, para aplicar cualquier tipo de conocimiento. No es prudente leer algo en un libro o una página y correr a experimentar con nuestros niños como si fueran ratas de laboratorio.

[Livia Vozaryova · Rating 5 out of 5]

Kniha, ktorú musím mať vo svojej knižnici.
...
Autor zrozumiteľne vysvetľuje dôležitosť vysokého EQ v modernej spoločnosti, ako aj to, aký veľký vplyv ma práve rodič (rodina) na rozvoj EQ svojho dieťaťa. Množstvo cvičení a hier, ktoré pomôžu k rozvoji EQ, no zároveň zmysluplne vyplnia rodinny čas sú bonusom.
...
Napriek tomu, že kniha je viac ako 20 rokov stará, stále má čitateľovi čo ponúknuť.

[Andrea Jakovac · Rating 3 out of 5]

I didn't like the way this book was written. For me personally it has a lot of informations that are well known and common sense, lot of examples that are short and don't really teach you anything.

Part that I really didn't like is when they say how competition is bad for children and in next chapter describes a game with ' whoever has the most points is the winner '.

[Jim Tincher · Rating 3 out of 5]

While I enjoyed reading this book a few years ago, upon this read I felt that it tried to do too much - discussing every possible parenting issue for all ages of children. The result is very general advice.

[Pixie · Rating 4 out of 5]

Another great book for teachers and administrators.

[Mary]

Didn't get very far. I'll try again later.

[Shannon Lionheart · Rating 4 out of 5]

Highly recommend for anyone who works with or has children.

Most games are meant for children under the age of 12.

[Kozue · Rating 4 out of 5]

Lots of ideas for EQ activities

[Rob · Rating 5 out of 5]

Insightful

[Rodrigo Del Bosque · Rating 4 out of 5]

Es muy buena herramienta ya que incluye dinámicas y tips para desarrollar la inteligencia emocional de los menores

[Fatima Al-Jishi · Rating 4 out of 5]

يتناول الكتاب تعليم الأطفال القيام بأنشطة لتحسين مهاراتهم العاطفية والإجتماعية، والتي يعبر عنها ب *(الذكاء العاطفي) *، وتتضمن عدة مهارات منها:
*التعاطف والإهتمام بالآخرين*
*‏الأمانة*
*‏الخجل والشعور بالذنب*
*‏ التفكير الواقعي*
*‏التفاؤل*
*‏حل المشكلات*
*‏ تقدير عواطف الآخرين*

كذلك يحاول الكتاب تصحيح بعض الثقافات الأمريكية الخاطئة من التركيز على الذات والتنافس، وزرع قيمة الجهد الجماعي والإنجاز الجماعي في مقابلها.

كتاب ممتاز، فيه تطويل في الجانب النظري والعلمي يسبب مللًا نوعًا ما. لو اقتصر على الجانب العملي لكان أفضل.

🌠 *اقتباسات*
🔸 إذا كان الوالدان يحرصان على تنشئة أطفالهما متمتعين بقدر كبير من الذكاء العاطفي فإنه يتحتم عليهما أن يقوما بوضع حدود صارمة يطبقانها على أطفالهما في ما يتعلق بمشاهدتهم للتلفزيون.
🔸 على مدى عشرات السنين ركز علماء النفس على الآثار الإيجابية لقراءه الآباء قصصًا لأبنائهم. فهذه تعد طريقة سليمة لتعليم الأطفال التفكير الواقعي.
🔸يتخذ أطفالك من تصرفاتك مثلًا يحتذى؛ فهم يمتصون النقاط الطيبة والنقاط السيئة في تصرفاتك.


🌠 *التقييم*
٤ من ٥
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[Rui Barbosa · Rating 3 out of 5]

O livro tem o titulo "A Inteligência Emocional na Criança" e provavelmente não é este, uma vez que foi escrito por Adelheid Muller-Lissner e não pela autora aqui identificada, mas como não o encontrei, fica aqui registado.

É um livro que analisa e defende a importância do trabalho que os pais e todos os que rodeiam a criança, devem efectuar, para a desenvolver e ensinar. Coloca este tema a par do desenvolvimento intelectual e faz-nos pensar sobre atitudes e comportamentos.

Não é um guia prático, por isso não se espere grandes conselhos ou formas de actuação, é mais um livro analítico sobre o aspecto das emoções, como detectá-las, a sua importância e os aspectos a que devemos estar atentos, mas é destinado essencialmente a fazer-nos reflectir e pensar em como essas reflexões podem levar à modificação e adaptação das nossas atitudes face à criança.

A importância do seu desenvolvimento emocional é especialmente relevante na percepção do seu eu "intrapessoal" mas também fundamental no preparar do papel do "interpessoal", ou seja da relação com os outros, que durante toda a sua vivência esse novo ser terá de desempenhar.

A editora é a Pergaminho e foi traduzido por Maria João Brunner, pena é algumas gralhas e algum português mais pobre, que torna algumas frases sem sentido ou difíceis de entender.

[Isidro Gomez · Rating 3 out of 5]

“Todo maestro debera de leer este libro esto nos permite trabajar de una forma mas adecuada con los niños y sobre todo tomar en cuenta sus pensdamientos sus emociones y todo eso que envuelve el sentimiento de un niño adelante Profr. hay que leerlo ok.”

[سُميَّة · Rating 5 out of 5]

كتاب رائع يتحدث عن طرق جديدة لتنشئة الأطفال و كيفية غرز القيم الأخلاقية و التخلص من العواطف الأخلاقية السلبية وتطرق المؤلف لمحاولات التنمية الفكرية الخاصة بالذكاء العاطفى
أيضاً تدريب الأطفال على صناعة الأهداف و المثابرة للوصول إليها :)

كتاب راااااااااائع انصح الجميع بقراءته.

[Vesna Bodiroza · Rating 3 out of 5]

How to Raise a Child with a High EQ: A Parents' Guide to Emotional Intelligence

[Diana · Rating 5 out of 5]

قرأت نسخه مترجمه بالعربية وبرغم من أن الترجمه ليست كما ينبغي إلا أني قرأت الكتاب مرتين

[Wendy · Rating 3 out of 5]

kinda basic. a few good ideas.