You feel betrayed. Someone close to you has hurt you deeply. You want to move past the pain and your obsession with what happened, but how? The usual strategies--trying to get even, trying to forget--just aren't working for you. Perhaps it's time for a different approach. Jack Miller unpacks the different ways that people respond to betrayal and rejection and offers a new way to respond--forgiveness rooted in the gospel of Jesus Christ. Forgiveness doesn't mean "forgetting" or acting as if nothing happened, but it does mean being free from hurt and able to be like Jesus and return good for evil.
The Lord used this afternoon read powerfully to show me sins of self righteousness and judgment on others that I was unaware of. It also deepened my understanding of forgiveness so that I see how forgiveness of others flows from God’s forgiveness to me.
The most insightful thing for me was understanding how blindness goes with sin. While we were yet sinners, Christ died for us. Father, forgive them for they know not what they do. Jesus Christ loved us sinners when we didn’t get it—at all. Having a little bit of my own blindness and sin revealed to me and seeing Christ’s love for me has released me to forgive and love—in some ways that I didn’t even know I needed and also in some ways I knew I needed and didn’t think possible. Praise the Lord!
Love Jack Miller. He brings a good grasp of the gospel and a wealth of experience in pastoral counseling together to address responding to deep hurt with forgiveness. 20m read.