Recovery from Narcissistic Abuse, Gaslighting, Codependency and Complex PTSD

by Linda Hill

This groundbreaking, therapist-recommended book includes four books (workbooks and guides) that will teach you from start to finish, everything you need to know about Narcissistic Abuse, Gaslighting, Codependency and Complex PTSD, as well as how to recover from each one of them.Book 1: Narcissistic Abuse Recovery✔️ Learn about different types of narcissists, their personalities, and how they behave so you can spot them.
✔️ Discover what manipulation tactics narcissists and other toxic people practice to keep you close and how to break free.
✔️ Learn how to transform your mindset so you have strength to remove yourself from the toxic relationship.
✔️ Understand how to recover from the trauma caused by the relationship with a narcissist.
✔️ Identify strategies to get on, and stay on, the recovery path and become mentally tough.
✔️ Learn how to stop attracting narcissists to ensure any future relationships are healthy ones.
✔️ And much, much more...



Book 2: Gaslighting✓ Understand what gaslighting, love bombing and other tactics of abuse the narcissist uses.
✓ Learn how to break free and recover from narcissistic abuse.
✓ Read real-world scenarios and phrases between the narcissist and the victims in romantic relationships, friendships, families, the workplace, and more.
✓ Identify the 10 stages of gaslighting which are used to gain control of the victim – how and why it works.
✓ Understand simple yet effective strategies to protect yourself from being manipulated and abused.
✓ Learn important ways to heal and move on in your relationships regardless of what has happened.
✓ And much, much more...



Book 3: Codependency Recovery Workbook✓ Investigate the 5 primary causes of codependency that may be the root of your symptoms and powerful strategies to deal with them.
✓ Understand “The Giver” and “The Taker” roles and how they contribute to the unhealthy dynamic of the relationship.
✓ Read common scenarios of codependent relationships and dialogues to help you understand what it looks like in real life.
✓ Take the Codependency Quiz so you can look at your relationship and find codependent tendencies, change your behaviors, and build better relationships.
✓ Learn what the 6 types of boundaries are, how to set them without feeling guilty, and how not to relapse.
✓ Discover the 7-step plan and learn powerful strategies that will help you recover from being in a codependent relationship
✓And much, much more…

Book 4: Complex PTSD Workbook✔️ Learn what Complex PTSD is, where it comes from, and how it differs from PTSD.
✔️ Discover examples and exercises designed to teach you effective strategies to uncover and overcome past traumatic events.
✔️ Learn tools to help you rewire your mind so you can overcome the fear and pain that accompany distressing situations.
✔️ Read insightful prompts and reflections to help you work through C-PTSD and regain emotional control.
✔️ Learn how to stop avoidance techniques you are subconsciously using in daily life which only keep you from progressing.

Genres: Self Help, Psychology, Mental Health, Nonfiction, Health, Counselling, Parenting

372 pages, Kindle Edition

Published September 23, 2022

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Reviews

[Darren Standar · Rating 1 out of 5]

Does anyone here not realize....this is a fake author with fake credentials...a fake book.

Check out the "author's website" -- it's a "parked" URL. Empty.

This is "her" bio on Amazon, below: Vague. No location. Nothing.

She's not "bestselling. She's probably AI.

Anyone who is relying on books for mental health advice should know that AI-generated trash is flooding Amazon -- and once there, it goes to all the other online sellers. Do we really want to support this fraud?

From "her" Amazon bio:
Linda Hill is a bestselling, therapist-endorsed author and life coach who focuses on writing about mental health, relationships, personal growth and stress management.

Linda Hill's books have been recommended by psychotherapist John Boswell, MSW, LCSW, who specializes in the treatment of stress, anxiety, PTSD, and trauma.

With a background in psychology, Linda Hill has written self-help books including the Codependency Recovery Workbook, which has taken Amazon’s #1 Bestseller spot in the US.

She wishes to share her passion for helping others reach their full potential by providing them with evidence-based information and clear, actionable advice based on years of research.

When Linda isn't focused on helping others live the life they want to live, she enjoys hiking and long walks along the beach.

Visit the homepage of Linda Hill at LindaHillAuthor.com to get tips, cheat sheets, ebooks and more sent to your inbox.

[Taury]

Informative book for work

[HippieWitch · Rating 4 out of 5]

Definitely gave me real good ideas to heal from my past abusive relationship. Definitely highly recommended

[Caitlin N. · Rating 2 out of 5]

This book is really for those who are fresh from abusive or traumatic situations and have yet to seek help. If you find yourself in that position, I definitely recommend this as a starting-point resource.

For someone who has been in therapy for years, already faced and named hard truths about my past, read several books on trauma and healing, integrated mindfulness and healing practices, etc., it's very basic and redundant. It also comes from a perspective of broad generalization, assuming the reader feels "stuck," "like their world is shattered," like they'll "never be happy again," like the reader has no goals or satisfaction in life - which felt alienating to me, as a reader who has made strides with my mental health, set boundaries in my life, and feels very happy with my accomplishments and goals.

It's a useful resource, I just don't think I was the target audience, though it did give me some valuable nuggets on codependent behavior, attachment styles, etc.

I would have bumped the rating up a star if the manuscript had been professionally edited. It's clear Ms Hill is very well educated and an expert in her field, but this book would come across much more authoritative and easy to read if it weren't riddled with grammatical flubs.

TLDR; a great resource for beginners to recognizing unhealthy patterns and starting to break free.

[Ellen Kunce · Rating 2 out of 5]

I read the version by Melody Thomas. This was just eh. It seems to me it was self-published, as many sentences and paragraphs are repetitive. Some of it did help- but if you’re looking for a CBT work book - this one isn’t it. Someone once told me that I’m not supposed to give 3 stars or less reviews on a book because then it won’t sell. Then I realized that person, thanks to this book, was trying to gaslight me agree with her opinions only. So that was helpful. But whoever published this— please go back and edit your book. You don’t need the whole history of narcissism in a book that’s supposed to be about Narcissistic Abuse Recovery. You also don’t need a whole section on defending the Narcissist and having a relationship with one, especially when the reader doesn’t want a relationship.

[sarah gabriella torres · Rating 3 out of 5]

it was fine. definitely an informative read but i think It's Not You: Identifying and Healing from Narcissistic People by Ramani Durvasula provided deeper insight and way more research on narcissistic personality traits and abuse. a lot of it served as a refresher on the aftereffects of being gaslit, codependent behaviors, family dysfunction, and attachment styles. however, i do think all of these subjects are rather complex and cannot be accurately be taught in bullet point form. i would much rather read entire books dedicated to each one of these topics BUT! this is literally a workbook i do not think mental health care providers are the intended audience. i can totally see this being super helpful for anyone who wants to take the first steps towards recovering from their trauma. i think it is a great resource to use if you are not ready to begin therapy, if you are not in a financial position that allows you to access to therapy, or if you are looking for something to compliment your therapy outside of sessions.

[Teri Uktena · Rating 2 out of 5]

Unfortunately this book is mostly just lists of terms and definitions. It gives you a list of traits for things, but doesn't explain why they are the way they are or where the information being provided comes from. For each of four sections there's a list which defines the subject or problem, then a list of things to do about it. These lists seem to be geared towards middle class western culture women so don't address how to manage these things if you're in poverty or homeless, if you're a South Asian immigrant, if your abuser is your parent who you are now primary care giver for and so on.

It's not that the listed things aren't relevant or helpful, they are, but without context or the deeper discussions necessary to understand and implement the remedies discussed, it's not very useful information and can lead to negative outcomes. Most of what is being discussed can't be resolved solely through "homework" or the actions of the reader alone and presenting them as if this is the case sets the reader up for guilt, negative self talk and possibly setbacks if not outright failure.

[Jam Rohr · Rating 5 out of 5]

My friend bought this for me as I was navigating a divorce. It was incredibly insightful, and I found numerous times where I would read exactly what I used to say while trying to save face for my ex that at the time I thought was normal, healthy, and caring for him. In reality I was immersed in a decade of manipulation and narcissistic abuse. I highly recommend this to every person who is in a relationship where you tell yourself things like “well at least he doesn’t hit me” or “well things could be worse” or “at least he’s working on his anger”

[Denise · Rating 5 out of 5]

Amazing!

All I can say is this book is amazing! This book has me feeling heard and feeling like someone gets it on a real level because sometimes it's hard for others to understand all you went through but this book is amazing and definitely worth buying to use as a workbook in the future! This book helped me out of a 12 year toxic relationship and onto better beliefs and knowing how to better myself! I bought it on kindle but now plan on getting a physical copy as I believe this book is an amazing tool to help!

[Emily Raines · Rating 2 out of 5]

If an undergraduate research paper met an Instagram graphic and had a child, this would be the result. It's hard not to scoff at advice that insinuates confronting a narcissist is the only way to build self esteem; I gave it a good effort and failed. You're better off reading nearly anything else. 2/5.

[Luna Jordan · Rating 2 out of 5]

This book needs to be reedited, then republished; it’s far too repetitive. And you don’t need to write about the entire history of narcissism when it’s about recovery from that kind of abuse; keep it short and simple next time. And with those edits (that won’t happen), the book would be more simple instead of too redundant.

[Kendra L. J. Hill-Hyson · Rating 5 out of 5]

A Must Read for NA/CPTSD/Codependency Survivors

I must begin with affirmation that you are not alone when choosing this book to heal. We are all around you, hidden in plain sight because of the abuses we sustained and now are trying to feel human again. We vivaciously chat you up in cue at the grocery store behind you, making that long wait at a busy time of day pass effortlessly though you may be the first person we have spoken to in days: our abuser is giving us the silent treatment for the umpteenth time over an overblown suggestion received as an attack on their ego.

Our eyes are swollen and red when, as our nurse, you lock eyes with us to call us back to the medical examination room for another doctor's visit regarding gastrointestinal issues from the stress of being in fight or flight mode. Why? Because our narcissitic abuser took us out on a shopping spree one day for whatever we want but yelled at us for spending so much money when the billing cycle arrives and they need to actually pay for their lovebombing... Check our phone records: we mostly either have calls from our abuser or outgoing calls to the suicide prevention hotline or to the National Domestic Violence Hotline but "can't" leave...

Until we fight for ourselves and educate ourselves, we stay in a fluster, wondering why God put us in this struggle that isn't our fault. Enter Linda Hill's book. Based on my previous readings, Amazon recommended this book to me and BOY was it a Godsend. Do not skip reading this if my hypotheticals struck home. You came to find out if this book will help you, right? Do it - READ THIS unofficial Bible of how to get YOU back. Don't you miss the you you were before the abuse sucked the life out of you? Don't you remember the you that saw through BS and took names because you were above being played? Find that you at the end of these 360 pages with amazing tools and tons of self-work workbook exercises. It will be admittedly tough to face the pain and stare it down to get rid of it, but it is worth it! Linda writes from the heart and gives you the love back that you need as you trudge through this all.

Love yourself and grab this book. Your healed self will thank you. Remember, as she says, "It is not a sprint but a marathon" to heal from your traumas, but you have to start somewhere.

And finally, THANK YOU, LINDA! I loved this book series!

[Grace Batcha · Rating 5 out of 5]

Reading this book was so validating for me and gave me the tools to understand what happened to me.

In the past, I was gaslight to the point where I would doubt my own thoughts and feelings. I could never question my father so instead of fighting back, I internalized everything. The critical voice ‘you’re not good enough’ I still hear sometimes is from my dad.

I realize now I was dealing with a severely unwell father who had no emotional capacity for me. This lead to my relationship cycling, looking for the validation, pouring myself into others hoping to receive it. I would end up feeling used and sad, always the one to leave first because I was scared of being abandoned.

Many of the steps to healing I have already begun. 2 years ago I cut off a toxic relationship with my father and with a toxic ex. I moved to Colorado by myself and made a living on my own. I bought my own car and I started a healthy relationship where I feel safe, loved, valued and respected as an individual. I spend time with friends and hobbies that I never did before. I started yoga, I read a lot more, sometimes I paint and I have weekends without my boyfriend, spending time with my girl friends. Doing these things is so healing for me because I am able to choose how I spend my time and I am able to choose what matters to me.

I still struggle with guilt about the relationship cycling and still sometimes not feeling good enough. I sometimes mourn what happen to me and wonder why it had to turn out this way. It’s my hope that through living my life according to my values that I will begin to undo or rather heal parts of me that still need it.

I highly recommend this book to anyone who has ever been abused and felt like it was their fault. Because it’s not your fault

[Book Addict · Rating 5 out of 5]

This compendium book includes narc abuse, gaslighting, codependency and CPTSD. It includes is a comprehensive guide to understanding what each one is and what the common signs are of each so that it can be quickly identified.
She uses examples in a variety of contexts and then focuses on helping the reader look at ways in which they can deal with the situation - whether that includes leaving the relationship or implementing boundaries. She highlights that it doesn't matter whether it was unintentional or due to some (un)known diagnosis that they did this but the closure is only from the grieving of the relationship rather than trying to get them to acknowledge what they have done. The best advice that I took from this book was about safety nets/safe people and identifying gas lighters before building relationships with them. A good read one which needs to be done in stages as there is so much information.

I received a free copy of this book via Booksprout and am voluntarily leaving a review.

[Jess Baker · Rating 3 out of 5]

Give it a try to know for yourself....
I read the first book in this and just didn't find it very informative and seemed to ramble on. The author repeats notions without adding anything new or even the basics that I've read in other books on Narcissism. Then telling you that now you've been informed of what they're like. However, different people identify with different writing styles, so I can't say how anyone else who's interested in the subject will feel. I just got bored and couldn't continue.

[M · Rating 5 out of 5]

After reading through multiple self help books and finding them to be a lacking in what I need, from overly simplified suggestions that I've already done in the past to not really relating to my situation, I found this book. The descriptions and questions are thought provoking, I will definitely be taking the time to work through it. I actually feel this book is a good starter for putting me on the right track with my mental health.

[Thomas Collinsworth · Rating 5 out of 5]

Good stuff but you really just need the first book

Or the first two books. I didn't really get much out of the last two.

I think this is better than watching a thousand YouTube videos on narcissism as most people stuck in such relationships tend to be over analytic. With YouTube there is always more "knowledge" to find on your subject. This book, however, gives you all the basics you need to know so you can focus on the next step, which is action.

[Melissa Vera · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book is for anyone who knows they’ve been in a relationship with a narcissist or wonders if they are. My ex made me believe that because he had 3 kids and a dog he wasn’t one. Through therapy I was able to see otherwise and realize that over the years the emotional abuse he’s put me through has been unparalleled to any pain/suffering I’ve endured. Highly recommend the read especially along side the help of a therapist.

[Kyaunna Smith · Rating 4 out of 5]

Read this book for therapy. Very healing and helped me learn more emotional intelligence, and to clearly define situations with gaslighting and manipulation. I liked that it provided examples of each section. Realized I’ve dealt with a narcissist not too long ago, and clear signs of what that looks like and how to avoid it in the future. I don’t mean to trauma dump, but it’s a good book and I’m glad I read this in my twenties.❤️

[Deborah Slaughter · Rating 5 out of 5]

Overall I found this to be very helpful, validating, and informative. I definitely think that this gives me a lot to work on in my healing process and I do think it will help me. My only suggestion would be that with the codependency and complex ptsd I would have liked to hear more that relates to victims of narcissistic abuse and that type of trauma instead of mainly focusing on childhood trauma.

[Andrea · Rating 4 out of 5]

Still want to do more reading and work through the workbook.
The author does a great job in breaking apart the toxic behaviors of narcissism, gaslighting, codependency, and complex PTSD. I walked away learning these behaviors are often interlocked. Great read but it is a book you cannot absorb in one sitting.

[Amanda · Rating 4 out of 5]

The first three chapters of this book helped me through a particular rough patch. I didn't read the last chapter because that content is more familiar to me and wasn't as relevant at the time. The way we let people treat us (and the way we treat ourselves) is really important.

[Jessica · Rating 5 out of 5]

enjoyed

This was a really helpful book. I enjoyed all of the information and it opened my eyes to a lot of things in my life and how to look at them or deal with them in a healthy manner

[Ashlyn Thibodeaux · Rating 5 out of 5]

highly recommend

I really enjoyed this read, very informative! I like how it was broken down, layer by layer, focusing on HEALING, not so much traits of the toxic people we are trying to heal from.

[Priscilla · Rating 5 out of 5]

I bought this book after a family member told me my ex was gaslighting me. This was the very very beginning of realizing that I was being psychologically abused and had enormous amounts of trauma due to it. Forever grateful for this book.

[Jordi Finlayson · Rating 4 out of 5]

4⭐ Bri LaPaglia read it, so I read it. Very informative in all aspects. The exercises help you understand the way the brain works, build self confidence, and help you identify any behaviours you may have or experienced and why.

[Maddie Barnard · Rating 3 out of 5]

Definitely the best book on narcissism/gaslighting I’ve read, but I think I keep hoping it will help more but in reality the only way to deal with a narcissistic person is to set firm boundaries and cut off the relationship if they break those so it just feels slightly discouraging 🤣

[Niesa · Rating 3 out of 5]

Pretty base level for me.

[Connie · Rating 4 out of 5]

Very helpful to understand abuse

[Margaret Shoop · Rating 5 out of 5]

Complex PTSD indeed. I will be reading this over and over. Years of abuse takes years of recovery and I’m
so grateful for this book.