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How to Get Out of Your Own Way
Actor, singer, songwriter Tyrese Gibson crafts a memoir filled with every emotion and life experience one could possibly imagine. With personal experiences paired with reflective questions based on his extremely popular blog piece, "The Love Circle", Tyrese hopes to inspire readers to pursue their dreams and not let life's obstacles stand in the way.
How to Get Out of Your Own Way is organized into a series of fundamental questions that helped Tyrese redefine who he was as a human being, and evolve into a new man. Tyrese stresses that life becomes infinitely richer when one takes the time to know him or herself and understand the true meaning of peace and fulfillment. This book is a guide to helping yourself, using his experiences as a learning tool. "It's not about talking down to people, it's about elevating them," Tyrese says.
Some of Tyrese's chapter-based questions How much do you love yourself? How much do you want for yourself? Why do men cheat? What is your bottom line? Are you ready for the next level?
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"Tyrese wholeheartedly shares his life experiences and how he discovered a new road map of conscious compassion and love to define his true potential." --Deepak Chopra, author of The Soul of Leadership
" How to Get Out of Your Own Way is a triumph. Tyrese will shock and amaze you with how he overcame the odds and became a superstar. This star of the Transformers sequel will show you how to transform your life in this amazingly candid book!" --Rev Run
"I've watched Tyrese for many years - I've watched him succeed; I've watched him fail; I've seen him as a beneficiary of serendipity, and I've watched him suffer at his own hand. And in the recent years, as we've become friends, I've witnessed Tyrese Gibson learn how to get out of his own way as he wrestled his destiny from the fickle hands of fate." --Will Smith
How to Get Out of Your Own Way is organized into a series of fundamental questions that helped Tyrese redefine who he was as a human being, and evolve into a new man. Tyrese stresses that life becomes infinitely richer when one takes the time to know him or herself and understand the true meaning of peace and fulfillment. This book is a guide to helping yourself, using his experiences as a learning tool. "It's not about talking down to people, it's about elevating them," Tyrese says.
Some of Tyrese's chapter-based questions How much do you love yourself? How much do you want for yourself? Why do men cheat? What is your bottom line? Are you ready for the next level?
Quotes and
"Tyrese wholeheartedly shares his life experiences and how he discovered a new road map of conscious compassion and love to define his true potential." --Deepak Chopra, author of The Soul of Leadership
" How to Get Out of Your Own Way is a triumph. Tyrese will shock and amaze you with how he overcame the odds and became a superstar. This star of the Transformers sequel will show you how to transform your life in this amazingly candid book!" --Rev Run
"I've watched Tyrese for many years - I've watched him succeed; I've watched him fail; I've seen him as a beneficiary of serendipity, and I've watched him suffer at his own hand. And in the recent years, as we've become friends, I've witnessed Tyrese Gibson learn how to get out of his own way as he wrestled his destiny from the fickle hands of fate." --Will Smith
304 pages, Hardcover
First published January 1, 2011
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Tyrese Gibson
10 books59 followersTyrese Darnell Gibson also known simply as Tyrese, is an American R&B singer, rapper, actor, former fashion model and MTV VJ. After releasing several albums, he transitioned into films, with lead roles in several Hollywood releases. He also is now a member of the sensual group trio: TGT (featuring Tyrese, Ginuwine, and Tank).
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April 25, 2011
"How to Get Out of Your Own Way" by Tyrese Gibson deserves a solid 3 stars. I chose to bypass the chapters on men, women, and intimate relationships because I know that Gibson does not think the way I do and, therefore, I chose not to aggravate myself by reading his thoughts on male-female interpersonal relationships. However, I did read a little bit of the chapter where Gibson advised women to "talk" the fathers of their children into behaving like fathers, which is by far the most inane thing I've ever read. Anyway, when it comes to doling out good advice about life, I found Gibson's book semi-inspirational. I don't believe that Gibson wrote anything I haven't read before and I didn't find his perspective or life story particularly trying or astonishing. I don't think "How to Get Out of Your Own Way" was the best title for this memoir/self-help book...Gibson probably would've done better with a title like, "Life Lessons I Learned from ______" it would have been more accurate. I thought chapters 1, 2, 3, some of 4, and, definitely, 8 were the most enlightening because they featured a lot of information about setting goals, having the motivation necessary to achieve those goals, and how to find and maintain healthy relationships. I found this information most helpful, but like I said previously, not necessarily unique. It took me a long time to finish this book (13 days), but today I was determined to finish it and I found myself forcing myself to complete the book and it just wasn't interesting enough to hold my attention at times. I don't recommend purchasing this book. I paid $11.99 for it and I just don't think it was worth it because it is a retelling of popular information, but reading this book from a young African American male's perspective, might just be what some people need to get motivated to change their lives and do better.
October 30, 2012
Sister Souljah. Omar Tyree. Iyanla Vanzant. John Singleton. Eckhart Tolle. Terry McMillan. These are the handful of writers who have influenced me through their words over the years. Influenced me in my decisions and ideologies, my passions, and my goals. After reading "How to Get Out of Your Own Way" I can now add Tyrese Gibson to this list.
It didn't take me long to read this book. In fact, in less than a day, I was engrossed in his words from start to finish, and closed that book with a literary satisfaction I haven't experienced in a while. The satisfaction of reading GOOD writing. The satisfaction of LEARNING something new and knowing that the application of the lessons would make a significant contribution to my personal and professional life. The satisfaction of turning pages mechanically and eagerly, and taking in each and every sentence...straight to my soul.
This is the joy of reading that every writer enjoys! The essence of publishing that is refreshing! Reading this book was the motivation I needed at this exact moment in time, and the perfect message of enlightenment and artistic expression that my spirit craved.
It's no secret that I'm a Tyrese fan. I've long admired his music, his modeling, his acting, and spirit of creativity.
I stood at Beyonce's inaugural solo concert in June 2003 in Detroit, as a young journalist, and watched Tyrese perform from about 2 feet away in the photographer's pit. I remember being captivated by the essence of the moment: Ford Motor Company's 100th anniversary celebration. I was still a student at Wayne State University, and still full of passion and excitement for the future. I remember that being a defining moment in my writing career because I felt like I was doing EXACTLY what I loved...I was enjoying music, and I was going to have the opportunity to write about it, and share it with others. I remember that Tyrese was a part of that life-changing experience.
It's been almost 10 years, and not much has changed as far as my ambitions and personal goals. I still love the arts, and I still require the tangible energy of music and entertainment to fuel my writing.
"How to Get Out of Your Own Way" was released in 2011, and I finally had the opportunity to take it in...and this book spoke to me. It was effective. It was inspirational. It was necessary!
Tyrese has been in the industry for over 15 years...across the spectrum. So writing a book could have been an exercise in telling his life's story, and using the biography as a means to let people know about his life. But it was much more than that. While there were elements of biography, and you definitely learn a lot about his experience through reading this book, there still exists a level of teaching, of sharing, and compassion through his words.
You can sense his need to reach out to his supporters in everything he does. He's an active Twitter griot, who uses every opportunity to not only promote his own work, but to share the wisdom and gems that he learns along the way. With video blogs, phone recordings, interviews, and writings....you can tell that Tyrese is on a mission to be someone in your life that has learned a great deal, and is dedicated to sharing this.
You can tell that he doesn't forget where he came from, and who he was while growing up in Watts, in Southern California, but that he's also determined to remind his readers that success, fame, opportunity, power, and influence are all attainable with the right mentality and the right spirit.
So this book is not only a testament to how the power of positive thinking, spirtual grace, and a steadfast work ethic have helped him, but also how this positive energy can transcend circumstance, and manifest in your life as long as you wish it to.
His message included a consistent theme of self-love and self-empowerment, through statements like:
*Experience is your highest truth...only you can define your own truth...
*You will grow through what you go through...
*You are responsible for where you are in your life...you have to create the reality you want...
*Love yourself enough to keep on doing what you're doing to get to the next level...
*Stay away from people's problems...
At the essence of his message was "you create the reality you want for yourself." He spoke this loud and clear. Through example. Through testimony. Through encouragement.
He does this so dilligently, and anyone that follows his career and confessions will see that while he knows he has attained a great level of success for himself, that he is truly dedicated to letting YOU know that it's possible. That with the right energy and the right environment, that reaching your own personal paradise is more than possible.
Sometimes that's all you need to hear. Sometimes you KNOW this deep down, but you have a hard time truly recognizing the power of your own mind. Sometimes it's common sense, and it's logical thinking...but sometimes so many of us fail to apply this message to our own lives. We know that we should be working hard, or distancing ourselves from particular people and situations...but yet we still don't quite move past that level, and on to a higher one.
Tyrese made sure that this message was reinforced, and I believe that it spoke to me so emphatically because I could feel that it was coming from a place of genuine concern, and divine obligation to take care of his brothers and sisters. Even if from a distance. Even if through mass communication. It felt authentic, and it felt personalized.
Take control of your identity. Take responsibility for the type of life you choose to live. Be careful of who has emotional access to you.
For real!
There was a good portion of the book also dedicated to "mars and venus"-type advice, where he broke it down...bredren to bredren, and was real upfront about relationships, expectations, and the importance of securing your identity to ensure that you handle relationships successfully.
At the core of this message was the TRUTH: being honest with yourself, and with others. Being comfortable with yourself, and standing firm in yourself so that others can't influence your direction.
He encouraged readers to always stay in a positive frame of mind to be able to transform your thoughts into a physical reality. He reminded readers to stay organized, and always be prepared to execute your dreams. Don't let your ideas die because of circumstances you fell into based on your own choices, he said.
I said it in January when I wrote Tyrese Gibson: The Next Pop Prophet (Part 1), that Mr. Gibson was a prophet on the rise, speaking by divine inspiration, gifted with moral insight and powers of expression.
I repeated these sentiments when I wrote Tyrese Gibson: If "Open Invitation" Was a Movie (Part 2), that his music inspired dialogue and motivated creativity.
I'll say it again, that this man is on to something. Yes, he's out there doing the Hollywood thing, acting in blockbuster movies and stuff, going on tour, making women swoon, driving Bentley's and travelling the world, partying like a rock star. He's doing it, because he's earned it.
I figure it's a God-given privilege to be in a position of influence. Whether you're a professional athlete, an actor, a musician, dancer, writer, or a university professor. When you're in a position to speak and connect with an abundance of people...that is a privilege and a gift.
Now it only becomes a gift if you do something with it. Some singers and performers choose to be quiet, to do their job, and stay under the media radar...and there's also nothing wrong with that. We all choose to live to our own comfort level, and can only act upon what we are called to do, and passionate about.
But I remain inspired by those who have the power and ability to ignite change, to inspire action, and to bring clarity to situations just through their own personal testament. When the words of Sister Souljah, and the others I mentioned previously, spoke to me...it was on a variety of levels. Sometimes it was literally moving me to tears, or to laughter, or to other emotions through the power of their story telling. Some inspired me through their personal stories, and this is how they connected with me, and pushed me to pursue my own writing dreams. Some, like Iyanla, challenged me to change the schematics of my mind, question my actions, and make adjustments accordingly.
Tyrese's book "How to Get Out of Your Own Way" has now made it onto my list of influential texts because his life outside of these pages is proving to be on a continuous incline to do just that: motivate others.
I'm grateful that I was blessed with the emotion that was put into these pages. And with this emotion, I will translate the lessons and passion into my own truth: the words will transcend this moment, and remain a part of my conscious. For I didn't just read this book...I am also going to actively apply it. That is what I believe Tyrese's intention was, and that is why I believe this book is so phenomenal.
That is all any writer truly hopes for. A lasting impression through the power of their art.
Written by Stacey Marie Robinson for Kya Publishing's "Urban Toronto Tales" blog.
It didn't take me long to read this book. In fact, in less than a day, I was engrossed in his words from start to finish, and closed that book with a literary satisfaction I haven't experienced in a while. The satisfaction of reading GOOD writing. The satisfaction of LEARNING something new and knowing that the application of the lessons would make a significant contribution to my personal and professional life. The satisfaction of turning pages mechanically and eagerly, and taking in each and every sentence...straight to my soul.
This is the joy of reading that every writer enjoys! The essence of publishing that is refreshing! Reading this book was the motivation I needed at this exact moment in time, and the perfect message of enlightenment and artistic expression that my spirit craved.
It's no secret that I'm a Tyrese fan. I've long admired his music, his modeling, his acting, and spirit of creativity.
I stood at Beyonce's inaugural solo concert in June 2003 in Detroit, as a young journalist, and watched Tyrese perform from about 2 feet away in the photographer's pit. I remember being captivated by the essence of the moment: Ford Motor Company's 100th anniversary celebration. I was still a student at Wayne State University, and still full of passion and excitement for the future. I remember that being a defining moment in my writing career because I felt like I was doing EXACTLY what I loved...I was enjoying music, and I was going to have the opportunity to write about it, and share it with others. I remember that Tyrese was a part of that life-changing experience.
It's been almost 10 years, and not much has changed as far as my ambitions and personal goals. I still love the arts, and I still require the tangible energy of music and entertainment to fuel my writing.
"How to Get Out of Your Own Way" was released in 2011, and I finally had the opportunity to take it in...and this book spoke to me. It was effective. It was inspirational. It was necessary!
Tyrese has been in the industry for over 15 years...across the spectrum. So writing a book could have been an exercise in telling his life's story, and using the biography as a means to let people know about his life. But it was much more than that. While there were elements of biography, and you definitely learn a lot about his experience through reading this book, there still exists a level of teaching, of sharing, and compassion through his words.
You can sense his need to reach out to his supporters in everything he does. He's an active Twitter griot, who uses every opportunity to not only promote his own work, but to share the wisdom and gems that he learns along the way. With video blogs, phone recordings, interviews, and writings....you can tell that Tyrese is on a mission to be someone in your life that has learned a great deal, and is dedicated to sharing this.
You can tell that he doesn't forget where he came from, and who he was while growing up in Watts, in Southern California, but that he's also determined to remind his readers that success, fame, opportunity, power, and influence are all attainable with the right mentality and the right spirit.
So this book is not only a testament to how the power of positive thinking, spirtual grace, and a steadfast work ethic have helped him, but also how this positive energy can transcend circumstance, and manifest in your life as long as you wish it to.
His message included a consistent theme of self-love and self-empowerment, through statements like:
*Experience is your highest truth...only you can define your own truth...
*You will grow through what you go through...
*You are responsible for where you are in your life...you have to create the reality you want...
*Love yourself enough to keep on doing what you're doing to get to the next level...
*Stay away from people's problems...
At the essence of his message was "you create the reality you want for yourself." He spoke this loud and clear. Through example. Through testimony. Through encouragement.
He does this so dilligently, and anyone that follows his career and confessions will see that while he knows he has attained a great level of success for himself, that he is truly dedicated to letting YOU know that it's possible. That with the right energy and the right environment, that reaching your own personal paradise is more than possible.
Sometimes that's all you need to hear. Sometimes you KNOW this deep down, but you have a hard time truly recognizing the power of your own mind. Sometimes it's common sense, and it's logical thinking...but sometimes so many of us fail to apply this message to our own lives. We know that we should be working hard, or distancing ourselves from particular people and situations...but yet we still don't quite move past that level, and on to a higher one.
Tyrese made sure that this message was reinforced, and I believe that it spoke to me so emphatically because I could feel that it was coming from a place of genuine concern, and divine obligation to take care of his brothers and sisters. Even if from a distance. Even if through mass communication. It felt authentic, and it felt personalized.
Take control of your identity. Take responsibility for the type of life you choose to live. Be careful of who has emotional access to you.
For real!
There was a good portion of the book also dedicated to "mars and venus"-type advice, where he broke it down...bredren to bredren, and was real upfront about relationships, expectations, and the importance of securing your identity to ensure that you handle relationships successfully.
At the core of this message was the TRUTH: being honest with yourself, and with others. Being comfortable with yourself, and standing firm in yourself so that others can't influence your direction.
He encouraged readers to always stay in a positive frame of mind to be able to transform your thoughts into a physical reality. He reminded readers to stay organized, and always be prepared to execute your dreams. Don't let your ideas die because of circumstances you fell into based on your own choices, he said.
I said it in January when I wrote Tyrese Gibson: The Next Pop Prophet (Part 1), that Mr. Gibson was a prophet on the rise, speaking by divine inspiration, gifted with moral insight and powers of expression.
I repeated these sentiments when I wrote Tyrese Gibson: If "Open Invitation" Was a Movie (Part 2), that his music inspired dialogue and motivated creativity.
I'll say it again, that this man is on to something. Yes, he's out there doing the Hollywood thing, acting in blockbuster movies and stuff, going on tour, making women swoon, driving Bentley's and travelling the world, partying like a rock star. He's doing it, because he's earned it.
I figure it's a God-given privilege to be in a position of influence. Whether you're a professional athlete, an actor, a musician, dancer, writer, or a university professor. When you're in a position to speak and connect with an abundance of people...that is a privilege and a gift.
Now it only becomes a gift if you do something with it. Some singers and performers choose to be quiet, to do their job, and stay under the media radar...and there's also nothing wrong with that. We all choose to live to our own comfort level, and can only act upon what we are called to do, and passionate about.
But I remain inspired by those who have the power and ability to ignite change, to inspire action, and to bring clarity to situations just through their own personal testament. When the words of Sister Souljah, and the others I mentioned previously, spoke to me...it was on a variety of levels. Sometimes it was literally moving me to tears, or to laughter, or to other emotions through the power of their story telling. Some inspired me through their personal stories, and this is how they connected with me, and pushed me to pursue my own writing dreams. Some, like Iyanla, challenged me to change the schematics of my mind, question my actions, and make adjustments accordingly.
Tyrese's book "How to Get Out of Your Own Way" has now made it onto my list of influential texts because his life outside of these pages is proving to be on a continuous incline to do just that: motivate others.
I'm grateful that I was blessed with the emotion that was put into these pages. And with this emotion, I will translate the lessons and passion into my own truth: the words will transcend this moment, and remain a part of my conscious. For I didn't just read this book...I am also going to actively apply it. That is what I believe Tyrese's intention was, and that is why I believe this book is so phenomenal.
That is all any writer truly hopes for. A lasting impression through the power of their art.
Written by Stacey Marie Robinson for Kya Publishing's "Urban Toronto Tales" blog.
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June 8, 2012Gibson's: How To Get Out of Your Own Way
A few months ago I saw Singer, Actor and Model Tyrese being interviewed on Windy City Live and he peaked my interest when he started to discuss his recent New York Times best selling book "How To Get Out of Your Own Way!"
When I went searching to buy the book, I looked at the cover and said to myself, what could this guy tell me to motivate me to be a better man and person, so I passed up buying it. Fast forward to May 3, 2012, I had passed one of my certification test and was feeling good about myself and just so happen, when I got in my SUV, Tyrese's cut "Sweet Lady" came on V103. I went right over the South Holland public library and checked out the last copy of this PHENOMENAL book!
From the Author's Note to the Acknowledgement, Tyrese truly impressed me with his "what you see is what you get" writing skills and his deep transparency and testimonies! He discusses his life (from childhood to Hollywood) and how it's a everyday struggle for him to be be the best Tyrese that he can be. He tells the reader that early on he knew that he would not be a product of his Watt (California) neighborhood and how he always had a knack for being in the presence of greatness.
He discusses his family and professional life in detail to give evidence of how you as a singular person are the "Captain of your own ship!" As I read the book, Tyrese became a "best friend in my head" who was telling me his story to help me with some of the things that I'm dealing with (i.e.: an upcoming divorce, my relationship with my daughter, career endeavors and the weight issue!)
FYI: Did you all know that when he made the movie "Waste Deep" he weighed a 250 pounds. He is also recently divorced, building a powerful career and has a loving bond with his only child (daughter Shayla). I was like damn, we are are truly "twins" in my head (you know dark skin, big teeth and big personalities..lol!)
Anyway, the 2 things that truly stood out in my head about this book was his mentor/friendship with Actor Will Smith! He discusses how Will changed his life for the better. Will told him that he had to start taking his career more seriously because 1. God gave him a gift and 2. people in Hollywood are counting on Tyrese to help feed their families. What Will was saying was that "Hey Tyrese, when producers and directors are hiring you, they want the best shaped Tyrese because a good looking Tyrese gets women in the movie seats and the more women in the seat means more money and more money means the cast and crew make more money to feed their families!" That was so powerful to me when I read that! The other part of the book was Chapter 4: Who are your Five People! What he addressed in this chapter was again Will Smith told him: that if you look at the 5 closes people to you, you are basically seeing a mirror image of yourself (like it or not) and if you don't like what you see then you have to be brave enough to say see you later to those individual who don't "sharpen you" (Iron Sharpens Iron!)
OK, I don't want to give away all the details of this book so go out and purchase, borrow or go to the library and take it out..It's a very "easy read" and you'll look at yourself (and Tyrese) very differently!
Best Wishes on a BETTER you and PLEASE: Get Out of Your Own Way!
Khalid B. Scott, MSW, CADC, LCWS, QMHP
August 3, 2011
This book is very basic and common sense. He is not giving you much advice that you havent probably already heard before. You can get the same type of advice listening to a preacher or talking to your mom or a good friend. There wasnt much in this book that was very deep or revealing of new information that I havent already heard before.
This information is so basic like for example stay away from negative people, forgive others and stuff like that. Who hasnt heard that before in some form or fashion. I think the book will be good for teenagers that are still growing, learning. Didnt do much for me.
This information is so basic like for example stay away from negative people, forgive others and stuff like that. Who hasnt heard that before in some form or fashion. I think the book will be good for teenagers that are still growing, learning. Didnt do much for me.
January 3, 2025
If you approach this book thinking it's anything OTHER than Tyrese Gibson telling you how to get out of your own way...you're too far in your own way.
LET'S HEAR IT FOR JODYYYYYY.
LET'S HEAR IT FOR JODYYYYYY.
October 15, 2011
Title: How to Get Out of Your Own Way
Author: Tyrese Gibson
Rating: 3
Headline: Self-Help or Biography?
I was excited to read what was marked as a biography by singer/actor Tyrese Gibson, but to my disappointment, it came off more as a self-help book. Gibson shared some insights into his life before the now infamous Coke commercial that started his career at the age of 16. When Gibson wrote about life in Watts and the dysfunction within his parent’s marriage those were the best chapters of the book in my opinion.
Even though Gibson is not a professionally licensed and/or trained therapist, the majority of his book is spent giving advice on relationships, sex, and even how to be Christian. Of course, when we all tell our life stories to another person we may throw in the lessons learned along the way, but what Gibson has done is to allow the advice outweigh/outshine his story. Overall, it was a solid book but the intended audience seemed to be women that need some uplifting and/or ways to find and keep a man.
Author: Tyrese Gibson
Rating: 3
Headline: Self-Help or Biography?
I was excited to read what was marked as a biography by singer/actor Tyrese Gibson, but to my disappointment, it came off more as a self-help book. Gibson shared some insights into his life before the now infamous Coke commercial that started his career at the age of 16. When Gibson wrote about life in Watts and the dysfunction within his parent’s marriage those were the best chapters of the book in my opinion.
Even though Gibson is not a professionally licensed and/or trained therapist, the majority of his book is spent giving advice on relationships, sex, and even how to be Christian. Of course, when we all tell our life stories to another person we may throw in the lessons learned along the way, but what Gibson has done is to allow the advice outweigh/outshine his story. Overall, it was a solid book but the intended audience seemed to be women that need some uplifting and/or ways to find and keep a man.
July 27, 2011
I think in the end, you still don't have a sense of who Tyrese is, and how he got himself out of his own way, and why I should read this book. Lots of preaching and advice, and page filler of similar information, but no depth, no real sense of who Tyrese was, and is. His real experiences are what readers want to know about, so they can learn from that, not from his recycled advice that I am sure every young kid who gives this book a chance has heard already. I understand he is a private person, but trying to write a book of this nature almost requires you to be real and open with your readers, and well, somewhat compromising on your privacy. I was disappointed and expected more of his "truth" from this book, not just page-filling advice he got from others, including Will Smith. What this book did make me do, is look forward to reading about Will Smith.
September 29, 2011
Once I started reading "How to Get Out of Your Own Way" I could not put down the book. I was deeply engrossed. Not because it was Tyrese the entertainer, but Tyrese the human being. Shedding his personae and getting real about life.
He tackles subjects that have been swept under the rug and regardless of one's background. Dysfunction knows no boundaries. Tyrese is a portal to bring this to the light.
Tyrese is part of a movement to take responsibility of our own happiness. In my opinion, it could only produce positive results.
Though I admit some parts were a bit preachy and did not resonate with me. Generally Tyrese writes in a conversational fashion sharing his knowledge as if he were part of my circle of five friends.
He tackles subjects that have been swept under the rug and regardless of one's background. Dysfunction knows no boundaries. Tyrese is a portal to bring this to the light.
Tyrese is part of a movement to take responsibility of our own happiness. In my opinion, it could only produce positive results.
Though I admit some parts were a bit preachy and did not resonate with me. Generally Tyrese writes in a conversational fashion sharing his knowledge as if he were part of my circle of five friends.
July 10, 2011
I was excited to read this book and was very let down by it. The writing was poor, the chapters were all 30-50 pages long and I don't know about you but I don't like stopping in the middle of a chapter. The chapter about his "childhood" was irrelevant to the rest of the book. I felt like he took quotes from other people and copy and pasted them into these pages. Not original and didn't tell me anything I haven't heard 1000 times before.
February 25, 2017
This book was very good. I recommend it.
July 31, 2012
Inspirational and thought provoking. Now get up and make it happen! I ain't mad at ya Tyrese!
November 17, 2019
This is a well written book, it reads as though Tyrese is sitting in front of the reader engaged in conversation. His telling of his childhood and early years sets the stage for his later years and gives the reader a look into his past. Tyrese offers the reader his plan for getting out of your own way, just as he did. His plan is very simple, yet most will find it difficult to execute. This book will remain in my library as a reference that I will use regularly. I recommend this book to everyone and anyone.
February 14, 2020
I had been reading this for so long because it’s not a fiction book when you have the beginning and the end. It’s like a mix of motivation, mantra, advices, talk and many other things for every day. You can read and re-read pages or whole chapters. And, yes, I’ve been well aware of all of the things Ty is “talking” in his book for decades - it’s not new to me. But I enjoyed reading and “listening” to him anyway. Yes, sometimes repeated phrases were too much but overall all is good. You should read it too just “because”.
April 30, 2020
Changed my life was I was locked up. My mom bought it for me randomly as a read that would help me pass time. Changed my view on life and inward perspective that I had on myself and my situation at the tme.
May 16, 2019
Its a perfec book
January 4, 2021
Real good. Great for anyone looking for inspiration and motivation outside of what's considered the norm in their environment and come up.
February 21, 2024
Q's bubble of thoughts:
This book was a gift and I love Tyrese in Fast&Furious.
The biggest compliment I can give him is that I do not have anything bad to say about it.
2.4/5
This book was a gift and I love Tyrese in Fast&Furious.
The biggest compliment I can give him is that I do not have anything bad to say about it.
2.4/5
December 20, 2024
Great read
January 10, 2025
solid read. a few things i could takeaway
January 19, 2012
Tyrese Gibson shares his life trials and triumphs. There was a friend, Sameer, who planted the seed to get his mojo going to write the book. We need the push, encouragement, or someone to put it in us to go forth. Later, there was Angie who saw the good in him regardless of the madness. God has created some of us to see this in people we meet, and hopefully it will stir something inside of them to pursue their dreams, goals and make it a reality! We need to have a heart for others from the very start. You never know what they are facing, could be on the end of a brink and need something there to get them to think--life is worth living for. Everyone has a purpose! Favor.
Survival can be brutal, juvenile, or just to eat. Hustle doesn't mean always illegal, but do what it takes to feed the need. His childhood captures the reader in immediately, real talk. (In my teens, 14, first time I went to California to visit/live with my dad temporarily with sister after parents divorced in Riverside/Moreno Valley and sometimes drove through LA and other poverty-stricken, gang-banging territories where it could not be ignored).
Inspiring message: "every lesson is a blessing...past as a part of my determination to never experience my past again." (page 38).
Lessons taken: (from the foreword and first chapter alone)
1. Someone planted the seed and encouraged him to write the book. Yet, someone can plant the seed and we are to bring the harvest.
2. Someone can see the good in you, regardless of the mess and this way you can bless everyone else once you recognize it too. It takes someone to point out all the strengths and goodness in you; they see the diamond in the rough, through your rough times someone will see that diamond in you—and soon it will shine for the world to see.
3. It starts with a gift, idea, or dream, and connected with the right people who can encourage, edify, and build on that vision!
The last few chapters spoke dearly to my mind, heart, and spirit; and also does tie in with his childhood and how caused his own dysfunctional behaviors and attitudes in his own life, marriage, and almost with his child to witness the same pain or abuse he has suffered growing up but he had to break the cycle. We will experience obstacles that wants to take us off-course and back to our former ways but we need to stay focused and strong, regardless of negative thoughts. What motivated me most about this book, "respark careers; self-educate; supportive circle of people in your corner; and execute your goal(s)." I agree to listen to your voice, God's voice, and what will be your response/reaction. I needed the reminder in this time of my life, "don't be afraid of the unknown" since I do fear the unknown but have learned to adapt to change and embrace it.
Lesson taken most from the book and for the life-changing transitions in my life, in my own words, "elevation with concentration through meditation"!
*There were some editing issues that disturbed me, "mind-set" should just be mindset and "fund-raising" simply "fundraising."
Survival can be brutal, juvenile, or just to eat. Hustle doesn't mean always illegal, but do what it takes to feed the need. His childhood captures the reader in immediately, real talk. (In my teens, 14, first time I went to California to visit/live with my dad temporarily with sister after parents divorced in Riverside/Moreno Valley and sometimes drove through LA and other poverty-stricken, gang-banging territories where it could not be ignored).
Inspiring message: "every lesson is a blessing...past as a part of my determination to never experience my past again." (page 38).
Lessons taken: (from the foreword and first chapter alone)
1. Someone planted the seed and encouraged him to write the book. Yet, someone can plant the seed and we are to bring the harvest.
2. Someone can see the good in you, regardless of the mess and this way you can bless everyone else once you recognize it too. It takes someone to point out all the strengths and goodness in you; they see the diamond in the rough, through your rough times someone will see that diamond in you—and soon it will shine for the world to see.
3. It starts with a gift, idea, or dream, and connected with the right people who can encourage, edify, and build on that vision!
The last few chapters spoke dearly to my mind, heart, and spirit; and also does tie in with his childhood and how caused his own dysfunctional behaviors and attitudes in his own life, marriage, and almost with his child to witness the same pain or abuse he has suffered growing up but he had to break the cycle. We will experience obstacles that wants to take us off-course and back to our former ways but we need to stay focused and strong, regardless of negative thoughts. What motivated me most about this book, "respark careers; self-educate; supportive circle of people in your corner; and execute your goal(s)." I agree to listen to your voice, God's voice, and what will be your response/reaction. I needed the reminder in this time of my life, "don't be afraid of the unknown" since I do fear the unknown but have learned to adapt to change and embrace it.
Lesson taken most from the book and for the life-changing transitions in my life, in my own words, "elevation with concentration through meditation"!
*There were some editing issues that disturbed me, "mind-set" should just be mindset and "fund-raising" simply "fundraising."
February 24, 2017
Wow
I've learned so much about Tyrese and his story growing up. This book is like a reminder of how to live righteous and to the fullest. The advice on love, sex, and school will be beneficial for me. I bought this book for my niece and I know she will love it! Great job, Tyrese.
I've learned so much about Tyrese and his story growing up. This book is like a reminder of how to live righteous and to the fullest. The advice on love, sex, and school will be beneficial for me. I bought this book for my niece and I know she will love it! Great job, Tyrese.
November 5, 2015
Since I started reading this book I had tabs on nearly every page marking favorite quotes. Needless to say if I was to copy all them down I'd need more than a page to get them all written. So unfortunately (fortunately) you'll have to read this book to read the rest of them. Although, I have seen many of the author's films, and heard a multitude of his songs countless times, I was quite interested in seeing what he had to write about. After reading numerous tweets from readers from all walks of life about how excited they were about his release, I figured I might as well jump on this band wagon.
Getting a glimpse on where this celebrity came from and how he started makes the rest of the book a little more interesting. I do follow his tweets and Instagram feed and have seen a video or two of some of his deep insights and philosophies on life.
I must say that once I finished this book I couldn't decide how to handle some of the information brought up. While also in the back of my mind I was trying to ponder what shelf this book would be placed in a bookstore. As much as many websites have classified this book it reads so much more like a self-help. But all-in-all I did feel extremely inspired by what I read. Perhaps it was the circumstances I have been currently facing but so much rung out and hit me in the head.
Just like when you have that conversation with somebody or overhear something and it just seems to hit you "the-right-way", this book did just that. I felt heavy hearted and required moments of repose to process what exactly I read.
To wrap up, I would recommend this personal memoir-self-help book to people. Mr. Gibson touches on several topics and brings a realistic outlook providing a resource of what one could potentially do to resolve the issue. Obviously he's just a celebrity and no physician, but at least we have something to contemplate.
Getting a glimpse on where this celebrity came from and how he started makes the rest of the book a little more interesting. I do follow his tweets and Instagram feed and have seen a video or two of some of his deep insights and philosophies on life.
I must say that once I finished this book I couldn't decide how to handle some of the information brought up. While also in the back of my mind I was trying to ponder what shelf this book would be placed in a bookstore. As much as many websites have classified this book it reads so much more like a self-help. But all-in-all I did feel extremely inspired by what I read. Perhaps it was the circumstances I have been currently facing but so much rung out and hit me in the head.
Just like when you have that conversation with somebody or overhear something and it just seems to hit you "the-right-way", this book did just that. I felt heavy hearted and required moments of repose to process what exactly I read.
To wrap up, I would recommend this personal memoir-self-help book to people. Mr. Gibson touches on several topics and brings a realistic outlook providing a resource of what one could potentially do to resolve the issue. Obviously he's just a celebrity and no physician, but at least we have something to contemplate.
June 21, 2014
I'm pretty sure that I'm not the intended audience for this book. I did guess that going it, but I figured I'd at least give it a chance. Who knows, they may have been pieces I could connect with. And while there were items that made sense, overall I think if I was a teenager living in the ghetto or one without a lot going for me, I would have appreciated this a lot more.
For me, I think the worst parts were the chapters on cheating. Basically Tyrese's viewpoint is that all men cheat and it's pretty rare that they don't. And for the one that's don't there's normally a specific reason, something like the fear of HIV or G-d's wrath. It's never just enough to expect to remain loyal on principle. While I definitely don't agree here, I can at least imagine why he'd think this way. After all, I would imagine in the world of R&B singers, male models, and movie stars, most men cheat. And if those are the people Tyrese spends time with I could see how he'd get such an opinion. Still, it's a little hard to read.
The book isn't completely awful though. I did appreciate the first chapter on Tyrese's childhood, and thought it was the best of them all. It is a little heartbreaking to hear what he had to go through growing up, but even more so to think about that fact that this is what so many other children deal with and without the chance of escape.
Normally at the end of a review, even if I dislike a book I can at least say I'm glad I read this. Except I'm not quite sure I can say that here. I have read books I disliked more, and it was fairly easy to read, but in some ways I do think my time could have been better spent.
2.5/5
For me, I think the worst parts were the chapters on cheating. Basically Tyrese's viewpoint is that all men cheat and it's pretty rare that they don't. And for the one that's don't there's normally a specific reason, something like the fear of HIV or G-d's wrath. It's never just enough to expect to remain loyal on principle. While I definitely don't agree here, I can at least imagine why he'd think this way. After all, I would imagine in the world of R&B singers, male models, and movie stars, most men cheat. And if those are the people Tyrese spends time with I could see how he'd get such an opinion. Still, it's a little hard to read.
The book isn't completely awful though. I did appreciate the first chapter on Tyrese's childhood, and thought it was the best of them all. It is a little heartbreaking to hear what he had to go through growing up, but even more so to think about that fact that this is what so many other children deal with and without the chance of escape.
Normally at the end of a review, even if I dislike a book I can at least say I'm glad I read this. Except I'm not quite sure I can say that here. I have read books I disliked more, and it was fairly easy to read, but in some ways I do think my time could have been better spent.
2.5/5
July 21, 2014
I'm not big on self-help books but this one made for interesting light-reading. Tyrese Gibson, for those of you who don't know, is a major film actor and singer. Although, he makes it clear from the beginning that he didn't write this book for a "pat on the back", but because there were a lot of people out there who needed to hear it.
There's a lot of useful advice in here for those looking to help themselves be stronger, and better people. For example, I think one of the best talking points Tyrese brings up is 'Drawing your Bottom Line', which, to sum up, he goes into how you need to decide for yourself when enough is enough. Basically, the daily dose of crap you're willing to take from other people. It's a very touchy subject that I think he handles really well, because he understands that it isn't just about being selfish, it's about self-respect.
Although I liked to see Tyrese and his side of things, this book didn't really teach me a whole lot that I didn't already know. Self-respect is, and always will be an important aspect of anyone's life. In some respects, you can probably say he's preaching to the choir but there are plenty of people out there who are, as Tyrese puts it, unaware of how even the smallest of their actions can have unwanted consequences, and kinda need a voice like this to put them in the right direction.
However, and while I can't speak for those who read a lot of self-help material, if you're already one of the guys who, for all intents and purposes "got out of their own way", I'm not sure how much more you will really learn from this book.
There's a lot of useful advice in here for those looking to help themselves be stronger, and better people. For example, I think one of the best talking points Tyrese brings up is 'Drawing your Bottom Line', which, to sum up, he goes into how you need to decide for yourself when enough is enough. Basically, the daily dose of crap you're willing to take from other people. It's a very touchy subject that I think he handles really well, because he understands that it isn't just about being selfish, it's about self-respect.
Although I liked to see Tyrese and his side of things, this book didn't really teach me a whole lot that I didn't already know. Self-respect is, and always will be an important aspect of anyone's life. In some respects, you can probably say he's preaching to the choir but there are plenty of people out there who are, as Tyrese puts it, unaware of how even the smallest of their actions can have unwanted consequences, and kinda need a voice like this to put them in the right direction.
However, and while I can't speak for those who read a lot of self-help material, if you're already one of the guys who, for all intents and purposes "got out of their own way", I'm not sure how much more you will really learn from this book.
March 31, 2011
I was super excited when I saw that I won this on first reads. I’ve been a fan of Tyrese since I saw him in the movie Baby Boy. So I was very happy to get his book and read about what his life has been like. It is a book written to inspire the reader to look at their own life and see if they are able to do something to make their own lives better. It is written as a series of questions that you have to ask yourself, which tyrese answers for himself based on his own life experiences. Seeing how each chapter is based of a question it makes the book seem a little repetitive, now I’ve never read a motivational book before so I’m not sure if this is how they all are but I felt like this one was saying the same stuff. Also I couldn’t really find myself relating to what he’s talking about it seems like the book is geared towards women that need to be lifted up or motivated. However it did have some parts that inspired me in some way so I am glad to have read it.
August 11, 2015
Ok maybe not a masterpiece work on self-improvement, self-empowerment and relationships, but this book does offer some words of wisdom for anyone who is willing to give it a try. My favorite parts start with the prayer at the beginning where he actually thanks Father God and not just some higher power or greater being. He is genuine enough to offer what feels like real prayer. Chapter 1 feels like more memoir but I guess we needed to get a little of his background to understand where he truly came from and how far he has come. The remainder of the chapters were some of my favorite. Especially chapters 2 & 3. Since the chapter titles start off as questions, they made me answer and evaluate. You could actually go through each sub-heading, read just the first two paragraphs and you are definitely going to read something that makes question and evaluate. Worth the time to read if you want to read how someone else got out his own way and if you want to start your own journey.
August 3, 2012
I love this book. Tyrese is open & honest about his shortcomings as a person. He tells you exactly what he is thinking & that they are all only his opinions. He brings about new ways to look at life! I love his faith & determination to live his life on his own terms! My favorite parts are his selfishness views & his top 5 approach!
Tyrese has more insight into the world of money than I thought he would share which is inspiring! I like that even in telling you his point of views he let's you know his decision may not have been right but why he made that choice. A lot of people run around pretending their advice is the end all be all. Tyrese does not! He really does motivate you to look at your underlying motivations in life & question yourself!
I know what book I will be giving as a gift along with others!!
Tyrese has more insight into the world of money than I thought he would share which is inspiring! I like that even in telling you his point of views he let's you know his decision may not have been right but why he made that choice. A lot of people run around pretending their advice is the end all be all. Tyrese does not! He really does motivate you to look at your underlying motivations in life & question yourself!
I know what book I will be giving as a gift along with others!!
April 13, 2012
There is some really great advice in this book. I do wish he there was more of Tyrese in it than just his advice, but none the less, a good read. I did start tuning out at the cheating chapter, mainly I felt like there was not mention of personal responsibility, just the general "men will be men", as if they have no willpower. I understand the difference between men and women, but it came across at least to me that people are just skin-deep. And from a someone who has a strong faith, I honestly expect a deeper look into situations, even in his own examples than what there were. That being said, I would definitely recommend this book for it's great message of self love and empowerment.
April 16, 2011
Surprisingly, I liked this book. He's not a psychotherapist, he's an actor/singer, so don't read it expecting anything more than that. It was like sitting with a friend who's giving you positive advice. If you go into it thinking nothing more than that, you may enjoy it. I never really thought of Tyrese, I don't like him or dislike him, but after reading this, I have to say it did give me a new found respect for him. If you're looking for something to give a little positive uplift, give this book a try...it's an easy read (read it in one afternoon).
August 14, 2011
I think thought this was a very good book. He is no psycologist or psychiatrist, but I think this can fall in the category of self help book -- and a good one at that. I would advise people against taking everything in this book as gospel (particularly the stuff on why men cheat). But Tyrese does a very good job of making you think about your life and how you might be holding yourself up from the life you want.
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