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Thanks so much! I makes me happy that you replied and support us fans!!
Hi Abi! I have a daughter who has been mildly bullied for not being "girly" enough. In other words, she likes SciFi/dystopia/etc. (Lauren, she's still a little bit too young for the Delirium series, but I have it on her to-do list! :-) ) Wil Wheaton gave some fantastic off-the-cuff advice to a young lady who was being bullied for being "a nerd." If you've not heard his comments yet, please take a moment and listen to his response. It gave my daughter such courage and hope. I hope it helps you, too.
http://www.people.com/people/article/...
Thank you so much, Leah. I feel so lighthearted now and more courageous. Thank you!!
You're very welcome!!!! I'm Wil's age and grew up watching him grow up on STNG. He is the real deal.
I too was bullied and I used to remove the dust jackets from my books so people were less likely to tease me about what I was reading. I hate to hear this but it doesn't surprise me. Children can be very cruel.
I haven't read one of your books yet. Sounds like you write good stories. Billy Sharpe
why would they bully you? theyre probably just jealous that your smarter than them or something, because as you know guys, readers are awesome:)
I might be over-analyzing this, but the bullying might tie in to one of the themes of the book: the attack on female choice under the guise of the (patriarchal) status quo and "logical", "scientific" arranged partnering.
Despite modern understanding of the incredibly important role that emotion plays in decision making, psudo-scientific intellectual elitism still sells the idea that emotions are bad and that only women "suffer" from them.
One of the most frightening things about endemic (learned from a young age and nearly invisible) patriarchy is that rewards women for bullying other women especially for making choices that do not support the established stereotypes (power structure).
It is a self-perpetuating cycle teaching lies like:
1) Women are dumb so they do not deserve education.
2) Women are uneducated so they must be dumb.
3) Women do not know what they want and must be lead.
4) Because different women want different things it is a flaw, so they need "help" and "training" to teach them what they should want.
5) Since some women change their minds and experiment/explore they are indecisive and need to be told what to do.
6) (All) Women are bad a math, science, etc. Those are only things that men are good at.
There is a similar attack on men being sensitive and using their emotions. The hyper-masculine idea that men should not have/show emotions, and that it is OK to bully them for showing emotion in public.
If you are interested, the NF biology book The Evolution of Beauty explores the idea of female mate choice and endemic patriarchy in nature (the sexual arms race to control women's reproductive choice).
https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/3...
There are many articles and books on the importance and strength that emotion gives to decision making (as well as how it distracts). People who lose their ability to feel are often struck helpless and unable to be decisive in their everyday lives.
One of the best known books on the subject is
Descartes' Error by António R. Damásio
https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/1...
That's unfair! Keep fangirling my prayers are with you. I think you should get the freedom to read what you enjoy life's too short. :)
That's unfair! Keep fangirling my prayers are with you. I think you should get the freedom to read what you enjoy life's too short. :)
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Hi Abi! I have a daughter who has been mildly bullied for not being "girly" enough. In other words, she likes SciFi/dystopia/etc. (Lauren, she's still a little bit too young for the Delirium series, but I have it on her to-do list! :-) ) Wil Wheaton gave some fantastic off-the-cuff advice to a young lady who was being bullied for being "a nerd." If you've not heard his comments yet, please take a moment and listen to his response. It gave my daughter such courage and hope. I hope it helps you, too. http://www.people.com/people/article/...
Thank you so much, Leah. I feel so lighthearted now and more courageous. Thank you!!
You're very welcome!!!! I'm Wil's age and grew up watching him grow up on STNG. He is the real deal.
I too was bullied and I used to remove the dust jackets from my books so people were less likely to tease me about what I was reading. I hate to hear this but it doesn't surprise me. Children can be very cruel.
I haven't read one of your books yet. Sounds like you write good stories. Billy Sharpe
The people bullying you should actually READ pandemonium, when they see how awesome it is, they will eat their words.
why would they bully you? theyre probably just jealous that your smarter than them or something, because as you know guys, readers are awesome:)
I might be over-analyzing this, but the bullying might tie in to one of the themes of the book: the attack on female choice under the guise of the (patriarchal) status quo and "logical", "scientific" arranged partnering. Despite modern understanding of the incredibly important role that emotion plays in decision making, psudo-scientific intellectual elitism still sells the idea that emotions are bad and that only women "suffer" from them.
One of the most frightening things about endemic (learned from a young age and nearly invisible) patriarchy is that rewards women for bullying other women especially for making choices that do not support the established stereotypes (power structure).
It is a self-perpetuating cycle teaching lies like:
1) Women are dumb so they do not deserve education.
2) Women are uneducated so they must be dumb.
3) Women do not know what they want and must be lead.
4) Because different women want different things it is a flaw, so they need "help" and "training" to teach them what they should want.
5) Since some women change their minds and experiment/explore they are indecisive and need to be told what to do.
6) (All) Women are bad a math, science, etc. Those are only things that men are good at.
There is a similar attack on men being sensitive and using their emotions. The hyper-masculine idea that men should not have/show emotions, and that it is OK to bully them for showing emotion in public.
If you are interested, the NF biology book The Evolution of Beauty explores the idea of female mate choice and endemic patriarchy in nature (the sexual arms race to control women's reproductive choice).https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/3...
There are many articles and books on the importance and strength that emotion gives to decision making (as well as how it distracts). People who lose their ability to feel are often struck helpless and unable to be decisive in their everyday lives.One of the best known books on the subject is
Descartes' Error by António R. Damásio
https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/1...
That's unfair! Keep fangirling my prayers are with you. I think you should get the freedom to read what you enjoy life's too short. :)
That's unfair! Keep fangirling my prayers are with you. I think you should get the freedom to read what you enjoy life's too short. :)
