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Finnock wrote: "I feel like I'm 'too old' to question my gender and still not have any answers to this despite having the recurring thoughts since my early 20's but haven't had the language to really understand un..."

Anything I was going to say Ella already covered, but I'll second it as further proof.

I completely understand actually! I'm agender, but I questioned my gender for a while before settling with this. I had almost all of the thoughts you're having right now.
If you're looking for a label, I'd say genderfluid seems to fit, but it's your gender so I don't really have a say. If you want to think about it, try thinking about all the different genders you know of and think about in that context. How does it feel? If you have body dysphoria, imagine the body you want? Does it change from day to day?
Of course, these are all tactics I used, and your experience could be completely different from mine.
I don't know much about internalized feelings, and I'm grateful to never have experienced them, but if anyone else has feel free to give (supportive) input.
I don't think you're copying your friends. I doubt you could come up with a strong feeling through peer pressure. if you're worried about being perceived as such, however, you can wait on revealing your feelings until you've figured things out with yourself. this will not only out time between their coming out and yours (if yours happens) but it will also give you time to figure yourself out a bit more.
I hope any of my advice was good, and if you have any more questions let me know.

Ysa wrote: "Thank you if you have any support groups online i could look for please let me know"

i'll compile a list and get back to you

Ysa wrote: "Ya they have. But my grandparents are really aginst queer people. My friends are not sure about what they think. But i just want my parents.to be ok with me agian. Thank you for your help so far. Y..."

i'm glad i could help in anything.
i think some steps you could take would be collecting resources that are meant for educating anti-LGBTQ+ people in why it's not bad to be queer.
maybe start with gentler things like "it's not someone's 'fault' or decision to be queer" and slowly work up to "it's not bad to be queer"
(also try showing them the good things the LGBTQ+ community does and all the happiness that people who are accepted feel)
you could start with your friends and then work up to your parents. this would likely be a slow process, but hopefully rewarding.
meanwhile, lean on your girlfriend and the queer community for support. we've got your back <3
the Trevor Project has a site and a support system. Even websites like Scratch (a coding website aimed at children) have LGBTQ+ support groups. (avoid Amino, as it's mostly unmoderated and there are a lot of groups that don't support genderqueer people or bi/pan people and the like)
plus, there's this one right here!
i hope i could be of any help, and i wish you luck with your coming out proccess.

ugh, that sucks so much i'm really sorry. have they been acting the same around you?

there ya go

ah. so were they upset then?
how have they treated your brother since his coming out? (this may help to determine how they might treat you)
how have they been treating you since this?

there.

should i move this to the book section??

aww yeah!

ahh i figured, it was definitely that good

yessssssss

i do low-key have a crush on Emma tho ngl

uh it's really good check it out

~Ashley~ wrote: "There's also The Doctors are Out. Both doctors are gay, I'm pretty sure"

i think one of them is pan or bi (not sure) and i know that's been moved up because i remember going to catch up on it and realizing it was on webtoon and not discover and being super happy but also sad that i'd have to wait again.

Ɖɼ⏶ɠ☼ wrote: "Muted is a webtoon about a librarian and a mute guy named Kai who fall in love with each other. In one episode the author explains the main characters orientations. The librarian is gay, Kai just h..."

oh yeah! i loved that one. it was on discover last i checked, has it been moved up?

no i've been wanting to read this for a while

I have a similar situation with my father ((view spoiler)[he's fine with LGBTQ+ folks apparently, but it's "not what he wanted for me" (hide spoiler)]). You said that you tried to come out to your parents, and I'm guessing you mean that they didn't understand what you meant??

From what I can tell pan would fit as a label best. There are also people who go by queer and just like who they like.
As for liking guys, what I did when I was trying to figure out if I liked guys is I tried imagining a relationship with a guy. Not just looking at them and seeing if you think they're attractive, but imagining an actual relationship with a guy. This isn't a definitive method and it might not work for everyone, but it worked for me.
For what it's worth I've had a slightly similar experience before, and I was just as confused as you. I ended up just trying not to think about it too much but I understand that that doesn't work for everyone.
I hope the input helps even a little bit.