Portia’s Comments (group member since Oct 17, 2012)

Portia’s comments from the Tidal Change Book Club group.

When i start a business, i will hopefully have customers. Their pigment will not be a factor. I just care about adding value to their lives and they can in turn add some greens to my bank account. We have to move away from that mentality. Its limits possibilities

Cari, that would be great topic to research. Would you not be keen to write one yourself?

1. Did you see blue-beard traits in your husband/fiance/boyfriend and ignored them? Are you paying the price now?
2. Is there a relationship you have that has gone through many phases e.g birth/death/change in the rules of engagement? Why couldn't it just be death and moving on?
3. Do you agree that a woman needs to be with other women and that there is no other options?
4. Do you identify with the story where someone wanted something badly but kept on getting distracted by superficial things (tasked with guessing the names of the twins before he could get their hand in marriage?). Is yours a succeful story or are you still struggling?
5. Are you in a situation where , like the water maiden married to a terrestrial man and had a son with him, you feel like - yes, you are loved but cannot express your true nature/you are living according to someone's prescription and cannot handle it anymore?
6. Is there a son that was born in this artifial world you are married into I.e what practices/good that came out of this "marriage" that you wouldn't like to get rid off when you go back to the real you?
7. Are you suppressed by culture? Which aspects of your nature are not allowed to surface?
8. Are you psychic? Do you have instincts that never fail you (Vasalisa's mom giving her a doll for guidance)? Have always listened to them? If not, why?
9. To those who have children: do you believe that women have the wisdom to decide who should live or die among their children in order for their families to survive?
10. What is your take on the veiling issue: is it to oppress a woman; make her mysterious; or does it give her power. Is a woman with an intact hymen any more valuable than one without?
11. In line with the book, w how would you define consciousness
12. What keeps us naïve. How do we overcome this? And what role does our culture and society play in our naivety.
13. If you had an opportunity to initiate a young girl, what would you tell her about Bulebeard .
14. How do we overcome the seductive natures of the Bluebeards
15. Once the sin eaters have consumed certain aspects of the psyche, do you allow it back into the life cycle – how – practically
16. Do you get dark man dreams. How did you previously interpret them prior to reading this book.
17. Valalisa - how are you going to allow the too-good mother to die in your life
18. How old are you in terms of battle scars
19. What is your view of the 7 year cycles . Where would you place yourself . Pg 448.
20. Manawee – do you feel that your duality is not welcome. How are you going to teach others to understand and accept our dual nature.
21. A good man is the one who keeps returning to try and understand, who does not let himself be deterred by the side shows on the road.
22. Skeleton Woman - Which area of your life needs to die in order to be birthed again.
23. To love means to stay when every cell says run
24. Pg 163 Protectisim creates nothing……holding on and screaming effects nothing. ONLY letting go, giving heart…only this creates. What do you need to let go off ?
25. Ugly duckling – how well do you digest a complement.
26. Pg 205 – the flesh is not about shape, colour ……do we feel a range/spectrum of feelings. How are you using your flesh? How do you intend using it more……for feeling.
27. Are you caught in a trap of only focusing on the good and overlooking the bad? How do you start dealing with the bad to strength en your consciousness.
28. Are you over-committed. Is your art reserved for stolen moments? What creates this trap for women and how do you propose they get out of it.
29. Pg 357 Good Old Rage - ghosts not laid properly to rest. Energy that was bound up in rage can be used for other things.
30. The light women carry always attract predators. How does a woman continue to carry the light but protect themselves from the predators
31. Where is your soul?
32. Having read this book, do you feel compelled to start a journey towards deeper consciousness or will you just continue with your life.

no comment from me!!! u know i am guilty of not reading work by fellow african authors