“I think there are three main programs that every child needs. They are: ‘Education’, ‘I’m OK’ and ‘The world is OK’. Education is obvious; you need to learn some stuff to get by in the world. But even more important, you need to learn that whatever happens, whatever you do or don’t achieve, whatever anybody says about you, you are OK, because you are you. Whatever happens, good or bad, it’ll be OK in the end, because the world is an OK place. If you learn these lessons, you have a happy life, unless you are really unlucky and suffer wave after wave of misfortune later in life. You absorb most reverses with phlegmatic acceptance, because of your happy and realistic underlying assumptions. But if you don’t, you tend to run your life as a set of threats to guard against, hostile circumstances to overcome and people to please.”