“If your Judge Imposter obscures your ability to see beyond surface glam, you never experience people for who they really are. I’ve also traveled enough to know two things about beauty: (1) It is truly in the eye of the beholder (along with the judgments in the beholder’s mind), and (2) it is informed by the culture you grew up in: what’s judged as beautiful in one culture might be bland or uninteresting in another”