“For some of us, commitment issues are not always out in the open. Instead they are hidden and subtle, clothed in an assortment of disguises. For example:

• If you find that you prefer idealized fantasies to flawed human partners, then you may not realize how commitment fears are affecting your life.
• If you consistently commit yourself to inappropriate or unavailable partners, you may not always see how your conflicts are contributing to a destructive pattern.
• If you are very ’picky’ or have a pattern of faultfinding, then, you may fail to take into account how much of this is caused by commitment issues.
• If you are unable to recover from a failed love relationship, then you may be unable to recognize how your own fears are contributing to your paralysis.
• If something about your attitude and life-style discourages potential partners, then you may not be aware of the barriers you have constructed against commitment.”