“The way you grew up is allowed to have left a mark on you,’ she says. ‘You don’t have to meet everyone’s individual trauma yardsticks. You feel how you feel. It affects you how it affects you. If it takes a toll on you then it takes a fucking toll on you. No one else’s opinion can change that, as much as they might try.’ I want to cry. I never realised how long I’d been waiting to be told that.”