“Instead of “Why am I the way I am?” try asking yourself, “What would help me become more likable to myself?” This adjustment shifts your focus from the past to the present and emphasizes your ability to take action and change whatever it is that you’re unhappy with. It can pull you out of thought patterns that encourage feelings of hopelessness and powerlessness. It helps you remember that no matter where you come from, you’re the author now, and if you don’t like the direction your story is heading in, you can write yourself a new course.”