“I had never experienced "just attraction," a physical impulse - only emotional desire that manifested physically. I wanted sex with someone only when I was already prepared to change my life for them, so I did not believe Henry when he claimed that wanting sex with others did not have to threaten me. When he talked about how everyone was sexually attracted to everyone else all the time, I could not understand attraction as anything but how I experienced it: emotional yearning - love, really - overpowering and overwhelming, a disaster for our relationship if targeted toward anyone but me.”