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#1

“I buried my head under the darkness of the pillow and pretended it was night. I couldn't see the point of getting up. I had nothing to look forward to.”
― Sylvia Plath, The Bell Jar

tags: darkness, look-forward, night, pillow, pretend, sleep, sylvia-plath, the-bell-jar

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#2

“what happens when a baby doesn’t get those positive, nurturing responses? Say, if a mom is on her own with no help, or depressed, or in a violent relationship? She may really want to be a loving, responsive parent, but is that possible under those circumstances? Dr. Perry: This is one of the central problems in our society; we have too many parents caring for children with inadequate supports. The result is what you would expect. An overwhelmed, exhausted, dysregulated parent will have a hard time regulating a child consistently and predictably. This can impact the child in two really important ways. First, it affects the development of the child’s stress-response systems (see Figure 3). If the hungry, cold, scared infant is inconsistently responded to—and regulated—by the overwhelmed caregiver, this creates an inconsistent, prolonged, and unpredictable activation of the child’s stress-response systems. The result is a sensitization of these important systems.”
― Bruce D. Perry, What Happened to You?: Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing

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#3

“We have talked a lot about how the actions of caregivers influence the child, but it’s important to remember that those caregivers were also children influenced by their caregivers. The effects of trauma stretch far and wide across generations and across communities, and it’s important to always come back to our central question with compassion: What happened to you?”
― Bruce D. Perry, What Happened To You?: Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing

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#4

“What I’ve learned from talking to so many victims of traumatic events, abuse, or neglect is that after absorbing these painful experiences, the child begins to ache. A deep longing to feel needed, validated, and valued begins to take hold. As these children grow, they lack the ability to set a standard for what they deserve. And if that lack is not addressed, what often follows is a complicated, frustrating pattern of self-sabotage, violence, promiscuity, or addiction.”
― Oprah Winfrey, What Happened to You?: Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing

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#5

“A bad fight is anything which does not help to move the relationship and the people involved forward. If one dominates the other, it will eventually be at the expense of the relationship. Everything depends on the intention. If the intention is to hurt, belittle, ignore, reject or win then good will struggle to come from that. If the intention is to wrestle with some boundaries and deal with unresolved issues then that is positive and important. Love for the other person and respect for their rights, as well as our own rights, will set a steady course for any argument. Of most value is a sincere desire to make the relationship work which, after all, is often why we fight. We want the relationship to honestly work.”
― Donna Goddard, Love's Longing

tags: conflict, conflict-resolution, couples-fights, fighting, healing, love, personal-growth, relationship-advicenships, relationships, spiritual-growth

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#6

“Bravery is the choice to show up and listen to another person, be it a loved one or perceived foe, even when it is uncomfortable, painful, or the last thing you want to do.”
― Alaric Hutchinson

tags: acceptance, accountability, avoidance, bravery, compassion, conflict-resolution, consciousness, courage, giving, growth, inner-peace, inspirational, listening, love, pain, peace, peace-of-mind, peace-on-earth, present-moment, psychology, relationships, showing-up, spiritual, uncomfortable, wisdom, words-of-wisdom, words-to-live-by, zen

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#7

“Compassion hurts. When you feel connected to everything, you also feel responsible for everything. And you cannot turn away. Your destiny is bound with the destinies of others. You must either learn to carry the Universe or be crushed by it. You must grow strong enough to love the world, yet empty enough to sit down at the same table with its worst horrors.”
― Andrew Boyd, Daily Afflictions: The Agony of Being Connected to Everything in the Universe

tags: compassion, destiny, empathy, pain, universe

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#8

“I find the best way to love someone is not to change them, but instead, help them reveal the greatest version of themselves.”
― Steve Maraboli, Unapologetically You: Reflections on Life and the Human Experience

tags: be-yourself, change, choices, compassion, greatest-version, happiness, helping, love, relationships, success

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#9

“Highly sensitive people are too often perceived as weaklings or damaged goods. To feel intensely is not a symptom of weakness, it is the trademark of the truly alive and compassionate. It is not the empath who is broken, it is society that has become dysfunctional and emotionally disabled. There is no shame in expressing your authentic feelings. Those who are at times described as being a 'hot mess' or having 'too many issues' are the very fabric of what keeps the dream alive for a more caring, humane world. Never be ashamed to let your tears shine a light in this world.”
― Anthon St. Maarten

tags: authenticity, caring, caring-for-others, caring-too-much, compassion, damaged-goods, damaged-people, damaged-souls, dysfunctional-society, dysfunctional-world, emotional, emotional-intelligence, emotional-pain, emotionally-disabled, empath, empathic, empaths, empathy, empathy-diversity, feeling, feelings, highly-sensitive-person, hot-mess, humane, humaneness, new-age-quotes, new-world, sensitive, sensitiveness, sensitivity, society, society-humanity, society-problem, tears-crying, weakness, weakness-and-strength, weakness-quotes

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#10

“Some things cannot be fixed; they can only be carried. Grief like yours, love like yours, can only be carried.

Survival in grief, even eventually building a new life alongside grief, comes with the willingness to bear witness, both to yourself and to the others who find themselves inside this life they didn’t see coming. Together, we create real hope for ourselves,
and for one another. We need each other to survive.

I wish this for you: to find the people you belong with, the ones who will see your pain, companion you, hold you close,
even as the heavy lifting of grief is yours alone. As hard as they may seem to find at times, your community is out there. Look
for them. Collect them. Knit them into a vast flotilla of light that can hold you.”
― Megan Devine, It's OK That You're Not OK

tags: child-loss, community, grief, hope, kindness, love, resilience, suicide, trauma, witness

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#11

“True comfort in grief is in acknowledging the pain, not in trying to make it go away. Companionship, not correction, is the way forward.”
― Megan Devine, It's OK That You're Not OK

tags: authenticity, candor, care-taking, grief, hope, love, pain, resilience, shame, support

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#12

“When someone you love dies, you don't just lose them in the present or in the past. You lose the future you should have had, and might have had, with them. They are missing from all the life that was to be.”
― Megan Devine, It's OK That You're Not OK

tags: child-loss, death, grief, loss, sadness, suicide, trauma, witness

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#13

“Love with open hands, with an open heart, knowing that what is given to you will die. It will change. Love anyway. You witness incredible pain in this life. Love anyway.”
― Megan Devine, It's OK That You're Not OK

tags: coping-skills, death, grief, love, self-awareness

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