Pamela Clare ~ Fan Group discussion

And yet, in real life, we would probably hate their guts?

Is this a new thread? Looks that way. I don't know Pam, I'm always wondering the same thing. The men in books are always wonderful, even if they are vastly different personality wise. In real life I hear single women (myself one of them) complaining of the same problems with men over and over again, and I think, is it just immature of me to expect guys to act like the heroes in my favourite books? Dunno.

Would we hate our heroes guts in real life? I don't know. I think I could be best friends with some of them. Track your favourite heroes/imaginary boyfriends. I've noticed a pattern with mine. I'm not sure what it means. It could be STAY AWAY FROM MEN LIKE THIS or it could be, DATE MEN LIKE THIS.

My favorite kind of heroes in my romance are the he-man uber protective/possessive alphas. In real life they would more than likely drive me crazy. My own husband who has a lot of the traits of those alphas drives me nuts at times. Then every once in a while he shows a sweet supportive and loving side that has me forgiving his stubborn, bossy self. A lot of the heroes are the strong silent type. I love silence but sometimes I want to know what he thinking and why he does certain things. Silence is golden but there is a time when things must be said.

I guess I want the happy medium. I want my cake and I want to eat it! ☺

Well, who doesn't? I always try to keep in mind when dealing with males of any age, no matter my relationship to them, that a) they are more emotional than women (oh yes, they truly are!) and that b)it takes them longer to gather and process thoughts to communicate. So I'm hoping if they aren't talking that they are thinking and not going into shut down (flight) mode.

Oh, my pattern seems to be either ultra passionate-sometimes poessessive/protective or the sweethearts who are all warm and thoughtful and just sweet. Which would I want in real life? I don't know LOL I'm hoping one day I can find a guy who merges these characteristics. I don't think I could a super bossy guy.

What's the point of having a cake if you can't eat it, too??

Good question! But if you eat it then you no longer have it.

Pamela(AllHoney) wrote: "Good question! But if you eat it then you no longer have it."

True.

The thing is, if we had both, we might not find these guys (real or imaginary) so darn enticing.

Yeah, but I still love reading about them ☺

Me too!

I think it's because we know they are fake and therefore more forgiving of their flaws. We don't have to spend 24/7 365 days a year with them. Honestly, some of those uber-alpha heroes would probably have to get restraining orders against me and my shovel for their thickheaded ways if they were real and in my life. But that's just me!

Pamela(AllHoney) wrote: "My favorite kind of heroes in my romance are the he-man uber protective/possessive alphas. In real life they would more than likely drive me crazy. My own husband who has a lot of the traits of tho..."

couldn't have said it better myself!

Yeah, alpha male heroes aren't always heroes. If there's not some redeeming trait they don't end up on my book boyfriend list.