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The host asked if we are that far gone that our self check buttons are off. Yes, they are. There is a trend that has been happening for a while in this country that nobody is responsible for their actions. It is always someone else's fault that we did what we did. Hurt someone's feelings? Instead of sucking it up and dealing with it, file a lawsuit! Fat? Blame the fast food industry, your mom and every one else for selling you food! Cut your hand off while cleaning the moving blades on the lawnmower? Sue the maker for NOT telling you NOT to do that!
Common sense used to be something that was treasured in this world. Somehow people knew NOT to take electrical appliances into the shower, not to clean spinning metal blades while they were spinning, and not to do the plethora of things that have now lead to warning labels leaving you wondering about the fate of the species.
The online world has given us a sense of anonymity that is allowing for these rants,twaddles full of rage,pictures of strangers,and other posts to become "viral" and spread like wild fire. But what purpose are these things really serving? Is this the modern outlet for our anger since we can't go out and chop fire wood,hunt or do other physical things that that energy could be channeled into?
Or is it simply the fact that every lackwit out there has a phone smarter than they? I fear it is this over the top multiple function devices that have lead to the overload of self entitled,whinny,idiotic,overblown inanity to spread. If this was only an American thing, I would not blame the rest of the world for not liking us much, but this behavior is world wide, and shows no stopping.
We could stop it if we wanted to badly enough. We could stop watching the things, forwarding them to one and all and not letting these spoiled brats have even one second of fame. Legitimate problems are getting buried in the maelstrom of nonsense. The parents who used social media to change guidelines to save the life or their child, or the activists who bring positive social change are getting overrun by selfish people who did NOT want onions on their hamburger!
It is time that we start making ourselves accountable for ourselves. We need to start having more common sense and admit when we are wrong. It's that simple. Our self check buttons need to be switched to the "on" position and left there. We need to start calling spoiled brats what they are and not give into their behavior. I can only imagine that their parents must have given into every tantrum that these people ever threw as children as the explanation for their ridiculous behavior.
We need to take on responsibility and teach our children how to do so, or in the near future, the freedom of speech we so treasure in this country will become the freedom of screech.
Kim wrote: "I was watching CNN the other day and the host was talking about how we have new trend of on-line video rants over the smallest things. Everything from drunken rants about a cheeseburger to an 8 mi..."I am currently reading a book that goes hand-in-hand with this topic... Is It Just Me? Or is it nuts out there? by Whoopi Goldberg. So far... VERY good.
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There very few of us who have weight issues that have not had a food issue at some point in our lives. We have emotionally eaten, eaten to hide feelings, starved ourselves to lose weight and there are those of you in this group who may be recovering or know a recovering bulimic or anorexic. Body dysmorphic disorders can happen to anyone about any part of our bodies. This can come from meta messages, family, culture,peers,or any combination there of.
Our society has it set up to make you feel guilty over food, your size and how you look. We teach our young ladies to love themselves for who they are and not listen to meta messages, but when they hear their mothers say negative things about themselves, you are just teaching them all the things you just said that they shouldn't be doing.
Our society is geared for youth,which translates to vitality,beauty,and health. It is assumed that thin must be healthy,and than being any kind of overweight (even if it's only 5 lbs.) is evil,disgusting,and wrong. So, just how are we supposed to develop a healthy relationship with food if there is so much pressure?
A related article was below this, discussing a new weight loss program that targets yo-yo dieters. A doctor has decided to find out WHY we eat what we do, WHY we over eat, eat when not hungry and WHY certain foods trigger us to eat them to excess. She works with meditation, hypnotherapy, and talking therapy to get to the root of why people are doing what they are doing. There is no diet plan, exercise regimen, or anything like that. It is a behavioral treatment designed to help you truly see where your self sabotage issues are and find ways to truly help yourself get beyond them so you are not over loaded by your own desires.
This plays into the idea that all our problems go back to unhealthy relationships with food. Perhaps this is one of many factors that cause us to be big, and is most assuredly a major cause for eating disorders. It is not saying that you are fat because you had a trauma, but that there COULD be something you may not even remember that causes you to do what you crave what you crave.(At $350 a session, if you don't have insurance, that is a lot of pressure to come up with something.)
We all have family or cultural triggers for food, meta messages and the like to add guilt. Food is used to pacify children who fuss, assuage guilt from mothers who work, fears of seeming like a bad host, and other issues. We may never know WHY we do what we do,but letting go of the over load and focusing on yourself is what's important. Learn to love food for what it is. Indulge once a month. Learn to eat for nutrition and try to observe what you eat when upset. Just remember, food should not make you feel guilty. You should not have to hide behind food or hide what you eat. IF you are, then you need to find help. Please don't feel bad if you are struggling, you are NOT broken, wrong or bad, You are human being with all the flaws that come with it, and that's o.k.
What we need is a book about a persons healthy relationship with food.
Now,THAT would be a good read.