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Relationship Trouble>Having probs? Need Help? Come and share, then get some advise.

i have a boyfriend here,
but there is someone else want me and him to broke up.
so,tht someone wear my account to changing everything about me and my bf (he made like thts all my foult!),tht someone talking somethin rude or idk tht to my bf, and tht someone errased everything about me and my bf.
FINALLY, THT SOMEONE MADE MY BF BELIEVE SUCCESSFULLY AND NOW, HE LEAEVE ME ALONE WITH SOMETHIN THT IDK.

this problem hurt me soooo bad!!!!!!!!!!!!

So, I need some help :)
I have this guy friend. I'm known him for about seven years now and he's one of my all-time best friends. Well, his parents want him and me to get together seeing as how I'm a good influence on him and we really enjoy hanging out with each other. I've wanted to be with him since I was nine and he was nine (no joke) but more so since last year. My problem is I start to think that he likes me (he flirts all the time) and then he runs off to one of his female friends x.x It's terrible. And I'm not all that out-going when it comes to crushes, and I'm honestly hoping that this crush is just a phase that I'll get over soon. But it's been going on for the past seven years. I have a feeling that it's not going away anytime soon.

So, basically, I need to figure out what I should do to tell if he likes me :) Help?

be blunt with him and tell him how it is, if he REALLY likes you then he will be IMPRESSED and feel really honored to have you GO AFTER HIM

I wish that I could have enough confidence to do that. The thing is, is I don't want to ruin what relationship we already have (aka, my best friend) so I'm afraid that if we have a relationship that I'll/we'll end up making it worse rather than better.

its alrite some people dnt wrk like me

He's trying to make you jealous. He's seeing how you react when he's with other girls.

just DONT get jealous..... if you want... do the same thing

It's hard to not get jealous xD
I've done the same thing, only not really on purpose until recently...

as long as you dnt start having sex with other guys to get him jealous

xD I'm not having sex until I get married. No way.

well, i dnt have that problem.... i already have its fun... but i was just sayn not to

Well, if you act jealous, it's giving him a sign you're interested.

it is.... 4real

I need to start showing that I'm jealous then xD I always try to act non-chalant about it. Honestly, my thoughts are "if she matters to him, than she matters to me." Is that a bad thing?

kinda, but if he KNOWS how much that him going with her hurts you then you have to make your own decision abt that, bc theres 2 things you could do in that case

What are the two things?

I wish that I could read guy's minds x.x That would make things so much easier. Because my friends say that he seems to like me and everything and that always say that he flirts with me but then again he goes off and hangs around his other female friends. It's rather annoying because then I don't honestly know if he likes me -sigh- This is so difficult xD

guys dnt see female freinds as anythng wrong

I don't know if they're female friends or girlfriends, though. I met two of his girlfriends over the past 7 years and he's had more than that, I can guarantee.

does he sleep with them

He better not be. He's Mormon, too, and if he's sleeping with them then he's going against what our church says and what his parents say. I'm pretty sure that he doesn't but sleeping with them shouldn't be what defines a relationship as boyfriend and girlfriend.

it isnt.... thats not what i base it on....

But, if he's testing you, and you don't act jealous, then he thinks you don't care that way.

Very good point.
Next time I'll act jealous :)
Just, not the crazy type of jealous xD

that might work. it usually does>depending on the guy.

If he's your best friend, I wouldnt date him- It almost never works out and then your out a friend... I dono just my opinion.

CJ you deserve someone better. if hes dating you and doesnt believe without having a good reason for not trusting what you say he is an a-hole n didnt deserve you

YoudontGnomie wrote: "If he's your best friend, I wouldnt date him- It almost never works out and then your out a friend... I dono just my opinion."

I tried going out with (not dating - I'm not allowed to date until I turn sixteen)/being boyfriend-girlfriend with one boy that I'd only really gotten to know for a month and it wasn't the best experience ever x.x I felt like we were rushing when we honestly weren't (we didn't even kiss and the relationship went from late August/early September to November) and I felt like I didn't really know him that well. Plus I have a hard time trusting guys which is another reason why I'd rather date my best guy friend than someone I barely know.

understandable,