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Ok so I personally am not depressed, it's just against my nature, but I have a very close friend who is really depressed since his girlfriend moved and idk how to help. Any thoughts?

Maybe they can keep it a long distance relationship for now...?

Yeh they have been but he REALLY misses her

I know I talk to him about it ALL THE TIME I'm his personal advice giver and he really loves her but I don't know how to help more

Yeh that's what I thought
Thnx abbey

Thnx but idk if it'll help i got him of the topic for about a month but he's back to it

Is his girlfriend happy? Is it what's best for her right now? Because if it is, that's all that should matter. If he really loves her, he knows that her happiness is most important. Sometimes that can help.

Well they can't talk as much as he like because his girlfriend has weird family issues so he goes on about how she hasn't sent him a message because she found someone else etc. but I know it's not true. Still he gets upset and I don't know what else to do.

And he'd do anything for her. He also won't complain to her which is where I come in.

Talk about their relationship maybe? If he remembers all the amazing things they've been through together, he might realize that they can get through anything. And, as hard as it is, sometimes people need to just be sad.

Yeh I know :) I just hate seeing him sad. It makes me wanna cry for him. He's only happy the week before he goes to see her then he sees her and the second he's back he's upset again. Then he doesn't get to see her for months usually. I can only manage to get him happy for about an hour at a time before he gets sad again.

Wow, that is rough.

I know :( I hate it when he's sad.

I have four close friends who are depressed and I want to help them, especially one of my best friends, as its making me almost depressed and panicky because she is and I'm worried about her. she keeps saying she wants to die and having mood swings. Sometimes she's really jokey and then she just starts crying for no apparant reason. Now she's started getting snappy and has a go at some of us. I'm really scared she's going to hurt herself or kill herself, even if she might not. I don't think telling an adult will help as shell just pretend everything's ok and might not trust me anymore. It's just making me freak and I want to help her but I don't know how.

Be there for her. Also telling an adult is always a good idea. If there's someone you really trust just tell them you're worried about her. She doesn't need to know that adult knows but the adult can keep an eye on her

I would do that but I think the adult would want to talk to her and I don't want her to think were betraying her. It isn't like we've told her what we think but it's clear we're worried about her.

Here's the thing: if you honestly think she's going to harm herself, at this point it's more important that she's safe rather than her liking you. You have to put her safety before your feelings

I suppose so. I don't think she's going to harm herself - she's very against that- but I'm just very paranoid about her commiting suicide. Me and my other best friend and really worried and down at the moment cos of it.

You just have to put your feelings aside and do what needs to be done to help her

Ok thanks. Ill talk to my other friend and we might go see a teacher.

Okay

Alice wrote: "I have four close friends who are depressed and I want to help them, especially one of my best friends, as its making me almost depressed and panicky because she is and I'm worried about her. she ..."

I understand completely what you mean. Adults can get somewhat frustrating if they don't understand. I suggest telling an adult you trust.