We Are Unique discussion

having any problems/dramas, with any of your friends? well come here

:)

My friend wants to go see Beauty and the Beast in theaters next week, but I've got to pay the rest of my tuition. Sadly, I can't pay for anything else while I'm doing that. What do you guys think? Can I get away with going to see it at the beginning of April? I feel like I keep putting it off. She's wanted to go see a movie for a couple months and I don't want her to think I don't want to go.

Just be honest. Maybe pay asap then go to a movie with her later in April or rent one because thats cheaper

Hmm. I don't know why I've been agonizing over this. Thank ya;)

Always!

If you guys are good friends it shouldn't be too big of a deal

Ya. We're good friends and she's pretty chill. I just feel bad.

Just make sure you tell her that. :3 it'lk all be fine

Ha. Sounds good:) *thumbs up*

the Artful Dodger {~I miss you~.} wrote: "I miss my friends. I only see them twice a year, and they are like my closest friends."

Somewhat same situation. I have close friends who live elsewhere and I see them once a year

the Artful Dodger {~Now Death, where is Thy Sting?~} wrote: "I miss my friends. I only see them twice a year, and they are like my closest friends."

Aww *hugs*

None of my friends replied on their emails.

They forgot about me! After they promised they wouldn't forget me!

How annoying. Although, it's hard to have friends far away.

sometimes having friends near by is hard too

Eric wrote: "sometimes having friends near by is hard too"

Ok I might end up going on a little rant, but yes Eric I totally agree. I had a friend, she was my best friend but way too cool for me. Ok we got along so well, but other than that we traveled in different groups of people. So she lived in my neighborhood. She was the street you passed on the way to my house. We would always go to each others houses and hang out any time we could. Then as eighth grade came to a close she stopped talking to me. We hung out a little bit at the beginning of the summer, but then she stopped answering my texts and she was too busy with other stuff even though she was never too busy for me before. I knew her too well. She only did volleyball. Yes, she was on this fancy club team, but they aren't going to take up every second of every day. That's unrealistic. Eventually she stopped talking to me all together. Shut me out. It's very hard because every time I would walk/drive/bike by her house (Biking by her house was most painful because we used to ride bikes to school together) I was reminded of all that pain, of how much I miss her. I have new friends that are in some ways better than her now, but every single time I look at her house my heart aches. On nice days she plays with her brothers that I'd also grown to be close friends with. They would wave and say hi to me, but she would look away as if she hated to see me. If she lived farther away from me I would be able to forget about her so much easier. In some respects I got that wish. She moved just a little while ago. It makes it easier not seeing her as much, but I still know that's her house. I still know that I will never hang out in her garage and eat dinner there again. It's extremely painful.

I'm so sorry to have gone on and on like that, but oh my goodness it felt so good to get that out.

So what do you do, if your friends with someone who is awesome and kind, and fun 20% of the time, and the other 80% is mean, annoying and clingy. We've been friends since we started school and they think i'm their best friend, but I honestly don't really like them. They tend to walk into a room and say the worst thing they notice about you before anything else. I don't want to break off our friendship, but I feel like I have to do everything for them. I always am the one travelling to see them, and bending to whatever they want to do. Any advice on how to deal with this?

I have 'friends' who would insult me.
it's like pretty much the whole athletics students.
They're so annoying, very cringe worthy..and think they're cooler than me when it comes to social media, dating, looks, and athleticism. They say I'm good at something on day, then right when I mess up a play, they start calling me trash. These people at my school don't know how to be or make friends. It's ridiculous...School is three weeks and 3 day away...and i have deal with people again until Christmas break because I'm moving..but still...I mean I still have real friends but...it's the other people trying to be friends with me.

I find that it's usually good to express your feelings. While that may not be fun for either party it's good to grt it out of the way without sending silent signals they may not pick up on. Id say to just take them aside one day and very kindly confront them about it. They to make sure they're in a decently good, happy mood though because if not that's not a fun conversation. Also I'd be careful with what you say because you're probably on tender grounds. Tip toeing across someone's ego is dangerous. Don't stomp on it unless you want to loose your friend, but if you do keep in mind that they might need you to be their friend. But if you do actually want to get rid of them drift away slowly.

Thanks so much for the advice! Really, it's hard for me because I am (Not trying to brag her, just telling the truth) naturally nice. I want the best for other people and sometimes it gets in the way of my own problems and needs. This year (like after the summer ends) the kid is not going to be going to the same school as me, and is probably going to have a hard time making friends. I don't want to abandon them because I know that being alone in a new school can be pretty stressful. But still, its hard for me to have to change all my plans and stuff to fit with what they want. Like for example, I live pretty far away from them, about an hour by subway. In the summer long bus rides and subways stuff is sort of gross since a lot of the transportation doesn't have air conditioning. I don't mind, because I use the subway to get around a lot, but this is a pretty long trip for me. For years I have been taking the subway up to their house, and they have never once offered to come to mine. Even when I suggested that they do, or ask that they come, they would down right deny me. But I don't want to have to abandon them.

Yes! I totally understand and Im just like that too. ((That's probably why you like the advice :P)) I really hope you figure out what to do and I know that even though you might not like your friend they really appreciate you.

Hi, I have a friend who we use to be super close and spend hours talking and hanging out together. I've been feeling like I'm losing her and she the only friend I had such a great relationship with. I told her how I felt and I feel like she didn't take how I feel serious. I also upset at her because I direct messaged her on Instagram and she didn't respond even though after I sent it I saw her liking and posting. I really don't want to lose her I've lost every other best friend I've had, she's the only one I have left.