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Message to your younger self.
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Start reading Terry Pratchetts Discworld series, you are going to love Neil Gaiman, and Mysteries might actually be your favorite genre so find Laurie.R King. (That is my personal version of it gets better)
being 16 with the knowledge of today...
Dennis wrote: "If you could send a message to your younger self, what would you say?"Learn the drum kit and study Computer Science!
"Don' t be lazy, believe in yourself and go study art. Oh, and never, NEVER date that asshole John!"
Don´t beleave it all will make sense in the end. It won´t. It may make you feel better now, but the crisis later on will be a lot smaller if you accept now, that shit simply happens :-) And stop beleaving your relationships will be great because you have seen so many shitty ones and you know what to do. Even you, honey, are going to make an atempt at marrying your dad, like all your siblings. And that´s okay. Just don´t think you will skip that part :-) Will save you all the nasty self-doubting and why-why-why whining! And start earlyer with running.
You can be the only person that loves you and thats okay, if someone's idea of loving you is to hurt you then thats not the love you need Also books are awesome dont let anyone tell you different
Go read your books
To my younger self: Life will consistently want anal. Invest in lube. Otherwise, it's not that bad and you get to do some super-cool stuff.
Save some money, don't spend it all going out all the time living it up!
"Your youngest years are going to be crazy-scary and are really going to suck, but hang on - after that it'll be so good! Unless you're in physical danger, never try to conceal anything beause delaying confrontations just makes things worse; have the courage to push through unpleasantness with honesty. Hang on, have faith, and always be as kind as you can. The sweet guys you're drawn to are the perfect choice - you'll find some that will like you just as much. Wait for love, and it'll all work out."
"Don't run away from the pain, it will teach you the most valuable lessons"
Always be true to yourself . Do something every day that scares you . Take a little time to be comfortable where you are but don’t let that comfort hold you back from great adventures. But most of all give yourself the love you so freely give to everyone else .
"Buy Starbucks stock because coffee is about to become a thing"
Lark wrote: ""Buy Starbucks stock because coffee is about to become a thing""Haha, love it! :)
I wrote a blog post on this a few years ago. Some points are specific to me, while others are more broadly applicable.Don't listen to Bible-bangers. They do not have all the answers, nor do they even follow their own rules, and they will not be there to pick up the pieces.
Do not be afraid to reevaluate even your most cherished beliefs. A belief that requires willful ignorance to survive deserves to die. If you grew up with a belief, ask yourself whether it would make as much sense if you came across it for the first time in adulthood. Also, if "error" has all of the best arguments against "truth," you need to reevaluate which is which.
So what if other people have skills that you don't? You have skills that they don't.
Don't listen to the politically correct crowd. They do not have all the answers, nor do they even follow their own rules, and they will not be there to pick up the pieces.
True love at first sight doesn't happen. What simply looks like it is called obsessive love; when you see someone exhibiting obsessive love, run for your life.
Be in no particular hurry to find a long-term relationship. You do not yet know what's out there. You do not yet even fully know what you want, and there's nothing wrong with that. In that regard, if a potential relationship isn't working out, don't be afraid to call it quits. When you first meet someone, you need to take the time to find out whether you and he are compatible; that's what dating is for.
There is nothing shameful or otherwise wrong about being a bottom or a sub.
Different gay men are attracted to different things. Not everyone is into the Carl Hardwick look (or whatever the media tell us this week we all like). Some gay men do like your particular look; even better, there are far more of them than of you. After having done your hitch as Daria, you will get to find out what it is like to be Quinn.
Of course, part of being Quinn is having to associate with Sandi. Your particular cross to bear is that there will always be someone trying to prove that he is smarter or otherwise better than you are. Just don't let those people get to you.
You fuck up, big and small time, don't worry, you'll get a cookie and some magic to help you
You will find peace. You’re quieter than others but that’s okay, it’s part of you and you need to stop overthinking it. At the end of the day, you are content.
You know who you are. Stop apologizing for it. Start apologizing for when you epically fuck up.
Monkiecat wrote: "... mostly... you're a dumb fuck. own it."ROTFLOL! :D
Don't let those who want to take away your belief in yourself succeed.
Keep a journal because you’re going to forget a lot. And don’t forget to breathe sometimes
Stop selling yourself short. Believe in yourself, your special gifts, your abilities. You’re smart, you’re funny, you’re cute, don’t dim your light in order to make people around you more comfortable. Be self-aware and self-assured, you got this!
Your valid, and you belong. Don't judge your body, it's amazing just the way it is. You don't have to hide, even when the other kids use gay as an insult. When people don't even know what Pansexual means. It doesn't matter if they don't except you. Cause you know what? Fuck them. Stop apologizing and stand up for your self.
Don’t let him hurt you. Also the reason you’re comparing yourself to boys and wanting to look like boys is because your trans idiot. Also start reading warrior cats again
Take that loan from the credit union that you turned down.
I'd probably tell myself: stay being unbothered by people's bullshit, it's good training. Oh, and yes you like girls and guys stop making yourself feel bad about it cause in the end none of your friends or family judged you for it
Don't live to keep others comfortable, but live to be true to yourself. Life is too short.
that girl you think is really pretty and named a literal angel after? that’s not platonic babe. you’re gay.
Mark wrote: "Don't live to keep others comfortable, but live to be true to yourself. Life is too short."Definitely this.
Dennis wrote: "Keep a journal because you’re going to forget a lot. And don’t forget to breathe sometimes"I think I would tell myself to do this too
I'd like to know you better. (upon some contingencies.)
Advice to my younger self? Take notes.
You hate them now, but soon, you will become one.
That is what I would give my younger self as a piece of advice.
Being queer is ok. Really. Better than ok 😀
Stop blaming others for destruction in your life.
you don't know real pain, so quit wining bitch! GET OVER UR DADDY ISSUES ALREADY.also, you're gay 🙃
you should stop acting like everyone wants you to act. you hate it too. i know it too well.
I would also say to my younger self: Hey, stop hating on gay people. You don't know it yet, but you are gay yourself.
Also, you're a femboy.
Also, you're a femboy.
“You’re going to be okay. It doesn’t seem like it now but everything will be okay: You’ll be happy. You’ll be mentally better. You’ll even have a wife (which, remember when you hated lesbians and your mom said it as an insult? Surprise!) and two cats! You even get back into reading and books! How exciting is that? Just please…don’t think about it. It will get better. I promise.”
- Me
Life isn't as intense as you think it'll be!
Life always has problems, it gets worse, it gets better. Remember your parents love you. Remember your friends love you. Remember who you love. And as the saying goes, when life gives you money, go buy something caffeinated. Cause who needs sleep when you have caffeine.
It’s more fun to be gay than to pretend you are not
Emily wrote: "It’s more fun to be gay than to pretend you are not"
You can say THAT again! ^w^
You can say THAT again! ^w^
I would say: Hold on, it really gets better!