Life Without Ed® (with Jenni!) discussion

Can we make this thread be a haven for finding inspiration? Inspiring words, videos, thoughts, ideas, questions, reminders, quotes, etc?...

Oh I don't know if we can add pictures though!

That's a GREAT ideal Eileen! I hope we can! My doctor actually shared a song with me today, it's called "Mended" by Matthew West! It makes me feel so positive!

I LOVE it!!!!!!

Eileen wrote: "Can we make this thread be a haven for finding inspiration? Inspiring words, videos, thoughts, ideas, questions, reminders, quotes, etc?..."

I LOVE this idea! Thank you!

If anyone else has cool ideas, please share.

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Megan wrote: "That's a GREAT ideal Eileen! I hope we can! My doctor actually shared a song with me today, it's called "Mended" by Matthew West! It makes me feel so positive!"

Cool...I will check that out! Thanks for sharing. If you are interested, you can listen to a couple of songs on my site:

https://jennischaefer.com/music/ (See the music player to play full songs, for free!)

Also, check out this blog entry about the power of music and healing: https://www.eatingrecoverycenter.com/...

Please keep sharing songs!

Eileen wrote: "Oh I don't know if we can add pictures though!"

I was able to add a photo here: https://www.goodreads.com/photo/group... -- I added the iceberg picture. Are you able to add pics on this page, too? That would be cool! Thanks again for your input.

Speaking of inspiration, one of my favorite quotes is the Japanese proverb:

"Fall down 7 times. Stand up 8."

Maybe Ed knocked you down recently. What matters is that you choose to stand. We can choose recovery in each and every moment. Any other favorite quotes?

Megan wrote: "That's a GREAT ideal Eileen! I hope we can! My doctor actually shared a song with me today, it's called "Mended" by Matthew West! It makes me feel so positive!"

This is a great song. Another good one is "Before the Morning" by Josh Wilson.

This is one of many quotes that an app I have gave me today:

"You are allowed to be sad. You are allowed to be scared. You are allowed to be confused. You are allowed to be weak. You are allowed to ask for help. You are allowed to let it go."

Jenni wrote: "Eileen wrote: "Oh I don't know if we can add pictures though!"

I was able to add a photo here: https://www.goodreads.com/photo/group... -- I added the iceberg pictur..."

It works from a computer. :)

I figured out how to get pictures to post here! You have to type (without the spaces)
< img src = http:// www. enter your picture's web address here.com>

Jenni wrote: "Eileen wrote: "Can we make this thread be a haven for finding inspiration? Inspiring words, videos, thoughts, ideas, questions, reminders, quotes, etc?..."

I LOVE this idea! Thank you!

If anyone..."

Jenni wrote: "Eileen wrote: "Can we make this thread be a haven for finding inspiration? Inspiring words, videos, thoughts, ideas, questions, reminders, quotes, etc?..."

I LOVE this idea! Thank you!

If anyone..."


Thanks Jenni! I will definitely look! I'm excited to see all the other songs and things as well. Music helps me so much

Overcomer by Mandisa
https://youtu.be/v24tLxsxGHM


Good Morning by Mandisa
https://youtu.be/AnmWwudeqfM

Oh wow, this is great! Love the music angle...even started a new thread for this: https://www.goodreads.com/topic/show/...

And, I am going to TRY my best to post an image. Thanks for figuring that out! Appreciate the image you shared as well.

Confused on one thing: how do I create a web address for a pic? Yes, I am a bit technologically challenged. :)

Jenni wrote: "Oh wow, this is great! Love the music angle...even started a new thread for this: https://www.goodreads.com/topic/show/...

And, I am going to TRY my best..."

Working on putting directions together for the pictures, Jenni. :-)

If you see a bunch of posts from me here, it is because I am working on this.

Here is the pic you wanted posted, Jenni.

Okay, I have been able to get pics from Google Images and Pinterest to work using the following quick instructions for posting pictures:

Find the pic you want to post. Right click on the pic, and click "copy" (do not click "copy link").

Come back here to your post, and type:

< img src=

Take out the space between < and img, but leave the space between img and src.

After the = immediately right click and paste (or you can hit control v), and a web address should appear it should look something like this (without the space between < and image):

< img src=https://i.pinimg.com/564x/2a/d7.jpg

Immediately after the web address put a >

< img src=https://i.pinimg.com/564x/2a/d7.jpg>

All that's left to do is hit "post"

Somebody, give this a try, please, so I know I made sense. Thank you :)

Heidi wrote: "Here is the pic you wanted posted, Jenni.

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So cool...these are great images. I can't thank you enough. I am going to read all you sent and learn. Stay tuned for an image from me. :)

Heidi wrote: "Okay, I have been able to get pics from Google Images and Pinterest to work using the following quick instructions for posting pictures:

Find the pic you want to post. Right click on the pic, and ..."

Thank you! I did it! This worked. The only thing I had to do different was select "Copy Image Address" instead of "Copy Image." I use a Mac and Chrome, so there are probably some differences. So excited...I can't thank you enough, Heidi. Images bring this page to life!

Jenni wrote: "Heidi wrote: "Okay, I have been able to get pics from Google Images and Pinterest to work using the following quick instructions for posting pictures:

Find the pic you want to post. Right click on..."

YEY!! I'm so glad you were able to figure the pics out!! I know you really wanted to be able to do this.

Here are some quotes/positive affirmations that I received on Recovery Record:

"Healing comes in waves and maybe today the wave hits the rocks, and that's okay, that's okay darling, you are still healing, you are still healing." ~ Ijeoma Umebinyuo - Be Gentle with Yourself

"I cannot see the outcome of the journey, but I can take the next step."

"I am strong and I can do this!!"

"Wherever I am, I will do my best, and that is all I will ever expect of myself."

"Hold on, stay strong. You will make it through."

"Healthier body, happier mind."

"No matter what you just did, do the next right thing."

"Great things are not done by impulse, but by a series of small things brought together." ~ Vincent Van Gogh

"Work on loving the person in the mirror who has been through so much but is still standing."

"I am always free to choose, and I choose health and happiness."

"I will be gentle with myself when I get stuck."

"It's a process, change takes time."

"I won't wait until I reach my goal to be proud. I'll be proud for every step I take toward it."

"Let perfectionism become pursuit of excellence, let impulsivity become spontaneity, and obsessive compulsiveness become conscientiousness."

"When you control everything, you enjoy nothing. Sometimes you need to relax, breathe, let go, and live in the moment."

"Though no one can go back and make a new start, anyone can start from now and make a brand new end."

"I am not afraid to recover. I am beautiful and nothing will ever change that. I am worth it."

"No matter how hard the battle is, I will be persistent. I will grow into a stronger version of me."

"If I take care of my body, it will take care of me."

"Each meal is hard, but it's a step closer to being free and overcoming the ED. It all comes together in the end."

"I deserve to recover!!"

Heidi wrote: ""

This is great! Thanks again for teaching me!

Heidi wrote: "Here are some quotes/positive affirmations that I received on Recovery Record:

"Healing comes in waves and maybe today the wave hits the rocks, and that's okay, that's okay darling, you are still ..."

Love the quotes! Thank you. And check this out...

Melody wrote: "Some of my favorite quotes from Recovery Record are as follows:

"Breathe in, welcome the feeling. Breathe out, accept that I am here."

"Sometimes all you have to do is forget what you feel and re..."

Thank you for sharing Melody. I love that Recovery Record gives so many quotes and pictures each day. I just started using it, I think it was 2 weeks ago not? I don't remember, about the same time Jenni started this group. I think it is a great app, and a nice way to allow clinicians to see how you are doing.

Question .... and maybe this belongs under the technical questions thread .... but I am new to Pinterest. I just created an account when I was helping Jenni figure out how to post the pictures. My question is how can I upload pictures on to Pinterest?

I have some great inspirational quotes on my phone that would be nice to share on the threads, but I can't figure out how to get them on Pinterest. I have posted some in the Photo link for this group, but I would really like to post some to the threads. Any help is appreciated. (Jenni, feel free to move this, if you'd rather it go on a different thread).

Jenni wrote: "Heidi wrote: "Here are some quotes/positive affirmations that I received on Recovery Record:

"Healing comes in waves and maybe today the wave hits the rocks, and that's okay, that's okay darling, ..."

I love this pic, Jenni!!

I have a food challenge with my dietician Wednesday and I’m so scared. Panicky is a good word for it. I worked with my dietician in treatment and I know I trust her a lot, it’s facing my fears that are scaring me to no end. To the point that I’m getting nightmares....any ideas or encouragement to get through?

Christina wrote: "I have a food challenge with my dietician Wednesday and I’m so scared. Panicky is a good word for it. I worked with my dietician in treatment and I know I trust her a lot, it’s facing my fears that..."

Hi Christina,

Facing our fears is very scary. Like Melody mentioned take it one bite at a time, moment-by-moment. You are brave and you are much stronger than Ed. Jenni posted a pic in the photo section with a great quote about fear. Unfortunately, since I'm on my phone, I can't get the picture on this comment, but you can find it here:
https://www.goodreads.com/photo/group...

Have you tried some guided meditiations before bed? Maybe a guided meditation will help relax you so you don't have the nightmares. There are some on YouTube if you don't have any.

I started to reply back and then I had to drive. So what I started writing disappeared.
Thank you so much Melody and Heidi for your responses. They have been very much appreciated. Meditations have been very helpful and I’ve also been using essential oils to also help. I did attempt the food challenge with my dietician, I ended up crying and didn’t get very far. I think if I can figure out a way to get in even 4 bites, that will be progress.
My meal plan also was increased today...that scares me too. My dietician reminded me that I’ve had them many times before and I found a way to manage. I need to find a way to talk back to ed. I have a hard time managing change big time and even just little things like the time of a dr appointment being different than the typical time. I’m trying to be patient with myself and not to dwell on any of it, it just so happens that dwelling and thinking is what I do best.
I hope to have a relaxing afternoon, keep reorganizing my crafts, read and watch a movie :)

Christina wrote: "I have a food challenge with my dietician Wednesday and I’m so scared. Panicky is a good word for it. I worked with my dietician in treatment and I know I trust her a lot, it’s facing my fears that..."

Wow...you are so strong, Christina. You CAN do this. Being scared is part of the process; that means that you are doing something right. You are moving forward. I am so proud of you!

Melody wrote: "Some of my favorite quotes from Recovery Record are as follows:

"Breathe in, welcome the feeling. Breathe out, accept that I am here."

"Sometimes all you have to do is forget what you feel and re..."

These are great. Thank you, Melody!

Melody wrote: "Hi Christina, I encourage you to take it one bite at a time, that helps me a lot. It also helps me to remember that food can't hurt me even though I have a lot of fear that it can."

Love this.

Heidi wrote: "Christina wrote: "I have a food challenge with my dietician Wednesday and I’m so scared. Panicky is a good word for it. I worked with my dietician in treatment and I know I trust her a lot, it’s fa..."

Meditation is always so valuable. Now, I just need to get myself to actually do it!

Christina wrote: "I started to reply back and then I had to drive. So what I started writing disappeared.
Thank you so much Melody and Heidi for your responses. They have been very much appreciated. Meditations hav..."

Again, I am so proud of you. You are taking the hard steps. One step at a time, things will get easier. Eventually, recovery will just be an integrated part of your life. You won't even have to talk to Ed anymore. Stay strong.

Hey there! Here is a blog post I just wrote about relapse. Sometimes, we don't think we are making progress, but we are...

https://www.eatingrecoverycenter.com/...

Thank you so much Jenni. I may have only taken two bites today, but tomorrow is another day to maybe try 3 bites. I need lots and lots of encouragement. I'm okay with that. I have a tricky battle in the upcoming few weeks...removing toxic people from social media and my life. Something I have only done twice in my life due to a severe amount of guilt. I'm glad I can get inspiration here and help from my incredible team. Like you said Jenni, it's just one step at a time..I have to not think 10 steps ahead and focus on the present moment :) I don't like crying at all, i'm beginning to accept that even though I held back from actually crying with my dietician, I let the tears out a little, which is a big step for me and that it's okay to cry.
It's a work in progress!!! I'm realizing that maybe this post should have been in the other group...sorry!

Hi Christina- Thanks for posting! You did post within the group! 🙌❤️Keep fighting. Stay connected with support. I'm proud of you. It sounds like you are working super hard.

Jenni wrote: "Heidi wrote: "Christina wrote: "I have a food challenge with my dietician Wednesday and I’m so scared. Panicky is a good word for it. I worked with my dietician in treatment and I know I trust her ..."

For a while I was listening to positive self-esteem guided meditations on YouTube every day. Then I stopped, and I think it is something I need to find time to do again.

Christina wrote: "Thank you so much Jenni. I may have only taken two bites today, but tomorrow is another day to maybe try 3 bites. I need lots and lots of encouragement. I'm okay with that. I have a tricky battle i..."

Christina, I am so proud of you for attempting the challenge and getting those two bites in!! You did great!! You are so much stronger than your ED, and you can get through this. Keep taking it one day at a time. :-)

Heidi wrote: ""

I love this quote. Thank you!

Heidi wrote: "Jenni wrote: "Heidi wrote: "Christina wrote: "I have a food challenge with my dietician Wednesday and I’m so scared. Panicky is a good word for it. I worked with my dietician in treatment and I kno..."

Please share a positive video, if you get a chance. I think that might be helpful in this thread. Sounds great!

Hi there, here is a new "Get rid of your Ed" clothes thread, in support of our latest conversation:

https://www.goodreads.com/topic/show/...

I can't wait to read about your commitments to a happier closet!

Thanks Jenni! I treated myself to some LuLa Roe clothes tonight. More comfortable leggings and a super comfortable shirt. If I can replace the uncomfortable with things that are more comfortable maybe that will help.
I’m scared to let them go though.