What's the Name of That Book??? discussion

Read from around 2016-2018, it was relatively recently released (I was good friends with the local librarian who would place holds on new books she thought I would like.)
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The setting is suburbia, with the only fantastical element I remember being that a character is revealed to be a demigod near the end of the novel.
I remember the male narrator having a love triangle with a girl-of-his-dreams and best male gay friend, and the friend ends up being a demigod (which is hinted throughout the book, as he is able to speak/converse with animals silently.)
The narrator has OCD, and there's a scene where he's compulsively washing his hands at work until they bleed and his M best friend pulls him out of it.
In the end he ends up pursuing the girl because the M best friend decides that the narrator "just isn't gay". worst trope ever, but it's why the book's stuck in my brain.
I feel like the cover art was a drawing of the triangle characters, but I'm not sure.
Thanks for all the help!!

This one came up in a search and the reviews mention pretty much everything that you described:
The Rest of Us Just Live Here by Patrick Ness (published in 2015)

Mai wrote: "This one came up in a search and the reviews mention pretty much everything that you described:
The Rest of Us Just Live Here by Patrick Ness (published in 2015)
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that's absolutely it, thanks so much!

The Rest of Us Just Live Here came up last week too! It does have an unusual sounding plot.

Funny! Of all the books out there two people looking for this one so close together!