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Quotes ~~ 2022

"Learn from fields very different from your own. They each have ways of thinking that can be useful at surprising times. Just learning to think like an anthropologist, a psychologist, and a philosopher will beneficially stretch your mind."
Source: How to Think Real Good


Barbara, I came across the quote because Marlo Thomas posted it on Facebook. 🙂

Deb, I'm glad you liked it. I wrote it in my journal as a reminder to myself to have that attitude.


At that moment, the monk achieves self-realization and understands that anger is within him; it simply needs to hit an external object to provoke it.
After that, whenever he meets someone who irritates or provokes his anger, he remembers; the other person is just an empty boat. Anger is inside me.
- Thich Nhat Hanh.

I loved this.
I once read another story about a Buddhist retreat center. A man goes to it to become more centered. He listens to the teacher--the abbot I presume--who teaches, saying when you read ... just read. And when you eat breakfast ... just eat breakfast. One morning soon after, the man notices the abbot, eating breakfast AND reading the newspaper. He approaches the abbot, saying "But you said ..." And the abbot looks up, stopping him with that look ... and he says "When you eat breakfast and read the news paper ... just eat breakfast and read the newspaper."
I related the story to a friend once, who said "I don't get it." And I replied, "I know."

Makes sense to me. 🙂

I related the story to a friend once, who said "I don't get it." And I replied, "I know."
:)


I thought it was a powerful reminder. Unfortunately, like many people, I can be too quick to respond before I have time to collect myself and my thoughts. I have to remember it's my response that often can dictate how I feel about any given situation. Taking a few breaths before I respond can often prevent regrets later.
It's one reason that one of my 22 for 2022 tasks I hope to accomplish is start a small brief meditation practice. Many say it helps you get that "gap" of even a few seconds to breath before you respond. Easier said then done for sure. :)
BTW, the 22 for 2022 idea comes from Gretchen Rubin She and her sister on their podcast each year make a list that corresponds to the year. Some tasks can be simple like make a dentist appointment.
If you scroll down on her website you will see her podcast episode #359, where she reveals her 22 for 2022.
https://gretchenrubin.com/

Fun link. Thanks.

A motivational speaker I listened to once said "When you squeeze an orange, what comes out? Orange juice. The juice is already inside the orange. If when you get "squeezed" anger comes out, well, it was already in you." Made a lot of sense to me.

I do feel anger or feeling upset can be justified. I am just looking for the gap before I respond or choose not to respond. That's the key. I want to be able to choose to react or not. I think meditation helps with that. I think I first heard about the "gap" from Pema Chödrön


Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones---James Clear

9 x 1 = 9
9 x 2 = 18
9 x 3 = 27
9 x 4 = 36
9 x 5 = 45
9 x 6 = 54
9 x 7 = 63
9 x 8 = 72
9 x 9 = 81
9 x 10 = 91
Suddenly chaos erupted in the classroom because Einstein made a mistake. Obviously, the correct answer to 9 × 10 isn’t 91. And all his students ridiculed him.
Einstein waited for everyone to be silent and said:
“Despite the fact that I analyzed nine problems correctly, no one congratulated me. But when I made one mistake, everyone started laughing. This means that even if a person is successful, society will notice his slightest mistake. And they'll like that.
So don't let criticism destroy your dreams. The only person who never makes a mistake is someone who does nothing."




“Books are the food of youth, the delight of old age; the ornament of prosperity, the refuge and comfort of adversity; a delight at home, and no hindrance abroad; companions by night, in traveling, in the country.”
— Marcus Tullius Cicero

Somehow I don't think of snow and Dallas.
Today in NY it has been gray and raining all day. I think tonight the temp will be lower so freezing sleet and ice may be an issue.

So, we went out. Before the freeze hit, it had rained heavily, so the roads were ice, covered with snow. Fortunately for us, living in the Dakotas for over a dozen years paid off & Dan knew how to drive in it.
ANYway, as we were driving home, i remember than most of the snows in Dallas that i have experienced have been in February. My first canceled my first date to a birthday party. I didn't regret it, as the lovely snowy flakes linger in my mind to this day. *sigh*
deb
PS I could not believe that the day after the cataract surgery, my distance vision was perfect--unblurred and with distinct sighting. I'm so very happy.

A great outcome. Glad your eyes are doing well. 🙂

Excellent ! Sounds like you are in good hands.

I did hear on the news that people were sliding on the roads in TX due to the bad weather. Glad you got to the doc and back without any issues ! Go Dan ! :)

— Marguerite Yourcenar


Alias, by the author of the marvellous Memoirs of Hadrian.

Thanks for the comments, folks.
My biggest entertainment was watching cars try to cope with the icy parking lot at our hotel. There is a gentle hill toward the front door & we watched car after car begin up it, only to begin to slowly slide backward. Most figured out there was an alternative, turning left but one stubborn person, just kept trying, giving himself more & more space for a "run up". Cheap thrills. :-)

Thanks, Larry, i wondered who she was. I'm not familiar with the name, nor the book, which sounds neat.
Great quote!

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I follow the Gretchen Rubin podcast. I see she loves the book and left this comment on GoodReads.
"Gretchen Rubin added it
This is the third time I've read this brilliant, thought-provoking novel; I love it so much. But it's funny: I love it, but I'm surprised that so many other people have loved it too. It's not the kind of book that I'd expect many people to want to read."

Thanks for th..."
Driving on icy roads is among the scariest things in the world. So dangerous!

Barbara, it's the worst driving i've ever tried. My first winter in the Dakotas the roads froze in October & we spent the rest of the winter battling that ice. Quite an introduction after three years living in Phoenix.

Thanks, Larry, i wondered who she was. I'm not familiar with the name, nor the book, which sounds neat.
Great quote!"
It was one of the first used books that I bought from Amazon. I don't think it was an American first edition, but it was printed in the 1950s.
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