a safe place (the sillies 😋) discussion
rants
>
struggles
date
newest »
newest »
message 1:
by
Cozy
(new)
Apr 25, 2024 03:12PM
what are you guys struggling with? maybe someone here can help <3
reply
|
flag
i like a guy but he lowkey sucks and he might like me also he has a girlfriend 🙂
i think i have a fear of being alone. like i just can’t be alone long or else i get really uncomfortable. it’s not like alone alone in the dark or something im talking like i could be in a public place but if i don’t have someone with me im literally panicking
there's this guy I like and I am 100% sure that he likes me too, summer is starting soon so I have sooo little time & I HAVE to do something but I am REALLY SHYY!!! someone can give any advices???
reese 🎀 wrote: "So i’m in a jukebox musical right now based on Emma by Jane Austen and in the show I have to sing two whitney huston songs (how will i know and i wanna dance with somebody) and i’ve been struggling..."omg thats so exciting!! im sure u'll do great <3 u wouldnt be in this position if people didnt believe that u were great, so im sure that u'll be able to get those notes !! good luck with the show 🤍
im kind of socially awkward and scared of interactions with people :(
So I already mentioned the friend who just excluded me in the rant chat, but I need advice, she had invited me to her birthday party on Saturday and I clearly no longer want to go after the crap she pulled yesterday, so I need an excuse to her not to go because I'm not that petty, and I need an excuse for my parents why I'm all the sudden not going because I don't want to explain this to them, and I can't use smt like "I don't feel well" because I'm also hanging out with someone else that day.
aw, madeline that’s tough. I understand that you don’t want to tell your parents, I’ve been there, but it is really helpful in the long run. eventually, they’ll find out and question you more about it. I’ve also been there. just tell your ‘friend’ you had family stuff but I’m not sure what to tell your parents. sorry I couldn’t be more helpful! :(
Sarah ✧･ﾟ:*✧･ﾟ:* wrote: "this girl blames me for her s*lf h@rm when i didnt even do anything and its really affecting me [am i being dramatic]"Omg that is awful!
first of all you have no control over what people say or do so she has no right to make you think something so untrue just because she wants to
And no, you are not being dramatic at all because se!f h@rm is no joke and being blamed for something like that is scary I had that happen to me twice and I felt like the biggest POS in the world but I learned that sometimes hurt people hurt people and if you know deep down inside you did no wrong then guess what you did not.
It will be hard at first because anyone would feel bad I know I did but in my eyes you did nothing wrong ok?
I hope this helps sorry it's long
uhh yea i don’t really know who to talk to about this, and I’ve been keeping it suppressed for about 5 months now but talking to my friends and family about it honestly seems like a burden, yet i really need to say it somewhere. my friends cancer came back about 8 months ago, and we had hoped that the medication would help her and she’d get better. but about 5 months ago she told our friend group that she only has about 4 months left to live, so I guess we can be happy that she’s pulled through even longer, but she’s strong so I knew she would :))
anyway, we had a little “fault in our stars” moment where our friend group got together and had a pre-funeral where we all read her our eulogies. (i cried unfortunately, even tho i promised myself i wouldn’t, but my eulogy made everyone else cry too so at least i wasn’t alone in this) i said everything I could think of, but it didn’t feel like enough honestly. Five paragraphs of telling someone how much you love them, and yet it’s not even close to how much you really feel.
about a week ago we said our final goodbyes and she cut everyone off
i check her Spotify daily to make sure she’s ok, but I’ve been genuinely falling apart lately and I have nobody to really turn to
she now has a nurse taking care of her full time, I don’t want her to be in pain anymore, but to think I’m about to be walking an earth without her in it is absolutely destroying me
oh my god there are truly no words that express enough how sorry i am for what you are going through and what what you must be feeling right now!i cant imagine how deep your pain must be, but i wish you so so much strength from the bottom of my heart 💗
lyla i’m so sorry you have to go through that. sometimes we can’t control the things that happen and at the end of the day everyone will leave at one point. i hope this gets better for you , time will heal you stay strong love 🫶🏼
I lost my friend group around 2 months ago and I'm still sad about it, this was the first friend group I had in a long time......I'm more lonely now
@ Weirdim convinced that everything happens for a reason!! it was meant to be, so that you will find even better friends or smth
just dont worry, because everything will work out for you 🫶🏻🫶🏻
I’m back again! Everything’s gotten worse. The doctors think my friend has two weeks to live. She’s paralyzed from the waist down and nonverbal. It’s thought that she’ll at least make it to her next birthday, May 5th.
These past few months I’ve been listening to her Spotify playlists everyday. They help me sleep, eat, do my homework, and pretty much exist without falling apart. I went to listen again about an hour ago and saw she deleted her account. I copied the playlist she made for me, and I memorized her favorite songs. But it was all I had left of her after she shut us all out.
Her sister is giving her a message for me, a final goodbye i guess. I added a song recommendation, a song that reminds me and our mutual friend of her. We used to listen to music till 3am every single night, me, her, and our friend, the three of us. There’s only two of us now, but we still listen and think of her while we do. I can’t really explain the ache in my chest, but it hurts so bad. I know it’ll get better and with time I’ll grieve and get over the pain. But right now it just hurts.
Lyla ☾ wrote: "I’m back again! Everything’s gotten worse. The doctors think my friend has two weeks to live. She’s paralyzed from the waist down and nonverbal. It’s thought that she’ll at least make it to her n..."
praying for the three of you (felt the urge to cry reading that
lyla i am so so sorry i couldn’t even imagine what you’re feeling right now. i am praying for you.
thank you all, it means so much that you guys listened and care 🩵 i appreciate you guys
oh gosh, idk I feel like you guys deserve an update and I completely blanked out for a while when it came to this situation my friend died on her birthday, May 5th.
Her Spotify is gone, but I memorized her favorite songs and still listen to them everyday. Thank you all for your kind words and for listening to me before she passed. She made it 19 beautiful, difficult, brave years in our world, and while it may not mean much to you guys, it’s hard to know I’m living in a world without her in it. When it’s late at night and I’m alone with my thoughts, I remember that at this exact time she’d usually be making me laugh or listening to music with me. She was a wonderful person, thank you all for the support.
awww lyla, you’re the sweetest you also don’t own anyone an explanation. I know I’m not the same as your friend but I’ll always listen to music with you if you need it. all you have to do is ask. I love you so, so much 💗
Zoe, while I was listening to music with you last night I was thinking about my friend. And it was like a little part of me was put back into place, like a missing piece was given back. Thank you so much for letting me know you and get close to you 🩵 you came into my life as I was losing her, and it was as if while one star left my sky, another came. I really appreciate how happy you make me feel 💗
lyla, you make me so happy as well. I’m so glad I’m able to be a positive person in your life. thank you for everything you’ve done for me. your kind words, listening to me ramble, cry, and yes, even when you bully me. thank you for watching one tree hill with me and letting me spam with with everything I’ve ever thought. thank you for listening to me whenever I need it. thank you for putting up with my silly shenanigans. thank you for listening to music with me. thank you for letting me be in your life. what you just said is something I will never forget and I am so, so thankful for you. we may not know each other in person, you may be a couple years older than me, but none of it has ever mattered. it’s only been a little over a month since we met but I feel as though I’ve known you my entire life. I hope I never lose you. I truly believe you came into my life right when I needed it. I don’t know how it happened or if some funny force was working to bring us together, but it did and I am eternally grateful.
@Taryn i feel that 🥲and in my brain I KNOW that everyone has struggles and i dont know what ppl are going through, but it still happens unconsciously…
@lenaIkr. Everybody has struggled which is why I don’t talk about mine to my friends bc I don’t want them to think I’m selfish. I know other people have a lot worse but I face bullying, body shaming, name calling, sexualizing, and so much more at school. It is not good to keep bottled up and I need someone to talk to that won’t make me feel bad about it.
Lyla wrote: "oh gosh, idk I feel like you guys deserve an update and I completely blanked out for a while when it came to this situation my friend died on her birthday, May 5th.
Her Spotify is gone, but I m..."
Nobody really uses this group anymore and most likely won’t see this, but I talked about this journey here for quite a while and it’s officially been a little over a year since she died. I’m here to say that people aren’t lying when they say “it gets better” because it truly does. The thing is, you don’t want it to. You don’t want it to get better because it feels like there shouldn’t even BE a “better” without the person you lost. But, it gets better.
I turned 17 without her, read last years birthday message.
I watched season two of Arcane without her, she loved that show.
Yellowjackets went on without her, she loved that show too.
Her favorite songs still play on the radio
Her favorite colors still surround me
Her laugh still rings in my ears
I went on everyday without her for an entire year, and eventually I got to a point where I felt like living again. I’m not saying that grief just goes away, because it’s permanent. It hits you hard in small moments, and it feels like drowning. But people pull you up, you pull yourself up, and I genuinely believe that the person you lost pulls you out of that water too. I don’t think anyone will see this or read this, but if you do, and you’re struggling with grief, let it happen. Let all of those horrible feelings wash over you because once they’re gone, all you’ll have is a deep feeling of love. They’re gone, but your love for them isn’t. I know mines not. I love her and miss her every single day, and I will continue to do so.
Okay goodbye now, this’ll be the last update.
