Normal People
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about normal people and insights on sapiosexuality and trauma
CG
May 08, 2025 04:05AM
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RE: Normal People
Just two people falling in love, navigating their emotions and healing their individual traumas through having a strong intellectual connection and physical relationship with each other (sapiosexual).
It’s incredibly boring in the sense that their experiences at least aren’t at all exceptional, it can happen to anyone or just things people go through. But it’s the psychological manifestations of those individual and shared experiences that I’m drawn to and how it affected their relationship with each other. Their relationship was more ambiguous though unlabeled, still it was exclusive. They don’t consider each other as girlfriend/boyfriend but still romantic I guess by social standards. I admire the attempt at making the ending open-ended, and poses a lot of questions such as whether Marianne actually learned to love herself more by prioritizing her healing or that Connor was able to bridge the gap between his inner self and outer self.
My take: Love truly unravels a person in so many ways. It makes you rethink your values, desires, and beliefs, and it is your role to understand the whys and how's, and what is the attempt even for. There were many instances wherein they could have made it easier for themselves but people are complex creatures in so many ways. We are wired differently and so uniquely, shaped by our backgrounds, status, and privileges to the point that complete understanding from another person, especially those who matter to us and those from whom we want it the most, sometimes seems so impossible.
In a perfect world where their external environments aren't as complicated or social normalcy do not exist, is it possible to actually navigate a sapiosexual relationship without the toxicity, miscommunication, and codependency?
I'd like to know your thoughts about this.
RE: Normal People
Just two people falling in love, navigating their emotions and healing their individual traumas through having a strong intellectual connection and physical relationship with each other (sapiosexual).
It’s incredibly boring in the sense that their experiences at least aren’t at all exceptional, it can happen to anyone or just things people go through. But it’s the psychological manifestations of those individual and shared experiences that I’m drawn to and how it affected their relationship with each other. Their relationship was more ambiguous though unlabeled, still it was exclusive. They don’t consider each other as girlfriend/boyfriend but still romantic I guess by social standards. I admire the attempt at making the ending open-ended, and poses a lot of questions such as whether Marianne actually learned to love herself more by prioritizing her healing or that Connor was able to bridge the gap between his inner self and outer self.
My take: Love truly unravels a person in so many ways. It makes you rethink your values, desires, and beliefs, and it is your role to understand the whys and how's, and what is the attempt even for. There were many instances wherein they could have made it easier for themselves but people are complex creatures in so many ways. We are wired differently and so uniquely, shaped by our backgrounds, status, and privileges to the point that complete understanding from another person, especially those who matter to us and those from whom we want it the most, sometimes seems so impossible.
In a perfect world where their external environments aren't as complicated or social normalcy do not exist, is it possible to actually navigate a sapiosexual relationship without the toxicity, miscommunication, and codependency?
I'd like to know your thoughts about this.
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For it was all about the question, "What does it mean to be normal people? ". Having normal lives? Normal friendships? Normal relationships? Normal jobs? Or Normal families? I found this book somewhat profound and thought provoking in a sense that there was a fear to perhaps truly communicate with one another. That being said you mentioned that people are wired differently and come from different backgrounds. And i think this definitely played a huge role in Connor and Marianne relationship, definitely has an open ended conclusion. But my biggest taken away from all yhis was communication, the book starts off this way as well a connection taking place between the two through subtle communication. I feel they could have boyh really grown as people if they communicated whole heartedly to each other.
I hope this all makes sense, what do you think?
I hope this all makes sense, what do you think?
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