Terminalcoffee discussion

My newspaper this morning informed me, ahem, that Selena Gomez (age eighteen) and Justin Beiber (sp? age sixteen) have been spotted making out.

Can Selena Gomez get in trouble if they have sex?

Have you ever dated someone significantly older/younger? What are your thoughts on age/relationships issues? I think we talked about some of this a zillion years ago but I don't think we went into depth.

How much is significant? I dated (for two years) a woman ten years younger than me, then dated (for about six months) a woman eleven years younger than me. Also, when I was 29, I hooked up a few times with a girl ten years younger. Not anywhere near Hugh Hefner territory, but a decent sized age gap nonetheless.

Age is irrelevant in my opinion. But then, I grew up in a family with big age differences in relationships. My grandfather was 20 years older than my grandmother. My uncle married a woman who was 15 years older than he was, but then that is all conjecture. Nobody knew how old his wife was. It was a deep dark secret that was honoured even when she died. Their son married a woman 10 years older. My brother is at least 10 years older than his wife... and the list goes on.

I started living with my husband when I was 17 and he was 21.

I agree with Barb, but I can't help to think that if you date someone 10 years younger than yourself, which doesn't sound so bad, that when you were 10 they were just being born. Eekkkk

This reminds me, you want to feel old, stand in front of a group of college freshmen and have one tell you they were born in 1992...

RandomAnthony wrote: "This reminds me, you want to feel old, stand in front of a group of college freshmen and have one tell you they were born in 1992..."

that even makes me feel old. i was born in 1987.

janine wrote: "that even makes me feel old. i was born in 1987"

You're the same age as my daughter. Her birthday is in February.

I thought Bieber was 13?

I was born in 1991.

Speaking of age differences, Amanda Palmer and Neil Gaiman just got married, and he's 15 years older than she is....or is 20 years?

I like old guys.... in theory. Sorry if that makes anyone uncomfortable. In practice though...when you're my age and when they are that age.....doesn't work out so well. You just want totally different things.

I wouldn't want to date someone too much younger than me, because it's nice to have the same frame of references. Someone who remembers the 70s, so I don't have to explain who the Fonz was, for example.

Who?

You're older than me, Jim. :)

I wouldn't want to actually "date" someone significantly younger than me. But there are other things I might enjoy doing with them.

When my friend was 16 her boyfriend was 26. I thought it was creepy at the time and I still do. Not from her perspective but from his. There is a HUGE difference between 16 and 26.

Jackie "the Librarian" wrote: "I wouldn't want to date someone too much younger than me, because it's nice to have the same frame of references. Someone who remembers the 70s, so I don't have to explain who the Fonz was, for exa..."


Exactly, JTL!

Cannont understand some of my peers' infatuation with 20-something women, as if talking about Lady Gaga, hearing every statement intoned like a question, and watching them constantly and habitually text would be anyone's idea of a good time.

Pah!

::wonders how hard a clonk with a two by four is::

Jackie "the Librarian" wrote: "You're older than me, Jim. :)"

I know, I know.

That's enough of an answer, it's all pretty clear now :-)

If it's a clonk, it's probably gonna smart.

Hummm...which would hurt more a clank or a clonk? Any takers to find out ;)

I think a clonk would hurt more. A clank sounds like you're wearing a helmet.

But I'm just speculating, not volunteering.

When we were little, my mother would regularly threaten to "conk us on the noggin." This was generally after she screamed, "You are making me nervous!" I used to wonder if there was ever a time she was NOT nervous. It seemed like it was her baseline.

I'll volunteer - Clonk me Bun!

I live by the motto - No brain, no pain!

That wasn't too bad, I only saw a few stars.

A lot better than being hit with a cast iron fry pan.

My eighteen-year-old daughter was dating a guy from the next town over who was 15. This icked me out no end. I kept telling her that she would be in HUGE trouble and most likely spend time in jail if they ever had sex.

And, in the end, she told me (after she broke up with him)that he was immature.

D'OH!

BunWat wrote: "I have several different sizes of cast iron fry pans. Perhaps I could use them for different levels of annoyance. The little two egg pan for mildly confusticated, and the dutch oven for homicidal."

Just so you know - I'm not volunteering for this.

Many are called but few are chosen.

Clark wrote: "Cannont understand some of my peers' infatuation with 20-something women, as if talking about Lady Gaga, hearing every statement intoned like a question, and watching them constantly and habitually text would be anyone's idea of a good time."

that stereotype doesn't fit me or any of my friends. ok, we occasionally talk about lady gaga.

Lady Gaga was here (right here in River City!) over the holidays. Most people didn't recognize her with somewhat normal attire and makeup.

janine wrote: "that stereotype doesn't fit me or any of my friends. ok, we occasionally talk about lady gaga."

I hate stereotypes. I know plenty of women in their 20s who are bright, well informed, and articulate.

BunWat wrote: "...and the dutch oven for homicidal."

I think a 10" skillet might make the optimal cast-iron-kitchen-implement weapon. The handle would make it easy to swing. The Dutch oven, although heavier, could be somewhat unwieldy.

I would use the dutch oven as a helmet.

Wise, Larry. Very wise.

use earbuds too, in case someone bangs the 10" skillet on it.

Also wise.

Good thinking. I can't use earbuds, though. They won't stay in my ears for some reason. I'll use my noise-cancelling headphones.

When I was in my mid-20s I dated a guy who was 46... VERY briefly. He was very handsome and interesting. My friends nicknamed him "Harrison Ford."

It was brief, though, because I was completely weirded out by the fact that he was old enough to be my dad.

When I was a newly-minted divorcee I dated many younger men--the average was probably 10 years younger. There's a lot to be said for guys in their 20s but then again, one gets...bored, eventually.

One thing that creeps me out is the "Who's your Daddy" saying.

A guy I worked with got hit in the head with a cast iron skillet by his wife. It makes a pretty good bump on the ole noggin.

Hoosier Daddy is Kevin.

Jim wrote: A guy I worked with got hit in the head with a cast iron skillet by his wife. It makes a pretty good bump on the ole noggin.

Did he deserve it?

Andy Capp used to whacked all the time. Or was it Snuffy Smith?

Jonathan wrote: "Did he deserve it?"

According to his wife he did, he didn't argue to vehemently.

But does one ever deserve to be hit in the head with a fry pan?

Larry wrote: "Andy Capp used to whacked all the time. Or was it Snuffy Smith?"

And you wonder why I imagine you as Arthur Godfrey...

Jim wrote: "Jonathan wrote: "...does one ever deserve to be hit in the head with a fry pan?"

It does seem pretty harsh.

Andy Capp's wife whacked him with a rolling pin, which is probably less unwieldy than a cast-iron frying pan yet equally effective.

That's right!

There is something utterly ridiculous about seeing Justin Bieber's childish little body on a yacht intertwined with a girl-woman - of any age. Seeing children make out usually skeeves me.

Lobstergirl wrote: "Seeing children make out usually skeeves me."

Most definitely skeeves me.

I date somebody 17 years older than I am. I love it. I love his experience and the things he's lived through that I've only heard about second hand. He is very wise kind, wonderful in every way there is, but he also is still excited by life and has a sense of adventure - sometimes more than I do.

I have also dated younger, and for all the reasons I love the older guy, I couldn't get into the younger guy.


I'm singing that Little Esther song: "I like my men like I like my whiskey: aged and mellow."