Terminalcoffee discussion

Britt's topic, If Someone Is Not Attracted to a Certain Race, Are They Racist?, got me thinking about "attraction." Some commenters talked about what they found attractive.

I'm just curious if you know what makes YOU attractive/unattractive. I'm thinking we're more likely to point out what we find unattractive in ourselves, but we're not as keen on acknowledging what makes us attractive.

I'll kick this off:

Attractive
1. My height - 6'3"
2. My skin color - "Hispanic Tan," I call it.
3. My brown eyes - I get complimented on them a lot

Unattractive
1. Dry skin
2. Thinning hair
3. Flatulence - yeah, I burp and fart...a lot.

Dutch wrote You're a hottie.

Thank you.

See, I can take a compliment.

Why is everybody stopping at three??

Negative - (get that out of the way)
1. weight - again, although a lot of people like that
2. hair - I've never liked what it does
3. I let my fears hold me back
4. I procrastinate
5. I've been known to be pedantic
6. I can be moody, but I've pretty much learned how to keep that from being other people's problem
7. My mouth. Physically, I mean. Not awful, but just not particularly pretty

Positive -
1. Eyes
2. Look young for my years
3. My mind
4. My humor
5. My heart

Rebecca wrote: "4. My humor
5. My heart"


What else matters?

Oh, by all means, add more for yourselves. I just did 3 randomly, not because we should limit ourselves to just 3. I'm pretty sure I can come up with more for myself, but I'm too lazy right now to do some self-analysis.

Attractive:
1. My figure
2. My bubbliness and flirtiness
3. My mind
4. My eyes
5. My hieght, 5'8"

Unattractive:
1. My sloppiness
2. My procrastination
3. My anxiety and panic tendencies
4. My eating habits
5. The words that fly out of my mouth when I'm mad

Okay, this is going to be...hmm

Negative:
1) Weight
2) Teeth (My parents can't afford braces, so I'm gonna have to get them for myself later on in life)
3) Slight mustache
4) Feet
5) I'm a fatalist
6) I'm bossy as hell

Positive:
1) Eyes
2) I'm funny!
3) I'm smart!
4) I'm take-charge!
5) I like to listen!
6) I have soft hands!
7) I su---I'm eager to please!

Negative:

1. My big mouth
2. I drink too much
3. Living in the past
4. I frequently suffer from the notion that I
have wise things to say

Positive:

1. I guess I came out reasonably well in the genetic
crapshoot, depending on your definition of
"reasonably well." Your results may vary.

Things on which I get complimented:
1) my eyes
2) my smile
3) cheerful nature

Things I see in myself that are unattractive:
1) my weight
2) my laziness
3) my wardrobe

Dutch wrote You're a hottie.

You should see Clark in his jean shorts...

Jorts!

Positives:
1. I enjoy conversing with just about anyone. Ask my kids, I talk to strangers all the time. It mortifies them.
2. I don't consider myself to be better than anyone. I get upset with people who consider themselves better than me or those I love.
3. I am confident, and good at drawing people out and helping them to become leaders.
4. I like to learn something new. Every day is a school day, as my friend Jean says.

Negative:
1. Eat too much, drink too much (but I am a fabulous host/cook.)
2. I can be loud.
3. I can be bossy.

Funny that the short girls on here are putting their shortness as an unattractive flaw. I consider it a positive. The only major thing I hate about being short is that I can't reach the top shelf in the kitchen.

I've always wondered why tall girls were considered more attractive by the general population. Being tall isn't necessarily a ticket to weird proportions or anything because every body is different, but I see a lot of tall girls with long, bony feet or very long torsos.

I like having tiny feet and hands. Guys I've dated have always liked my shortness. Maybe it's protective instinct in them, since I've dated more tall guys than anything.

Oh, I guess I should play the game.

Positives :

Eyes (blue-gray)

Skin (pale) This is a positive with my hair and eyes, but a bitch in the summer because I burn.

Hair (dark)

Negatives :

My boobs quit being perky back in high school, but they're definitely qualifying as a rack.

I have to moisturize constantly or my skin flakes

My hair is a bitch to style. If I don't blow dry it, it lays funny and frizzes and I'm really lazy about doing anything with it, so I have bad hair days a lot. I like doing my makeup, hate doing my hair.

My posture sucks pretty badly. Because I am so short, I rarely sit up straight in chairs because my feet don't sit on the ground properly, so I tend to have my legs flung up all over the furniture. I notice myself slouching a lot when I walk.

Positives:
1. My face - people often tell me I'm beautiful
2. I'm creative/artsy, I love to paint, decorate cakes, draw, sculpt, etc.
3. I'm usually very patient and slow to anger (unless it involves someone picking on my kids, then all bets are off).
4. I have a good sense of humor and can take a joke as well as I can dish one.

Negatives:
1. If someone manages to piss me off it's a very, very ugly thing.
2. Sometimes I don't believe enough in myself to make needed changes.
3. I put up with too much crap from some of people I love.
4. I'm either lazy or so busy I'm exhausting to be around...can you be physically bipolar?

Stacia *kpop stylist wrote: "I've always wondered why tall girls were considered more attractive by the general population. Being tall isn't necessarily a ticket to weird proportions or anything because every body is different, but I see a lot of tall girls with long, bony feet or very long torsos."

i have both and am just of average height.

Positives:
1. The anonymity of the internet.
2. Know the lyrics to most all of the Grateful Dead songs.
3. Altruistic.
4. Don't like reality TV.

Negatives:
997. Don't like reality TV.
998. Get a little too anxious too often.
999. Might be a little co-dependent.
1000. My belief that the bathroom only needs to be cleaned seasonally.

Stacia *kpop stylist wrote: "Funny that the short girls on here are putting their shortness as an unattractive flaw. I consider it a positive. The only major thing I hate about being short is that I can't reach the top shelf ..."

I'm with you on height. It's completely relative. I'm 5'1" but don't consider it a bad thing - except for that not being able to reach anything, and it means the same amount of calories spread out over less space, so on ocmes the weight.

That is one huge drawback of being short. You don't get to eat as much.

Stacia *kpop stylist wrote: "That is one huge drawback of being short. You don't get to eat as much."

Right! I eat a healthy diet, for the most part, and I don't think I eat more than most people, but there it is.

Positives
1. Smart girl glasses
2. Nice smile
3. Cute ears

Negatives
1. Kinda prissy
2. Thinks cat jokes are the funniest thing ever
3. Shy, therefore sometimes standoffish.

Neg:
My weight
My splotchy skin
My caustic sense of humor
My low self esteem

Pro:
My eyes
I have an ok smile
I'm painfully shy, but if I am comfortable with you, I open up and surprise people with a funny personality
I'm not too short, nor too tall. Average.
*blushing* I like my bum
I have hidden tattoos and piercings that I don't show

Physical positives:

1. Tall
2. I'm in pretty good shape/work out regularly

Physical negatives:

1. My teeth are kind of fucked up
2. Tall

Others positives:

1. Smart but not too smart
2. Open
3. I have a job.
4. Good listener/empathetic

Other negatives:

1. PTSD history
2. Not very social...I hate "couples" activities
3. Likes to stay home a lot...see #2
4. Gets up early

1. The anonymity of the internet.
2. Know the lyrics to most all of the Grateful Dead songs.

Heh, Michael...the first one made me laugh...the second may, un, need to be recatagorized:)

How is getting up early a negative?

Esme wrote: "How is getting up early a negative?"

Well, A) I tend to go to sleep early, then, and B) I may accidentally wake you at 4:00AM.

I'm up pretty early. I think of it as a good thing. Especially when we're almost out of milk at home. Early bird gets the worm or whatever.

what's wrong with being too smart?

RandomAnthony wrote: "Well, A) I tend to go to sleep early, then, and B) I may accidentally wake you at 4:00AM."

My husband gets up really early and that's when I get my best sleep, so not a negative in my mind.

RandomAnthony wrote: "1. The anonymity of the internet.
2. Know the lyrics to most all of the Grateful Dead songs.

Heh, Michael...the first one made me laugh...the second may, un, need to be recatagorized:)"

Negative column?

Well, smart as in "know it all" would be bad, right? I know enough to know what I don't know something, and I'm not going to pretend to know things I don't.

I want to add a positive that kind of surprises me. I've found, over the years, that women like that I care about my job and try to make a difference in the world. I wasn't expecting this.

RandomAnthony wrote: "3. I have a job."

Purrrreach! Mmmmmhm, I kno' dats right. If a man ain't got no job, he ain't got no business tryin' to talk to me. Talkin' 'bout "I'm in between jobs." You mean, "I'm layin' on my couch wit cheeto and red kool-aid stains on my shirt." Get outta my face wit dat.




**no offense to anyone who's looking for a job; I just wanted to be funny.

Caring about your job and trying to make a difference in the world is an amazing quality to have, RA, I agree with those women.

Jackie "the Librarian" wrote: "2. Thinks cat jokes are the funniest thing ever"

Jackie, you might like this: http://www.youtube.com/user/simonscat...

Michael wrote: "Jackie "the Librarian" wrote: "2. Thinks cat jokes are the funniest thing ever"

Jackie, you might like this: http://www.youtube.com/user/simonscat..."


HUGE SMILE, Michael!!!

RA, actually liking your job is so nice. 'cause there are so many people that are just burned out, and I hate it when I talk to a guy who's been at a company for 15 years, and he's hated every minute of it "but the money's good," and there's really nothing else in his life that like, excites him. Other than pussy. And that means he ain' getting nowhere near mine.

I love it when a man has something that he cares about other than sleeping, earning money, sports, having sex, etc. 'cause so many don't. and I don't like those men.

I also don't like it when guys are like, "I'm 40, but I'm really 22 at heart." If I wanted a 22-year-old, I would talk to one. But I don't, so please act your age. Okay, done complaining.

Positive...

1. Quick study. I pick things up very fast.
2. Optimistic attitude.
3. Cute (enough).
4. Very lucky.
5. Strong work ethic.
6. Empathetic.
7. The naked dance.

Negative...

1. Can never remember names.
2. I use humor to overcome grief, which bothers some people. They feel it's inappropriate.
3. Overuse of puns.

Positive:

knows all the words to every Mary Poppins song by heart

Negatives:

knows all the words to every Mary Poppins song by heart


Also:

Positive/Negative -

- I love my dog more than people.
- I'm 5'1" (sucks when I'm at a concert... is awesome when I'm on a plane - never have to worry about "not enough leg room" & also is awesome for games of hide & seek)
- I don't pretend amusement... only sincere displays of amusement from me!
- I remember phone #s and names like nobody's business
- loves to tell "The Bear" joke
- will dance without much needed prodding or persistence

Where's your picture, Phil? I wanna see your cuteness!

Phil wrote: "Positive...

1. Quick study. I pick things up very fast.
2. Optimistic attitude.
3. Cute (enough).
4. Very lucky.
5. Strong work ethic.
6. Empathetic.
7. The naked dance.


#7 made me laugh out loud. Thanks!

Negative...

1. Can never..."

Ok, I don't want to turn this into a compliment-fest, but I've met Jackie, and she's very cool and friendly. She's underselling her charms.

RandomAnthony wrote: "Ok, I don't want to turn this into a compliment-fest, but I've met Jackie, and she's very cool and friendly. She's underselling her charms."

Jackie is the queen of all things Buffy & she can kick RA's booty in a debate on any given day, with her hands behind her back. Blindfolded.

Heidi makes grown men cry.

RandomAnthony wrote: "Heidi makes grown men cry."

:/

No I don't.

>:F

I want to meet more TC members. You know what we need to do? Plan a TC union/reunion. Kind of like a family reunion only way better because TCer's are the coolest people on the planet (okay, so I'm a little biased)!
If we planned it for about 18 months from now, we could make sure our international members get to come too (everyone could save their dollar bills and contribute $ for plane tickets).
We'd have to have it in a central location though, I'm pretty sure Heidi's location fits the bill.
It's just a thought, but I think it would be amazing to meet everyone.

Alecia wrote: "I want to meet more TC members. You know what we need to do? Plan a TC union/reunion. Kind of like a family reunion only way better because TCer's are the coolest people on the planet (okay, so I'm..."


YES! You guys should all come to Little Rock. We could have a big slumber party/weenie roast/s'mores & tell ghost stories around a campfire and canoe during the daytime. I would bump your boats and make you fall in the water. And we could frolick and play in the Ozark mountains and go listen to some Ozark folk music.

Alecia, you're in Texas, aren't you? Larry goes there for business on occasion. And I go to visit family in south Texas at least a few times a year.

RandomAnthony wrote: "Ok, I don't want to turn this into a compliment-fest, but I've met Jackie, and she's very cool and friendly. She's underselling her charms."

Aww, shucks, RA! And you are very courteous, except when it comes to sharing food.
Heidi, I'm serious, never let him near your drink. Or your french fries.

Jackie "the Librarian" wrote: "...except when it comes to sharing food.
Heidi, I'm serious, never let him near your drink. Or your french fries. "

What does he do to it, Jackie? :(

Cool, Heidi! We should try to meet up next time you come down.

We really should do this reunion thing...come on guys, I know you all want to!

Heidi wrote: "Jackie "the Librarian" wrote: "...except when it comes to sharing food.
Heidi, I'm serious, never let him near your drink. Or your french fries. "

What does he do to it, Jackie? :("

He does that "you weren't going to finish that, were you?" thing. And if you get a root beer, and he doesn't, he drinks some of yours.

BunWat wrote: "RandomAnthony wrote: "Heidi makes grown men cry."

In a good way.

Jackie is always fair and straightforward and she keeps her temper and looks for the good even in the face of enormous provoca..."

:::glomps Bun:::
Bun, I love your fierce intelligence and perceptiveness. And I'd love to get to eat some of your cooking someday.