The Host Lovers ♥ discussion

Alright, so I put up this post for girls to talk about their boyfriends, or boys they like. It can be from books, and from REAL life.

Okay, so there's a guy at school, and I think he'S really cute *blushes*... and I was wondering... do you think I should take it slow, like begin by friends with him, or fast?

Depends on his personality. My crush is the kind that would probably not want to talk to me if he found out I liked him so I have started out as just friends.

Well...friends that send each other txts saying I miss u and hey sexy and all that other gushy smushy stuff.

Okay. That's probably what I'M going to do. Imagine; today, he smiled at me and gave me a little punch on the arm, and now I almost can't stop thinking about him.

Awww that's totally sweet, Cat! Smile and little punch on the arm ^^

That happens to me all the time. Today he walked me to class and the rest of the day I sat there thinking, "Maybe we're ready to move on from just friends." I don't think it'll happen tho...

Paola *spoffee* wrote: "That happens to me all the time. Today he walked me to class and the rest of the day I sat there thinking, "Maybe we're ready to move on from just friends." I don't think it'll happen tho..."

You have to hope a little. Maybe it will happen.

Stephanie (Loves Adrian Ivashkov♥) wrote: "Awww that's totally sweet, Cat! Smile and little punch on the arm ^^"

I know ^^ Now I can't wait to see him at school *blushes*

Cute!

*Blushes and grins*

From personal experience, I just have to say that once you leave the 'firend-zone' with a guy, it will be really hard to go back to 'just friends' with him.

For example, my crush and I started out as just friends. But then, my friend told him that I liked him, and now we never talk, at all. Now, all I wish was that I was smart and have kept my mouth shut.

But if you really like this guy, and if he's nice to you and looks like he likes you back, I see no problem in 'moving to the next level'. Just be careful, and approach the subject slowly. And even though I don't know you in real life, I would absolutly hate it if you got hurt.

I send you my good lucks, though! :) :) :)

:) :) Thanks, I'm still trying to get to be friend with him. So *sigh* I hope it'll go well.

:)
And if you want to start being friends with him, just start asking him questions about what you are supposed to do now in class (even if you already know). And then, if that all goes well, just say hi in the hallway or something. One of my friends did that and she got her crush to date her within a few days. But, all cases are different, I guess.

What if he's a grade higher than me?

Well, do you mind if I ask what grade you are in? And what grade is he in?

It'S okay, I don't mind.

Well, if you live int he USA, than means he's in.. eight grade, and I'm seventh grade..

I live in the USA, and I'm in seventh grade, too, so this will make giving advise a lot easier :)

Well, here are a few things that might work, depending on your situation:

1. Is he on the same bus? If so, just 'casually' sit near him there (not in the same seat!) and just see if he notices you. If he does, ask him about teachers you have now that he had in the past or something like that. But just keep it real casual. If you do this, you will know he is your 'friend' if he starts the conversation next time.

2. Is he your neighbor? If so (depending on where you live in the USA and the weather conditions), just ride your bike or walk your dog past his house. If he would just happen to see you, just wave hi in a curtious, very neighborly fashion. Or something like that; you get the point.

3. Does he have a sister in your grade? Is she your type of friend. Because if his sister would actually be a nice friend for you, be her friend, therefore becomeing his friend. But DO NOT use his sister! That would be one of the meanest things I can think of; just using someone to get to someone else.

If none of thise work, I can suggest more, I just don't want to type more than nessacery :)

But like I said earlier, keep it as casual as possible. You don't want him to fond out you like him before he is your friend.

And being his friend first is always the right way to go. I say this because then you can really figure out his personally for yourself, before you start going out with him.

Oh, and can I ask you some advise in return? Please?

I'm sorry, I know thats a lot to take in.

My current boyfriend and I started out as friends. Then some people at our church set us up on a blind date, and we've been dating for about 6 years. We plan on getting married in about 5 years from now.

Ela wrote: "I'm sorry, I know thats a lot to take in."

Well, Ela, are you on friend basis now?

And I would need more advice too.

:)

Well, I will ask some of my friends off-line about more advise, because they are a lot more helpful then I am. I'm sorry that's all I can say.

Ok, can I ask a question now? Well, heres the predicament: All my friends hate this guy but I think he is just perfect. My problem is not to get him to like me, because we both know that we both like each other. But, my friends and his friends are the problem. How do I get the friends to lighten up? And how do I appreoach the subject of asking him out? Please help!

Well, first, you should all go to see a movie, or go bowling or something. Something both of your friends would like to. Paintball maybe? Swimming.

To ask him out? Hmmm, I'M not really good at that, since I haven't dated, but I'd say, try to get him alone or something.

OH HE LOVES SWIMMING! That would be really good for all of us! And, him seeing me in a swimsuit? Bonus!

A movie is a fabulous idea, too. I haven't thought of that. And we both want to go see a movie that comes out later this month... so that should be good. But how do I ask him if he wants to go to a movie? We are friends now, but I don't want to be aqward.... Would making it a group thing be better?

And I haven't dated either at all, but I will try that.

Oh, and I don't want to ruin the friendship I already have with him.

Okay, so that's hard. Um... maybe you can just ask him? I know it can be stressful and all, but you gotta try, girl! XD You can just try to approach it gently, by starting with talking about movies you like, then go into movies you'D, like to see, then ask him.

I'd just ask him flat out if he would want to go to the movies.
sorry to come in the conversation like this xD

XD

Okay, so I had a question. Since he was the first to 'approach me' with a little punch, should I be the one to go to him smile or something?

Anyone?

Yeah, why not. Smile at him, talk ^^

It'S so stressful :S.

That's only because you like him so much! It's cute!

*Blush* I saw him at school, and my eyes just kept flicking towards him.

That's so sweet!

Heehee. And he's so handsome!

Nice :D

:D So, do you have a boyfriend (or girlfriend?) or a crush?

Nope, but there's this one guy though that I talk to sometimes. He told me he wanted to read The Host because it was my favorite book ^^

^^ Cool!

Maybe later on we can go on a date. He wants too. And he reads! Guys don't usually read.

OMG! Keep him close XD! Guys who like to read are cool!

I know right? xD It's not a genre I like that he reads but I don't care, he reads.

Cool! So, describe him!

I don't really know him thàt well. But well, he reads so that's a big plus. I was like I read and he was like oh me too cool! and he's funny and always saying he likes me and stuff.

Oh hi! I'm back! And that is good advise, thank you! I'll try it..... Wish me luck! :)

Okay, new question: I have lots of friends who are guys, but we are JUST FRIENDS. But if I talk to one of them in the hallway or something, everyone whispers behind my back. My best friend told me that they were talking about how I apperently like them, and I do, but in a JUST FRIENDS type of way.

Okay, so that's not really a question at all, but I guess I have one now. How do I get it out to people that me and my guy friends are 'just friends'?

I guess you can go out with the guy you like? That way they'll stop.

(*sigh*)

I could.... but I think my guy friends only like in in a friend way. Plus, I have my other crush, as you know...

Yeah, it's tough *sigh*.

So,do you think I should smile at him or something since he little punched me and smiled at me?

YES!

I mean, a smile can't hurt anyone, right? It shows him that you enjoy his company, which is an absolutly great thing with a guy. Smiling is definetly the right way to go!

Okay. ANd should I pat him on the shoulder?