Ask the Author: Vironika Tugaleva
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Vironika Tugaleva
I thought I knew myself, but all I knew were the things I wanted to know. I thought I loved myself, but all I loved were the things I learned were lovable.
Vironika Tugaleva
I realized I needed it before I realized I liked it, to tell you the truth. As a child, I had no one to whom I could genuinely express myself. I was an only child and my parents were poor immigrants both trying to get their medical qualifications back in a new country. No one had time to listen to my thoughts, not even my peers, because I was awkward and self-conscious. All of my emotional energy would build up, and as early as about 10-11 years old, I was journaling and writing poetry. When I started showing my writing in school, and people reacted positively, it felt good, but I didn't realize that writing was a skill for a long time. I thought it was simply a survival mechanism that kept my thoughts from throttling me. I know now that writing, to me, is just like speaking. It's how I process, how I express myself, how I make any sense of my life. It's a life necessity.
Vironika Tugaleva
Hey Ramesh! Thank you for the request. You'll find this piece I wrote recently deals with the source of guilt and brings a new perspective to it: http://www.vironika.org/costa-rica-le.... If you're looking, specifically, for a way to release negative emotions, then that process is the same for all sorts of toxic emotions. Here's an example of how you can deal with those sorts of thoughts: http://www.vironika.org/art-churning-.... I can definitely put a "guilt-based" post on my to-do list, and will let you know when that's available. I hope these resources help for now! :)
Vironika Tugaleva
Generally speaking, guilt is a thought process, so the source of guilty thoughts is the mind. If you are asking about the origins of guilty thoughts, then those can be numerous. Sometimes, they come from parents. Sometimes, religious doctrine. Other times, they come from watching some movie in childhood. I think the original source is, in the end, not important. The important thing is to know that guilty thoughts are mental patterns, and all mental patterns can be observed, questioned, and changed (slowly and lovingly).
Vironika Tugaleva
I'm working constantly to spread the message of The Love Mindset as far out into the world as I can. I do one-on-one work, radio shows, speaking, and I've made an audio/video course that helps people apply the theory inside the book. Secretly, though, I'm working on my next book, but I'm not quite ready to share what that's all about. You'll have to wait and see!
Vironika Tugaleva
Forget what people want. Work on yourself and follow your heart. Look within you and find all the things you think are too ugly, too boring, too stupid, too different to share. Share those. That's what people want.
Vironika Tugaleva
I have my best friend waiting for me inside every set of blank pages. The more I've gotten to know myself, the more writing has healed me. It's like running into my own arms and surrendering into my own embrace.
Vironika Tugaleva
I read. Clears it up every time. I think a lack of output is always a result of lack of input.
Vironika Tugaleva
I focus, first, on living the most fearless, inspired, beautiful life I possibly can. I never run out of things to write about.
Vironika Tugaleva
I originally wanted to make sense of what was happening to me after my mental breakdown. I've been writing since I was a kid and it's how I make sense of the world.
I was dealing with an immense amount of past trauma, healing my emotional self and my relationship with the girl in the mirror. Suddenly, I began to experience a feeling of interconnectedness with everything around me. I saw everything as beautiful, especially myself.
I was surprised and moved. What was happening to me? What was this feeling?
Once I discovered the answers to this question, I realized I wasn't the only one with those struggles. I saw that the entire world was hungry in the same way I had been. I saw that the world needed what I'd found.
I wrote this book because I had to. People need this.
I was dealing with an immense amount of past trauma, healing my emotional self and my relationship with the girl in the mirror. Suddenly, I began to experience a feeling of interconnectedness with everything around me. I saw everything as beautiful, especially myself.
I was surprised and moved. What was happening to me? What was this feeling?
Once I discovered the answers to this question, I realized I wasn't the only one with those struggles. I saw that the entire world was hungry in the same way I had been. I saw that the world needed what I'd found.
I wrote this book because I had to. People need this.
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