Ingrid Mathieu's Blog

Personal Perspective: I never saw myself as a “people pleaser,” certainly not at my own expense.

A Personal Perspective: When "knowing better" didn't bring relief, I learned how the nervous system could be wired for unhealthy attachments.

Self-gaslighting is when we internalize the abuse of a gaslighter (or lack of protection from it) and begin to gaslight ourselves.

I always knew I had trauma in a colloquial sense. But I didn’t think it was "real trauma." Now, I know better.

As a psychologist, I might have “known better” than to date a true sociopath. But that was part of the appeal — thinking I could win a game designed to devour me.

I assure you, most people have binge watched a TV-show when they could have been at the gym. There is nothing wrong with wanting to be more active, but diagnosing ourselves as deficient when we don���t hit the mark isn���t helping matters. And it���s just not true (and it���s just not kind).

I assure you, most people have binge watched a TV-show when they could have been at the gym. There is nothing wrong with wanting to be more active, but diagnosing ourselves as deficient when we don’t hit the mark isn’t helping matters. And it’s just not true (and it’s just not kind).

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I���ve always said that the reason I���ve never tried a Krispy Kreme donut is the same reason that I have never tried cocaine - either way I���m sure to wake up three days later in a daze with white powder all over my face, wondering what the hell���s just happened. My name is Ruthie, and I���m a cake drunk.

I’ve always said that the reason I’ve never tried a Krispy Kreme donut is the same reason that I have never tried cocaine - either way I’m sure to wake up three days later in a daze with white powder all over my face, wondering what the hell’s just happened. My name is Ruthie, and I’m a cake drunk.

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We sometimes think that in order to succeed or fit in, we need to play only one part, while we hide or discard the rest. This sets up a tricky paradigm, where trying to be loved or acknowledged is inherently tied to disowning aspects of ourselves.