Lyn Ragan's Blog

A loved one who has just passed away will be quite anxious to communicate that they're okay and very aware of what's happening in our lives. If we aren't able to feel them around us, they'll often give us a "sign" that we can't ignore. The person who has been given a "sign" often knows the message is coming from the other side. Even if they dismiss it, that little voice inside will make them wonder.Here are the ten most common "signs of spirit," or signs from the deceased, that people receive from loved ones who have passed away.Playing with electricity seems to be one of the most common "signs of spirit." It is an easy way to grab our attention. Spirits like to flicker lights, turn the television or radio on and off, or make appliances beep for no apparent reason. Our loved ones have the ability to interfere with light and electricity because they're now pure energy. They can manipulate appliances, TV, microwaves, etc. Most of the time they just want to make us aware that they're with us.1. They Love to Play with ElectricityIf your television turns off or on for no apparent reason, start investigating the reason behind it:What show or channel is on? Is it a favorite show of your loved one? Is the radio playing their favorite song?When the lights flickered, what were you thinking about? Were you thinking about your loved one? Sometimes that thought can be an acknowledgment or even confirmation that your loved one is near.2. They Give Off Fragrances
We can often tell our deceased loved ones are around us when we smell their scent: perfume, flowers, cigar or cigarette smoke, or any other smell associated with them. There may be no logical explanation of why the smell is there. This "sign" can sometimes seem confusing. As humans, we remember how our loved ones smell. We remember a distinctive cologne or perfume they enjoyed, or even the scent of an activity they performed. If your loved one used to work with cars and, out of the blue, you smell motor oil, try not to be scared. Instead, say "Hi!"

I can't believe it's been almost eight months since I've touched this blog. The last entry was a joyous occasion, to some, but to others I have a feeling it didn't really matter one way or the other. The murderer who stole the life of the man I love was sentenced to life without parole. But what does that mean? Is it safe to assume he'll never get out? Is it safe to assume he'll live behind those bars for the remainder of his days?
Do I really care? Does it matter to me what his future holds?

No, interestingly enough, it doesn't. I don't care anymore. I give him no thought whatsoever, yet here I sit writing about him. I literally had to stop myself and ask, "why?" Am I doing this because I believe someday another will read these words and feel the same as I? Is it because I have this unyielding desire to share my most inner thoughts in the hopes that someday others like me will understand this belief as I do? Or is it because I've finally, after all of these years, I've finally forgiven this man for what he did?
If I believe that everything happens for a reason (and I do) then I also have to believe my darling Chip was meant to depart when he did. And if I believe that, then I also have to believe he was meant to depart the "way" that he did. And if I believe that, then I have to believe the man who murdered him was meant to "also" give his life for that event...too.
"What an Advanced Soul he is to have agreed to do what he did. And then to carry it out!"
Years ago, a very special lady floored me when I heard her say these very words. I knew she was speaking of the killer, but I couldn't wrap my head around the words she used. Advanced Soul? How could anyone possibly think he was an advanced soul? And why would she say something like that to me? Especially at a time when my heart was aching so badly for Chip.
I never forgot it though. To this very day, I never forgot what she said. I do believe in past lives, reincarnation, agreements, contracts, synchronicity; I do believe there are no coincidences. As much as I "knew" or "felt" this man to be an evil man...I never once thought of him as an Advanced Soul. I never thought of him as a good man, a special man, a loving man...or anything that resembled what I considered at the time as Love. All I knew is that I wanted to stay away from him...no matter what that took.
I've looked back many times, re-living every second of that morning, re-living time when the killer stood in my presence...he lived a very selfish life-style. But he would have needed that in order for him to get to that point of loathing Chip, to get to that point of taking another human's life, to get to that point where he fulfilled the agreement between he and Chip...to murder Chip's physical body.
If agreements, contracts, whatever word I as a human need to use to describe a relationship of goodness or of Love...I also need to acknowledge the agreements between those who have contracted to depart this life in a way that seems unsuitable to many...but for those on the Other Side...never seem to care about.
Chip and this Advanced Soul crossed their t's and dotted their i's and made what happen...happen. I literally can do nothing else but send the man who sits in prison, love and light. Whatever happens next in his life is meant to happen, as is mine. My journey now...is to focus on the road ahead...not on that past.
Sometimes though...that's much easier said...than done...

Chip Oney loved this picture of himself. He is such a proud Scottish gent. I loved how he held them shoulders back, smiled large, and danced crazily flicking his man-skirt all around. All I did was laugh!

Today, the man who snatched his life from him has finally been given his sentence. After being found Guilty of First Degree Murder in January, at approx 3:40 this afternoon, the gavel had the final word. Life in Prison without Parole. Never again in this lifetime, will he kill another human being because of his jealousy, his arrogance, or his selfish attitude. With Vito Bell removed from society, the streets are now a little safer.

This Chapter ... has been completed and that four year old book filled with grief, horror, disbelief, and tons of agonizing pain, has been ... released!

For all the lovers in the world and the outer world - the Afterlife. Music is such an easy way to communicate through space and time. And for today, this one song surely takes me by surprise. I so admire the beautiful spirit of a man I love more than anyone in the world. Just when I begin to question something, become skeptical about something, wonder about something, a song comes forward to knock all doubts, all worry, completely out the ball park.
Even though I don't have his physical body to embrace, I still have his love...and will...always and forever.
Always and forever Each moment with you is just like a dream to me That somehow came true And I know tomorrow will still be the same 'Cause' we've got a life of love that won't ever change
And every day love me your own special way Melt all my heart away with a smile Take time to tell me you really care And we'll share tomorrow together
I'll always love you, forever, forever

On March 19, 2012, Vito Bell filed a petition to fire his attorney. In doing so, he delayed his sentence hearing of receiving either the Death Penalty or Life In Prison without the possibility of parole for the remainder of his natural life. I wish Chip Oney (deceased) would have been given an opportunity to "delay" his death sentence. Doesn't seem fair - life and death.

A new hearing has been set for April 3, 2012. On this date however, another date will be set for his actual sentencing. To be continued...(he can't do this forever).