Stephanee Killen

“Naturally, when things break down, as all things do, we get lost in the pieces—we get lost in trying to reshape them into something familiar. We want to put them back into a recognizable framework so that we can get to work again building that thing we’ve held so dearly in our minds. Wanting to create is not the problem. Wanting a framework for our lives is not the problem. It’s attachment to the pieces of that old frame that is the problem.”
― Stephanee Killen, Buddha Breaking Up: A Guide to Healing from Heartache & Liberating Your Awesomeness

“You did not leave Crazytown for Boo-hooville. Boo-hooville is a layover. It is a temporary stop. It is the dismal Greyhound bus station in the first leg of your trip to Kauai. It is a place you must visit on your way to peace and calm. It is a rough stone that you will use to scrape away the old skin so that you can be made new again. And yes, that scraping hurts. And yes, you look terrible while it’s happening. Everything is dropping off, wrinkling, sagging, and flaking; it’s dull-colored. But underneath? On the other side of that? It’s beautiful.”
― Stephanee Killen, Buddha Breaking Up: A Guide to Healing from Heartache & Liberating Your Awesomeness

“It’s probably long overdue for us to throw out what we think we know about love. Girls have grown up with too many fairy tale/date movies/romance bodice-rippers racing around in our heads—the warrior with his rippling muscles and the golden-maned damsel clinging to his breeches. The title is something like Savage Heat or Destiny’s Desire. This is the fairy tale world where men and women always orgasm at the same time or where the man wakes the sleeping princess with a kiss, or where the hero slays the dragon and rescues the damsel from a tower, or where, essentially, everyone lives happily ever after and no one writes what happens next.
What happens next is that reality sets in. The golden bubble bursts. There are bills to pay. Someone has to walk the dog and clean the cat litter box and go to the grocery store for milk.”
― Stephanee Killen, Buddha Breaking Up: A Guide to Healing from Heartache & Liberating Your Awesomeness

“What is life truly like—once we strip away all of the story telling and anger and pain? Can we bring ourselves to say, “Thank you for everything; I have no complaint whatsoever”? This doesn’t mean that we should be grateful only because things could be worse (although they could). Nor does it mean that things couldn’t be better. It means, No matter what happens, PERFECT. No matter what happens, thank you!”
― Stephanee Killen, Buddha Breaking Up: A Guide to Healing from Heartache & Liberating Your Awesomeness