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To my incredible fans,

For the past 13 years, you’ve been right there with me, step by step, on a transformative journey of heart and soul. Together, we’ve explored countless stories and insights that have surfaced along my own winding road.

Today, I am thrilled to invite you to the next chapter of this adventure with the launch of my new Substack — “There’s A Ring To This.”

“There’s A Ring To This” is about the stories that bind us, the shared experiences that connect us in profound, invisible yet unbreakable ways. It’s a celebration of courage, resilience, and transformation on the path to becoming everything you could be.

Substack offers us a unique space for deeper connection — a place where our conversations can transcend the fleeting and touch upon the deep and meaningful. It’s a home for stories of courage, love, dreams, and the unfolding of our truest selves.

My greatest hope is that these stories resonate with something within you, calling forth the deepest, wisest, and most authentic version of yourself.

A voice that beckons you to become more, because you can be so much more — and that’s the greatest gift of all.

I would love for you to become a part of this journey.

Please join me here: www.theresaringtothis.com

Your support, at any level, will help bring to life a dream of writing full-time and sharing the most authentic parts of our human experience.

To those who have been with me from the beginning, and to those who are just discovering our community, thank you. Your support has been the greatest gift, one that has filled my life with joy and purpose.

Let’s raise our glasses to new rings, new stories, and the unwavering belief that we can always become more.

I couldn’t be more excited for what’s to come.

All the best,
Evan Sanders

PS. I promise to absolutely knock your socks off. Join me www.theresaringtothis.com

You come so far.

I know it may not be the place you want to be yet, but take a second to see just how far you’ve traveled since you’ve started this journey. Look at how much you’ve been through. Look at how many things you’ve tackled. Just take a moment to see that you’ve become something much more than you ever were back then.

I sit here tonight reflecting upon my life so far and see that I am at a stage of life where I truly never imagined I would have ever been. The past 3 years have been a bit of a dream and I have arrived at a moment that is demanding I face the dragons that are in front of me. It is also demanding that I triple down on my commitment and continue digging in the same place.

There’s never been one single moment that was a surge of courage where my life took a quantum leap of growth. It’s been slow, methodical, and sometimes maddening. It’s been a process in the strictest sense of the word.

The only thing that has helped me get through any of this was the steadfast commitment to never quitting on myself no matter what. That’s the only thing that kept me together when everything else felt like it was falling apart. No matter how many times other people quit on me, I chose to never quit on myself.

So let me restructure your thinking on “the journey” today.

It’s going to be really hard at times. You’re going to fail endlessly. You’re going to wonder, “What the hell am I doing?!” People will abandon you. A few diamonds will stay. Things will get very quiet at times. You will be tested, pounded into submission and taught lessons over and over and over again until you finally learn.

But the promise?

Light. Wisdom. Commitment. Joy. Compassion. Knowledge. Strategy. Effortlessness. Precision. Drive. Passion. (Insert 1,000 other foundational teachings as well).

It will take everything you’ve got…but if you stick with it…it will offer you much more than you’ve ever imagined.”

Evan Sanders

I think each of us arrive at moments in our lives where we have to forge forward in a different direction or we lose a piece of who we truly are.

There are two paths that offer very different things.

One – to continue walking down the path you have been and accept the mediocrity that comes along with it.

Two – to accept any and all challenges that come along as you choose the path to becoming the greatest version of who you are.

I could look you in the eyes and tell you without flinching that I have not been as dedicated, committed, and relentless in the path I know I need to travel. That’s the reality.

There are a thousand reasons why, but at the end of the day all I really care about is that I actually do it.

I have felt a tremendous amount of internal pressure to do this and every personal denial of it just makes it worse.

No longer.

Here I burn the ships. Thousands of words to a crisp.

Forward.

Only forward.

You are capable more than you could ever possibly imagine.

You are capable of amazing things. You are capable of making the dent that you want to make in this universe. You are capable of changing people’s lives. You are capable of changing your life but you have to believe that you have the capacity to do that.

You see when you were a child you believed anything was possible and then as time went on people tried to make you believe all sorts of other things that might or might have not actually been true.

They are not your ideas but they limited you…they stopped you from being who you were truly meant to be. You were meant for amazing things in this world but the only issue is is that you got lost in the fear and the doubt and the worry and the stories that limited you and stopped you from becoming those things.

Let go of those stories.

Let go of the stories that tell you that you can’t because those stories are built upon very limited views of what’s possible in this world…and I can tell you that many many many things are possible if you can drag yourself out of the darkness and into the light.

All possibility lives there. You can make this happen for yourself. You can change. You can help others change. But first, you have to believe that that is actually a possibility for you because if you don’t believe that it’s a possibility for you, you’ll never do it.

You’ll stay stuck in the same place for the rest of your life and you’ll never move and you’ll stay an ideal land or fear doubt and worry land and never make a move.

You have to be willing to go for it to head out into the unknown…this great unknown where it’s just meant to be explored by you.

You’re meant to discover. You’re meant to be curious. You’re meant to play in this world and you’ll be able to do that if you just let go of all of the fear. Remember FEAR stands for false evidence appearing real. It’s not real most of the time.

Most that time that you look directly into your fear and you allow for the light of your wisdom to shine onto it you will see that there’s nothing there and even if there was something semi-solid there it begins to disintegrate.

Allow for your wisdom, allow for possibility, allow for light and allow for love to be able to disintegrate these fears that are holding you back from being who you are truly meant to be.

You are meant to be something special on this planet. You were born onto this planet with unlimited potential of what was possible for you and you only stopped believing that when other people told you that it was not possible for you.

It is possible but it starts in here (your heart). You have to believe that first and when you get this right…the rest of your world no matter what’s out in front of you will change.

Change your mind and everything that you see is going to change drastically. Know this in your heart to be true.

Exist in possibility and watch your entire world change.

Evan Sanders
The Better Man Project

you will fall.
the rug will be ripped out from beneath you.
down and down you will go.

::thud::

from there, the only way is up.
sometimes there’s no clear reason of why things happened the way that they did.
but you have to get back up.
the fall teaches you who you really are and pushes you to become more.
up. up. up. get up.
you’re not done yet.

…

You’re not done.

Doesn’t matter what you’ve gone through—this is not the end for you. 

You still have so much more to do.

So much more to be.

Words to spill out of your heart.

People to meet.

Stories to tell. 

So no, this isn’t the end. It’s just the end of a chapter. 

And honestly, the beginning of probably the most extraordinary one of your life. 

You remember don’t you? Those three dreams?

Are there angels? Yes.

Is there darkness? Yes.

Are there miracles? Yes

And that’s what made you believe. I mean really believe. Because once you went through that, everything started to shift whether you were ready for it or not. 

Sure, you may feel like you got kicked down the 220 stairs of the Sacré Coeur. 

But it’s time to get back up kid and start climbing again. You have something to finish. Something that’s been on your heart for so long.

It’ll take everything you’ve got. But you can make it. You have what it takes. 

And that’s faith isn’t it? Trusting the path even though you can’t see what’s on it. You only know that what’s at the end is something that’s meant for you…

…and that it’s worth discovering, whatever the cost.

Evan Sanders

Every step you’ve ever taken, the tragedies and victories you’ve experienced, the mistakes, the wins and losses, the courageous moves and wanderings through the unknown, have all brought you here.⁠
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Here being this moment, as your eyes hit these words. Present. Pure. A endless amount of possibility. And in this brief moment we have together, I want you to remember something you’ve always known but at some point may have forgotten.⁠
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What you’ve been seeking for so long is not out “there” in the world. It inside of you. You’ve been searching for something you’ve already had. That’s why you could never find it. You’ve been looking for your keys and they have been in your pocket the entire time. ⁠
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And you’ll hear many say that your journey here is to remember who you really are. What that means is that you have to come back to the core of your being. To get there, you have to wash off all the stories that have covered up that essence like thick mud. ⁠
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The past is gone. It’s done. And the only way you’re ever going to be able to move on from what’s happened in the past is if you view if through the eyes of wisdom, compassion and understanding. If there’s judgement, you’re tethered to whatever moment you’re judging. ⁠
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Seek out those moments you can’t let go of. See how you are viewing them. Is there anger, bitterness, resentment, judgement or criticism? It’s okay if there is. But recognize that all of those emotions keep you trapped. Begin to view those events through a different set of eyes. ⁠
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The eyes of healing, understanding, love, acceptance. You’re not dismissing what actually happened or what they did. Those healthy boundaries are good. But you are saying to yourself, “It’s time for me to get my life back. To own this story so I can have all the power I need to move into the future the way I want to.” ⁠
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That’s what this is all about. Embracing the story. The dark and the light. When you do that, everything changes. You grab the keys in your pocket and see that the doors open when you realized you had what you needed all along.⁠
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This moment is yours.

Evan Sanders
The Better Man Project

You are capable more than you could ever possibly imagine.

You are capable of amazing things. You are capable of making the dent that you want to make in this universe. You are capable of changing people’s lives. You are capable of changing your life but you have to believe that you have the capacity to do that.

You see when you were a child you believed anything was possible and then as time went on people tried to make you believe all sorts of other things that might or might have not actually been true.

They are not your ideas but they limited you…they stopped you from being who you were truly meant to be. You were meant for amazing things in this world but the only issue is is that you got lost in the fear and the doubt and the worry and the stories that limited you and stopped you from becoming those things.

Let go of those stories.

Let go of the stories that tell you that you can’t because those stories are built upon very limited views of what’s possible in this world…and I can tell you that many many many things are possible if you can drag yourself out of the darkness and into the light.

All possibility lives there. You can make this happen for yourself. You can change. You can help others change. But first, you have to believe that that is actually a possibility for you because if you don’t believe that it’s a possibility for you, you’ll never do it.

You’ll stay stuck in the same place for the rest of your life and you’ll never move and you’ll stay an ideal land or fear doubt and worry land and never make a move.

You have to be willing to go for it to head out into the unknown…this great unknown where it’s just meant to be explored by you.

You’re meant to discover. You’re meant to be curious. You’re meant to play in this world and you’ll be able to do that if you just let go of all of the fear. Remember FEAR stands for false evidence appearing real. It’s not real most of the time.

Most that time that you look directly into your fear and you allow for the light of your wisdom to shine onto it you will see that there’s nothing there and even if there was something semi-solid there it begins to disintegrate.

Allow for your wisdom, allow for possibility, allow for light and allow for love to be able to disintegrate these fears that are holding you back from being who you are truly meant to be.

You are meant to be something special on this planet. You were born onto this planet with unlimited potential of what was possible for you and you only stopped believing that when other people told you that it was not possible for you.

It is possible but it starts in here (your heart). You have to believe that first and when you get this right…the rest of your world no matter what’s out in front of you will change.

Change your mind and everything that you see is going to change drastically. Know this in your heart to be true.

Exist in possibility and watch your entire world change.

Evan Sanders
The Better Man Project

You are capable more than you could ever possibly imagine.You are capable of amazing things. You are capable of making the dent that you want to make in this universe. You are capable of changing people’s lives.You are capable of changing your life but you have to believe that you have the capacity to do that. You see when you were a child you believed anything was possible and then as time went on people tried to make you believe all sorts of other things that might or might have not actually been true.

They are not your ideas but they limited you…they stopped you from being who you were truly meant to be. You were meant for amazing things in this world but the only issue is is that you got lost in the fear and the doubt and the worry and the stories that limited you and stopped you from becoming those things.

Let go of those stories. Let go of the stories that tell you that you can’t because those stories are built upon very limited views of what’s possible in this world…and I can tell you that many many many things are possible if you can drag yourself out of the darkness and into the light. All possibility lives there. You can make this happen for yourself. You can change. You can help others change. But first, you have to believe that that is actually a possibility for you because if you don’t believe that it’s a possibility for you, you’ll never do it.

You’ll stay stuck in the same place for the rest of your life and you’ll never move and you’ll stay an ideal land or fear doubt and worry land and never make a move. You have to be willing to go for it to head out into the unknown…this great unknown where it’s just meant to be explored by you.

You’re meant to discover. You’re meant to be curious. You’re meant to play in this world and you’ll be able to do that if you just let go of all of the fear. Remember FEAR stands for false evidence appearing real. It’s not real most of the time.

Most that time that you look directly into your fear and you allow for the light of your wisdom to shine onto it you will see that there’s nothing there and even if there was something semi-solid there it begins to disintegrate. Allow for your wisdom, allow for possibility, allow for light and allow for love to be able to disintegrate these fears that are holding you back from being who you are truly meant to be.

You are meant to be something special on this planet. You were born onto this planet with unlimited potential of what was possible for you and you only stopped believing that when other people told you that it was not possible for you. It is possible but it starts in here (your heart). You have to believe that first and when you get this right…the rest of your world no matter what’s out in front of you will change. Change your mind and everything that you see is going to change drastically. Know this in your heart to be true. Exist in possibility and watch your entire world change.

Evan Sanders
The Better Man Project

No regrets. No reaching the end and wishing you had actually had the guts to go for it.

I don’t care if you’re scared out of your mind. Hell, I am all the time. Every damn day I have a “oh sh*t” moment.

But that’s the point. You have those moments and that’s when your courage shows up.

That being said, you have two options.

Option #1:

You stay where you are. Comfortable. Easy. Probably safe. Mildly content. Settling. You can get by here there’s no judgement at all. This is a place to live and I’m sure you can live a good life here.

But you won’t live out those dreams that keep showing up in your heart.

Or, you can decide to choose…

Option #2:

Uncomfortable. Tough. Full of growing pains and failure.

But here lives transformation, dreams, goals, ambition, giving yourself the chance to be deliriously happy and every single day striving to compete with your potential.

It’s your choice.

But you only have one life. So no matter how afraid you may be, I want you to stand up, look your fear dead in the eye and even if your feet tremble, walk straight into it.

You were born to be more than this.

Courage dear heart. Courage.

Evan Sanders
The Better Man Project

If you want to move forward, you have to begin letting go of the past.

All of the blame, anger, resentment and energy that’s going to what’s already come and gone doesn’t serve you at all.

It only keeps you trapped. It only keeps you stuck inside a mental prison that you created for yourself.

You have to begin the process of healing those old wounds…because that’s the only way you set yourself free to move forward.

Every once in a while, I watch Kung Fu Panda and there’s this part where master Oogway says to the panda…

“Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery and today is a gift. That’s why they call it the present.” It always reminds me that while you can allow your mind to drift to the past and mull over everything that’s happened, that’s not where all the gifts are. They are here. This moment right now.

Letting go isn’t easy.

It’s an ongoing practice that you will have to take on for the rest of your life.

But, it does get easier and time goes on.

As you train yourself to “come back” to these moments over and over again, you’ll find yourself staying much more present and aware of what’s happening right now.

Like any muscle you build, it takes repetition and focus.

To take it to the next level, practice meditation.

You’ll set yourself on the right track.

Evan Sanders
The Better Man Project