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Why Break-up?
As a girl steps into puberty, apart from all the changes going on in her body and mind, the most intriguing thing she finds is a ‘BOY’. She wants to know more about them, she wants to understand them, and she wants to know about what they think about a ‘girl’, or to be precise, what a guy thinks about ‘her’. Same is the case with boys! A boy also wonders ‘what’ a girl is, and mostly, they end up spending their entire life in trying to understand the ‘not-so’ complicated species of ‘GIRLS’. Instead of trying to understand, if you just try to make them smile and laugh, half of the problems will automatically vanish!
Attraction, Infatuation, Crush, Love, all the terms sound so familiar, right?
Attraction is the first step of friendship, (don’t take me in a wrong way!). Your friends, the group you hang out with today, you like them, you think they’re fun to be with, they are funny and you simply enjoy with them, but the question is ‘why’? Because, you, in one or the other way, are ‘attracted’ to them. A girl may find another girl beautiful, and even a guy can find another guy smart, there’s nothing wrong in it. Human mind is designed to do the comparisons, and so we do it!
Infatuation is what happens next, we like someone in ‘that’ way, is termed as infatuation or crush! We want to hang out with a particular person, we want him/her to talk to only us and not someone else. Possessiveness starts pouring in, that stage is infatuation. If you are having a crush at someone, that doesn’t necessarily means you ‘love’ them or you want to be in a relationship with them.
Love, is a strong emotion, which is truly felt by very few people. Most of them ‘claim’ to be in love, but actually, they’re not! Love happens when you are attracted to someone, when you have a crush at someone, when you care for someone, when you feel the possessiveness and jealousy if he/she is with someone else. All these feelings combined, generate the feeling called ‘LOVE’. Love is something that generates within us the ‘will’ to stay with that one particular person, forever! When we are ready to be in a relationship with him/her, that is Love. In Love, a person is very serious about the relationship, and about his better half, and if love is true, everyone thinks about a long term commitment, or what we say ‘Marriage’.
There are many people who nowadays have made a joke of love and relationships, they just use the person for entertainment and then ditch him/her for someone else. If you’re truly feeling the so-called love for someone, even the mere thought of leaving that person or going for another one, never comes in mind, let alone doing all this. Love is not only what we feel in a sexual way for the other person, but the purest form of love is what we have for our parents and siblings and friends. We cannot tolerate them crying, can we? We can never see them sad, or tensed. We ourselves feel pain if something happens to anyone we love. If we have such pure emotions for our parents, then why can’t a pure love exist for another person? Why people ditch and leave and break-up?
Every relationship has problems, life is not a bed of roses, and everyone feels disheartened at some point of time, but, is breakup the only solution? If you have some family-problem, can you leave your family for that? Then why breakups?
Breakup is something that can leave a scar on a person’s heart, and a wound that cannot be healed easily. In my opinion, a relationship should start with terms and conditions and some promises, one should be very clear about his intentions before coming into a relationship. He/she should clearly mention to the other person whether he wants a serious relationship, or just time-pass. Whether he wants a long term commitment, or multiple dating? If such things are discussed before, half of the problem sorts out!
The most common reason of breakup is: ‘Infidelity’ or ‘Cheating’. People say that their partner wasn’t loyal, so they broke up! Ever wondered ‘why’ wasn’t he/she ‘loyal’? That’s because he/she simply, ‘wasn’t’ in a serious relationship. When a person has it in mind that he’s serious for his partner, he can never even think of ‘cheating’ on him! People ditch, cheat and go for other people, only because their mind-set is programmed that way! I don’t say the people who cheat are wrong or at fault. It’s their own mentality that they want multiple relationships, or they just can’t stay with one person, or they get bored too easily. It’s their own mind-set and their own thinking that provokes them to ‘cheat’. If he/she is clear in the beginning only that he’s not going for a serious relationship, the cheating would simply ‘not’ happen. Instead, a calm mutual breakup will ensure a peace of mind to both!
The second most common reason is ‘Lack of Attention’. People usually complain that their partner has no time for them or the relationship. He has become boring or unromantic and he doesn’t sing songs of praises anymore, and all other silly reasons! First, a ‘breakup’ is a big decision that shouldn’t be taken because of these silly issues. You should give some time to your partner and try to understand his position or state of mind, and try to figure out ‘why’ he is incapable of giving you time, rather than arguing and bitching about it! Most of the time, girls do that (sorry! But I’m unbiased). And the boys, please give some time to your girl, doesn’t matters if you are in a relationship since a month or a year or ten years! If you don’t give time, the relationship will die out, and it’s you who has to make it work not someone else, because it’s your relationship in the end. Take some time out of your busy schedule, and do something for your partner, make her smile, make her day, do something that makes her feel special, bring that old spark back that brought you together in the first place!
The other common issues includes: Jealousy, Possessiveness and Insecurity. What if your partner hangs out with other people or his friends? Does it matters if he’s giving proper time to you and your relationship? Hanging out with friends, going out for movies, is not wrong if your partner is true to you! If he/she tells you everything, then you should not be worried. Try to keep the relationship as transparent as possible. If you’ll show to your partner that you don’t have problem if he hangs out with his friends, then he’ll never hide anything from you. But if you’ll put restrictions, and you’ll complain, then he’ll start lying, which is not good for a relationship! Be clear and truthful with your partner, and many of the issues won’t just build up!
If you can express yourself well, then expect your relationship to be better than a million! Because mostly breakups happen, because of lack of expression and communication.
Stay truthful, stay clear, be honest, and you’ll enjoy your relationship even more than before! One life. . .
Attraction, Infatuation, Crush, Love, all the terms sound so familiar, right?
Attraction is the first step of friendship, (don’t take me in a wrong way!). Your friends, the group you hang out with today, you like them, you think they’re fun to be with, they are funny and you simply enjoy with them, but the question is ‘why’? Because, you, in one or the other way, are ‘attracted’ to them. A girl may find another girl beautiful, and even a guy can find another guy smart, there’s nothing wrong in it. Human mind is designed to do the comparisons, and so we do it!
Infatuation is what happens next, we like someone in ‘that’ way, is termed as infatuation or crush! We want to hang out with a particular person, we want him/her to talk to only us and not someone else. Possessiveness starts pouring in, that stage is infatuation. If you are having a crush at someone, that doesn’t necessarily means you ‘love’ them or you want to be in a relationship with them.
Love, is a strong emotion, which is truly felt by very few people. Most of them ‘claim’ to be in love, but actually, they’re not! Love happens when you are attracted to someone, when you have a crush at someone, when you care for someone, when you feel the possessiveness and jealousy if he/she is with someone else. All these feelings combined, generate the feeling called ‘LOVE’. Love is something that generates within us the ‘will’ to stay with that one particular person, forever! When we are ready to be in a relationship with him/her, that is Love. In Love, a person is very serious about the relationship, and about his better half, and if love is true, everyone thinks about a long term commitment, or what we say ‘Marriage’.
There are many people who nowadays have made a joke of love and relationships, they just use the person for entertainment and then ditch him/her for someone else. If you’re truly feeling the so-called love for someone, even the mere thought of leaving that person or going for another one, never comes in mind, let alone doing all this. Love is not only what we feel in a sexual way for the other person, but the purest form of love is what we have for our parents and siblings and friends. We cannot tolerate them crying, can we? We can never see them sad, or tensed. We ourselves feel pain if something happens to anyone we love. If we have such pure emotions for our parents, then why can’t a pure love exist for another person? Why people ditch and leave and break-up?
Every relationship has problems, life is not a bed of roses, and everyone feels disheartened at some point of time, but, is breakup the only solution? If you have some family-problem, can you leave your family for that? Then why breakups?
Breakup is something that can leave a scar on a person’s heart, and a wound that cannot be healed easily. In my opinion, a relationship should start with terms and conditions and some promises, one should be very clear about his intentions before coming into a relationship. He/she should clearly mention to the other person whether he wants a serious relationship, or just time-pass. Whether he wants a long term commitment, or multiple dating? If such things are discussed before, half of the problem sorts out!
The most common reason of breakup is: ‘Infidelity’ or ‘Cheating’. People say that their partner wasn’t loyal, so they broke up! Ever wondered ‘why’ wasn’t he/she ‘loyal’? That’s because he/she simply, ‘wasn’t’ in a serious relationship. When a person has it in mind that he’s serious for his partner, he can never even think of ‘cheating’ on him! People ditch, cheat and go for other people, only because their mind-set is programmed that way! I don’t say the people who cheat are wrong or at fault. It’s their own mentality that they want multiple relationships, or they just can’t stay with one person, or they get bored too easily. It’s their own mind-set and their own thinking that provokes them to ‘cheat’. If he/she is clear in the beginning only that he’s not going for a serious relationship, the cheating would simply ‘not’ happen. Instead, a calm mutual breakup will ensure a peace of mind to both!
The second most common reason is ‘Lack of Attention’. People usually complain that their partner has no time for them or the relationship. He has become boring or unromantic and he doesn’t sing songs of praises anymore, and all other silly reasons! First, a ‘breakup’ is a big decision that shouldn’t be taken because of these silly issues. You should give some time to your partner and try to understand his position or state of mind, and try to figure out ‘why’ he is incapable of giving you time, rather than arguing and bitching about it! Most of the time, girls do that (sorry! But I’m unbiased). And the boys, please give some time to your girl, doesn’t matters if you are in a relationship since a month or a year or ten years! If you don’t give time, the relationship will die out, and it’s you who has to make it work not someone else, because it’s your relationship in the end. Take some time out of your busy schedule, and do something for your partner, make her smile, make her day, do something that makes her feel special, bring that old spark back that brought you together in the first place!
The other common issues includes: Jealousy, Possessiveness and Insecurity. What if your partner hangs out with other people or his friends? Does it matters if he’s giving proper time to you and your relationship? Hanging out with friends, going out for movies, is not wrong if your partner is true to you! If he/she tells you everything, then you should not be worried. Try to keep the relationship as transparent as possible. If you’ll show to your partner that you don’t have problem if he hangs out with his friends, then he’ll never hide anything from you. But if you’ll put restrictions, and you’ll complain, then he’ll start lying, which is not good for a relationship! Be clear and truthful with your partner, and many of the issues won’t just build up!
If you can express yourself well, then expect your relationship to be better than a million! Because mostly breakups happen, because of lack of expression and communication.
Stay truthful, stay clear, be honest, and you’ll enjoy your relationship even more than before! One life. . .
Republic or 'Rape'-Public?
Republic, err…no! India is now addressed as the ‘Rape’ Public with all the crimes going on at a massive scale, and the government officials maintaining a constant silence like ‘Barfi’…well, at least he managed to say his name in the movie, but here, the people in power are simply mute to the pleadings of common man, deaf to the cries of victims and blind to whatever is going on in the nation. With so many candle marches and protests held against the government, no action has been taken till today, i.e. 03rd January, 2013. December 2012 will be remembered as a black month in the history, but for how long? The government officials are taking the ‘three monkeys’ symbolized by Baapu (Mahatma Gandhi), far too seriously. He symbolized ‘see no evil, hear no evil, and talk no evil’. But today the politicians have adapted to simply one motto ‘see nothing, hear nothing, and say nothing’.
Such shameless people are in power today that they don’t even resign after being allegedly accused for such repugnant corruption cases against them. We vote for them, elect them with a hope that when we will need them, they will come to our rescue, help the people; but opposite happens. Women are publicly molested, people are exploited and the nation is raped daily with all the corruption cases and frauds in the country. Not only sexual harassment, but people are exploited daily emotionally, mentally and socially. Not even the social networking sites are free anymore.
That was one girl who was raped on 16th December, 2012, and the nation woke up. But government is still deep asleep! The accused are still alive while the victim is dead. The matter is not whether those 6 rapists will be punished or not, but the matter is when will all this ‘STOP’? When will India become truly free for girls and women? We cannot even dream about going out in our own town, Ludhiana, after 8pm, save those big metropolitan cities like Delhi, Mumbai, and Bangalore etc.
Today people not only demand justice for the departed soul of the victim, but a strong rule and fast track courts to handle such cases in a bound time. But the question arises; will any of the demands get fulfilled? Or the people will as usual become quiet after a few more protests and marches? Will the victim be forgotten and people will consequently get over it? Or this calls for another revolution in India?
I heard some people demanding that girls should be taught martial arts and karate and other defence activities. But what if they are attacked by 10 or 20 or even more men? Over powering those men looks easy in movies and Bollywood drama flicks, but in reality, not even a black belt can do that with ease. Instead of teaching protection techniques to girls, how about teaching ‘NOT TO RAPE’ to men? Instead of making girls physically strong, how about making men ‘respect the sex that gave them birth’?
This topic has endless discussion and infinite view points, but what I felt, I jotted it down. It no doubt invites so many conflicting issues, but that’s all I felt, and thought to add in my site, so here it is…
Lastly I’ll conclude by few lines of my own:
I sacrificed so much for you, brother.
I loved and cared for you always, boyfriend.
I gave up so much for you and your family, husband.
I gave you birth with so much pain, son.
I am the ‘woman’, without whom your existence is impossible!
And what do you do to me? Rape me, molest me, kill me and end it all?
This is how I get re-paid? Today I demand an answer, today I want justice…
Such shameless people are in power today that they don’t even resign after being allegedly accused for such repugnant corruption cases against them. We vote for them, elect them with a hope that when we will need them, they will come to our rescue, help the people; but opposite happens. Women are publicly molested, people are exploited and the nation is raped daily with all the corruption cases and frauds in the country. Not only sexual harassment, but people are exploited daily emotionally, mentally and socially. Not even the social networking sites are free anymore.
That was one girl who was raped on 16th December, 2012, and the nation woke up. But government is still deep asleep! The accused are still alive while the victim is dead. The matter is not whether those 6 rapists will be punished or not, but the matter is when will all this ‘STOP’? When will India become truly free for girls and women? We cannot even dream about going out in our own town, Ludhiana, after 8pm, save those big metropolitan cities like Delhi, Mumbai, and Bangalore etc.
Today people not only demand justice for the departed soul of the victim, but a strong rule and fast track courts to handle such cases in a bound time. But the question arises; will any of the demands get fulfilled? Or the people will as usual become quiet after a few more protests and marches? Will the victim be forgotten and people will consequently get over it? Or this calls for another revolution in India?
I heard some people demanding that girls should be taught martial arts and karate and other defence activities. But what if they are attacked by 10 or 20 or even more men? Over powering those men looks easy in movies and Bollywood drama flicks, but in reality, not even a black belt can do that with ease. Instead of teaching protection techniques to girls, how about teaching ‘NOT TO RAPE’ to men? Instead of making girls physically strong, how about making men ‘respect the sex that gave them birth’?
This topic has endless discussion and infinite view points, but what I felt, I jotted it down. It no doubt invites so many conflicting issues, but that’s all I felt, and thought to add in my site, so here it is…
Lastly I’ll conclude by few lines of my own:
I sacrificed so much for you, brother.
I loved and cared for you always, boyfriend.
I gave up so much for you and your family, husband.
I gave you birth with so much pain, son.
I am the ‘woman’, without whom your existence is impossible!
And what do you do to me? Rape me, molest me, kill me and end it all?
This is how I get re-paid? Today I demand an answer, today I want justice…
Mini Bollywood in Colleges!
May it be an engineering college or a commerce college or an arts one, all have their own mini-bollywood residing in them. Don’t know how? Read ahead and find out:
In colleges, only guys and girls with heroic and sexy figures are on the most popular list. Now every college have their personal Kareena’s and Aishwarya’s, also the infamous John Abraham’s of the college can be seen performing dangerous bike stunts outside the college campus to impress the new hot fresher aka Katrina of the college! But there do exist Salman’s, who are the brats and can beat-up anyone if they mess with them or their girlfriends!
The freshers of the college are ranked as per their marks in twelfth standard according to college faculty, but they are ACTUALLY ranked as per their looks by their seniors for their upcoming years in the college! Good looking girls can find million friends on first day of her college and many seniors approach them with hungry eyes on their very first day! By the end of the day, she ends up adding plenty of guys on facebook and replying to some hundred new messages saying, “Welcome to our college dear…for any help you can contact me anytime! Don’t feel shy sweety” and some really weird ones too like: “Hey b’ful chick, saw u in canteen 2day, btw Rocky hea…cute gal cya tomrw!”
While the hot and sexy girls are prime attention of seniors, but unfortunately the fresh cool-dudes of college are threat for seniors for they may steal their girl-friends! So they rag them and threaten them on the very first day! Filthy and abusive language is commonly heard while ragging, “Abey, bacha hai tu saale, teri maa *#$*%&^ shaanti se zinda rehna hai to hamare rules follow karne honge!” While maximum of girls are welcomed like sweethearts, but the guys are mostly exposed to unfavorable circumstances! Guys in colleges can be divided broadly into three categories:
1. The Sanjay Dutt’s (of Khalnayak) and Salman Khan’s (of Wanted) are the ‘BHAI-LOGS’ of the college! Any mess up or fight, and they will always be seen in the middle of the crowd. They usually have 2-3 girlfriends and some other chicks in row with them, just for the cool-look! And they are most of the time, surrounded by some comparatively less ‘daring’ guys who flaunt their courage all the time to keep their spirits up! But they too crave for Aishwarya’s and Katrina’s of the college and some fresher girls with sweet looks.
2. Then the second category is of the chocolate boys of college, basically the Ranbir Kapoor’s (of Bachna Ae Haseeno) or Imran Khan’s (of I Hate Love Stories) orShahrukh’s or we can also consider all the Emran Hashmi’s in this category! They pretend to be lover-boys and big time flirts and killers aka ‘shikaris’ but actually end up falling for one sweet girl.
3. And the third category comprises of Sharman Joshi’s (of Three Idiots) who are always busy mugging up the syllabus and studying all the time! To whom the terms like love, relationships, and sex are foreign and who think that talking with a girl is next to committing a crime! They can be easily found in college libraries or computer-labs, working on some projects or mugging up some more books!
Same is with girls…the three broad categories are:
1. First, the popular hot girls like Vidya Balan (of The Dirty Picture) who are mostly seen with the Salman Khan’s of college surrounding them in really short skirts and who are always flaunting their cleavage one or the other way! They end up just being an ‘entertainment, entertainment and entertainment’ for guys, and nothing more!
2. Then the second category is of ‘sweet and bubbly girls’, just like Preity Zinta (inKal Ho Na Ho!) or Kajol (in Kuch Kuch Hota Hai) who are in the eyes of most of the guys of college! Even the nerds can focus on them by fault because of their sweetness! They have lot of friends and they are always seen in the middle of a big flock of girls around them! They also become the common reason of fights among the guys!
3. And the third category is of SUPER-NERD girls, like Vidya Balan (in No One Killed Jessica), who are most of the time busy with their books and their computers and doing some random projects. They don’t even know the terms like ‘bleaching, waxing or even hair-cut’, they believe in “hidden beauty” and so they prefer “hiding their beauty!”
So, every college has a mini-bollywood, while some people play the characters, some just walk in and out as audience! Some are the heroes, and some villains, some are geniuses while some, total NERDS! Every college has a colorful life…so, go discover it in your college, add colors to your life, live to the fullest…one life!
In colleges, only guys and girls with heroic and sexy figures are on the most popular list. Now every college have their personal Kareena’s and Aishwarya’s, also the infamous John Abraham’s of the college can be seen performing dangerous bike stunts outside the college campus to impress the new hot fresher aka Katrina of the college! But there do exist Salman’s, who are the brats and can beat-up anyone if they mess with them or their girlfriends!
The freshers of the college are ranked as per their marks in twelfth standard according to college faculty, but they are ACTUALLY ranked as per their looks by their seniors for their upcoming years in the college! Good looking girls can find million friends on first day of her college and many seniors approach them with hungry eyes on their very first day! By the end of the day, she ends up adding plenty of guys on facebook and replying to some hundred new messages saying, “Welcome to our college dear…for any help you can contact me anytime! Don’t feel shy sweety” and some really weird ones too like: “Hey b’ful chick, saw u in canteen 2day, btw Rocky hea…cute gal cya tomrw!”
While the hot and sexy girls are prime attention of seniors, but unfortunately the fresh cool-dudes of college are threat for seniors for they may steal their girl-friends! So they rag them and threaten them on the very first day! Filthy and abusive language is commonly heard while ragging, “Abey, bacha hai tu saale, teri maa *#$*%&^ shaanti se zinda rehna hai to hamare rules follow karne honge!” While maximum of girls are welcomed like sweethearts, but the guys are mostly exposed to unfavorable circumstances! Guys in colleges can be divided broadly into three categories:
1. The Sanjay Dutt’s (of Khalnayak) and Salman Khan’s (of Wanted) are the ‘BHAI-LOGS’ of the college! Any mess up or fight, and they will always be seen in the middle of the crowd. They usually have 2-3 girlfriends and some other chicks in row with them, just for the cool-look! And they are most of the time, surrounded by some comparatively less ‘daring’ guys who flaunt their courage all the time to keep their spirits up! But they too crave for Aishwarya’s and Katrina’s of the college and some fresher girls with sweet looks.
2. Then the second category is of the chocolate boys of college, basically the Ranbir Kapoor’s (of Bachna Ae Haseeno) or Imran Khan’s (of I Hate Love Stories) orShahrukh’s or we can also consider all the Emran Hashmi’s in this category! They pretend to be lover-boys and big time flirts and killers aka ‘shikaris’ but actually end up falling for one sweet girl.
3. And the third category comprises of Sharman Joshi’s (of Three Idiots) who are always busy mugging up the syllabus and studying all the time! To whom the terms like love, relationships, and sex are foreign and who think that talking with a girl is next to committing a crime! They can be easily found in college libraries or computer-labs, working on some projects or mugging up some more books!
Same is with girls…the three broad categories are:
1. First, the popular hot girls like Vidya Balan (of The Dirty Picture) who are mostly seen with the Salman Khan’s of college surrounding them in really short skirts and who are always flaunting their cleavage one or the other way! They end up just being an ‘entertainment, entertainment and entertainment’ for guys, and nothing more!
2. Then the second category is of ‘sweet and bubbly girls’, just like Preity Zinta (inKal Ho Na Ho!) or Kajol (in Kuch Kuch Hota Hai) who are in the eyes of most of the guys of college! Even the nerds can focus on them by fault because of their sweetness! They have lot of friends and they are always seen in the middle of a big flock of girls around them! They also become the common reason of fights among the guys!
3. And the third category is of SUPER-NERD girls, like Vidya Balan (in No One Killed Jessica), who are most of the time busy with their books and their computers and doing some random projects. They don’t even know the terms like ‘bleaching, waxing or even hair-cut’, they believe in “hidden beauty” and so they prefer “hiding their beauty!”
So, every college has a mini-bollywood, while some people play the characters, some just walk in and out as audience! Some are the heroes, and some villains, some are geniuses while some, total NERDS! Every college has a colorful life…so, go discover it in your college, add colors to your life, live to the fullest…one life!
