Thom Shea

“Now we are in a very profound relationship. I know who you are and what your goals are. We are in the top 20 percent of all the people alive because we have clarity regarding the other person. Did that take time or drama?” I asked. She said no. “So here is the reality of filling in the relationship formula . . . you don’t get a choice of what your partner’s goals are. You cannot change them or manipulate them in any way. People are going to do what they are going to do with or without you. Once you have expressed clarity with each other, you can then decide to support with 100 percent of yourself, which I will tell you is the only way to go. Or you can leave. Which is also very powerful. The worst thing you can do is stay in an unsupportive relationship. One in which you do like what the other person is doing and don’t try to help them achieve their goals. Personally, I think this is why so many people get divorced and so many leaders fail,” I said.”
― Thom Shea, Three Simple Things: Leading During Chaos

“The best teacher is not the one who knows most, but the one who is most capable of reducing knowledge to that simple compound of the obvious and wonderful.”
― Thom Shea, Unbreakable: A Navy SEAL’s Way of Life