How many times have you fallen in Love?

How many times have you been heart-broken?

Can you Love again?

Well, I think Love happens only once. True Love. Profound, soul-stirring Love.

If it is not Forever, it cannot be Love.

If it is not your Soulmate, it cannot be Love.

If you can easily let it go, it cannot be Love.

If you do not put up a fight for it, it cannot be Love.

If it is not aligned with your Universe & your Principles, it cannot be love.

You need to meet a few wrong people, to find the right one.

You need to get your heart-broken, only to recognize True Love when you finally meet it.
You need to feel this pain to understand your purpose in life and recognize your strength.

Heartbreaks have been the inspirations for people. Writers, singers, painters have performed best when they were under stress and depression. They identify with their true feelings when they reach their rock bottom emotionally. The question is, should we make this heartbreak your stimulus? To get attached and obsessed with this heartbreak just for the benefits it gives you in your professional success?

Our innate nature is to be happy. It is our birth-right our sole purpose. Our heart will eventually mend with time, no matter how deeply and strongly we might feel at that time. We will get over the heartbreak and ultimately find our true soulmate.

The lows in life are always … always followed by the good times. That’s the way things work, it never fails. Only when you reach the rock bottom in life will you get the opportunity to surge up with all your might to claim your right to be joyful once again.

Don’t fear heartbreaks. They are the lessons which make you stronger. They polish the confines of your heart which were in pain and make it shine. They change you as a person.

Have you noticed that there is a certain seductive magnetism in being broken & demented? Once you have gone through the intense pain, you fear nothing. There is no anxiety to lose anything or anyone. You become brave and start looking at life in a completely different perspective. You become emotionally independent. And yet, you learn to keep trusting people even when you have been deceived. You learn to keep loving easily and quickly even when you have had doleful experiences the first time around. You become stronger not resentful. When you love someone beyond agony, all the pain eventually vanishes and all that remains is just love.

Thank them for the experience, the pain, the challenges. Thank them for being a part of your life. Thank them for everything, for that was why it made you the person you are today. And then gently let them go. Forgive them, for they might not value you, they might not have the capability to love you in the way you deserve. They might not even know how to love another person above themselves to begin with. They might not know the value of the pure love and joy offered to them. Love them for what they are, love them for you had once truly loved them and let them go. If it is meant to be, they will stay. If not, they never were yours to begin with.

At the end of the day Love is not the centre of the Universe. – there are other things far more vital to be worried about. You were happy before you met this person, you will thrive even after they leave you. Don’t brood over the past.

Life is all about being alive. To flourish and survive. Everything else follows subsequently. Love yourself enough to not depend on anyone else to receive the love. YOU ARE LOVE.


Stop making any more efforts to chase Love. Just be yourself. Your Soulmate, your true Love will find you.

© Swarupa Chavan